The hidden code for transforming dreams into reality | Mary Morrissey | TEDxWilmingtonWomen
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0:09 - 0:12Imagine it's one year from today,
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0:12 - 0:15and we all agree that we're going
to come back for a reunion. -
0:15 - 0:16Not maybe, absolutely;
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0:16 - 0:19we'll all come back,
exactly the same group of us, -
0:19 - 0:21and we're to come back for a reunion.
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0:21 - 0:24Only we're going to share the things
that have happened in our life -
0:24 - 0:26during the last 12 months of our life.
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0:26 - 0:29We're going to share
what it is that we dreamed up -
0:29 - 0:33when we were here
at TEDx in October of 2016, -
0:33 - 0:35and what's happening
in our lives now, -
0:35 - 0:37365 days later.
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0:37 - 0:40What would you love
to be saying about your life? -
0:40 - 0:43What would you love to say
in the four areas -
0:43 - 0:45where humans actually do create results?
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0:46 - 0:48We live in a spiral universe.
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0:48 - 0:49In a spiral,
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0:49 - 0:51there's an ever upward pull
of becomingness. -
0:52 - 0:55A little blade of grass feels it
as it presses through cement -
0:55 - 0:57to become more of itself
today than yesterday. -
0:58 - 0:59A tree presses to the edges of itself
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0:59 - 1:02to become more of itself
today than yesterday. -
1:03 - 1:06And humans feel the same thing;
we just feel it a little differently. -
1:06 - 1:09We feel it through longing,
and we feel it through discontent. -
1:09 - 1:11We feel a longing for greater freedom,
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1:11 - 1:14we feel a discontent with
certain circumstances and situations. -
1:15 - 1:20And if we just keep breathing
another 365 days, -
1:20 - 1:21we will create results,
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1:22 - 1:23because that's what humans do.
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1:24 - 1:26Now, we create results in four areas.
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1:26 - 1:28We create results
in health and well-being. -
1:28 - 1:31You could look at your own results
right now in health and well-being, -
1:31 - 1:33but what'll you love a year from now?
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1:33 - 1:36Because if you keep breathing,
you'll have results in that area. -
1:36 - 1:38Humans create results in relationships.
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1:38 - 1:40Some of them are wonderful,
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1:40 - 1:41some of them are deep,
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1:41 - 1:43some of them are supportive,
some of them are not. -
1:43 - 1:46What would you love
in the area of your relationships? -
1:46 - 1:48To bring someone special in your life?
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1:48 - 1:50Would you love to transform
a relationship you're in? -
1:50 - 1:54Maybe a relationship is on auto-pilot,
and you'd love to have it go deeper. -
1:55 - 1:57Humans create results in vocation.
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1:57 - 1:59What we do with our time and talent,
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1:59 - 2:01whether we earn income doing it or not,
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2:01 - 2:03because just by our beingness,
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2:03 - 2:05we're doing something
with our time and talent. -
2:05 - 2:07Even if we think,
"I've made so many mistakes, -
2:07 - 2:10I'm going to crawl in bed
and put the covers over my head." -
2:10 - 2:13What I create that day
is "covers-over-my-head day in bed." -
2:13 - 2:17I don't get to not create
out of my experience. -
2:17 - 2:19And humans create results -
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2:19 - 2:22here we go - humans create results -
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2:22 - 2:23humans create results
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2:23 - 2:26in time and money, freedom or constraint.
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2:26 - 2:29So if you think about next year
when we come to the reunion, -
2:29 - 2:30what would you love to be saying?
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2:30 - 2:32You know, on my calendar
the last 12 months, -
2:32 - 2:37here's what were the evidences
of more freedom for me, and time. -
2:37 - 2:40More freedom for me
in the economic freedom -
2:40 - 2:43where I could go where I wanted to go,
do what I wanted to do, -
2:43 - 2:46but maybe even more importantly,
and I believe it is, -
2:46 - 2:48actually give to the things
that matter to you. -
2:48 - 2:52Provide some of the things
for those that matter to you as well. -
2:53 - 2:56Now, about 40 years ago,
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2:56 - 2:59I got very, very interested
in transformation. -
2:59 - 3:02I was getting my undergraduate degree,
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3:02 - 3:04and I cared deeply about kids.
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3:04 - 3:07I longed for quite a while
to become a schoolteacher. -
3:07 - 3:09While I was getting
my undergraduate degree -
3:09 - 3:12I wanted to study everything I could
in the field of transformation. -
3:12 - 3:16And the purpose was to help
children discover a kind of self-esteem -
3:16 - 3:18so no matter what their circumstances
or their situations, -
3:18 - 3:20they could actually believe
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3:20 - 3:23that they could become
the person they wanted to be, -
3:23 - 3:25and achieve the things
they wanted to achieve. -
3:25 - 3:28I went on a got a graduate degree
in counseling psychology; -
3:28 - 3:30I earned an honorary doctorate;
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3:30 - 3:35my first book, "Building Your Field
of Dreams," became a PBS special; -
3:35 - 3:38I had the privilege of working
with His Holiness the Dalai Lama -
3:38 - 3:39over the course of seven years,
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3:39 - 3:42creating week-long conversations.
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3:42 - 3:45I could just sit right next to him
for a week at a time over seven years, -
3:45 - 3:47three different times.
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3:47 - 3:50Conversations with world leaders about
how to transform our world's results. -
3:51 - 3:53I got very interested
in how results happened, -
3:53 - 3:55and how to transform results.
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3:55 - 3:59I had the privilege of speaking
at the United Nations -
3:59 - 4:03with the Martin Luther King kids
and Ghandi's grandkids -
4:03 - 4:07and creating a 64-day season
for nonviolence, -
4:07 - 4:09particularly teaching junior high kids
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4:09 - 4:13about how to solve problems
through acts of nonviolence and caring. -
4:14 - 4:16And I spoke at the UN
three different times, -
4:16 - 4:18one of them with Rosa Parks.
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4:18 - 4:20I was building my dreams;
they mattered to me. -
4:20 - 4:24I had the privilege of working
and flying to Cape Town, South Africa, -
4:24 - 4:26and meeting with Nelson Mandela.
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4:26 - 4:29I had a deep dream
to ask him the question, -
4:29 - 4:31"How did you transform your results?
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4:31 - 4:35How did you be a man
who gets sentenced to life in prison - -
4:35 - 4:38you served 27 years in hard prison -
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4:38 - 4:41and then not only do you get
out of prison before you die, -
4:41 - 4:42but you actually then become
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4:42 - 4:45president of the country
that sentences you to life. -
4:46 - 4:48Who on our planet does this?
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4:49 - 4:50How did you do that?
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4:50 - 4:52What was going on inside of you?"
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4:52 - 4:56And that has been my quest
and my interest and my deep longing -
4:56 - 4:57so that I could transfer that
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4:57 - 5:01and offer that to the people
that I had the privilege of working with, -
5:01 - 5:03working with tens of thousands
of people around the world -
5:03 - 5:05around changing their results.
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5:05 - 5:08Does it mean that because
every time I've studied this -
5:08 - 5:10and worked with my own life and others,
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5:10 - 5:12that every time for me
my dreams came true? -
5:12 - 5:16No. Does it mean
everything I did worked out? No. -
5:16 - 5:19My first business
that I spent 23 years building - -
5:19 - 5:20I took my eye off the ball,
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5:20 - 5:24I hired somebody to run the finances,
it was totally mismanaged. -
5:24 - 5:26I lost everything I had built.
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5:26 - 5:28It was heartbreaking to me.
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5:29 - 5:30But there are three steps
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5:30 - 5:34that dream builders use
either consciously or unconsciously -
5:34 - 5:36to transform their results
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5:36 - 5:39so that the dream wins over conditions;
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5:39 - 5:42so that the dream wins over time;
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5:42 - 5:46so that the dream wins over
all kinds of circumstances, situations, -
5:46 - 5:49and even our history,
no matter how long it's been there, -
5:49 - 5:52and sometimes
it's been there for decades. -
5:53 - 5:57About 150 years ago, a man decided
to do an experiment with his life. -
5:57 - 6:00That's what we're invited to do
over the next 12 months. -
6:00 - 6:02Keep breathing and do
an experiment with life. -
6:03 - 6:06He went to the woods, Henry David Thoreau,
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6:06 - 6:09and he said, prior to his - this quote
that's up here, he said, -
6:09 - 6:13"I wanted to learn to suck
the marrow out of aliveness. -
6:13 - 6:16I wanted to live a life
I loved living while I was living it. -
6:17 - 6:18I went to the woods
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6:18 - 6:21because I wished to deliberately front
the only essential facts of life -
6:21 - 6:25and see if life could not teach me
what it had to teach, -
6:25 - 6:27and not when I came to die
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6:27 - 6:31discover that I had not
even really lived." -
6:32 - 6:35Now, Henry did this two-year,
two-month, two-day experiment, -
6:35 - 6:37and then he wrote an essay about it.
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6:37 - 6:39In the conclusion of that essay,
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6:40 - 6:43he writes a quote that is worldwide known:
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6:43 - 6:45"If one advances confidently
in the direction of their dream -
6:45 - 6:48and endeavors to live
the life they've imagined," -
6:48 - 6:50he said, "I learned this
at least by my experiment, -
6:50 - 6:54if one advances confidently
in the direction of their dream." -
6:54 - 6:58Well, you can't advance in a direction
you don't already have an idea of. -
6:58 - 7:02And the first thing dream builders
or people who evolve their results do -
7:02 - 7:06is they have an idea of what they
would really love their life to be like. -
7:06 - 7:08If I say to you "your front door";
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7:08 - 7:10if I say to you "the kitchen sink
where you live"; -
7:10 - 7:12if I say to you "the bed
you sleep in most often"; -
7:12 - 7:16you did not see the letters
B E D or S I N K or D O O R, -
7:16 - 7:17you saw pictures.
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7:17 - 7:20You saw a picture of a door,
a picture of a sink, a picture of a bed. -
7:20 - 7:24This is important for us to know
as building a dream, -
7:24 - 7:26because most of us dream dreams,
and we're vague. -
7:26 - 7:27We don't really see a dream.
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7:27 - 7:30We say, "I want it to be better,
I want it to be easier. -
7:30 - 7:32I'd love to travel,"
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7:32 - 7:34and there's no picture
for where we would travel. -
7:34 - 7:37The more specific you are
and the more specific you are right now, -
7:37 - 7:41this talk will mean way more to you
over the course of this next year. -
7:42 - 7:43What would you really love?
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7:43 - 7:45Most of us ask this question:
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7:45 - 7:46What do I think I can do?
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7:46 - 7:47What does the economy say I can do?
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7:47 - 7:50What do you think I can do?
What does my mother think I can do? -
7:50 - 7:53What would you love?
is the right question. -
7:53 - 7:56You'll have different thoughts
on the frequency of that question -
7:56 - 7:59than you will have
on the "What do I think?" question. -
7:59 - 8:00What would you really love?
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8:00 - 8:03Because you're going to have results
in those four areas anyway. -
8:04 - 8:07Now, I knew nothing about this in 1966.
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8:07 - 8:12In 1966, I had grown up
in a very, very happy family. -
8:12 - 8:15My mom and dad,
my sister, eight years older. -
8:16 - 8:17This was 1966.
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8:17 - 8:18I was a junior in high school,
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8:18 - 8:20I was homecoming princess,
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8:20 - 8:22had a lead in the junior play.
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8:22 - 8:25I was my class vice president,
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8:26 - 8:28had three best friends
from the time I was 10 years old, -
8:28 - 8:32and we'd hung out together,
and done many, many things together. -
8:32 - 8:35In spring break of 1966,
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8:35 - 8:38my high school sweetheart
had gone off to college, -
8:38 - 8:39came home on spring break,
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8:39 - 8:40and I got pregnant.
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8:41 - 8:43May 1, I tell my mom and dad
I'm now pregnant. -
8:43 - 8:45My mother wept for me as if I had died.
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8:46 - 8:48We had a very hasty
10-person wedding middle of May. -
8:48 - 8:50The high school principal
calls me in, says, -
8:50 - 8:52"Are these rumors true?"
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8:52 - 8:55I said, "If the rumors are I'm pregnant,
married, in that order, then yes." -
8:55 - 8:57He just put his head
in his hands and said, -
8:57 - 9:00"Mary, you will not allowed
to return here for your senior year. -
9:00 - 9:02It would be totally inappropriate
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9:02 - 9:05for a pregnant girl to get mixed in
with the normal girls, -
9:05 - 9:07but we have a place for people like you.
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9:07 - 9:09It's a high school
not held during daylight. -
9:09 - 9:11It's across the river -
in a part of Portland -
9:11 - 9:13I hadn't been allowed
to drive in after dark - -
9:13 - 9:17and it's where the pregnant girls
and delinquent boys go to high school." -
9:17 - 9:19So that's where I began my senior year,
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9:19 - 9:21and my first son was born
in December of 1966. -
9:21 - 9:23Only now, the mothers
of my best girlfriends -
9:23 - 9:27would no longer let them see me
because I was married, I was pregnant. -
9:27 - 9:29It was as if what I had was contagious.
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9:30 - 9:33I graduated from Washington
Evening High School in May of 1967, -
9:33 - 9:37and in July of 1967,
I was in a Portland hospital, -
9:37 - 9:40having been diagnosed
with fatal kidney disease. -
9:40 - 9:42One kidney was totally
destroyed with nephritis, -
9:42 - 9:46the other kidney was 50% destroyed
in active nephritis. -
9:46 - 9:49And in 1967, this is a death sentence.
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9:49 - 9:51We don't have dialysis,
we don't have transplants, -
9:52 - 9:55and every medical physician,
doctor, specialist, surgeon -
9:55 - 9:56all said the same thing:
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9:56 - 9:59"The best we can do
is maybe give you six months -
9:59 - 10:02if we can get the blood toxin level
in your body reduced enough -
10:02 - 10:03to remove that surgery,
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10:03 - 10:05then maybe you'll have six months."
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10:05 - 10:07And I was terrified.
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10:07 - 10:12And my belief system at that time
was this was happening to me. -
10:12 - 10:17I was being punished for being a bad girl,
and I was being punished. -
10:17 - 10:19Well, the night before the surgery,
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10:19 - 10:20a woman walked in my room at 10 pm
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10:20 - 10:23who identified herself
as a chaplain offering prayer -
10:23 - 10:26for people who'll have surgeries
the next day - did I want prayer? -
10:26 - 10:29And I'm thinking, you know,
well, the God of my upbringing -
10:29 - 10:32probably needed to have
some anger management classes. -
10:32 - 10:33(Laughter)
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10:33 - 10:36It's the only God I knew at the time,
and I said, "Well, maybe." -
10:36 - 10:38She didn't do anything
that looked like prayer. -
10:38 - 10:40She talked to me,
and she asked me to tell her -
10:40 - 10:43what had been going on in my life
the last year or two, which I did, -
10:43 - 10:47and when I was finished, she said,
"Mary, everything's created twice." -
10:47 - 10:48"What do you mean?"
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10:48 - 10:51She said, "You know this.
In fact, everybody knows it. -
10:51 - 10:54Almost nobody knows
the power of knowing this. -
10:55 - 10:58The bed you're on, your nightgown,
the sheet covering you, -
10:58 - 11:01the walls, ceiling, floor,
all the machinery you're hooked up to -
11:01 - 11:03first had to be a thought
before it could be a thing. -
11:04 - 11:05You know this."
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11:06 - 11:08Then she said, "I hear
how much you love your little boy, -
11:08 - 11:11but I also hear how much
you've been hating yourself. -
11:11 - 11:14You feel like you shamed yourself,
you shamed your school, your family. -
11:14 - 11:17And now that you're thinking
how everything's created twice, -
11:17 - 11:20could you consider
that there could be a correlation -
11:20 - 11:21because, notice this Mary,
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11:21 - 11:24if you think embarrassing thoughts,
your cheeks get red; -
11:24 - 11:27if you think scary enough thoughts,
your heart beats faster. -
11:27 - 11:29It doesn't mean
anything scary is going on; -
11:29 - 11:32it doesn't even mean anything
embarrassing is going on; -
11:32 - 11:35it means you think those thoughts,
and your body responds. -
11:35 - 11:39Could it be that if you think
enough toxic thoughts about yourself, -
11:39 - 11:44there could be a correlative, a toxicity,
that goes on in your body -
11:44 - 11:46that actually could threaten your life?"
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11:46 - 11:47Well, this was so beyond
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11:47 - 11:50anything that I had
any framework for at that point. -
11:50 - 11:54"Could you believe it's possible
that we could do a prayer or say words -
11:54 - 11:56and this could completely
be eliminated from you, -
11:56 - 11:58and when they come
to get you for surgery, -
11:58 - 12:00they say, 'Get up, go home. You're fine.'
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12:00 - 12:01Could you believe that?"
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12:01 - 12:03And I told her the truth: "No."
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12:03 - 12:05I didn't believe that
was going to happen for me. -
12:05 - 12:07There was not one part
of me that believed. -
12:07 - 12:09I was way more belief
in my pain at that point. -
12:09 - 12:12She said: "Alright,
if you can't believe this, -
12:12 - 12:14remember there's an infinite
number of possibilities. -
12:14 - 12:17There has to be one
where instead of - we do this prayer, -
12:17 - 12:22we pull all the genesis of this dis-ease
that's going on in you -
12:22 - 12:25and put it in the kidney
that's going to be removed. -
12:25 - 12:27And when it's removed, you get better.
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12:27 - 12:29Could you believe that's possible?"
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12:29 - 12:30I didn't know if it was possible,
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12:30 - 12:33but I could tell
she believed it was possible, -
12:33 - 12:34and I believe it was the first time
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12:34 - 12:37I ever chose to believe on the frequency
of someone else's belief, -
12:37 - 12:39who was operating at a higher domain.
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12:39 - 12:41I said, "Maybe it's possible."
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12:41 - 12:44Remember, this is before Sheldrake
and David Bohm, and quantum field science, -
12:44 - 12:46and all the things -
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12:47 - 12:49at this point, there was
no mind-body clinic at Harvard. -
12:49 - 12:53I mean, in the last 40 years,
so much has happened. -
12:53 - 12:55So she said, "Alright,
let's work with that. -
12:55 - 12:56One idea," she says,
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12:56 - 12:59"one part of you open to the idea;
let's work with that." -
12:59 - 13:01She said some words.
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13:01 - 13:05She gave me a prescriptive for how to use
my thinking and my emotion, -
13:05 - 13:07and then she left,
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13:07 - 13:09and they did the surgery,
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13:09 - 13:11and about a week or two later,
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13:11 - 13:14my numbers were stable -
enough that they said, -
13:14 - 13:16"You might have a bit more time.
You can go home." -
13:16 - 13:18I went to my parents' house
in an ambulance, -
13:18 - 13:20where my son and husband were staying.
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13:20 - 13:22I could hardly get my head off the pillow.
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13:22 - 13:26But subtly - I was in many times a week
at first, and over time, less time -
13:26 - 13:28as being checked,
having my numbers checked. -
13:28 - 13:32And subtly over time, my numbers
not only stabilized, but improved. -
13:32 - 13:35And four or five months later,
I'm sitting in a doctor's office -
13:35 - 13:37with a surgeon and a specialist
and my regular GP, -
13:37 - 13:39and they're scratching
their heads, saying, -
13:39 - 13:42"We have no science
for why your one kidney -
13:42 - 13:43is not only getting [better]
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13:43 - 13:47it seems to be functioning
as a perfectly whole fine kidney. -
13:47 - 13:50We don't have any science for this.
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13:50 - 13:51We'll put medical anomaly on your chart.
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13:51 - 13:54Whatever you've been doing,
keep doing it." -
13:54 - 13:55(Laughter)
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13:55 - 13:58That's when I began to do the things
that I've told you about. -
13:58 - 14:01I got into undergraduate school,
I got into graduate school, -
14:01 - 14:04and over time as I reflected
about what happened, -
14:04 - 14:07and I studied people
who transform their results - -
14:07 - 14:09people who transform their results,
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14:09 - 14:13not just wish for a better result,
but actually transform their results - -
14:13 - 14:16there are three things they do,
every one of them, -
14:16 - 14:19whether they do it
consciously or unconsciously. -
14:19 - 14:22When I transformed my health result,
I was totally an unconscious competent. -
14:22 - 14:24I just did what she told me to do.
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14:24 - 14:26She said: "Here's what's going to happen.
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14:26 - 14:30When you have that surgery, yet your mind
is very much like a rubber band, -
14:30 - 14:31you thought those thoughts so much,
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14:31 - 14:34your mind is going to want
to think those toxic thoughts. -
14:34 - 14:36They're going to remove that one kidney.
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14:36 - 14:39Every time you notice yourself
starting to think of toxic thoughts, -
14:39 - 14:41say, "No, that left with the kidney,"
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14:41 - 14:44and then immediately imagine yourself -
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14:44 - 14:46like you're walking in
and getting into your own bed - -
14:46 - 14:47imagine yourself."
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14:47 - 14:49I wanted my two big dreams:
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14:49 - 14:52I want to be a teacher,
and I want to raise my son. -
14:52 - 14:55"Imagine you're walking into a school
with a five-year-old's hand in yours. -
14:55 - 14:57Feel the warmth of his hand in yours.
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14:57 - 14:59He goes into his kindergarten class.
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14:59 - 15:01You hear the click-click of your heels.
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15:01 - 15:03Around the corner, there's your classroom,
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15:03 - 15:05and you're a teacher, and he's five.
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15:05 - 15:06Imagine yourself.
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15:06 - 15:09Then fast forward: imagine
you're sitting in a big auditorium. -
15:09 - 15:10There's caps and gowns down there.
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15:10 - 15:14Your son's 18; he's graduating
from high school, and you're there, -
15:14 - 15:16and your teaching career is growing.
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15:16 - 15:19Then fast forward and imagine
you're in the front row of a wedding. -
15:19 - 15:21You're the mother of the groom.
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15:21 - 15:23Your son's marrying the love of his life.
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15:23 - 15:25And your teaching career is flourishing.
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15:25 - 15:26Keep repeating that."
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15:26 - 15:28I had done that unconsciously.
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15:28 - 15:30Every time I would start
to think, "Oh my gosh!" -
15:30 - 15:33and start to generate
that wavelength of self-loathing, -
15:34 - 15:35I said: "No, that left with the kidney."
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15:35 - 15:36Then I saw myself,
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15:36 - 15:39and I imagined being the person
taking him into kindergarten, -
15:39 - 15:42being the person seeing him graduate,
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15:42 - 15:45being the person sitting
in the front row of his wedding. -
15:45 - 15:46I had no idea the power of that.
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15:47 - 15:51But after 45 years of studying
and tens of thousands of people, -
15:51 - 15:53what I know are these three things.
-
15:53 - 15:57That if when we get together
next year for our reunion, -
15:57 - 16:00and if you would love
to be able to share results, -
16:00 - 16:03in particularly
one or two areas of your life -
16:03 - 16:06where you feel the greatest longing
and the most discontent, -
16:06 - 16:09then these three things will help you.
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16:09 - 16:14Number one, you want to create
with clarity a specific dream. -
16:14 - 16:18Imagine yourself: health,
what would you love? relationships. -
16:18 - 16:21As clear the dream you can design,
-
16:21 - 16:24the more your brain
can work on that frequency. -
16:24 - 16:26You know if you want to change
your television channel, -
16:26 - 16:28you have to change the frequency.
-
16:28 - 16:30You know if you want
to change the radio station, -
16:30 - 16:32you've got to change the frequency.
-
16:32 - 16:34We're not really different.
-
16:34 - 16:36We think on frequencies.
-
16:36 - 16:39Our ability to see
and not see opportunities -
16:39 - 16:41are on the frequencies we think from.
-
16:41 - 16:43Create a specific dream.
-
16:43 - 16:45See yourself in it.
-
16:45 - 16:47Refuse to stay discouraged.
-
16:47 - 16:51I didn't say refuse to get discouraged;
we're all going to get discouraged. -
16:51 - 16:53Not everything we try
is going to work out. -
16:53 - 16:57We learned to walk by falling down;
we just didn't stay down. -
16:57 - 16:59We were little kids.
-
16:59 - 17:01It was normal to explore, experiment.
-
17:01 - 17:02We got older,
-
17:02 - 17:05and we thought every step
we take has got to work out. -
17:05 - 17:07So decline to stay discouraged.
-
17:07 - 17:09Okay, that was feedback.
-
17:09 - 17:13When Edison was asked
"How did you survive 10,000 failures?" -
17:13 - 17:16He said: "I never had a failure;
it was all feedback." -
17:16 - 17:18You'll have some feedback this year.
-
17:18 - 17:21Decline to stay discouraged,
-
17:21 - 17:24and then be more interested
in the growth that will happen for you -
17:24 - 17:26by means of having a dream.
-
17:27 - 17:31Yes, many, many wonderful things
will happen if you become a dream builder, -
17:31 - 17:33not a dreamer, a dream builder,
-
17:33 - 17:35because you're going
to create results anyway. -
17:35 - 17:37But to stay in the comfort zone
-
17:37 - 17:40means you're going
to keep having what you've had - -
17:40 - 17:41that's where you're comfortable.
-
17:41 - 17:45If you want something you've never had,
do something you've never done - -
17:45 - 17:46that's growth.
-
17:46 - 17:48We'll get a little unstable
in that part of our life. -
17:48 - 17:53So if you're more interested
in growth than comfort, -
17:53 - 17:56you're willing to be interested
a little bit in growth -
17:56 - 17:59because it's more for you
than what's been, -
17:59 - 18:01and do that in service of your dream.
-
18:02 - 18:03So those three things:
-
18:03 - 18:05be specific about your dream;
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18:05 - 18:06decline to stay discouraged;
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18:06 - 18:09be in service of your dream
through the growth that happens, -
18:09 - 18:13and you can have that every single day
during this 365-day experiment -
18:13 - 18:17before we have our reunion next year.
-
18:17 - 18:20Now, not one of us can go back
and change what's back there, -
18:20 - 18:25but every single one of us can decide
what's going to be out there. -
18:25 - 18:26Thank you.
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18:26 - 18:28(Applause)
- Title:
- The hidden code for transforming dreams into reality | Mary Morrissey | TEDxWilmingtonWomen
- Description:
-
What could your ideal life look like one year from today? Throughout her life, Mary was able to improve her results, no matter how difficult the challenge. Through interactions with thousands of leaders including the Dalai Lama, Nelson Mandela and delegates to the United Nations, Mary learned the code to advance confidently in the direction of one's dreams.
Mary Morrissey has over 40 years of experience empowering individuals in the areas of abundance, authenticity and success. As a sought after expert on the “invisible side” of success, Mary has spoken three times at the United Nations and worked with His Holiness the Dalai Lama and Nelson Mandela. Mary has a Master's Degree in counseling psychology, an honorary Doctorate of Humane Letters and is the author of two best-selling books, "No Less Than Greatness" and "Building Your Field of Dreams," which also became a PBS special. Among all of her achievements and degrees in higher learning, Mary’s favorites are the two black belts she has earned: one in success and the other in failure.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at http://ted.com/tedx
- Video Language:
- English
- Team:
closed TED
- Project:
- TEDxTalks
- Duration:
- 18:37