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Why is my brother so nasty?

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    (Bell)
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    (Dutch)
    Why is my brother so annoying?
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    (English)
    Why is my brother always
    so nasty towards me?
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    (Laughter)
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    That is a good question!
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    (Loud laughter)
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    Why is my brother always nasty to me?
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    Before answering, Thây would like
    to ask you a question.
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    Are you nasty to your brother?
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    (Laughter)
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    Sometimes?
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    No.
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    (Loud laughter)
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    Are you sure?
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    (Laughter)
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    Are you sure?
    That is another question.
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    (Laughter)
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    I believe that when we are
    fresh, smiling, lovable
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    people will not be nasty to us.
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    Do you agree?
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    When we are fresh, smiling, kind, lovely,
    people will not be nasty to us.
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    In any case...
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    that is what usually happens.
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    It is very difficult for someone
    to be nasty to us
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    when we are so lovable
    and fresh and loving.
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    And then when you are fresh and lovable,
    you can help the guy to be less nasty.
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    Right?
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    You can help a fellow to be less nasty.
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    That is something we can say.
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    When we are fresh, when we are loving,
    when we are pleasant,
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    we can help another
    person not to be nasty.
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    And then...
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    We can do more.
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    Someone who is nasty,
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    is someone who is not very happy.
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    If you are happy, you are not nasty.
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    And we can look to see what
    makes that person unhappy and nasty.
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    That is meditation.
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    Meditation is to look
    and ask the question:
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    "Why is that fellow nasty?
    Why is that fellow unhappy?"
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    We ask the question.
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    And then we try to look deeply
    to find the answer.
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    There must be a reason.
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    And that is meditation.
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    Meditation is to have the time
    to look and to listen
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    to see why someone is not happy,
    why he is always nasty.
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    When we come to Plum Village,
    we learn that.
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    We learn to sit quietly and to look
    to see why a person is nasty,
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    why a person is not kind,
    why a person is unhappy.
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    And we will find the answer.
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    And when we have found the truth,
    we may do something
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    or say something to
    help him or her suffer less.
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    And that person will not be nasty anymore.
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    This is the practice.
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    And that is what we try to learn
    when we come to Plum Village.
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    Come again next year.
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    (Laughter)
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    And learn more about this.
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    This is very important!
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    And not only children can learn that,
    but adults can learn that also.
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    Thank you for asking this
    very interesting question.
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    Do you think that is a good answer?
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    (Laughter)
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    Or is it not good enough?
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    (Bell)
Title:
Why is my brother so nasty?
Description:

Thay answers questions on 21 June 2014. Question 1
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Video Language:
English
Duration:
06:02
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