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Imagine its one year from today

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and we all agree that we're going to

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come back for a reunion

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Not maybe, absolutely. We're all going to

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come back exactly the same group of us

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And we're going to come back for a reunion

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Only want to share the things that has

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happened in our lives, during the last

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12 months of our lives.

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We're going to share what it is we've

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dreamed up when we were here at TEDX

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in October of 2016 and what's happening

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in our lives right now 365 days later.

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What would you love to be saying about

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your life? What would you love to say

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in the four areas where humans actually do

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create results?

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We live in a spiral universe.


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In a spiral there's an ever upward pole
of becomingness.

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A little blade of grass feels it as it 
presses through cement to

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become more of its self today than 
yesterday

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A tree presses to the edges of itself
to become more of its self
today than yesterday

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And humans feel the same thing, 
we just feel a little differently

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We feel it through longing
and we feel through discontent

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We feel a longing for greater freedom.

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We feel a discontent with
certain circumstances and situations.

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And if we just keep breathing another
365 days,we will create results.

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Because that's what humans do.

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Now we create results in four areas.

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We create results in health and well-being

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You could look at your results in health
and well-being

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but what would you love a year from now?

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Because if you keep breathing you're going
to have results in that area.

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Humans create results in relationships.
Some of them are wonderful,

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some of them are deep, some of them
are supportive, some of them are not.

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What would you love 
in the area of your relationships?

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Would you love to bring that someone
special in your life?

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Would you like to transform a relationship
you are in?

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Maybe a relationship is on an auto-pilot
and you'd love to have it go deeper

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Humans create results in vocation.

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What we do with our time and talent.

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Whether we earned income doing it or not.

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Because just by our beingness we're doing
something with our time and talent.

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Even if we think we've done so many
mistakes and want to go under the covers

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What I create that day is "Covers over my
head day in bed"

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I don't get to not create out of my
experience

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And humans create results in time and
money, freedom or constraint

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So if you think about next year when we
come to the reunion

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What would you love to be saying?


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You know in my calendar the last twelve
months here are the evidences

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More freedom for me and time

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More freedom for me in the economic
freedom

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where I could go where I wanted to go,
do what I wanted to do

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but maybe even more importantly
and I believe it is

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actually give to the things that matter
to you

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provide some of the things for those that
matter to you as well

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Now...about fourty years ago

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I got very interested in transformation

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I was getting my undergraduate degree

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and I cared deeply about kids

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This has been a longing of mine for
quite a while to become a school teacher

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And while I was getting my undergraduate
degree I wanted to study everything

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I could in the field of transformation

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And the purpose at that point was to help
children discover a kind of self-esteem

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So no matter what their circumstances,
no matter what their situations

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They could actually believe that they
could actually become the person

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they wanted to be and achieve the things
they wanted to achieve

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I went on a got a graduate degree in
counselling psychology,

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I earned an honorary doctorate

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My first book, 'Building your field
of dreams' became a PBS special

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I had the privilege of working with
his holiness The Dalai Lama

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Over the course of seven years creating
week long conversations

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Conversations with world leaders about how
to transform our worlds results

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I got very interested in how results
happened and how to transform results

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I had the privilege of speaking at the
United Nations

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with The Martin Luther King kids and Ghandi's grandkids

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creating a 64 day season for non-violence
particularly teaching junior high kids

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about how to solve problems through acs of
non-violence and caring

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And I spoke at the UN three different
times, one of them with Rosa Parks

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And I was building my dreams that mattered
to me

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I had the privilege of working and flying
to Cape Town, South Africa and meeting

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with Nelson Mandela. I had a deep dream to
ask him the question

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"How did you transform your results?"

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"How did you be a man that gets sentenced
to life in prison?"

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"You served 27 years in hard prison and
then not only do you get out of prison

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before you die but you actually then
become president of the country that
sentences you to life?"

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Who on our planet does this?
How did you do that?

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And that has been my quest, my interest
and my deep longing

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so that I could transfer that and offer
that to the people that I had the

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privilege of working with

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I've had the privilege of working with
tens of thousands of people around the

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world, around changing their results

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Does it mean that because every time I've 
studied this and worked with my own life

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and others, that every time for me

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my dreams came true? No. Does it mean
everything I did worked out? No.

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My first business that I spent 23 years
building. I took my eye of the ball,

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I hired somebody to run the finances,
it was totally mismanaged

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Everything I had built.
It was heartbreaking to me.

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But there are three straps that
dream builders use either consciously or

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unconsciously. To transform their results

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so that the dream wins over conditions

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so that the dream wins over time

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so that the dream wins over all kinds of
circumstances, situations, and even our

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history and even no matter how long
it's been there

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And sometimes, it's been there for decades

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About 150 years ago man decided to do an
experiment with his life.

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That's what we're invited to do over the
next twelve months

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Keep breathing and do an experiment with life

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He went to the woods-Henry David Thoreau

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and he said "I wanted to learn to suck the
marrow out of aliveness"

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I wanted to live a life I loved living
while I was living it

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I went to the woods because I wished to
delibrately front the only essential facts

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of life and see if life could not teach me
what it had to teach

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and not when I came to die
discover that I had not really lived

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Now, Henry did this 2 month 2 day
experiment and then he wrote an essay

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about it. In the conclusion of that essay,
he writes a quote that is world wide known

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'If one advances confidently in the
direction of their dream it endeavors to

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live the life they imagined'. He said "I
learned this at least by my experiment"

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If one advances confidently in the
direction of their dream-

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you can't advance in a direction you don't
already have an idea of

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And the first thing dream builders or
people who evolve their results do

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Is they have an idea of what they really
loved their life to be like

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If I say to you 'Your front door',
'The kitchen sink', 'the bed you sleep in'

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You did not see the letters B, E, D or
S,I,N,K or D,O,O,R

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You saw pictures. You saw picture of a
door, sink, bed.