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"The Secret to Continuing Thay" - Br. Phap Linh (Brother Spirit) | Dharma talk | 2022 03 10

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    Dear respected teacher
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    Dear beloved community
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    Today is the 10th of March
    in the year 2022
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    and we are gathered together
    in the Stillwater Hall
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    of the Upper Hamlet
    at Plum Village, France,
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    as well as
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    in many places all around the world.
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    for this retreat.
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    So let us
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    start just by enjoying
    three sounds of the bell
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    as we settle into this moment.
    Into our bodies,
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    into our feelings,
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    into our breath.
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    Just allow your mind to be
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    guided back to the present moment
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    with the sound of the bell.
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    (Waking the bell - muted ring)
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    (Deep bell sounds)
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    (Deep bell sounds)
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    (Deep bell sounds)
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    Dear respected Thay.
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    Dear friends.
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    We have come together
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    in this three or four day online retreat,
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    three and a half day online retreat
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    to honor our teacher
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    and our beloved abbot Thay Phap Huu.
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    And Thay Phap Trien
    and Sister Lang Nghiem
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    just returned from Vietnam a few days ago
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    bearing the ashes
    of our teacher's body.
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    They made that trip specially just to
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    to welcome Thay's ashes back
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    to Plum Village.
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    And on Sunday
    we'll have a ceremony to
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    receive his ashes
    here in this hall
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    and then to take them to
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    to spread them
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    in the beautiful grounds of
    Upper Hamlet that Thay loved so much.
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    Where the daffodils are currently
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    smiling,
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    and I know they will welcome Thay
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    back to the earth.
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    So we've gathered together
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    maybe more than 500 of us
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    online and offline
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    to honor our teacher
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    And yet . . .
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    at the same time, we know
    that there is a war going on
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    And that people are dying
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    People are being buried
    under piles of rubble
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    and many thousands of people
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    are dying.
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    Millions are fleeing
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    their homes
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    trying to find shelter somewhere else
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    and there's a lot of suffering.
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    And so . . .
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    I have been asking myself
    the last few days
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    how can we
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    continue with this retreat when we know
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    the suffering that is going on.
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    And part of me was feeling
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    Thay would know what to do.
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    Thay would know how to
    respond to this moment,
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    to this terrible and challenging moment.
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    And a . . .
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    I think that when Thay passed away
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    a month and a half ago
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    many of us felt
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    a kind of a . . . a need to
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    to step up.
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    A sense of responsibility,
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    because now who will play that role?
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    Who will be able to guide the sangha
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    in these challenging moments?
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    Who will be able to respond
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    to the suffering of the world
    as Thay would do?
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    And . . .
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    It's very difficult to know what to do
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    (Whispering instructions)
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    So as I reflected on this
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    I realized that we have
    an opportunity in this retreat
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    to a . . .
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    to make sure that
    Thay is very alive.
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    Because we know he would know what to do.
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    He does know what to do.
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    So our job is just
    to make sure that he's very alive
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    in us and in the whole community.
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    And I think we know how to do that.
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    I look into my feelings
    and my perceptions
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    around the passing of our teacher, and
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    I can't really say that he's gone,
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    and I can't really say that he's dead,
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    or that he's not there.
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    If anything he feels more there,
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    much more.
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    Very present, very alive.
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    So if we want to know
    what to do, we can ask Thay.
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    But first we have to help him
    to be very present with us.
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    And a . . .
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    then we will know what to do.
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    And what not to do.
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    What to say
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    and what not to say.
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    Because we want to,
    we want to help.
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    Of course, we want to help.
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    But we also know that if we
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    if we don't have peace,
    if we are not at peace
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    then when we try to help
    we may make the situation worse.
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    And a . . .
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    And we want to know
    that we are really helping,
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    helping in the right way.
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    So Thay said many times
    and he wrote beautiful calligraphy
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    "Peace in oneself, peace in the world."
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    And when I first saw that calligraphy
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    I struggled with it
    a little bit, if I'm honest.
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    I . . .
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    I sort of wasn't convinced.
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    I thought,
    Thay, it's not going to be enough
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    if, you know,
    I can be at peace, sure, but
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    there are still terrible things
    happening in the world.
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    It doesn't seem to make much difference.
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    But as I reflected more
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    on that statement
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    my feeling about it started to change.
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    So first of all
    I looked at the inverse statement.
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    So if there's no peace in me
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    then there's definitely
    not peace in the world
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    because I'm in the world.
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    I'm part of the world.
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    So that is true.
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    If there's no peace in us
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    then how can there be peace in the world?
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    And then I asked myself
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    how do I know
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    that it's not true?
    You know, that if there's peace in me
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    there would be peace in the world.
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    I haven't even really tried.
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    I think it's a . . .
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    I'm a little bit arrogant
    to think that I know
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    what peace in me would be.
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    Have I really committed myself
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    to peace?
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    In my life, in my actions
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    in my way of consuming,
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    my way of speaking.
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    And do I risk to underestimate
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    peace?
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    Real peace.
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    So I think it's worth checking.
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    To ask ourselves
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    Have we really tried yet?
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    Thay always liked to say
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    that in Plum Village we don't
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    our intention is not to
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    give you more ideas about peace.
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    Because we already have
    a lot of ideas about peace.
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    We don't need any more.
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    But our intention is to
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    learn to be peace.
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    It's not to talk about it,
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    but to be it.
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    And we have a way to do that.
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    And . . .
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    Then we can
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    we can see
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    for ourselves what is the effect
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    of that peace in the world.
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    Of course, we know that
    the seeds of the current war
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    were sown a long time ago.
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    And so . . .
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    we may not be able to stop
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    the current destruction
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    the loss of life, the suffering.
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    But, we also know that we
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    don't want to continue to
    sow the seeds of war now,
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    for future wars.
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    And we have confidence that if we
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    truly sow the seeds of peace,
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    in ourselves, in our own hearts,
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    in our communities,
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    then perhaps we can avoid
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    other wars in the future.
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    Towards the beginning of the war
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    I saw somebody posted online
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    something like this.
    It said,
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    When will we learn
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    to love our neighbors as ourselves?
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    This is from Jesus' commandments to us.
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    To love thy neighbor as thyself.
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    It's known as the golden rule.
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    Do to others as you would be done by.
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    And it seems simple.
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    It seems that if we could just
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    love others as we love ourselves then
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    that would already be a
    much more beautiful society.
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    A much more beautiful world.
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    But . . .
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    I'm not sure
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    that I
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    know even how to love myself, really.
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    So even if I did
    love my neighbor as I love myself
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    would I really love them,
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    if I can't yet love myself?
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    So it seems to me
    this is a good place to start.
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    And it's a way to act.
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    To really take care of ourselves
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    is action,
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    is engagement,
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    it's not turning away.
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    It is a real contribution.
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    So . . . we know that
    we have a physical body
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    and we can ask ourselves,
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    if we've really been
    taking good care of our body.
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    Have we allowed
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    tension and stress
    to accumulate in our body.
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    Have we put pressure on ourselves
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    to be a certain way
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    to work late into the night.
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    Have we pushed our body too hard?
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    And are we really even paying attention
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    to our body.
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    This is the first practice
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    just to bring the mind back
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    to the sensations in the body
    right now, in this moment.
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    And . . .
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    it's not always easy because if we have
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    allowed some tension to accumulate,
    then when we bring our minds back
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    to the body it isn't necessarily pleasant.
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    There may be some pain,
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    some tension.
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    There may be
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    traces of past suffering
    accumulated in our body.
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    The body might not feel
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    totally safe to take refuge in.
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    It might not feel like a refuge.
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    There may be feelings of discomfort.
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    So if we
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    if we bring our mind back
    to our body, and if we find
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    some painful feelings,
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    some uncomfortable feelings,
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    then we need to know how to
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    take care of those feelings.
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    To embrace those feelings
    with all of our love,
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    tenderness,
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    and to give our body a chance
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    to relax.
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    To release some of
    that accumulated tension,
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    and to heal.
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    Our body knows very well
    how to heal if we give it the chance.
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    So, we can do this multiple times a day,
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    in any position we happen to find
    ourselves we can do a body scan.
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    Whether we're sitting, standing
    lying down, even while we're walking.
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    We can just scan the
    different parts of our body and
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    give them permission to
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    to relax any tension that
    might have accumulated.
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    We have to be careful not to
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    make more pressure.
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    "You have to relax!"
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    "Why are you so tense?"
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    We have a kind of conditioning to
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    tend to want to do everything perfectly.
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    To do,
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    to be good at relaxing,
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    to do it well,
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    that we may unconsciously put
    more pressure on ourselves
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    and create more tension.
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    So, it's very nice just to
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    just to give ourselves permission,
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    to give our body permission
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    to release, just as much as
    as it would like to release
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    without any expectation.
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    So, I like to do this
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    many times a day.
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    I might start with
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    with my jaw,
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    and just check in and say "hello."
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    "Hello" my jaw.
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    Have I allowed some
    tension to build up here?
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    Is my jaw locked?
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    If you want to, you can just release
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    as much as you would like to release.
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    Ah . . .
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    It feels better already.
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    I can check in with my tongue,
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    the palate of my mouth,
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    the gums, even the teeth.
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    The whole mouth, and the lips.
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    Just check.
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    See how it feels right now.
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    I just let my mouth and my jaw know
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    it's ok to let go of
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    whatever you'd like to let go of.
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    And check my nose, the sinuses,
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    the nostrils,
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    the eyes.
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    And all the little muscles
    around the eyes.
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    We make our eyes work so hard.
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    Reading and looking at screens.
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    So it's very nice just to
    give them a chance to
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    to become soft.
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    Give them permission to rest.
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    This is a kind of love, already,
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    that we can offer ourselves.
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    Kindness, compassion.
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    "It's ok, my two eyes,
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    you can rest now."
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    My forehead may
    have accumulated a lot of
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    intensity, or thinking energy.
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    I can just let my forehead know
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    "Hmm, now it's ok
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    just to be soft."
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    I can check in with my ears,
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    my scalp,
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    my hands,
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    thumbs and fingers.
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    Is there any feeling of
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    tension in my fingers.
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    Just say "hello" to my two hands.
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    Hello.
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    You can let go now.
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    Nothing to hold on to.
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    Nothing to grasp.
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    You can rest.
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    I can say hello to my arms,
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    my shoulders.
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    Maybe there's a
    little tension in the shoulders,
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    or even a little pain.
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    And say
    "Hello, my two shoulders, thank you,
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    for holding everything
    you've been holding, and now
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    you can release
    what ever you'd like to release.
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    Don't worry.
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    My arms won't fall off.
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    You can get back
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    how ever much of my arms
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    that you've been holding up.
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    Just let them hang.
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    Maybe arms feel a little heavier,
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    a little more loose.
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    Maybe the breath comes a little easier.
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    Be aware of the movement of the chest,
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    aware of any tightness that may be there.
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    Just give it permission to soften.
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    And feel the belly
    rising with the inbreath.
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    Falling with the outbreath.
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    Hello, my abdomen.
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    Is there anything
    you've been holding on to?
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    If you want to
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    you can just release it now.
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    We can feel our two legs, our feet,
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    and just give them permission to rest.
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    You're not going anywhere,
    not doing anything.
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    It's so nice.
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    Just to rest,
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    to allow ourselves
    to sink a little deeper
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    into our contact with the ground,
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    the cushion or the chair.
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    Feel ourselves resting on Mother Earth,
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    and to entrust ourselves to Mother Earth.
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    And maybe . . .
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    our body feels a little sense of relief.
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    (Exhales)
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    And we can smile,
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    and feel the smile
    embracing our whole body.
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    It's very nice to be
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    just aware of the
    sensations in the body.
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    And we know our mind
    is in the present moment
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    because those sensations
    are only in the present moment.
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    It's a wonderful way to take care
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    of our body.
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    And then, in the body
    we may notice some feelings.
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    There may be a feeling of
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    pressure,
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    anxiety, tension.
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    Some kind of unease or discomfort.
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    We can say hello
    to those feelings as well.
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    And know that
    we are more than those feelings.
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    That we are vast.
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    That there is a quality of love
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    and stability in us
    that is capable
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    of embracing whatever is there
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    with tenderness.
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    And those feelings, they like to be held.
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    You don't need to do much.
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    Just to allow any feelings
    of discomfort or uneasiness to
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    to take a bath of mindfulness.
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    To be bathed in the energy of mindfulness.
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    And that means
    just listening to those feelings.
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    Being there for them.
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    Taking the time to be fully present
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    for whatever is there.
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    It's very nice to do that.
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    And we may find
    that we have some emotions as well.
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    Maybe there's some anger in our heart,
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    or despair or anxiety,
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    or fear.
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    And those feelings
    might have been pushing us to act,
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    to consume,
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    to speak.
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    And somehow, when we're
    pushed by those feelings we
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    we lose a little of our freedom.
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    We lose our sovereignty.
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    We're not ourselves.
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    So it's very nice also to
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    to create the time, to take the time
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    to say hello to those feelings,
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    which may have been there a long time.
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    To offer them our love, our presence.
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    Our presence is very powerful
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    when we're not distracted
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    by the telephone.
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    So we learn,
    in this retreat how to handle
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    our emotions.
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    And if we are to handle them,
    first we have the recognize them,
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    that they are there.
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    And be humble and honest.
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    And taken together,
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    the tension in our body,
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    the tension in our feelings,
    in our emotions,
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    they form a kind of
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    background
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    inclination of our mind
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    that may have a tendency to push us.
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    And this inclination of mind
    might have been transmitted to us
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    over many generations.
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    We may recognize our ancestors in it.
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    Maybe there's a . . .
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    just a . . .
    it's like a subtle filter
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    over everything.
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    It influences our perceptions
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    of everything.
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    Maybe it's a kind of subtle cynicism
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    that things will not work out.
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    Things won't turn out well.
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    (Whispers) I just know it.
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    Maybe there's just a feeling that
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    it won't go well for me.
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    No matter what I do.
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    I'm going to suffer.
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    Maybe it's a tendency to feel like
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    ultimately, we will let people down
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    no matter what, in the end
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    I will let you down.
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    Maybe it's a feeling, unconscious,
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    that in the end, will be betrayed.
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    That love isn't really
    something that we can rely on.
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    Something that we can trust.
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    These may be
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    the kind of attitudes that have been
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    transmitted over many generations.
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    And conditioned by real suffering,
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    by real betrayal,
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    by real disappointment,
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    by real pain.
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    But now, maybe we just have
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    the attitude.
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    And it's worth having a deep
    conversation with our ancestors
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    to see if we can update that attitude.
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    Invite them to look again, check.
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    I like to talk to my grandfather.
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    My grandfather was very sure that
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    ultimately, things wouldn't go well.
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    There would just be pain.
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    And he
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    caused people to suffer
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    in our family,
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    caused himself to suffer.
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    And so he had lots of evidence.
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    So I like to check in with him and say
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    Hello.
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    Look, in this moment
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    we're not harming anyone.
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    In this moment,
    we're not harming ourselves.
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    In this moment
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    we're taking good care of ourselves.
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    In this moment,
    we're doing exactly the thing
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    that we always wanted to do.
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    In this moment, we're realizing
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    our deepest aspiration.
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    To love,
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    to cultivate awareness,
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    to wake up.
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    And it's like a magic formula.
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    It's a . . .
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    It's an instant source of happiness.
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    To recognize that in this very moment
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    we're doing exactly
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    what we wanted to do all along.
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    Because we need to know how
    to generate a feeling of happiness.
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    Generating a feeling of happiness is
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    a powerful way to act in the world.
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    It's a way to
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    help take care of our pain,
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    of our painful feelings.
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    A feeling of happiness will
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    already help to
    embrace our painful feelings.
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    And it's wonderful when
    we are already practicing
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    just to notice, oh, I'm practicing.
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    Wow.
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    That's a source of happiness.
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    That mindfulness is a source of happiness.
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    Taking care of our suffering
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    is a source of happiness.
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    Now we need to let our ancestors know
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    and invite them to participate
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    and gradually,
    the inclination of our minds
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    starts to change.
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    Maybe we have
    a chance to see things anew.
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    And maybe our perceptions change.
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    Because our perceptions
    are the ground of our action.
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    And if we have a lot of wrong perceptions
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    about each other and about ourselves
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    then it will be very hard to act
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    with wisdom.
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    So . . .
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    when we are able to
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    to take care of our body,
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    to relax our body,
    to allow our body to relax,
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    to take care of our feelings,
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    to take care of our emotions,
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    the fundamental attitude of our mind,
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    then we can start to
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    to be peace.
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    And then we can really help.
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    (Waking the bell - soft bell)
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    (Bell sounds)
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    So we want Thay to be very alive in us,
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    and in our community
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    in these four days.
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    So I suggest
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    that we live for these next few days
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    like Thay.
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    Thay had a lot of confidence
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    in his students.
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    Thay would always say
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    Thay is in you.
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    When often people would
    come and ask Thay a question
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    about starting an initiative somewhere,
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    "I want to start a program
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    for mindfulness
    in hospitals" or something
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    and Thay would just say,
    "Thay is in you."
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    Go ahead. Do it.
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    He had a lot of confidence in us.
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    And he gave himself to us.
    His whole self, he held nothing back.
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    And I think, when we practice
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    we can feel that it's true.
    That Thay is in us
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    when we practice.
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    So . . .
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    if we want to live like Thay
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    for these few days,
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    to make sure that Thay is really alive
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    in the community, in us,
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    I think it's very easy.
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    We just have to do
    the things that Thay likes to do.
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    And not do the things
    that would hurt Thay in us.
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    And I think we know what they are.
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    I think we can tell the difference.
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    That Thay is very sensitive.
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    And some things that we
    might have a tendency to do, that
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    he would not do.
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    So we can ask ourselves,
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    or let him guide us.
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    That's very easy.
    In the morning when we wake up
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    we can smile.
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    It's a real practice.
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    Waking up, this morning
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    I smiled.
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    It's not always easy.
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    And I need to remember
    24 brand new hours are before me.
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    And to make the vow to live each moment
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    in mindfulness like Thay.
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    It's not easy
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    to really do it.
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    And to look at all beings
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    with the eyes of compassion,
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    like Thay.
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    Even Vladimir Putin.
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    Even the Russian soldiers
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    that are bombing civilians.
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    Thay didn't have enemies.
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    He didn't hate.
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    And that doesn't mean
    that we condone the actions.
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    But if we don't want to
    contribute to future wars, then
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    we cannot hate.
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    And we have to be very careful
    in our way of consuming
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    the media.
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    Right now there's a lot in the media
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    of videos being shared of
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    Russian tanks being destroyed
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    by missiles.
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    And they're shared like it's
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    something to celebrate,
  • 43:50 - 43:51
    a victory.
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    Like it's in a video game.
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    And you see what people are commenting,
    what they post on social media.
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    It's very hard to know
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    how to handle that.
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    Because of course
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    we . . .
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    we know that sometimes
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    the use of force is necessary.
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    Thay once said that
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    sometimes non-violence is violence.
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    If we could avoid the loss of life,
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    if we could protect civilians,
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    by the use of force, then
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    sometimes, we should.
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    And that is true non-violence.
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    But it's very hard.
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    And to do that we have to
    have compassion in our hearts.
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    And we have to know that there are
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    young Russian men in those tanks,
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    who have been misled
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    and . . .
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    have been fed with a lot of propaganda
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    and they're dying too.
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    So, whatever we look at
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    let us be careful, how we consume it and
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    to always keep
    compassion alive in our hearts.
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    To look at all beings
    with the eyes of compassion,
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    even though they hold a gun.
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    And when we make tea
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    maybe while the water is boiling
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    my hand starts to twitch
    and there's and impulse to
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    turn on the phone, check the news.
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    Would Thay do that?
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    I don't think so.
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    So we can notice the impulse,
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    the habit, that we've trained,
  • 46:30 - 46:31
    see it coming up,
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    and we don't have to act.
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    We can say, No, thank you.
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    I'm making my tea.
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    I'm going to enjoy my tea.
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    Like Thay.
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    And it's very interesting when you resist
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    an impulse, that you've trained
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    like checking your e-mail,
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    or looking at the news.
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    Because there may initially
    be a feeling of discomfort,
  • 47:06 - 47:07
    it's unsatisfying.
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    You want to check and
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    now you're not
    allowing yourself to check.
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    It's kind of uncomfortable, a little.
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    So it's very interesting to
    notice that feeling in the body.
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    To allow it to be there,
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    to embrace it,
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    to smile to it,
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    to allow it to soften.
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    And actually, we can also cultivate
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    a feeling of profound joy.
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    Just by realizing that in that moment
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    I was not pushed.
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    I was able to say No.
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    No, thank you,
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    to this push.
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    And that is a feeling of triumph.
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    That is a feeling of joy.
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    A success in the practice.
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    To be able to stop
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    and take care of what ever
    feeling of discomfort was
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    pushing us to act.
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    And then you can
    make your tea in freedom.
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    And that is happiness.
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    When is the last time
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    you really savored a sip of tea
  • 48:36 - 48:38
    in total freedom.
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    When was the last time
    you allowed a drop of tea
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    to roll on your tongue and
    you could feel the cloud in your tea.
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    And enjoy the magic, the mystery,
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    the wonder of tea.
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    Water, the fragrance.
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    The coming together
    of all the causes and conditions.
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    It's magical.
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    And Thay has taught us
    very well how to enjoy a cup of tea.
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    We know exactly how to do it. And yet,
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    maybe we don't always do it.
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    So in these four days
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    let's see if we can.
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    We can become absorbed in the tea.
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    And then we go
    to join the sitting meditation
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    and we know that Thay loved to breathe.
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    Thay knew exactly
    how to enjoy his breathing.
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    So we can sit there, and say
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    Let Thay breathe.
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    I don't need to breathe.
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    And it's true.
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    Thay is breathing.
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    I just enjoy the breathing.
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    Thay knows how to breathe very well.
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    Thay is the breathing.
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    I am the breathing.
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    There is only breathing.
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    There is no 'breather.'
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    Peace,
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    while breathing.
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    Peace is the breathing.
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    This is something possible.
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    You can allow Thay to breathe for us.
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    And he can continue to teach us
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    how to enter concentration,
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    stillness.
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    How to be peace.
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    And then when we
    go to make our breakfast
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    we can make our breakfast, like Thay.
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    Thay loved to make his breakfast.
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    And he wasn't in a hurry.
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    He didn't have to multi-task.
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    He didn't have to listen to a podcast
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    whilst making breakfast.
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    He didn't have to check his e-mail
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    whilst making breakfast.
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    So let's try, and do it like Thay.
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    Let's just do one thing at a time,
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    with ease, with freedom,
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    with joy.
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    And when we eat our breakfast
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    before putting the food
    in your mouth you can
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    look at it.
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    Recognize it.
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    This is porridge.
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    Or this is a piece of apple.
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    Then we can touch gratitude.
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    We have food to eat.
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    Not everybody does.
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    It's already a wonder,
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    to have something in our bowl.
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    And when we take a spoonful of
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    porridge or cereal
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    and we can put our spoon down
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    and chew.
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    And wait until we have swallowed
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    before picking up our spoon.
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    It's a real practice.
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    And we invite Thay
    to have breakfast with us.
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    It's a great honor
    to eat breakfast with Thay.
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    And we can all do it.
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    It's wonderful.
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    There's plenty of Thay to go around.
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    There's no shortage.
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    Now we can listen to the dharma talk
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    with Thay's ears, and I know that Thay
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    will be so happy
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    to listen to Thay Phap Huu tomorrow,
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    and Sister Chan Duc on Saturday.
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    Thay will be so proud
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    to hear his students sharing the dharma.
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    And so we can listen with Thay's ears,
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    with Thay's heart,
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    with Thay's breath,
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    with Thay's concentration and stillness.
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    And then we can walk.
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    Hopefully each of us has
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    somewhere we can go
    to practice walking meditation.
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    Whether it's in our yard, or
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    maybe just along the street,
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    or in a park,
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    or even just in our home.
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    And Thay taught us so well
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    how to walk.
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    How to walk in freedom.
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    How to arrive with every step.
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    Not to hurry towards our destination,
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    but to know that
    our true destination is
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    this moment.
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    This step.
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    Now we can do that
    where ever we have to walk
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    in our house, even from the bathroom
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    to the living room, or
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    as we walk around the kitchen.
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    We can take steps in freedom.
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    This is something possible.
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    And I know if we all do this together
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    it generates a powerful collective energy
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    and we support each other.
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    It's much easier to do it together
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    than alone.
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    We may have the
    impulse to check the news
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    many times, coming up in the
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    spaces in between activities.
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    It's like, oh, I have some time
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    before the dharma sharing.
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    Let me just check the news.
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    And you can, if you want to.
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    But try to read the news like
    Thay would read the news.
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    And we can ask ourselves
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    how much is enough?
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    How much do we need to take in?
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    And, can we give ourselves a break
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    for these few days.
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    It's up to you.
    Each of us can make a decision.
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    But you may like
    to set a timer on your phone.
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    To give yourself ten minutes.
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    If you really need to know,
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    I think ten minutes is enough.
    Just to check in.
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    And then, when you
    turn off the phone
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    it's very interesting to ask
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    What did I learn?
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    How do I feel?
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    Did it help?
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    Was it important?
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    What will I now do, as a result
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    of knowing this?
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    Is there anything I can do?
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    Was it important?
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    Really.
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    It's very interesting,
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    if you need to check, check, but then,
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    ask yourself afterwards
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    What did you learn?
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    Was it important?
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    And how do you feel?
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    How do you feel in your body?
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    And how often do you want to do that?
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    You may like to
    install a bell of mindfulness
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    on your computer or your phone.
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    We have the wonderful Plum Village app.
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    You can set a bell to sound
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    every hour or every half hour
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    how ever often you want
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    and that is a practice
    that Thay really enjoyed.
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    Stopping . . .
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    coming back to the present moment.
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    We can let the sound of the bell
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    be the voice
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    of Thay calling us back.
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    "Hello."
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    Would you like to breathe with me?
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    Would you like to rest,
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    to relax,
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    to take care of yourself in this moment.
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    To greet any stress or tension
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    or discomfort that may have arisen
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    with love and tenderness.
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    It's amazing, in one sound of the bell
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    you can do a
    complete body scan if you want.
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    Just check.
    How does your body feel?
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    Has any tension gathered anywhere?
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    It's very nice.
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    And when you brush
    your teeth you can smile.
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    If you like, you can use the gatha.
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    Brushing my teeth
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    and rinsing my mouth
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    I vow to speak purely, lovingly.
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    When my mouth is purified,
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    is fragrant with loving speech
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    a flower blooms in the garden of my heart.
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    It's very interesting to check
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    if that's true.
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    I sometimes use that gatha to check
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    in that day, how was my speech?
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    Was it skillful?
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    Did I allow myself to be
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    aggressive or cynical?
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    Did I use humor to put someone down?
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    Did I lie?
    Did I distort the truth?
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    Just to check; it's very interesting.
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    Once a day, or twice a day; to check
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    How is my speech?
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    And to notice that, when my speech
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    really was mindful and kind,
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    (breathing in) wow, yes.
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    I can feel
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    a flower blooms in my heart.
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    It's very wonderful to notice
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    when we haven't been unkind,
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    when we haven't been unfair,
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    when we haven't taken advantage of anyone.
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    When we've been generous.
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    When we've been loving.
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    And it's also, kind of
    letting our ancestors know,
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    "Yeah, look! We're doing ok."
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    "It's good."
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    So we know that Thay
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    loved life.
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    He loved to do all these things.
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    And so it's very easy,
    if we want to
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    live like Thay.
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    We just do the things that Thay loved.
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    You may like to stare at the moon.
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    And just become absorbed in the moon.
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    I remember one time
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    I was Thay's attendant
    just for a few days, and
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    I was carrying Thay's bag
    during the walking meditation.
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    And it was in a big retreat there,
    many hundreds of people.
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    But he stopped,
  • 64:01 - 64:03
    and he turned to me with this huge grin
  • 64:04 - 64:06
    and he pointed at the trunk of a tree.
  • 64:06 - 64:09
    He said,
    "It's so green!"
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    Because there was moss,
  • 64:12 - 64:15
    there was like beautiful emerald moss.
  • 64:16 - 64:18
    It was so green.
  • 64:18 - 64:21
    And Thay was just completely
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    absorbed with this moss.
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    And there were hundreds of people there
  • 64:28 - 64:30
    kind of like,
    what's Thay doing?
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    (Whispering)
    Why have we stopped? Where?
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    What's happening?
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    And Thay's just like,
    "Look! It's so green!"
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    (Laughs)
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    So you can do that too.
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    You can fall in love with the moss.
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    You can say hello to every tiny flower
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    that crosses your way.
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    You can look at the blue sky
    as if it's the first time.
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    And I think if we can do that
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    then . . .
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    Thay will be with us.
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    Thay will be alive.
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    And we will know what to do.
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    What not to do.
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    What to say,
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    and what not to say.
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    (Wake the bell - soft ring)
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    (Deep bell sound)
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    (Deep bell sound)
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    (Deep bell sound)
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    (Wake the mini-bell)
  • 67:17 - 67:19
    (Mini bell rings)
Title:
"The Secret to Continuing Thay" - Br. Phap Linh (Brother Spirit) | Dharma talk | 2022 03 10
Description:

This poignant Dharma Talk was given in the Upper Hamlet on 10th March 2022, on the first day of the "Coming & Going in Freedom" weekend retreat to honor 49 days since Thich Nhat Hanh's passing. There so many urgent crises in the world, we may think, "If only Thay were still alive, he would know what to do." In this talk, Brother Phap Linh explains that Thay can be VERY alive in us, if we know how to practice. By applying the essence of Thầy's teaching on mindfulness of the body we can learn to be peace in our daily lives, and this can right away offer peace to those around us.
Thay loved life. Brother Phap Linh invites us to do the things that Thay loved to do, and not to do those things that could hurt "Thay in us". Then we will know what to do and what not to do, what to say and what not to say, to respond to the suffering in the world.

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Video Language:
English
Duration:
01:07:25

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