The hidden code for transforming dreams into reality | Mary Morrissey | TEDxWilmingtonWomen

Imagine its one year from today

and we all agree that we're going to

come back for a reunion

Not maybe, absolutely. We're all going to

come back exactly the same group of us

And we're going to come back for a reunion

Only want to share the things that has

happened in our lives, during the last

12 months of our lives.

We're going to share what it is we've

dreamed up when we were here at TEDX

in October of 2016 and what's happening

in our lives right now 365 days later.

What would you love to be saying about

your life? What would you love to say

in the four areas where humans actually do

create results?

We live in a spiral universe.

In a spiral there's an ever upward pole
of becomingness.

A little blade of grass feels it as it
presses through cement to

become more of its self today than
yesterday

A tree presses to the edges of itself
to become more of its self
today than yesterday

And humans feel the same thing,
we just feel a little differently

We feel it through longing
and we feel through discontent

We feel a longing for greater freedom.

We feel a discontent with
certain circumstances and situations.

And if we just keep breathing another
365 days,we will create results.

Because that's what humans do.

Now we create results in four areas.

We create results in health and well-being

You could look at your results in health
and well-being

but what would you love a year from now?

Because if you keep breathing you're going
to have results in that area.

Humans create results in relationships.
Some of them are wonderful,

some of them are deep, some of them
are supportive, some of them are not.

What would you love
in the area of your relationships?

Would you love to bring that someone
special in your life?

Would you like to transform a relationship
you are in?

Maybe a relationship is on an auto-pilot
and you'd love to have it go deeper

Humans create results in vocation.

What we do with our time and talent.

Whether we earned income doing it or not.

Because just by our beingness we're doing
something with our time and talent.

Even if we think we've done so many
mistakes and want to go under the covers

What I create that day is "Covers over my
head day in bed"

I don't get to not create out of my
experience

And humans create results in time and
money, freedom or constraint

So if you think about next year when we
come to the reunion

What would you love to be saying?

You know in my calendar the last twelve
months here are the evidences

More freedom for me and time

More freedom for me in the economic
freedom

where I could go where I wanted to go,
do what I wanted to do

but maybe even more importantly
and I believe it is

actually give to the things that matter
to you

provide some of the things for those that
matter to you as well

Now...about fourty years ago

I got very interested in transformation

I was getting my undergraduate degree

and I cared deeply about kids

This has been a longing of mine for
quite a while to become a school teacher

And while I was getting my undergraduate
degree I wanted to study everything

I could in the field of transformation

And the purpose at that point was to help
children discover a kind of self-esteem

So no matter what their circumstances,
no matter what their situations

They could actually believe that they
could actually become the person

they wanted to be and achieve the things
they wanted to achieve

I went on a got a graduate degree in
counselling psychology,

I earned an honorary doctorate

My first book, 'Building your field
of dreams' became a PBS special

I had the privilege of working with
his holiness The Dalai Lama

Over the course of seven years creating
week long conversations

Conversations with world leaders about how
to transform our worlds results

I got very interested in how results
happened and how to transform results

I had the privilege of speaking at the
United Nations

with The Martin Luther King kids and Ghandi's grandkids

creating a 64 day season for non-violence
particularly teaching junior high kids

about how to solve problems through acs of
non-violence and caring

And I spoke at the UN three different
times, one of them with Rosa Parks

And I was building my dreams that mattered
to me

I had the privilege of working and flying
to Cape Town, South Africa and meeting

with Nelson Mandela. I had a deep dream to
ask him the question

"How did you transform your results?"

"How did you be a man that gets sentenced
to life in prison?"

"You served 27 years in hard prison and
then not only do you get out of prison

before you die but you actually then
become president of the country that
sentences you to life?"

Who on our planet does this?
How did you do that?

And that has been my quest, my interest
and my deep longing

so that I could transfer that and offer
that to the people that I had the

privilege of working with

I've had the privilege of working with
tens of thousands of people around the

world, around changing their results

Does it mean that because every time I've
studied this and worked with my own life

and others, that every time for me

my dreams came true? No. Does it mean
everything I did worked out? No.

My first business that I spent 23 years
building. I took my eye of the ball,

I hired somebody to run the finances,
it was totally mismanaged

Everything I had built.
It was heartbreaking to me.

But there are three straps that
dream builders use either consciously or

unconsciously. To transform their results

so that the dream wins over conditions

so that the dream wins over time

so that the dream wins over all kinds of
circumstances, situations, and even our

history and even no matter how long
it's been there

And sometimes, it's been there for decades

About 150 years ago man decided to do an
experiment with his life.

That's what we're invited to do over the
next twelve months

Keep breathing and do an experiment with life

He went to the woods-Henry David Thoreau

and he said "I wanted to learn to suck the
marrow out of aliveness"

I wanted to live a life I loved living
while I was living it

I went to the woods because I wished to
delibrately front the only essential facts

of life and see if life could not teach me
what it had to teach

and not when I came to die
discover that I had not really lived

Now, Henry did this 2 month 2 day
experiment and then he wrote an essay

about it. In the conclusion of that essay,
he writes a quote that is world wide known

'If one advances confidently in the
direction of their dream it endeavors to

live the life they imagined'. He said "I
learned this at least by my experiment"

If one advances confidently in the
direction of their dream-

you can't advance in a direction you don't
already have an idea of

And the first thing dream builders or
people who evolve their results do

Is they have an idea of what they really
loved their life to be like

If I say to you 'Your front door',
'The kitchen sink', 'the bed you sleep in'

You did not see the letters B, E, D or
S,I,N,K or D,O,O,R

You saw pictures. You saw picture of a
door, sink, bed.