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(Bell)

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(Dutch)
Why is my brother so annoying?

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(English)
Why is my brother always
so nasty towards me?

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(Laughter)

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That is a good question!

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(Loud laughter)

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Why is my brother always nasty to me?

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Before answering, Thây would like
to ask you a question.

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Are you nasty to your brother?

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(Laughter)

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Sometimes?

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No.

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(Loud laughter)

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Are you sure?

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(Laughter)

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Are you sure?
That is another question.

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(Laughter)

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I believe that when we are
fresh, smiling, lovable

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people will not be nasty to us.

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Do you agree?

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When we are fresh, smiling, kind, lovely,
people will not be nasty to us.

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In any case...

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that is what usually happens.

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It is very difficult for someone
to be nasty to us

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when we are so lovable
and fresh and loving.

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And then when you are fresh and lovable,
you can help the guy to be less nasty.

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Right?

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You can help a fellow to be less nasty.

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That is something we can say.

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When we are fresh, when we are loving,
when we are pleasant,

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we can help another
person not to be nasty.

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And then...

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We can do more.

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Someone who is nasty,

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is someone who is not very happy.

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If you are happy, you are not nasty.

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And we can look to see what
makes that person unhappy and nasty.

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That is meditation.

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Meditation is to look
and ask the question:

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"Why is that fellow nasty?
Why is that fellow unhappy?"

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We ask the question.

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And then we try to look deeply
to find the answer.

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There must be a reason.

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And that is meditation.

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Meditation is to have the time
to look and to listen

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to see why someone is not happy,
why he is always nasty.

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When we come to Plum Village,
we learn that.

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We learn to sit quietly and to look
to see why a person is nasty,

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why a person is not kind,
why a person is unhappy.

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And we will find the answer.

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And when we have found the truth,
we may do something

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or say something to
help him or her suffer less.

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And that person will not be nasty anymore.

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This is the practice.

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And that is what we try to learn
when we come to Plum Village.

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Come again next year.

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(Laughter)

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And learn more about this.

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This is very important!

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And not only children can learn that,
but adults can learn that also.

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Thank you for asking this
very interesting question.

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Do you think that is a good answer?

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(Laughter)

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Or is it not good enough?

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(Bell)