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How to stop your friends from excluding you?

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    (FRENCH) What can I do
    to make my friends not exclude me?
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    What can I do to make my friends
    not exclude me anymore?
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    I think there are things we can do.
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    They don't want us,
    they want to exclude us
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    but it is because they have not seen us.
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    But we can contribute a lot
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    to their games, their joy.
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    We also have talents,
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    we can participate, we can contribute
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    to their joy, their happiness.
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    I think we should practice
    in order to have more freshness,
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    like a flower.
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    Pebble meditation:
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    breathing in, I see myself as a flower,
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    breathing out, I feel fresh.
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    So that kind of meditation
    helps us to restore
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    our beauty and our freshness.
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    Breathing in, I see myself
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    as still water.
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    Breathing out, I feel peaceful
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    and calm.
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    So we practice like that and we have
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    peace and beauty in us.
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    And then, very soon they will see that
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    this person
    is very pleasant
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    because he has a lot of peace,
    a lot of tenderness
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    a lot of freshness
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    a lot of beauty in him.
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    When we exclude him,
    he does not get angry;
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    he continues to smile.
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    He can be joyful
    even if we exclude him.
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    So slowly they will see that to include
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    that boy into their circle
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    will make them happier.
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    So it depends on us, a lot on us,
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    not only on them.
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    They have excluded us
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    because they are not able
    to see our value,
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    our beauty, our peace.
    You see?
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    So the practice will help us
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    to be more beautiful,
    more fresh,
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    more peaceful, more solid,
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    more joyful.
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    And they will need us surely
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    because in that group there is violence;
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    some violence, some anger, some fear.
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    So they also suffer in their own group.
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    And one day when we join into that group
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    we can help them to suffer less
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    and to have more joy.
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    That is why
    the practice is very important.
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    Depends on us more than on them.
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Title:
How to stop your friends from excluding you?
Description:

Zen master Thich NHat Hanh,Thay, answers questions on May 2014. Plum Village practice center, France. Question 5

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English
Duration:
05:26

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