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(Bell)

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(Dutch)[br]Why is my brother so annoying?

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(English)[br]Why is my brother always[br]so nasty towards me?

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(Laughter)

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That is a good question!

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(Loud laughter)

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Why is my brother always nasty to me?

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Before answering, Thây would like[br]to ask you a question.

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Are you nasty to your brother?

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(Laughter)

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Sometimes?

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No.

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(Loud laughter)

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Are you sure?

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(Laughter)

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Are you sure?[br]That is another question.

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(Laughter)

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I believe that when we are[br]fresh, smiling, lovable

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people will not be nasty to us.

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Do you agree?

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When we are fresh, smiling, kind, lovely,[br]people will not be nasty to us.

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In any case...

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that is what usually happens.

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It is very difficult for someone[br]to be nasty to us

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when we are so lovable[br]and fresh and loving.

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And then when you are fresh and lovable,[br]you can help the guy to be less nasty.

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Right?

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You can help a fellow to be less nasty.

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That is something we can say.

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When we are fresh, when we are loving,[br]when we are pleasant,

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we can help another[br]person not to be nasty.

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And then...

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We can do more.

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Someone who is nasty,

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is someone who is not very happy.

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If you are happy, you are not nasty.

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And we can look to see what[br]makes that person unhappy and nasty.

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That is meditation.

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Meditation is to look[br]and ask the question:

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"Why is that fellow nasty?[br]Why is that fellow unhappy?"

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We ask the question.

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And then we try to look deeply[br]to find the answer.

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There must be a reason.

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And that is meditation.

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Meditation is to have the time[br]to look and to listen

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to see why someone is not happy,[br]why he is always nasty.

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When we come to Plum Village,[br]we learn that.

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We learn to sit quietly and to look[br]to see why a person is nasty,

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why a person is not kind,[br]why a person is unhappy.

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And we will find the answer.

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And when we have found the truth,[br]we may do something

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or say something to[br]help him or her suffer less.

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And that person will not be nasty anymore.

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This is the practice.

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And that is what we try to learn[br]when we come to Plum Village.

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Come again next year.

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(Laughter)

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And learn more about this.

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This is very important!

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And not only children can learn that,[br]but adults can learn that also.

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Thank you for asking this[br]very interesting question.

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Do you think that is a good answer?

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(Laughter)

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Or is it not good enough?

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(Bell)