Imagine its one year from today
and we all agree that we're going to
come back for a reunion
Not maybe, absolutely. We're all going to
come back exactly the same group of us
And we're going to come back for a reunion
Only want to share the things that has
happened in our lives, during the last
12 months of our lives.
We're going to share what it is we've
dreamed up when we were here at TEDX
in October of 2016 and what's happening
in our lives right now 365 days later.
What would you love to be saying about
your life? What would you love to say
in the four areas where humans actually do
create results?
We live in a spiral universe.
In a spiral there's an ever upward pole of becomingness.
A little blade of grass feels it as it presses through cement to
become more of its self today than yesterday
A tree presses to the edges of itself to become more of its self today than yesterday
And humans feel the same thing, we just feel a little differently
We feel it through longing and we feel through discontent
We feel a longing for greater freedom.
We feel a discontent with certain circumstances and situations.
And if we just keep breathing another 365 days,we will create results.
Because that's what humans do.
Now we create results in four areas.
We create results in health and well-being
You could look at your results in health and well-being
but what would you love a year from now?
Because if you keep breathing you're going to have results in that area.
Humans create results in relationships. Some of them are wonderful,
some of them are deep, some of them are supportive, some of them are not.
What would you love in the area of your relationships?
Would you love to bring that someone special in your life?
Would you like to transform a relationship you are in?
Maybe a relationship is on an auto-pilot and you'd love to have it go deeper
Humans create results in vocation.
What we do with our time and talent.
Whether we earned income doing it or not.
Because just by our beingness we're doing something with our time and talent.
Even if we think we've done so many mistakes and want to go under the covers
What I create that day is "Covers over my head day in bed"
I don't get to not create out of my experience
And humans create results in time and money, freedom or constraint
So if you think about next year when we come to the reunion
What would you love to be saying?
You know in my calendar the last twelve months here are the evidences
More freedom for me and time
More freedom for me in the economic freedom
where I could go where I wanted to go, do what I wanted to do
but maybe even more importantly and I believe it is
actually give to the things that matter to you
provide some of the things for those that matter to you as well
Now...about fourty years ago
I got very interested in transformation
I was getting my undergraduate degree
and I cared deeply about kids
This has been a longing of mine for quite a while to become a school teacher
And while I was getting my undergraduate degree I wanted to study everything
I could in the field of transformation
And the purpose at that point was to help children discover a kind of self-esteem
So no matter what their circumstances, no matter what their situations
They could actually believe that they could actually become the person
they wanted to be and achieve the things they wanted to achieve
I went on a got a graduate degree in counselling psychology,
I earned an honorary doctorate
My first book, 'Building your field of dreams' became a PBS special
I had the privilege of working with his holiness The Dalai Lama
Over the course of seven years creating week long conversations
Conversations with world leaders about how to transform our worlds results
I got very interested in how results happened and how to transform results
I had the privilege of speaking at the United Nations
with The Martin Luther King kids and Ghandi's grandkids
creating a 64 day season for non-violence particularly teaching junior high kids
about how to solve problems through acs of non-violence and caring
And I spoke at the UN three different times, one of them with Rosa Parks
And I was building my dreams that mattered to me
I had the privilege of working and flying to Cape Town, South Africa and meeting
with Nelson Mandela. I had a deep dream to ask him the question
"How did you transform your results?"
"How did you be a man that gets sentenced to life in prison?"
"You served 27 years in hard prison and then not only do you get out of prison
before you die but you actually then become president of the country that sentences you to life?"
Who on our planet does this? How did you do that?
And that has been my quest, my interest and my deep longing
so that I could transfer that and offer that to the people that I had the
privilege of working with
I've had the privilege of working with tens of thousands of people around the
world, around changing their results
Does it mean that because every time I've studied this and worked with my own life
and others, that every time for me
my dreams came true? No. Does it mean everything I did worked out? No.
My first business that I spent 23 years building. I took my eye of the ball,
I hired somebody to run the finances, it was totally mismanaged
Everything I had built. It was heartbreaking to me.
But there are three straps that dream builders use either consciously or
unconsciously. To transform their results
so that the dream wins over conditions
so that the dream wins over time
so that the dream wins over all kinds of circumstances, situations, and even our
history and even no matter how long it's been there
And sometimes, it's been there for decades
About 150 years ago man decided to do an experiment with his life.
That's what we're invited to do over the next twelve months
Keep breathing and do an experiment with life
He went to the woods-Henry David Thoreau
and he said "I wanted to learn to suck the marrow out of aliveness"
I wanted to live a life I loved living while I was living it
I went to the woods because I wished to delibrately front the only essential facts
of life and see if life could not teach me what it had to teach
and not when I came to die discover that I had not really lived
Now, Henry did this 2 month 2 day experiment and then he wrote an essay
about it. In the conclusion of that essay, he writes a quote that is world wide known
'If one advances confidently in the direction of their dream it endeavors to
live the life they imagined'. He said "I learned this at least by my experiment"
If one advances confidently in the direction of their dream-
you can't advance in a direction you don't already have an idea of
And the first thing dream builders or people who evolve their results do
Is they have an idea of what they really loved their life to be like
If I say to you 'Your front door', 'The kitchen sink', 'the bed you sleep in'
You did not see the letters B, E, D or S,I,N,K or D,O,O,R
You saw pictures. You saw picture of a door, sink, bed.