Imagine its one year from today
and we all agree that we're going to
come back for a reunion
Not maybe, absolutely. We're all going to
come back exactly the same group of us
And we're going to come back for a reunion
Only want to share the things that has
happened in our lives, during the last
12 months of our lives.
We're going to share what it is we've
dreamed up when we were here at TEDX
in October of 2016 and what's happening
in our lives right now 365 days later.
What would you love to be saying about
your life? What would you love to say
in the four areas where humans actually do
create results?
We live in a spiral universe.
In a spiral there's an ever upward pole
of becomingness.
A little blade of grass feels it as it
presses through cement to
become more of its self today than
yesterday
A tree presses to the edges of itself
to become more of its self
today than yesterday
And humans feel the same thing,
we just feel a little differently
We feel it through longing
and we feel through discontent
We feel a longing for greater freedom.
We feel a discontent with
certain circumstances and situations.
And if we just keep breathing another
365 days,we will create results.
Because that's what humans do.
Now we create results in four areas.
We create results in health and well-being
You could look at your results in health
and well-being
but what would you love a year from now?
Because if you keep breathing you're going
to have results in that area.
Humans create results in relationships.
Some of them are wonderful,
some of them are deep, some of them
are supportive, some of them are not.
What would you love
in the area of your relationships?
Would you love to bring that someone
special in your life?
Would you like to transform a relationship
you are in?
Maybe a relationship is on an auto-pilot
and you'd love to have it go deeper
Humans create results in vocation.
What we do with our time and talent.
Whether we earned income doing it or not.
Because just by our beingness we're doing
something with our time and talent.
Even if we think we've done so many
mistakes and want to go under the covers
What I create that day is "Covers over my
head day in bed"
I don't get to not create out of my
experience
And humans create results in time and
money, freedom or constraint
So if you think about next year when we
come to the reunion
What would you love to be saying?
You know in my calendar the last twelve
months here are the evidences
More freedom for me and time
More freedom for me in the economic
freedom
where I could go where I wanted to go,
do what I wanted to do
but maybe even more importantly
and I believe it is
actually give to the things that matter
to you
provide some of the things for those that
matter to you as well
Now...about fourty years ago
I got very interested in transformation
I was getting my undergraduate degree
and I cared deeply about kids
This has been a longing of mine for
quite a while to become a school teacher
And while I was getting my undergraduate
degree I wanted to study everything
I could in the field of transformation
And the purpose at that point was to help
children discover a kind of self-esteem
So no matter what their circumstances,
no matter what their situations
They could actually believe that they
could actually become the person
they wanted to be and achieve the things
they wanted to achieve
I went on a got a graduate degree in
counselling psychology,
I earned an honorary doctorate
My first book, 'Building your field
of dreams' became a PBS special
I had the privilege of working with
his holiness The Dalai Lama
Over the course of seven years creating
week long conversations
Conversations with world leaders about how
to transform our worlds results
I got very interested in how results
happened and how to transform results
I had the privilege of speaking at the
United Nations
with The Martin Luther King kids and Ghandi's grandkids
creating a 64 day season for non-violence
particularly teaching junior high kids
about how to solve problems through acs of
non-violence and caring
And I spoke at the UN three different
times, one of them with Rosa Parks
And I was building my dreams that mattered
to me
I had the privilege of working and flying
to Cape Town, South Africa and meeting
with Nelson Mandela. I had a deep dream to
ask him the question
"How did you transform your results?"
"How did you be a man that gets sentenced
to life in prison?"
"You served 27 years in hard prison and
then not only do you get out of prison
before you die but you actually then
become president of the country that
sentences you to life?"
Who on our planet does this?
How did you do that?
And that has been my quest, my interest
and my deep longing
so that I could transfer that and offer
that to the people that I had the
privilege of working with
I've had the privilege of working with
tens of thousands of people around the
world, around changing their results
Does it mean that because every time I've
studied this and worked with my own life
and others, that every time for me
my dreams came true? No. Does it mean
everything I did worked out? No.
My first business that I spent 23 years
building. I took my eye of the ball,
I hired somebody to run the finances,
it was totally mismanaged
Everything I had built.
It was heartbreaking to me.
But there are three straps that
dream builders use either consciously or
unconsciously. To transform their results
so that the dream wins over conditions
so that the dream wins over time
so that the dream wins over all kinds of
circumstances, situations, and even our
history and even no matter how long
it's been there
And sometimes, it's been there for decades
About 150 years ago man decided to do an
experiment with his life.
That's what we're invited to do over the
next twelve months
Keep breathing and do an experiment with life
He went to the woods-Henry David Thoreau
and he said "I wanted to learn to suck the
marrow out of aliveness"
I wanted to live a life I loved living
while I was living it
I went to the woods because I wished to
delibrately front the only essential facts
of life and see if life could not teach me
what it had to teach
and not when I came to die
discover that I had not really lived
Now, Henry did this 2 month 2 day
experiment and then he wrote an essay
about it. In the conclusion of that essay,
he writes a quote that is world wide known
'If one advances confidently in the
direction of their dream it endeavors to
live the life they imagined'. He said "I
learned this at least by my experiment"
If one advances confidently in the
direction of their dream-
you can't advance in a direction you don't
already have an idea of
And the first thing dream builders or
people who evolve their results do
Is they have an idea of what they really
loved their life to be like
If I say to you 'Your front door',
'The kitchen sink', 'the bed you sleep in'
You did not see the letters B, E, D or
S,I,N,K or D,O,O,R
You saw pictures. You saw picture of a
door, sink, bed.