1 00:00:00,149 --> 00:00:08,130 Vlog Every Day August Los Angeles! ...and me, Paul! 2 00:00:08,130 --> 00:00:15,089 This is not a sad vlog, the topic might seem like it, but it's really just a confused vlog. 3 00:00:15,089 --> 00:00:18,449 I don't know how to hang out with people! 4 00:00:18,449 --> 00:00:19,449 Just to hang out! 5 00:00:19,449 --> 00:00:22,880 Like, it seems like a thing people do. 6 00:00:22,880 --> 00:00:24,810 I don't know how to get there. 7 00:00:24,810 --> 00:00:30,699 If there's a thing that I specifically want to do, like go to a movie, go to a restaurant, 8 00:00:30,699 --> 00:00:37,540 go to a beach, go to VidCon, then I can say, "Hey, friend! 9 00:00:37,540 --> 00:00:38,900 Want to do these things with me? 10 00:00:38,900 --> 00:00:40,150 Want to meet up when we're there? 11 00:00:40,150 --> 00:00:43,170 Want to, like, talk about the thing that we're doing?" 12 00:00:43,170 --> 00:00:44,870 I can do that! 13 00:00:44,870 --> 00:00:49,620 But outside of that, it's hard for me to go from no catalyst to just thinking, this is 14 00:00:49,620 --> 00:00:54,600 a person who is near me, I think we're kinda friends, I would like to hang out with them, 15 00:00:54,600 --> 00:00:57,300 and then... 16 00:00:57,300 --> 00:00:58,960 making that happen! 17 00:00:58,960 --> 00:01:03,620 Ho-- how do-- how do people do-- how do people do that? 18 00:01:03,620 --> 00:01:11,710 In high school, I would call up my friend across the street, Erik, and say, "Hey, want 19 00:01:11,710 --> 00:01:15,360 to play computer games or something?" 20 00:01:15,360 --> 00:01:16,360 Um. 21 00:01:16,360 --> 00:01:20,180 Or he'd call me up and say, "Hey, get your stupid butt out here, we're going to go to 22 00:01:20,180 --> 00:01:23,090 the mall or something." 23 00:01:23,090 --> 00:01:24,090 And then we would! 24 00:01:24,090 --> 00:01:29,350 Because I've developed many of my friendships with people on the internet, I'm not exactly 25 00:01:29,350 --> 00:01:31,820 sure where the appropriate boundaries are. 26 00:01:31,820 --> 00:01:36,180 Like, I have no problems tweeting one of my friends at two o'clock in the morning. 27 00:01:36,180 --> 00:01:41,870 Or, even like, sending them a direct message at any time of the day with no instigation. 28 00:01:41,870 --> 00:01:44,630 Easy peasey, can do it, no problem. 29 00:01:44,630 --> 00:01:45,630 BUT 30 00:01:45,630 --> 00:01:49,810 If I'm seeing somebody that I think I'm kind of friends with, and they're doing something 31 00:01:49,810 --> 00:01:51,470 in LA? 32 00:01:51,470 --> 00:01:53,229 Can I just... 33 00:01:53,229 --> 00:01:58,881 tweet at them or direct message them or email them saying, "Hey, I saw that you're, you're 34 00:01:58,881 --> 00:02:02,970 doing this thing! i live near that! 35 00:02:02,970 --> 00:02:03,970 Can I? 36 00:02:03,970 --> 00:02:06,799 Can I join in?" 37 00:02:06,799 --> 00:02:10,909 I have this concern in the back of my mind that I presume too much of our friendship. 38 00:02:10,909 --> 00:02:17,139 Like, I mostly know people from talking with them on twitter, so maybe they don't want 39 00:02:17,139 --> 00:02:19,510 to go to a concert with me! 40 00:02:19,510 --> 00:02:23,709 Maybe they don't want to go hike in the mountains with me! 41 00:02:23,709 --> 00:02:24,709 I... 42 00:02:24,709 --> 00:02:25,870 I don't know! 43 00:02:25,870 --> 00:02:26,870 How do you find out? 44 00:02:26,870 --> 00:02:29,389 Do you just ask people, "Hey, are we friends?" 45 00:02:29,389 --> 00:02:30,389 I can do that! 46 00:02:30,389 --> 00:02:33,689 I like taking the direct approach on things, I'm just not sure if it's acceptable. 47 00:02:34,420 --> 00:02:38,099 I mean, I've tried going to events, like at the YouTube Space LA. 48 00:02:38,099 --> 00:02:39,939 Uh, I've tried going there. 49 00:02:39,939 --> 00:02:41,040 And meeting people. 50 00:02:41,040 --> 00:02:42,980 That kinda, kinda worked. 51 00:02:42,980 --> 00:02:46,689 I definitely made friends with people at VidCon... 52 00:02:46,689 --> 00:02:49,560 most of them were not in LA! 53 00:02:49,560 --> 00:02:50,560 *pbbt!* 54 00:02:50,560 --> 00:02:52,749 And the weird thing is, I don't feel like I have a lack of friends. 55 00:02:52,749 --> 00:02:55,689 I feel like I've got plenty of friends, LOTS of friends, even. 56 00:02:55,689 --> 00:02:56,900 I'm just not sure. 57 00:02:56,900 --> 00:03:02,919 I'm just not sure how to be in their vicinity, doing friend things. 58 00:03:02,919 --> 00:03:03,919 It's ridiculous. 59 00:03:03,919 --> 00:03:08,579 I feel like other people figured out how to do friend things, like, in elementary school 60 00:03:08,579 --> 00:03:11,150 or junior high or high school or... 61 00:03:11,150 --> 00:03:14,000 I don't know, other things that people do when they're young. 62 00:03:14,000 --> 00:03:16,520 I... did not! 63 00:03:18,580 --> 00:03:25,100 So, this whole #VEDA is just to ask you the question, "How do you know how good of friends 64 00:03:25,120 --> 00:03:28,230 you are with somebody from the internet? 65 00:03:28,230 --> 00:03:33,559 And what are the boundaries about asking to do things with them?" 66 00:03:33,559 --> 00:03:36,799 Which, I think, is the way to get to be better friends. 67 00:03:36,799 --> 00:03:38,779 Please tell me in the comments below. 68 00:03:38,779 --> 00:03:40,540 I literally do not know. 69 00:03:40,540 --> 00:03:42,200 I wanna, I wanna find out! 70 00:03:42,200 --> 00:03:45,650 So I can be a good friend who hangs out with friends. 71 00:03:45,650 --> 00:03:48,999 Or tell me anything that matters to you, because I want to know what matters to you. 72 00:03:48,999 --> 00:03:51,090 Also, I have a Patreon! 73 00:03:51,090 --> 00:03:52,799 Also I do some live shows. 74 00:03:52,799 --> 00:03:54,579 Check all those out on my channel... 75 00:03:54,579 --> 00:03:56,519 All the promo in this video, too. 76 00:03:57,260 --> 00:04:00,659 Thank you for making it to the end of my video, this is where I always say: 77 00:04:00,659 --> 00:04:01,719 Tomorrow 78 00:04:01,719 --> 00:04:02,719 will be even better! 79 00:04:02,719 --> 00:04:03,719 *whispers*: Ooh! 80 00:04:03,719 --> 00:04:05,159 I'm going to the beach!