Vlog Every Day August Los Angeles! ...and me, Paul!
This is not a sad vlog, the topic might seem like it, but it's really just a confused vlog.
I don't know how to hang out with people!
Just to hang out!
Like, it seems like a thing people do.
I don't know how to get there.
If there's a thing that I specifically want to do, like go to a movie, go to a restaurant,
go to a beach, go to VidCon, then I can say, "Hey, friend!
Want to do these things with me?
Want to meet up when we're there?
Want to, like, talk about the thing that we're doing?"
I can do that!
But outside of that, it's hard for me to go from no catalyst to just thinking, this is
a person who is near me, I think we're kinda friends, I would like to hang out with them,
and then...
making that happen!
Ho-- how do-- how do people do-- how do people do that?
In high school, I would call up my friend across the street, Erik, and say, "Hey, want
to play computer games or something?"
Um.
Or he'd call me up and say, "Hey, get your stupid butt out here, we're going to go to
the mall or something."
And then we would!
Because I've developed many of my friendships with people on the internet, I'm not exactly
sure where the appropriate boundaries are.
Like, I have no problems tweeting one of my friends at two o'clock in the morning.
Or, even like, sending them a direct message at any time of the day with no instigation.
Easy peasey, can do it, no problem.
BUT
If I'm seeing somebody that I think I'm kind of friends with, and they're doing something
in LA?
Can I just...
tweet at them or direct message them or email them saying, "Hey, I saw that you're, you're
doing this thing! i live near that!
Can I?
Can I join in?"
I have this concern in the back of my mind that I presume too much of our friendship.
Like, I mostly know people from talking with them on twitter, so maybe they don't want
to go to a concert with me!
Maybe they don't want to go hike in the mountains with me!
I...
I don't know!
How do you find out?
Do you just ask people, "Hey, are we friends?"
I can do that!
I like taking the direct approach on things, I'm just not sure if it's acceptable.
I mean, I've tried going to events, like at the YouTube Space LA.
Uh, I've tried going there.
And meeting people.
That kinda, kinda worked.
I definitely made friends with people at VidCon...
most of them were not in LA!
*pbbt!*
And the weird thing is, I don't feel like I have a lack of friends.
I feel like I've got plenty of friends, LOTS of friends, even.
I'm just not sure.
I'm just not sure how to be in their vicinity, doing friend things.
It's ridiculous.
I feel like other people figured out how to do friend things, like, in elementary school
or junior high or high school or...
I don't know, other things that people do when they're young.
I... did not!
So, this whole #VEDA is just to ask you the question, "How do you know how good of friends
you are with somebody from the internet?
And what are the boundaries about asking to do things with them?"
Which, I think, is the way to get to be better friends.
Please tell me in the comments below.
I literally do not know.
I wanna, I wanna find out!
So I can be a good friend who hangs out with friends.
Or tell me anything that matters to you, because I want to know what matters to you.
Also, I have a Patreon!
Also I do some live shows.
Check all those out on my channel...
All the promo in this video, too.
Thank you for making it to the end of my video, this is where I always say:
Tomorrow
will be even better!
*whispers*: Ooh!
I'm going to the beach!