Life on Earth, creation itself
is the byproduct of sexual energy.
It is undeniable that creation,
conception, and sexual
energy go hand in hand.
Therefore it is undeniable
that manifestation of our desires
and sexual energy go hand in hand.
What does this mean for those of us
who are practicing the art of manifestation?
It means that sexual focus is
one of the most powerful tools for
manifestation that you can possibly imagine.
To understand more about this
watch my video on YouTube titled
"How to use an Orgasm to Manifest"
Nothing matters more than
what you're focusing on and feeling
the experience of in the moment of orgasm.
What you focus on especially on
a feeling based level is what you
are trying to conceive and manifest into your reality
In the minute of orgasm the accumulated
energy that is built up is released.
That powerful burst of energy is released
towards what you desire to create within
the subconscious intention of
manifesting it into your reality
Even the most unconscious people
walking the planet today instinctively
feel that link between sex and creation
and manifestation.
Even the most unconscious
people walking the
planet today also feel
the undeniable link
between desire and sex.
But this is a world where most people
are unconscious and so what does
that mean? It means that most people,
even though they feel the link between
desire and sex aren't aware of what
their actual desires are.
They feel a strong desire for something
but don't understand why they feel such
a strong desire for that thing.
And this is why we fail
at fundamental level
to understand what exactly is
behind sexual fetishes.
But I'm going to tell you the secret
to whats behind sexual fetishes.
The secret is that
behind all sexual fetishes
is a desire that someone has something
they want to experience, usually
an emotional state but that they
feel utterly powerless to manifest
into their day to day reality.
They are fixated on that desire
subconsciously and thus fixated
on that fetish. And yes,
the secret even applies to
very weird fetishes. For the sake
of your understanding I'm going
to give you some examples.
Let's start with mazophilia.
This is a sexual fetish where people
are attracted to the cycle of birth.
Either conception, pregnancy, birth,
or a combination of One, Two,
or all Three. Most people with this
fetish fixate on one part of the cycle.
I was working with a woman who's
fetish was centered around birth
specifically when we got down to
exactly what she was fixated on
during her sexual fantasizing
It was how the man in the situation
completely recognized her pain and
was completely unconditionally present
with it comforting her through it.
When we got deep into her childhood
we found out that she was being abused
badly as a child by someone outside the
family and the most painful part
of the abuse was that her mother
and father did not see it.
Not only could she not see the abuse
itself they refused to really accept and
acknowledge her pain
that was a result of it.
When she was unhappy and hurting
they minimized it and validated it
shamed her for it and withdrew from her.
But when she was young, she watched a
program on television on birth and when
she saw the image of a husband
supporting his wife through the process
of labor she felt what
she had always wanted.
This is a circumstance where
no-one will minimize your pain
validate it, shame you for it, or
withdraw from you when your in it.
She was desperate for that exact
reaction from her attachment figures
in response to her pain.
All of this was subconscious so
it took place on the somatic level as
just the sensation of looking at and
feeling in her body as a result of what
she's always wanted.
Of course at this point when she
developed this fetish it wasn't a
mental understanding of
what she actually wanted.
As a result, what is a person who's
not really conscious about what they
actually want gonna do?
Their going to thing "Oh, my gosh
that scenario,
if I create that scenario,
I'll be able to get what I desperatly
need through that scenario because
it's impossible to conceive of getting
that thing that they want
through any other scenario.
In other words the only way to
get that need satisfied was to
actually give birth. So, she thought
about it every time she masturbated
and eventually it became a full blown fetish.
Unconsciously by fixating sexual and
through orgasm on that experience
she was trying to manifest
it into reality desperatly!
Now, this is the
reality behind all fetishes.
I want you to keep in mind
that you could have one fetish
And two different people could
have different reasons or emotional
experiences they are trying to manifest
through that one fetish.
However, there are undeniable trends.
Undeniable similarities in terms of
what experience people are trying
desperately to manifest in the their
reality by fixating on it sexually.
I will explain some common trends.
Let's begin with a guy who is obsessed
with blow-jobs; that's his fetish.
A common trend you see in men who's
fetish is blow-jobs they are lacking the
feeling of being the center of attention.
They are lacking the sensation of
being special of having somebody
adore them to such a degree that
they give to them freely without
wanting anything in return.
They usually grew up in family's
where their attachment figures were
absorbed in themselves and in their
own drama or self centered interests
and whom they felt like
an invisible accessory to.
A blowjob brings them the
closest they can come.
Because of their beliefs that they
can't get in any other way to creating
that somatic state which
they are so desperate for.
Many people especially
boys who have a foot fetish.
These children were often born
to mothers who were very very busy.
Oftentimes these are boys who are
not the first child in the family
Potentially they are way
further down the line.
And so they are dealing with
a mom who is preoccupied.
Now, what do we do with little
babies when we're super preoccupied
as mom's? If were not keeping them in
cribs we lay them on
their tummies on the floor.
These babies desperatly wanted
the pleasure of closeness and one
on one connection/undivided
attention from their moms.
But the closes they could get to that
ecstasy of one on one
absorption was their feet.
Think about a busy mom with
a baby on the floor.
She walks around the room
The closest that he gets to his mother
is her feet
Maybe chasing after her crawling.
Or seeing her come close
When she's walking by
Or having her tickle them
with her feet as she walks by.
As a result, they believe
they cannot get that
in day to day life with a woman
but the closest they can get is feet
Feet becomes the symbol of that feeling
experience they desperatly want.
Of the pleasure of one-on-one absorption
Intimacy and connection
Now, let's talk S&M
Okay, let's pretend you have somebody
who during sexual interaction
their fetish is being abused
What's the common trend there?
These people show a trend towards having
a past where they have to be in control.
Responsible in situations
where they didn't
want to be or weren't ready to be.
And strong even when
they felt like collapsing
under preasure
Most of these people had parents
who would not stand for weakness
They wouldn't tolerate it,
it's not acceptable.
And so this person had to muscle up
And just get on with it.
This weakness was punished with
withdrawal, invalidation, or shaming
So what's the result
The result is an adult who's
designed for pressure
Control is pressure
responsibility is pressure
And god do we ever want to get rid of it.
By being abused during sex they get to
lose control
and with that sense of control the
weight of responsibility comes off
their shoulders and is assumed
by the dominant partner.
They can let go completely
They can feel the relief of weakness
in a way that will not leave them
alone for being that way because it is
what the dominant partner wants.
A sexual fetish around being abused
is their attempt to manifest being able
to let go of pressure,
responsibility, and control
and still be loved by
someone in that state
Instead of abandoned, shamed,
or invalidated for it.
So let's look at the
flip side of the coin shall we?
Let's look at people who
love to abuse during sex
That's their fetish
These people show a common
trend towards having childhoods
where they were put in positions
of complete and utter powerlessness
That's one reason why this is such a good
common fetish for especially men who
grew up in situations where they were
chronically physically abused.
Usually by a father
Having been put in situations
where they felt no control
and their weakness was exploited
by abusing during sex they get to feel
the relief and safety
of a sense of control
personal power and sovereignty
Where other people's experience
gets to be in their hands
instead of the other way around
They believe they cannot experience
this in daily life and so they
fixate on that sexual experience in a
subconscious attempt to manifest
the experience of control,
personal power, sovereignty and
other people fate being in their hands.
In their day to day life.
Now for the sake of really,
really stretching your awareness
and going into territory that for
some people maybe scary or
uncharted we are going to go even darker.
I'm going to explain
the fetish of necrophilia.
Necrophilia, as some of you may know
is a sexual fetish that is centered
around sex with dead bodies.
Now when it comes to necrophilia,
you've got several subgroups
One of those main subgroups
these days is people who kill and
then have sex with the bodies.
But, that's not the most common
form of necrophiliac
and though you will see
the dynamic that I'm going
to talk to you about
In the subgroup of the people that kill
and then have sex with dead bodies
Let's explore the dynamic that exists
In people who don't kill
Who basically get jobs in
positions where they have access
to dead bodies
and that's when they engage
in their sexual fetish
What's going on with these people?
If you go into their perspective
what you find to be the common trend
is that these people
most of them are incredible social phobic
They don't understand how
to interact with people
They experience extremely poor self esteem
and many times
this poor self esteem
has set in as a result
of a severe loss
As a result they often
experienced extreme trauma
around the experience of being rejected
or of being pushed away
Or of having someone they want
not give themselves to them
By having sex with a dead body
It is impossible for them to be resisted
or pushed away
In their minds the person
who is in fact dead
cannot refuse, resist, reject,
push them away, or refuse
to give themselves to them
And many times it must be said
that this rejection trauma
involves a perception or the
actuality that someone that they wanted
has died
Thus, some necrophiliacs fantasize
that by having sex they
are reviving the dead body
This type of necrophiliac does not
believe it is possible to have
what they really want.
Which is to fully have
The opposite of lose someone who
will not ever reject them
and will instead completely draw
them close with no resistance whatsoever.
For the sake of your own awareness
take a look at your sexual trends
take an even closer look
if you have a fetish
a fixation sexually
that you can't get over
and try to look at that desire
that is subconscious that is
inherent in that act of sexuality
that you have a belief tell you
you can't manifest into
your day to day reality
What hidden cry is lurking
underneath your fetish?
The reality we don't want to
accept is that no matter whether
we judge as right or wrong moral,
or immoral, healthy or unhealthy
Underneath every single one of them
is this strong desire to have
an experience that a person
doesn't feel like their capable
of creating in their day to day life
It is only when we realize that
that we can actually break through
to compassion and understanding
and have any hope of actually creating
what it is we want to create in our life
But directly instead of indirectly
We can only call ourselves conscious
and compassionate when we recognize
the hidden cry that
exists beneath every fetish
Have a good week!