The Secret Behind All Sexual Fetishes - Teal Swan -

Life on Earth, creation itself

is the byproduct of sexual energy.

It is undeniable that creation,

conception, and sexual

energy go hand in hand.

Therefore it is undeniable

that manifestation of our desires

and sexual energy go hand in hand.

What does this mean for those of us

who are practicing the art of manifestation?

It means that sexual focus is

one of the most powerful tools for

manifestation that you can possibly imagine.

To understand more about this

watch my video on YouTube titled

"How to use an Orgasm to Manifest"

Nothing matters more than

what you're focusing on and feeling

the experience of in the moment of orgasm.

What you focus on especially on

a feeling based level is what you

are trying to conceive and manifest into your reality

In the minute of orgasm the accumulated

energy that is built up is released.

That powerful burst of energy is released

towards what you desire to create within

the subconscious intention of

manifesting it into your reality

Even the most unconscious people

walking the planet today instinctively

feel that link between sex and creation

and manifestation.

Even the most unconscious

people walking the

planet today also feel

the undeniable link

between desire and sex.

But this is a world where most people

are unconscious and so what does

that mean? It means that most people,

even though they feel the link between

desire and sex aren't aware of what

their actual desires are.

They feel a strong desire for something

but don't understand why they feel such

a strong desire for that thing.

And this is why we fail

at fundamental level

to understand what exactly is

behind sexual fetishes.

But I'm going to tell you the secret

to whats behind sexual fetishes.

The secret is that

behind all sexual fetishes

is a desire that someone has something

they want to experience, usually

an emotional state but that they

feel utterly powerless to manifest

into their day to day reality.

They are fixated on that desire

subconsciously and thus fixated

on that fetish. And yes,

the secret even applies to

very weird fetishes. For the sake

of your understanding I'm going

to give you some examples.

Let's start with mazophilia.

This is a sexual fetish where people

are attracted to the cycle of birth.

Either conception, pregnancy, birth,

or a combination of One, Two,

or all Three. Most people with this

fetish fixate on one part of the cycle.

I was working with a woman who's

fetish was centered around birth

specifically when we got down to

exactly what she was fixated on

during her sexual fantasizing

It was how the man in the situation

completely recognized her pain and

was completely unconditionally present

with it comforting her through it.

When we got deep into her childhood

we found out that she was being abused

badly as a child by someone outside the

family and the most painful part

of the abuse was that her mother

and father did not see it.

Not only could she not see the abuse

itself they refused to really accept and

acknowledge her pain

that was a result of it.

When she was unhappy and hurting

they minimized it and validated it

shamed her for it and withdrew from her.

But when she was young, she watched a

program on television on birth and when

she saw the image of a husband

supporting his wife through the process

of labor she felt what

she had always wanted.

This is a circumstance where

no-one will minimize your pain

validate it, shame you for it, or

withdraw from you when your in it.

She was desperate for that exact

reaction from her attachment figures

in response to her pain.

All of this was subconscious so

it took place on the somatic level as

just the sensation of looking at and

feeling in her body as a result of what

she's always wanted.

Of course at this point when she

developed this fetish it wasn't a

mental understanding of

what she actually wanted.

As a result, what is a person who's

not really conscious about what they

actually want gonna do?

Their going to thing "Oh, my gosh

that scenario,

if I create that scenario,

I'll be able to get what I desperatly

need through that scenario because

it's impossible to conceive of getting

that thing that they want

through any other scenario.

In other words the only way to

get that need satisfied was to

actually give birth. So, she thought

about it every time she masturbated

and eventually it became a full blown fetish.

Unconsciously by fixating sexual and

through orgasm on that experience

she was trying to manifest

it into reality desperatly!

Now, this is the

reality behind all fetishes.

I want you to keep in mind

that you could have one fetish

And two different people could

have different reasons or emotional

experiences they are trying to manifest

through that one fetish.

However, there are undeniable trends.

Undeniable similarities in terms of

what experience people are trying

desperately to manifest in the their

reality by fixating on it sexually.

I will explain some common trends.

Let's begin with a guy who is obsessed

with blow-jobs; that's his fetish.

A common trend you see in men who's

fetish is blow-jobs they are lacking the

feeling of being the center of attention.

They are lacking the sensation of

being special of having somebody

adore them to such a degree that

they give to them freely without

wanting anything in return.

They usually grew up in family's

where their attachment figures were

absorbed in themselves and in their

own drama or self centered interests

and whom they felt like

an invisible accessory to.

A blowjob brings them the

closest they can come.

Because of their beliefs that they

can't get in any other way to creating

that somatic state which

they are so desperate for.

Many people especially

boys who have a foot fetish.

These children were often born

to mothers who were very very busy.

Oftentimes these are boys who are

not the first child in the family

Potentially they are way

further down the line.

And so they are dealing with

a mom who is preoccupied.

Now, what do we do with little

babies when we're super preoccupied

as mom's? If were not keeping them in

cribs we lay them on

their tummies on the floor.

These babies desperatly wanted

the pleasure of closeness and one

on one connection/undivided

attention from their moms.

But the closes they could get to that

ecstasy of one on one

absorption was their feet.

Think about a busy mom with

a baby on the floor.

She walks around the room

The closest that he gets to his mother

is her feet

Maybe chasing after her crawling.

Or seeing her come close

When she's walking by

Or having her tickle them

with her feet as she walks by.

As a result, they believe

they cannot get that

in day to day life with a woman

but the closest they can get is feet

Feet becomes the symbol of that feeling

experience they desperatly want.

Of the pleasure of one-on-one absorption

Intimacy and connection

Now, let's talk S&M

Okay, let's pretend you have somebody

who during sexual interaction

their fetish is being abused

What's the common trend there?

These people show a trend towards having

a past where they have to be in control.

Responsible in situations

where they didn't

want to be or weren't ready to be.

And strong even when

they felt like collapsing

under preasure

Most of these people had parents

who would not stand for weakness

They wouldn't tolerate it,

it's not acceptable.

And so this person had to muscle up

And just get on with it.

This weakness was punished with

withdrawal, invalidation, or shaming

So what's the result

The result is an adult who's

designed for pressure

Control is pressure

responsibility is pressure

And god do we ever want to get rid of it.

By being abused during sex they get to

lose control

and with that sense of control the

weight of responsibility comes off

their shoulders and is assumed

by the dominant partner.

They can let go completely

They can feel the relief of weakness

in a way that will not leave them

alone for being that way because it is

what the dominant partner wants.

A sexual fetish around being abused

is their attempt to manifest being able

to let go of pressure,

responsibility, and control

and still be loved by

someone in that state

Instead of abandoned, shamed,

or invalidated for it.

So let's look at the

flip side of the coin shall we?

Let's look at people who

love to abuse during sex

That's their fetish

These people show a common

trend towards having childhoods

where they were put in positions

of complete and utter powerlessness

That's one reason why this is such a good

common fetish for especially men who

grew up in situations where they were

chronically physically abused.

Usually by a father

Having been put in situations

where they felt no control

and their weakness was exploited

by abusing during sex they get to feel

the relief and safety

of a sense of control

personal power and sovereignty

Where other people's experience

gets to be in their hands

instead of the other way around

They believe they cannot experience

this in daily life and so they

fixate on that sexual experience in a

subconscious attempt to manifest

the experience of control,

personal power, sovereignty and

other people fate being in their hands.

In their day to day life.

Now for the sake of really,

really stretching your awareness

and going into territory that for

some people maybe scary or

uncharted we are going to go even darker.

I'm going to explain

the fetish of necrophilia.

Necrophilia, as some of you may know

is a sexual fetish that is centered

around sex with dead bodies.

Now when it comes to necrophilia,

you've got several subgroups

One of those main subgroups

these days is people who kill and

then have sex with the bodies.

But, that's not the most common

form of necrophiliac

and though you will see

the dynamic that I'm going

to talk to you about

In the subgroup of the people that kill

and then have sex with dead bodies

Let's explore the dynamic that exists

In people who don't kill

Who basically get jobs in

positions where they have access

to dead bodies

and that's when they engage

in their sexual fetish

What's going on with these people?

If you go into their perspective

what you find to be the common trend

is that these people

most of them are incredible social phobic

They don't understand how

to interact with people

They experience extremely poor self esteem

and many times

this poor self esteem

has set in as a result

of a severe loss

As a result they often

experienced extreme trauma

around the experience of being rejected

or of being pushed away

Or of having someone they want

not give themselves to them

By having sex with a dead body

It is impossible for them to be resisted

or pushed away

In their minds the person

who is in fact dead

cannot refuse, resist, reject,

push them away, or refuse

to give themselves to them

And many times it must be said

that this rejection trauma

involves a perception or the

actuality that someone that they wanted

has died

Thus, some necrophiliacs fantasize

that by having sex they

are reviving the dead body

This type of necrophiliac does not

believe it is possible to have

what they really want.

Which is to fully have

The opposite of lose someone who

will not ever reject them

and will instead completely draw

them close with no resistance whatsoever.

For the sake of your own awareness

take a look at your sexual trends

take an even closer look

if you have a fetish

a fixation sexually

that you can't get over

and try to look at that desire

that is subconscious that is

inherent in that act of sexuality

that you have a belief tell you

you can't manifest into

your day to day reality

What hidden cry is lurking

underneath your fetish?

The reality we don't want to

accept is that no matter whether

we judge as right or wrong moral,

or immoral, healthy or unhealthy

Underneath every single one of them

is this strong desire to have

an experience that a person

doesn't feel like their capable

of creating in their day to day life

It is only when we realize that

that we can actually break through

to compassion and understanding

and have any hope of actually creating

what it is we want to create in our life

But directly instead of indirectly

We can only call ourselves conscious

and compassionate when we recognize

the hidden cry that

exists beneath every fetish

Have a good week!