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From Bombs to Bread | Aala El-Khani | TEDxManchester

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    Good Morning
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    Worldwide, over 1.5 billion people
    experience armed conflict
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    In response, people are forced to flee
    their country.
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    leaving over 15 million refugees.
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    Children without a doubt are
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    the most innocent and vulnerable victims.
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    But not just from the obvious
    physical dangers,
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    but from, the often, unspoken affects
    that wars have on their families.
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    The experiences of war leave children
    at real high risk
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    for the development of emotional
    and behavioural problems.
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    Children as we can only imagine,
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    will feel worried, threaten and at risk.
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    But there is good news,
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    the quality of care that children recieve
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    in their families, can have a
    more significant effects
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    on their well-being, than from
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    the actual experiences of war that
    they have been exposed to.
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    So actually, children can be protected
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    by warm, secure parenting,
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    during and after conflict.
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    In 2011, I was a first year PHD Student
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    in the University Of Manchester
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    School Of Physiological Sciences.
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    Like many of you here, I watched
    the crisis in Syria
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    unfold in front of me on the Tv.
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    My family are originally from Syria,
    and very early on
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    I lost several family members
    in really horrifying ways.
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    I sit and I gathered with my family
    and watched the TV.
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    So we have all seen those scenes,
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    bombs destroying, buildings,
    chaos, destruction.
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    and people screaming and running.
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    it was always the people screaming
    and running
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    that really got me the most.
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    Specially those terrified looking children.
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    I was a mother to two young,
    typically inquisitive children.
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    They were five and six then.
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    At an age when they typically
    ask lots and lots of questions
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    and expect real convincing answers.
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    So I began to wonder what it might be like
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    to parent my children in a war-zone
    and a refugee camp.
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    Would my children change?
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    Would my daughter's bright happy eyes lose their shine?
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    Would my sons' really relax
    care-free nature
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    become fearful and withdrawn?
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    How would I cope?
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    Would I change?
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    As psychologists and parent's trainers
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    we know that arming parents
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    with skills and caring for their children
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    can have a huge effect on their well-being.
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    We call this parents training.
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    So the questions I had
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    was could Parent Training programs be useful for families
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    while they're still in war-zones or refugee camps?
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    Could we reach them with advise or training
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    that would help them through the struggles?
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    So, I approached my PHD supervisor,
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    professor Rachel Calam,
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    with the idea of using my academic skills
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    to make some changes in the real world.
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    I wasn't quite sure, exactly,
    what I wanted to do.
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    She listened carefully and patiently,
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    And to my joy, she said:
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    "If that is what you want to do,
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    and it means so much to you, then
    let's do it.
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    Let's find ways to see if
    parent programs can be useful
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    for families in this contexts."
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    So for the past five years myself and my colleagues,
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    professor Calam and Dr. Kim Cartwright
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    have been working on ways
    to support families
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    that have experienced war
    and displacement.
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    Now, to know how to help
    families that have been
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    through conflict, support their children,
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    The first step must obviously be
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    to ask them what are they
    struggling with. Right?
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    I mean, it seems obvious,

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    but often those are the
    most vulnerable
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    that we are trying to support that we actually don't ask.
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    How many times have we just assumed
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    we know exactly the right thing that
    is gonna help someone or something
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    without actually asking them first.
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    So i travelled to the refugee camps
    in Syria and in Turkey.
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    And i sat with families and I listened.
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    I listened to the parenting challenges
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    I listened to the parenting struggles
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    And I listened to their call for help
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    And sometimes that was
    just paused
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    as all I could was hold hand
    with them and just join them
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    in silence crying and prayer
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    So they told me about their struggles
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    They told me about the rough,
    harsh refugee camp condition
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    That made it hard to focus on
    anything but practical chores
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    like collecting clean water
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    He told me how they watch their
    children with draw
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    the sadness, depression, anger
    bed-wetting, thumb sucking
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    fear of loud noises, fear of nightmares
    terrifying terrifying nightmares
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    this families had been through
    what we had been watching on the TV
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    the mothers almost half of them were
    now window of the wars
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    or didn't even know their husbands
    were dead or alive
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    describe how they thought they
    were coping so badly
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    They watch their children change
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    and they have had no idea
    how to help them.
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    They didn't know how to answer
    their children's questions.
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    why I found incredibly
    astonishing and so motivational
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    was that these families was so
    motivated to support their children
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    Despite all the challenges they faced
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    they were trying to help their children
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    they were making attempts at seeking
    support from NGO workers
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    from refugee camp teachers,
    professional medics, other parents.
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    One mother I met had only been
    account for 4 days
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    and had already made two attempts
    at seeking support
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    for her eight -year-old daughter
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    who was having terrifying nightmares.
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    But sadly, these attempts are
    almost always useless.
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    Refugee camp doctors when available
    are almost always too busy or
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    don't have the knowledge or
    the time for basic parenting supports.
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    Refugee camp teachers and other
    parents I just like them
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    part of a new refugee community
    who's struggling with needs
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From Bombs to Bread | Aala El-Khani | TEDxManchester
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