How to Friend? #VEDA/VEDALA 16.08.24 | #withcaptions @paulidin

Vlog Every Day August
Los Angeles! ...and me, Paul!

This is not a sad vlog, the topic might seem
like it, but it's really just a confused vlog.

I don't know how to hang out with people!

Just to hang out!

Like, it seems like a thing people do.

I don't know how to get there.

If there's a thing that I specifically want
to do, like go to a movie, go to a restaurant,

go to a beach, go to VidCon, then I can say,
"Hey, friend!

Want to do these things with me?

Want to meet up when we're there?

Want to, like, talk about the thing that we're
doing?"

I can do that!

But outside of that, it's hard for me to go
from no catalyst to just thinking, this is

a person who is near me, I think we're kinda
friends, I would like to hang out with them,

and then...

making that happen!

Ho-- how do-- how do people do-- how do people
do that?

In high school, I would call up my friend
across the street, Erik, and say, "Hey, want

to play computer games or something?"

Um.

Or he'd call me up and say, "Hey, get your
stupid butt out here, we're going to go to

the mall or something."

And then we would!

Because I've developed many of my friendships
with people on the internet, I'm not exactly

sure where the appropriate boundaries are.

Like, I have no problems tweeting one of my
friends at two o'clock in the morning.

Or, even like, sending them a direct message
at any time of the day with no instigation.

Easy peasey, can do it, no problem.

BUT

If I'm seeing somebody that I think I'm kind
of friends with, and they're doing something

in LA?

Can I just...

tweet at them or direct message them or email
them saying, "Hey, I saw that you're, you're

doing this thing! i live near that!

Can I?

Can I join in?"

I have this concern in the back of my mind
that I presume too much of our friendship.

Like, I mostly know people from talking with
them on twitter, so maybe they don't want

to go to a concert with me!

Maybe they don't want to go hike in the mountains
with me!

I...

I don't know!

How do you find out?

Do you just ask people, "Hey, are we friends?"

I can do that!

I like taking the direct approach on things,
I'm just not sure if it's acceptable.

I mean, I've tried going to events, like at
the YouTube Space LA.

Uh, I've tried going there.

And meeting people.

That kinda, kinda worked.

I definitely made friends with people at VidCon...

most of them were not in LA!

*pbbt!*

And the weird thing is, I don't feel like
I have a lack of friends.

I feel like I've got plenty of friends, LOTS
of friends, even.

I'm just not sure.

I'm just not sure how to be in their vicinity,
doing friend things.

It's ridiculous.

I feel like other people figured out how to
do friend things, like, in elementary school

or junior high or high school or...

I don't know, other things that people do
when they're young.

I... did not!

So, this whole #VEDA is just to ask you the
question, "How do you know how good of friends

you are with somebody from the internet?

And what are the boundaries about asking to
do things with them?"

Which, I think, is the way to get to be better
friends.

Please tell me in the comments below.

I literally do not know.

I wanna, I wanna find out!

So I can be a good friend who hangs out with
friends.

Or tell me anything that matters to you, because
I want to know what matters to you.

Also, I have a Patreon!

Also I do some live shows.

Check all those out on my channel...

All the promo in this video, too.

Thank you for making it to the end of my video,
this is where I always say:

Tomorrow

will be even better!

*whispers*: Ooh!

I'm going to the beach!