WEBVTT 00:00:00.149 --> 00:00:08.130 Vlog Every Day August Los Angeles! ...and me, Paul! 00:00:08.130 --> 00:00:15.089 This is not a sad vlog, the topic might seem like it, but it's really just a confused vlog. 00:00:15.089 --> 00:00:18.449 I don't know how to hang out with people! 00:00:18.449 --> 00:00:19.449 Just to hang out! 00:00:19.449 --> 00:00:22.880 Like, it seems like a thing people do. 00:00:22.880 --> 00:00:24.810 I don't know how to get there. 00:00:24.810 --> 00:00:30.699 If there's a thing that I specifically want to do, like go to a movie, go to a restaurant, 00:00:30.699 --> 00:00:37.540 go to a beach, go to VidCon, then I can say, "Hey, friend! 00:00:37.540 --> 00:00:38.900 Want to do these things with me? 00:00:38.900 --> 00:00:40.150 Want to meet up when we're there? 00:00:40.150 --> 00:00:43.170 Want to, like, talk about the thing that we're doing?" 00:00:43.170 --> 00:00:44.870 I can do that! 00:00:44.870 --> 00:00:49.620 But outside of that, it's hard for me to go from no catalyst to just thinking, this is 00:00:49.620 --> 00:00:54.600 a person who is near me, I think we're kinda friends, I would like to hang out with them, 00:00:54.600 --> 00:00:57.300 and then... 00:00:57.300 --> 00:00:58.960 making that happen! 00:00:58.960 --> 00:01:03.620 Ho-- how do-- how do people do-- how do people do that? 00:01:03.620 --> 00:01:11.710 In high school, I would call up my friend across the street, Erik, and say, "Hey, want 00:01:11.710 --> 00:01:15.360 to play computer games or something?" 00:01:15.360 --> 00:01:16.360 Um. 00:01:16.360 --> 00:01:20.180 Or he'd call me up and say, "Hey, get your stupid butt out here, we're going to go to 00:01:20.180 --> 00:01:23.090 the mall or something." 00:01:23.090 --> 00:01:24.090 And then we would! 00:01:24.090 --> 00:01:29.350 Because I've developed many of my friendships with people on the internet, I'm not exactly 00:01:29.350 --> 00:01:31.820 sure where the appropriate boundaries are. 00:01:31.820 --> 00:01:36.180 Like, I have no problems tweeting one of my friends at two o'clock in the morning. 00:01:36.180 --> 00:01:41.870 Or, even like, sending them a direct message at any time of the day with no instigation. 00:01:41.870 --> 00:01:44.630 Easy peasey, can do it, no problem. 00:01:44.630 --> 00:01:45.630 BUT 00:01:45.630 --> 00:01:49.810 If I'm seeing somebody that I think I'm kind of friends with, and they're doing something 00:01:49.810 --> 00:01:51.470 in LA? 00:01:51.470 --> 00:01:53.229 Can I just... 00:01:53.229 --> 00:01:58.881 tweet at them or direct message them or email them saying, "Hey, I saw that you're, you're 00:01:58.881 --> 00:02:02.970 doing this thing! i live near that! 00:02:02.970 --> 00:02:03.970 Can I? 00:02:03.970 --> 00:02:06.799 Can I join in?" 00:02:06.799 --> 00:02:10.909 I have this concern in the back of my mind that I presume too much of our friendship. 00:02:10.909 --> 00:02:17.139 Like, I mostly know people from talking with them on twitter, so maybe they don't want 00:02:17.139 --> 00:02:19.510 to go to a concert with me! 00:02:19.510 --> 00:02:23.709 Maybe they don't want to go hike in the mountains with me! 00:02:23.709 --> 00:02:24.709 I... 00:02:24.709 --> 00:02:25.870 I don't know! 00:02:25.870 --> 00:02:26.870 How do you find out? 00:02:26.870 --> 00:02:29.389 Do you just ask people, "Hey, are we friends?" 00:02:29.389 --> 00:02:30.389 I can do that! 00:02:30.389 --> 00:02:33.689 I like taking the direct approach on things, I'm just not sure if it's acceptable. 00:02:34.420 --> 00:02:38.099 I mean, I've tried going to events, like at the YouTube Space LA. 00:02:38.099 --> 00:02:39.939 Uh, I've tried going there. 00:02:39.939 --> 00:02:41.040 And meeting people. 00:02:41.040 --> 00:02:42.980 That kinda, kinda worked. 00:02:42.980 --> 00:02:46.689 I definitely made friends with people at VidCon... 00:02:46.689 --> 00:02:49.560 most of them were not in LA! 00:02:49.560 --> 00:02:50.560 *pbbt!* 00:02:50.560 --> 00:02:52.749 And the weird thing is, I don't feel like I have a lack of friends. 00:02:52.749 --> 00:02:55.689 I feel like I've got plenty of friends, LOTS of friends, even. 00:02:55.689 --> 00:02:56.900 I'm just not sure. 00:02:56.900 --> 00:03:02.919 I'm just not sure how to be in their vicinity, doing friend things. 00:03:02.919 --> 00:03:03.919 It's ridiculous. 00:03:03.919 --> 00:03:08.579 I feel like other people figured out how to do friend things, like, in elementary school 00:03:08.579 --> 00:03:11.150 or junior high or high school or... 00:03:11.150 --> 00:03:14.000 I don't know, other things that people do when they're young. 00:03:14.000 --> 00:03:16.520 I... did not! 00:03:18.580 --> 00:03:25.100 So, this whole #VEDA is just to ask you the question, "How do you know how good of friends 00:03:25.120 --> 00:03:28.230 you are with somebody from the internet? 00:03:28.230 --> 00:03:33.559 And what are the boundaries about asking to do things with them?" 00:03:33.559 --> 00:03:36.799 Which, I think, is the way to get to be better friends. 00:03:36.799 --> 00:03:38.779 Please tell me in the comments below. 00:03:38.779 --> 00:03:40.540 I literally do not know. 00:03:40.540 --> 00:03:42.200 I wanna, I wanna find out! 00:03:42.200 --> 00:03:45.650 So I can be a good friend who hangs out with friends. 00:03:45.650 --> 00:03:48.999 Or tell me anything that matters to you, because I want to know what matters to you. 00:03:48.999 --> 00:03:51.090 Also, I have a Patreon! 00:03:51.090 --> 00:03:52.799 Also I do some live shows. 00:03:52.799 --> 00:03:54.579 Check all those out on my channel... 00:03:54.579 --> 00:03:56.519 All the promo in this video, too. 00:03:57.260 --> 00:04:00.659 Thank you for making it to the end of my video, this is where I always say: 00:04:00.659 --> 00:04:01.719 Tomorrow 00:04:01.719 --> 00:04:02.719 will be even better! 00:04:02.719 --> 00:04:03.719 *whispers*: Ooh! 00:04:03.719 --> 00:04:05.159 I'm going to the beach!