"The Secret to Continuing Thay" - Br. Phap Linh (Brother Spirit) | Dharma talk | 2022 03 10
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0:09 - 0:11Dear respected teacher
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0:11 - 0:13Dear beloved community
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0:14 - 0:18Today is the 10th of March
in the year 2022 -
0:19 - 0:22and we are gathered together
in the Stillwater Hall -
0:23 - 0:25of the Upper Hamlet
at Plum Village, France, -
0:26 - 0:28as well as
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0:28 - 0:31in many places all around the world.
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0:32 - 0:34for this retreat.
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0:34 - 0:36So let us
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0:38 - 0:41start just by enjoying
three sounds of the bell -
0:42 - 0:47as we settle into this moment.
Into our bodies, -
0:47 - 0:49into our feelings,
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0:51 - 0:53into our breath.
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0:53 - 0:56Just allow your mind to be
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0:57 - 1:00guided back to the present moment
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1:00 - 1:02with the sound of the bell.
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1:10 - 1:12(Waking the bell - muted ring)
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1:16 - 1:22(Deep bell sounds)
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1:48 - 1:54(Deep bell sounds)
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2:16 - 2:22(Deep bell sounds)
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3:07 - 3:09Dear respected Thay.
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3:10 - 3:11Dear friends.
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3:13 - 3:15We have come together
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3:15 - 3:20in this three or four day online retreat,
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3:20 - 3:22three and a half day online retreat
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3:23 - 3:25to honor our teacher
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3:26 - 3:29and our beloved abbot Thay Phap Huu.
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3:29 - 3:32And Thay Phap Trien
and Sister Lang Nghiem -
3:32 - 3:35just returned from Vietnam a few days ago
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3:35 - 3:38bearing the ashes
of our teacher's body. -
3:41 - 3:44They made that trip specially just to
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3:45 - 3:48to welcome Thay's ashes back
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3:49 - 3:50to Plum Village.
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3:53 - 3:55And on Sunday
we'll have a ceremony to -
3:57 - 3:59receive his ashes
here in this hall -
3:59 - 4:02and then to take them to
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4:03 - 4:04to spread them
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4:05 - 4:08in the beautiful grounds of
Upper Hamlet that Thay loved so much. -
4:09 - 4:11Where the daffodils are currently
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4:11 - 4:13smiling,
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4:13 - 4:15and I know they will welcome Thay
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4:16 - 4:18back to the earth.
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4:21 - 4:25So we've gathered together
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4:25 - 4:27maybe more than 500 of us
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4:28 - 4:30online and offline
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4:32 - 4:34to honor our teacher
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4:35 - 4:37And yet . . .
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4:38 - 4:41at the same time, we know
that there is a war going on -
4:43 - 4:45And that people are dying
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4:48 - 4:52People are being buried
under piles of rubble -
4:55 - 4:58and many thousands of people
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4:59 - 5:01are dying.
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5:01 - 5:03Millions are fleeing
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5:03 - 5:05their homes
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5:05 - 5:08trying to find shelter somewhere else
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5:09 - 5:12and there's a lot of suffering.
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5:15 - 5:17And so . . .
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5:18 - 5:21I have been asking myself
the last few days -
5:23 - 5:25how can we
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5:27 - 5:30continue with this retreat when we know
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5:32 - 5:35the suffering that is going on.
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5:39 - 5:41And part of me was feeling
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5:42 - 5:44Thay would know what to do.
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5:45 - 5:48Thay would know how to
respond to this moment, -
5:48 - 5:52to this terrible and challenging moment.
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5:56 - 5:57And a . . .
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5:59 - 6:01I think that when Thay passed away
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6:03 - 6:05a month and a half ago
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6:05 - 6:07many of us felt
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6:08 - 6:11a kind of a . . . a need to
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6:12 - 6:13to step up.
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6:13 - 6:15A sense of responsibility,
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6:17 - 6:20because now who will play that role?
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6:20 - 6:24Who will be able to guide the sangha
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6:25 - 6:27in these challenging moments?
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6:27 - 6:29Who will be able to respond
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6:31 - 6:34to the suffering of the world
as Thay would do? -
6:37 - 6:39And . . .
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6:40 - 6:43It's very difficult to know what to do
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6:48 - 6:51(Whispering instructions)
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6:57 - 6:59So as I reflected on this
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7:04 - 7:07I realized that we have
an opportunity in this retreat -
7:09 - 7:11to a . . .
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7:13 - 7:16to make sure that
Thay is very alive. -
7:18 - 7:21Because we know he would know what to do.
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7:21 - 7:23He does know what to do.
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7:24 - 7:27So our job is just
to make sure that he's very alive -
7:28 - 7:31in us and in the whole community.
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7:31 - 7:33And I think we know how to do that.
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7:36 - 7:40I look into my feelings
and my perceptions -
7:41 - 7:44around the passing of our teacher, and
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7:46 - 7:48I can't really say that he's gone,
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7:49 - 7:52and I can't really say that he's dead,
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7:52 - 7:54or that he's not there.
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7:54 - 7:56If anything he feels more there,
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7:57 - 7:58much more.
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7:59 - 8:01Very present, very alive.
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8:02 - 8:05So if we want to know
what to do, we can ask Thay. -
8:06 - 8:10But first we have to help him
to be very present with us. -
8:14 - 8:15And a . . .
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8:19 - 8:21then we will know what to do.
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8:23 - 8:25And what not to do.
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8:26 - 8:27What to say
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8:27 - 8:29and what not to say.
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8:33 - 8:36Because we want to,
we want to help. -
8:37 - 8:39Of course, we want to help.
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8:40 - 8:42But we also know that if we
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8:46 - 8:50if we don't have peace,
if we are not at peace -
8:50 - 8:54then when we try to help
we may make the situation worse. -
8:57 - 8:58And a . . .
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9:00 - 9:03And we want to know
that we are really helping, -
9:03 - 9:05helping in the right way.
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9:07 - 9:10So Thay said many times
and he wrote beautiful calligraphy -
9:10 - 9:16"Peace in oneself, peace in the world."
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9:17 - 9:19And when I first saw that calligraphy
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9:20 - 9:23I struggled with it
a little bit, if I'm honest. -
9:23 - 9:24I . . .
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9:26 - 9:28I sort of wasn't convinced.
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9:29 - 9:31I thought,
Thay, it's not going to be enough -
9:32 - 9:35if, you know,
I can be at peace, sure, but -
9:36 - 9:38there are still terrible things
happening in the world. -
9:38 - 9:41It doesn't seem to make much difference.
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9:42 - 9:44But as I reflected more
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9:46 - 9:47on that statement
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9:48 - 9:51my feeling about it started to change.
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9:52 - 9:56So first of all
I looked at the inverse statement. -
9:58 - 10:01So if there's no peace in me
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10:03 - 10:06then there's definitely
not peace in the world -
10:06 - 10:08because I'm in the world.
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10:08 - 10:10I'm part of the world.
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10:10 - 10:12So that is true.
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10:14 - 10:16If there's no peace in us
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10:17 - 10:19then how can there be peace in the world?
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10:22 - 10:23And then I asked myself
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10:25 - 10:27how do I know
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10:29 - 10:32that it's not true?
You know, that if there's peace in me -
10:32 - 10:34there would be peace in the world.
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10:34 - 10:36I haven't even really tried.
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10:37 - 10:39I think it's a . . .
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10:39 - 10:41I'm a little bit arrogant
to think that I know -
10:42 - 10:44what peace in me would be.
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10:47 - 10:50Have I really committed myself
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10:51 - 10:53to peace?
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10:53 - 10:55In my life, in my actions
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10:57 - 10:59in my way of consuming,
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10:59 - 11:01my way of speaking.
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11:06 - 11:09And do I risk to underestimate
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11:10 - 11:12peace?
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11:13 - 11:15Real peace.
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11:17 - 11:20So I think it's worth checking.
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11:20 - 11:21To ask ourselves
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11:23 - 11:26Have we really tried yet?
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11:30 - 11:32Thay always liked to say
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11:32 - 11:34that in Plum Village we don't
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11:34 - 11:35our intention is not to
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11:36 - 11:39give you more ideas about peace.
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11:41 - 11:44Because we already have
a lot of ideas about peace. -
11:44 - 11:46We don't need any more.
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11:49 - 11:51But our intention is to
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11:51 - 11:53learn to be peace.
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11:56 - 11:58It's not to talk about it,
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11:58 - 12:00but to be it.
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12:01 - 12:03And we have a way to do that.
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12:06 - 12:07And . . .
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12:14 - 12:16Then we can
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12:18 - 12:19we can see
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12:19 - 12:22for ourselves what is the effect
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12:22 - 12:24of that peace in the world.
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12:25 - 12:29Of course, we know that
the seeds of the current war -
12:29 - 12:32were sown a long time ago.
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12:34 - 12:35And so . . .
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12:37 - 12:39we may not be able to stop
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12:40 - 12:42the current destruction
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12:43 - 12:45the loss of life, the suffering.
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12:47 - 12:50But, we also know that we
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12:51 - 12:56don't want to continue to
sow the seeds of war now, -
12:58 - 13:00for future wars.
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13:02 - 13:04And we have confidence that if we
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13:04 - 13:06truly sow the seeds of peace,
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13:06 - 13:08in ourselves, in our own hearts,
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13:09 - 13:10in our communities,
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13:11 - 13:12then perhaps we can avoid
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13:13 - 13:15other wars in the future.
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13:21 - 13:24Towards the beginning of the war
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13:25 - 13:27I saw somebody posted online
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13:30 - 13:31something like this.
It said, -
13:32 - 13:34When will we learn
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13:36 - 13:40to love our neighbors as ourselves?
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13:41 - 13:46This is from Jesus' commandments to us.
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13:49 - 13:51To love thy neighbor as thyself.
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13:52 - 13:54It's known as the golden rule.
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13:57 - 14:01Do to others as you would be done by.
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14:05 - 14:06And it seems simple.
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14:06 - 14:09It seems that if we could just
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14:09 - 14:12love others as we love ourselves then
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14:13 - 14:17that would already be a
much more beautiful society. -
14:18 - 14:20A much more beautiful world.
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14:23 - 14:24But . . .
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14:25 - 14:27I'm not sure
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14:28 - 14:29that I
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14:30 - 14:34know even how to love myself, really.
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14:35 - 14:38So even if I did
love my neighbor as I love myself -
14:38 - 14:40would I really love them,
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14:40 - 14:43if I can't yet love myself?
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14:46 - 14:49So it seems to me
this is a good place to start. -
14:51 - 14:54And it's a way to act.
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14:55 - 14:59To really take care of ourselves
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15:00 - 15:02is action,
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15:02 - 15:04is engagement,
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15:05 - 15:07it's not turning away.
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15:09 - 15:11It is a real contribution.
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15:17 - 15:22So . . . we know that
we have a physical body -
15:25 - 15:27and we can ask ourselves,
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15:27 - 15:31if we've really been
taking good care of our body. -
15:37 - 15:38Have we allowed
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15:39 - 15:43tension and stress
to accumulate in our body. -
15:45 - 15:49Have we put pressure on ourselves
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15:50 - 15:51to be a certain way
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15:55 - 15:57to work late into the night.
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16:01 - 16:03Have we pushed our body too hard?
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16:08 - 16:12And are we really even paying attention
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16:12 - 16:13to our body.
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16:15 - 16:16This is the first practice
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16:17 - 16:19just to bring the mind back
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16:19 - 16:23to the sensations in the body
right now, in this moment. -
16:30 - 16:32And . . .
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16:33 - 16:35it's not always easy because if we have
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16:37 - 16:41allowed some tension to accumulate,
then when we bring our minds back -
16:41 - 16:43to the body it isn't necessarily pleasant.
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16:44 - 16:46There may be some pain,
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16:47 - 16:49some tension.
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16:50 - 16:52There may be
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16:54 - 16:58traces of past suffering
accumulated in our body. -
17:00 - 17:02The body might not feel
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17:02 - 17:06totally safe to take refuge in.
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17:08 - 17:10It might not feel like a refuge.
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17:11 - 17:14There may be feelings of discomfort.
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17:17 - 17:18So if we
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17:21 - 17:24if we bring our mind back
to our body, and if we find -
17:26 - 17:28some painful feelings,
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17:28 - 17:30some uncomfortable feelings,
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17:31 - 17:33then we need to know how to
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17:34 - 17:36take care of those feelings.
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17:37 - 17:40To embrace those feelings
with all of our love, -
17:42 - 17:43tenderness,
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17:44 - 17:47and to give our body a chance
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17:49 - 17:50to relax.
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17:53 - 17:56To release some of
that accumulated tension, -
17:58 - 18:00and to heal.
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18:01 - 18:05Our body knows very well
how to heal if we give it the chance. -
18:11 - 18:15So, we can do this multiple times a day,
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18:16 - 18:20in any position we happen to find
ourselves we can do a body scan. -
18:21 - 18:25Whether we're sitting, standing
lying down, even while we're walking. -
18:26 - 18:29We can just scan the
different parts of our body and -
18:31 - 18:33give them permission to
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18:33 - 18:36to relax any tension that
might have accumulated. -
18:36 - 18:38We have to be careful not to
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18:38 - 18:40make more pressure.
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18:40 - 18:42"You have to relax!"
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18:42 - 18:44"Why are you so tense?"
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18:46 - 18:50We have a kind of conditioning to
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18:51 - 18:55tend to want to do everything perfectly.
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18:57 - 18:58To do,
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18:58 - 19:01to be good at relaxing,
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19:01 - 19:02to do it well,
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19:03 - 19:06that we may unconsciously put
more pressure on ourselves -
19:06 - 19:08and create more tension.
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19:09 - 19:12So, it's very nice just to
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19:14 - 19:16just to give ourselves permission,
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19:17 - 19:19to give our body permission
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19:20 - 19:24to release, just as much as
as it would like to release -
19:24 - 19:26without any expectation.
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19:29 - 19:32So, I like to do this
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19:33 - 19:34many times a day.
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19:34 - 19:36I might start with
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19:37 - 19:38with my jaw,
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19:41 - 19:43and just check in and say "hello."
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19:45 - 19:46"Hello" my jaw.
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19:51 - 19:55Have I allowed some
tension to build up here? -
19:56 - 19:58Is my jaw locked?
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19:59 - 20:02If you want to, you can just release
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20:02 - 20:05as much as you would like to release.
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20:05 - 20:07Ah . . .
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20:08 - 20:09It feels better already.
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20:11 - 20:13I can check in with my tongue,
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20:15 - 20:16the palate of my mouth,
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20:18 - 20:20the gums, even the teeth.
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20:22 - 20:24The whole mouth, and the lips.
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20:27 - 20:28Just check.
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20:29 - 20:31See how it feels right now.
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20:37 - 20:41I just let my mouth and my jaw know
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20:42 - 20:46it's ok to let go of
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20:47 - 20:49whatever you'd like to let go of.
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20:51 - 20:55And check my nose, the sinuses,
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20:58 - 20:59the nostrils,
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21:04 - 21:05the eyes.
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21:12 - 21:15And all the little muscles
around the eyes. -
21:15 - 21:18We make our eyes work so hard.
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21:18 - 21:21Reading and looking at screens.
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21:21 - 21:24So it's very nice just to
give them a chance to -
21:26 - 21:27to become soft.
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21:28 - 21:30Give them permission to rest.
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21:34 - 21:36This is a kind of love, already,
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21:37 - 21:39that we can offer ourselves.
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21:40 - 21:43Kindness, compassion.
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21:44 - 21:46"It's ok, my two eyes,
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21:46 - 21:48you can rest now."
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21:52 - 21:56My forehead may
have accumulated a lot of -
21:57 - 21:59intensity, or thinking energy.
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22:00 - 22:02I can just let my forehead know
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22:04 - 22:07"Hmm, now it's ok
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22:08 - 22:09just to be soft."
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22:16 - 22:18I can check in with my ears,
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22:22 - 22:23my scalp,
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22:28 - 22:30my hands,
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22:31 - 22:33thumbs and fingers.
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22:37 - 22:39Is there any feeling of
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22:40 - 22:42tension in my fingers.
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22:43 - 22:45Just say "hello" to my two hands.
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22:47 - 22:49Hello.
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22:51 - 22:53You can let go now.
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22:54 - 22:55Nothing to hold on to.
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22:56 - 22:57Nothing to grasp.
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23:01 - 23:02You can rest.
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23:05 - 23:07I can say hello to my arms,
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23:07 - 23:08my shoulders.
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23:10 - 23:13Maybe there's a
little tension in the shoulders, -
23:14 - 23:15or even a little pain.
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23:21 - 23:23And say
"Hello, my two shoulders, thank you, -
23:26 - 23:29for holding everything
you've been holding, and now -
23:34 - 23:37you can release
what ever you'd like to release. -
23:39 - 23:40Don't worry.
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23:46 - 23:48My arms won't fall off.
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23:51 - 23:52You can get back
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23:54 - 23:56how ever much of my arms
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23:56 - 23:58that you've been holding up.
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23:59 - 24:01Just let them hang.
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24:02 - 24:05Maybe arms feel a little heavier,
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24:09 - 24:10a little more loose.
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24:12 - 24:14Maybe the breath comes a little easier.
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24:17 - 24:20Be aware of the movement of the chest,
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24:23 - 24:26aware of any tightness that may be there.
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24:28 - 24:31Just give it permission to soften.
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24:36 - 24:39And feel the belly
rising with the inbreath. -
24:39 - 24:41Falling with the outbreath.
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24:45 - 24:47Hello, my abdomen.
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24:48 - 24:50Is there anything
you've been holding on to? -
24:54 - 24:56If you want to
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24:57 - 24:59you can just release it now.
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25:08 - 25:11We can feel our two legs, our feet,
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25:16 - 25:18and just give them permission to rest.
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25:19 - 25:22You're not going anywhere,
not doing anything. -
25:23 - 25:25It's so nice.
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25:28 - 25:29Just to rest,
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25:31 - 25:35to allow ourselves
to sink a little deeper -
25:37 - 25:39into our contact with the ground,
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25:40 - 25:42the cushion or the chair.
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25:46 - 25:49Feel ourselves resting on Mother Earth,
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25:49 - 25:52and to entrust ourselves to Mother Earth.
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26:00 - 26:01And maybe . . .
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26:03 - 26:08our body feels a little sense of relief.
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26:12 - 26:15(Exhales)
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26:18 - 26:19And we can smile,
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26:22 - 26:25and feel the smile
embracing our whole body. -
26:33 - 26:35It's very nice to be
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26:36 - 26:39just aware of the
sensations in the body. -
26:42 - 26:44And we know our mind
is in the present moment -
26:44 - 26:47because those sensations
are only in the present moment. -
26:54 - 26:57It's a wonderful way to take care
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26:57 - 26:59of our body.
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27:03 - 27:06And then, in the body
we may notice some feelings. -
27:08 - 27:10There may be a feeling of
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27:10 - 27:12pressure,
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27:13 - 27:15anxiety, tension.
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27:17 - 27:21Some kind of unease or discomfort.
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27:23 - 27:26We can say hello
to those feelings as well. -
27:29 - 27:32And know that
we are more than those feelings. -
27:35 - 27:37That we are vast.
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27:39 - 27:42That there is a quality of love
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27:43 - 27:47and stability in us
that is capable -
27:49 - 27:51of embracing whatever is there
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27:53 - 27:54with tenderness.
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28:01 - 28:07And those feelings, they like to be held.
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28:08 - 28:10You don't need to do much.
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28:15 - 28:20Just to allow any feelings
of discomfort or uneasiness to -
28:21 - 28:24to take a bath of mindfulness.
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28:26 - 28:30To be bathed in the energy of mindfulness.
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28:34 - 28:37And that means
just listening to those feelings. -
28:37 - 28:39Being there for them.
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28:42 - 28:46Taking the time to be fully present
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28:48 - 28:50for whatever is there.
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28:55 - 28:57It's very nice to do that.
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28:59 - 29:02And we may find
that we have some emotions as well. -
29:06 - 29:10Maybe there's some anger in our heart,
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29:13 - 29:15or despair or anxiety,
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29:19 - 29:20or fear.
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29:26 - 29:31And those feelings
might have been pushing us to act, -
29:33 - 29:34to consume,
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29:37 - 29:39to speak.
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29:44 - 29:46And somehow, when we're
pushed by those feelings we -
29:47 - 29:49we lose a little of our freedom.
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29:51 - 29:52We lose our sovereignty.
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29:54 - 29:56We're not ourselves.
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30:03 - 30:04So it's very nice also to
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30:06 - 30:09to create the time, to take the time
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30:11 - 30:14to say hello to those feelings,
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30:15 - 30:18which may have been there a long time.
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30:26 - 30:29To offer them our love, our presence.
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30:30 - 30:32Our presence is very powerful
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30:36 - 30:38when we're not distracted
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30:38 - 30:40by the telephone.
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30:51 - 30:54So we learn,
in this retreat how to handle -
30:55 - 30:56our emotions.
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30:56 - 31:00And if we are to handle them,
first we have the recognize them, -
31:00 - 31:02that they are there.
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31:02 - 31:05And be humble and honest.
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31:17 - 31:19And taken together,
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31:21 - 31:23the tension in our body,
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31:24 - 31:27the tension in our feelings,
in our emotions, -
31:28 - 31:30they form a kind of
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31:32 - 31:33background
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31:34 - 31:35inclination of our mind
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31:38 - 31:42that may have a tendency to push us.
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31:49 - 31:53And this inclination of mind
might have been transmitted to us -
31:53 - 31:55over many generations.
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31:56 - 31:59We may recognize our ancestors in it.
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31:59 - 32:01Maybe there's a . . .
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32:02 - 32:05just a . . .
it's like a subtle filter -
32:05 - 32:07over everything.
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32:08 - 32:10It influences our perceptions
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32:12 - 32:14of everything.
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32:15 - 32:18Maybe it's a kind of subtle cynicism
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32:18 - 32:21that things will not work out.
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32:24 - 32:26Things won't turn out well.
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32:26 - 32:27(Whispers) I just know it.
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32:30 - 32:32Maybe there's just a feeling that
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32:34 - 32:36it won't go well for me.
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32:37 - 32:39No matter what I do.
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32:40 - 32:42I'm going to suffer.
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32:44 - 32:47Maybe it's a tendency to feel like
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32:48 - 32:52ultimately, we will let people down
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32:55 - 32:57no matter what, in the end
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32:58 - 33:00I will let you down.
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33:03 - 33:06Maybe it's a feeling, unconscious,
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33:06 - 33:09that in the end, will be betrayed.
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33:11 - 33:14That love isn't really
something that we can rely on. -
33:14 - 33:16Something that we can trust.
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33:20 - 33:22These may be
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33:23 - 33:25the kind of attitudes that have been
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33:25 - 33:28transmitted over many generations.
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33:29 - 33:31And conditioned by real suffering,
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33:31 - 33:33by real betrayal,
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33:33 - 33:35by real disappointment,
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33:36 - 33:38by real pain.
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33:38 - 33:40But now, maybe we just have
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33:40 - 33:42the attitude.
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33:43 - 33:47And it's worth having a deep
conversation with our ancestors -
33:49 - 33:53to see if we can update that attitude.
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33:55 - 33:58Invite them to look again, check.
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34:00 - 34:02I like to talk to my grandfather.
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34:02 - 34:04My grandfather was very sure that
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34:06 - 34:09ultimately, things wouldn't go well.
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34:10 - 34:12There would just be pain.
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34:16 - 34:17And he
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34:18 - 34:21caused people to suffer
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34:22 - 34:23in our family,
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34:23 - 34:25caused himself to suffer.
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34:31 - 34:33And so he had lots of evidence.
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34:35 - 34:37So I like to check in with him and say
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34:40 - 34:42Hello.
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34:42 - 34:44Look, in this moment
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34:47 - 34:49we're not harming anyone.
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34:53 - 34:56In this moment,
we're not harming ourselves. -
35:01 - 35:02In this moment
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35:05 - 35:07we're taking good care of ourselves.
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35:11 - 35:15In this moment,
we're doing exactly the thing -
35:15 - 35:17that we always wanted to do.
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35:23 - 35:26In this moment, we're realizing
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35:27 - 35:29our deepest aspiration.
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35:31 - 35:32To love,
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35:36 - 35:38to cultivate awareness,
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35:39 - 35:40to wake up.
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35:43 - 35:45And it's like a magic formula.
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35:45 - 35:47It's a . . .
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35:49 - 35:52It's an instant source of happiness.
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35:53 - 35:55To recognize that in this very moment
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35:55 - 35:57we're doing exactly
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35:58 - 36:00what we wanted to do all along.
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36:04 - 36:08Because we need to know how
to generate a feeling of happiness. -
36:10 - 36:12Generating a feeling of happiness is
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36:12 - 36:16a powerful way to act in the world.
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36:18 - 36:20It's a way to
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36:21 - 36:24help take care of our pain,
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36:26 - 36:28of our painful feelings.
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36:32 - 36:34A feeling of happiness will
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36:34 - 36:37already help to
embrace our painful feelings. -
36:41 - 36:44And it's wonderful when
we are already practicing -
36:44 - 36:47just to notice, oh, I'm practicing.
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36:47 - 36:49Wow.
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36:50 - 36:52That's a source of happiness.
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36:52 - 36:56That mindfulness is a source of happiness.
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37:00 - 37:03Taking care of our suffering
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37:03 - 37:05is a source of happiness.
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37:06 - 37:08Now we need to let our ancestors know
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37:09 - 37:11and invite them to participate
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37:15 - 37:18and gradually,
the inclination of our minds -
37:18 - 37:20starts to change.
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37:22 - 37:25Maybe we have
a chance to see things anew. -
37:29 - 37:32And maybe our perceptions change.
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37:34 - 37:38Because our perceptions
are the ground of our action. -
37:38 - 37:41And if we have a lot of wrong perceptions
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37:42 - 37:44about each other and about ourselves
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37:48 - 37:50then it will be very hard to act
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37:50 - 37:51with wisdom.
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37:55 - 37:56So . . .
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37:59 - 38:00when we are able to
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38:00 - 38:02to take care of our body,
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38:02 - 38:05to relax our body,
to allow our body to relax, -
38:06 - 38:08to take care of our feelings,
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38:08 - 38:10to take care of our emotions,
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38:12 - 38:15the fundamental attitude of our mind,
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38:20 - 38:23then we can start to
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38:24 - 38:26to be peace.
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38:28 - 38:30And then we can really help.
-
38:43 - 38:45(Waking the bell - soft bell)
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38:49 - 38:55(Bell sounds)
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39:33 - 39:37So we want Thay to be very alive in us,
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39:37 - 39:39and in our community
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39:39 - 39:41in these four days.
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39:42 - 39:43So I suggest
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39:45 - 39:48that we live for these next few days
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39:49 - 39:51like Thay.
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39:55 - 39:58Thay had a lot of confidence
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39:58 - 40:00in his students.
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40:01 - 40:02Thay would always say
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40:03 - 40:04Thay is in you.
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40:07 - 40:11When often people would
come and ask Thay a question -
40:11 - 40:14about starting an initiative somewhere,
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40:15 - 40:17"I want to start a program
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40:17 - 40:20for mindfulness
in hospitals" or something -
40:20 - 40:23and Thay would just say,
"Thay is in you." -
40:24 - 40:26Go ahead. Do it.
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40:28 - 40:31He had a lot of confidence in us.
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40:32 - 40:37And he gave himself to us.
His whole self, he held nothing back. -
40:41 - 40:43And I think, when we practice
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40:44 - 40:48we can feel that it's true.
That Thay is in us -
40:49 - 40:50when we practice.
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40:54 - 40:55So . . .
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40:55 - 40:58if we want to live like Thay
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40:59 - 41:00for these few days,
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41:02 - 41:04to make sure that Thay is really alive
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41:05 - 41:06in the community, in us,
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41:10 - 41:11I think it's very easy.
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41:12 - 41:15We just have to do
the things that Thay likes to do. -
41:18 - 41:22And not do the things
that would hurt Thay in us. -
41:23 - 41:26And I think we know what they are.
-
41:26 - 41:28I think we can tell the difference.
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41:29 - 41:31That Thay is very sensitive.
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41:33 - 41:37And some things that we
might have a tendency to do, that -
41:37 - 41:39he would not do.
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41:41 - 41:43So we can ask ourselves,
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41:45 - 41:47or let him guide us.
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41:51 - 41:55That's very easy.
In the morning when we wake up -
41:56 - 41:58we can smile.
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42:01 - 42:03It's a real practice.
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42:04 - 42:05Waking up, this morning
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42:06 - 42:07I smiled.
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42:09 - 42:10It's not always easy.
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42:13 - 42:17And I need to remember
24 brand new hours are before me. -
42:21 - 42:24And to make the vow to live each moment
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42:24 - 42:27in mindfulness like Thay.
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42:31 - 42:32It's not easy
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42:34 - 42:35to really do it.
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42:40 - 42:42And to look at all beings
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42:42 - 42:45with the eyes of compassion,
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42:46 - 42:47like Thay.
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42:49 - 42:53Even Vladimir Putin.
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42:57 - 42:59Even the Russian soldiers
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42:59 - 43:01that are bombing civilians.
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43:02 - 43:04Thay didn't have enemies.
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43:04 - 43:06He didn't hate.
-
43:11 - 43:14And that doesn't mean
that we condone the actions. -
43:19 - 43:22But if we don't want to
contribute to future wars, then -
43:23 - 43:25we cannot hate.
-
43:28 - 43:31And we have to be very careful
in our way of consuming -
43:31 - 43:32the media.
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43:33 - 43:35Right now there's a lot in the media
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43:36 - 43:38of videos being shared of
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43:38 - 43:40Russian tanks being destroyed
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43:42 - 43:44by missiles.
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43:44 - 43:46And they're shared like it's
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43:47 - 43:49something to celebrate,
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43:50 - 43:51a victory.
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43:52 - 43:54Like it's in a video game.
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43:56 - 44:01And you see what people are commenting,
what they post on social media. -
44:08 - 44:09It's very hard to know
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44:11 - 44:13how to handle that.
-
44:16 - 44:17Because of course
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44:19 - 44:20we . . .
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44:23 - 44:25we know that sometimes
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44:26 - 44:28the use of force is necessary.
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44:30 - 44:32Thay once said that
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44:32 - 44:35sometimes non-violence is violence.
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44:37 - 44:41If we could avoid the loss of life,
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44:41 - 44:43if we could protect civilians,
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44:45 - 44:47by the use of force, then
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44:47 - 44:50sometimes, we should.
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44:51 - 44:53And that is true non-violence.
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44:53 - 44:54But it's very hard.
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44:57 - 45:01And to do that we have to
have compassion in our hearts. -
45:04 - 45:06And we have to know that there are
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45:07 - 45:09young Russian men in those tanks,
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45:09 - 45:11who have been misled
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45:12 - 45:14and . . .
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45:14 - 45:17have been fed with a lot of propaganda
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45:18 - 45:20and they're dying too.
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45:25 - 45:28So, whatever we look at
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45:28 - 45:32let us be careful, how we consume it and
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45:33 - 45:36to always keep
compassion alive in our hearts. -
45:41 - 45:44To look at all beings
with the eyes of compassion, -
45:47 - 45:50even though they hold a gun.
-
46:00 - 46:03And when we make tea
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46:05 - 46:07maybe while the water is boiling
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46:08 - 46:11my hand starts to twitch
and there's and impulse to -
46:11 - 46:14turn on the phone, check the news.
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46:16 - 46:17Would Thay do that?
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46:18 - 46:20I don't think so.
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46:23 - 46:26So we can notice the impulse,
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46:27 - 46:29the habit, that we've trained,
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46:30 - 46:31see it coming up,
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46:32 - 46:34and we don't have to act.
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46:36 - 46:38We can say, No, thank you.
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46:39 - 46:41I'm making my tea.
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46:42 - 46:44I'm going to enjoy my tea.
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46:44 - 46:46Like Thay.
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46:48 - 46:51And it's very interesting when you resist
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46:51 - 46:54an impulse, that you've trained
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46:55 - 46:57like checking your e-mail,
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46:58 - 47:00or looking at the news.
-
47:02 - 47:06Because there may initially
be a feeling of discomfort, -
47:06 - 47:07it's unsatisfying.
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47:08 - 47:10You want to check and
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47:10 - 47:12now you're not
allowing yourself to check. -
47:13 - 47:15It's kind of uncomfortable, a little.
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47:16 - 47:19So it's very interesting to
notice that feeling in the body. -
47:20 - 47:22To allow it to be there,
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47:23 - 47:25to embrace it,
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47:26 - 47:27to smile to it,
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47:28 - 47:30to allow it to soften.
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47:33 - 47:35And actually, we can also cultivate
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47:36 - 47:39a feeling of profound joy.
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47:42 - 47:45Just by realizing that in that moment
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47:45 - 47:47I was not pushed.
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47:50 - 47:52I was able to say No.
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47:53 - 47:55No, thank you,
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47:55 - 47:57to this push.
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47:59 - 48:01And that is a feeling of triumph.
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48:03 - 48:05That is a feeling of joy.
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48:06 - 48:08A success in the practice.
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48:08 - 48:10To be able to stop
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48:14 - 48:17and take care of what ever
feeling of discomfort was -
48:18 - 48:19pushing us to act.
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48:24 - 48:26And then you can
make your tea in freedom. -
48:27 - 48:28And that is happiness.
-
48:30 - 48:31When is the last time
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48:32 - 48:35you really savored a sip of tea
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48:36 - 48:38in total freedom.
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48:41 - 48:43When was the last time
you allowed a drop of tea -
48:44 - 48:47to roll on your tongue and
you could feel the cloud in your tea. -
48:51 - 48:55And enjoy the magic, the mystery,
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48:55 - 48:57the wonder of tea.
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48:58 - 49:00Water, the fragrance.
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49:01 - 49:04The coming together
of all the causes and conditions. -
49:06 - 49:08It's magical.
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49:10 - 49:14And Thay has taught us
very well how to enjoy a cup of tea. -
49:14 - 49:16We know exactly how to do it. And yet,
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49:17 - 49:19maybe we don't always do it.
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49:20 - 49:22So in these four days
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49:23 - 49:25let's see if we can.
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49:30 - 49:33We can become absorbed in the tea.
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49:37 - 49:40And then we go
to join the sitting meditation -
49:44 - 49:47and we know that Thay loved to breathe.
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49:48 - 49:51Thay knew exactly
how to enjoy his breathing. -
49:52 - 49:54So we can sit there, and say
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49:57 - 49:59Let Thay breathe.
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50:01 - 50:02I don't need to breathe.
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50:07 - 50:09And it's true.
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50:17 - 50:19Thay is breathing.
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50:24 - 50:26I just enjoy the breathing.
-
50:30 - 50:33Thay knows how to breathe very well.
-
50:50 - 50:52Thay is the breathing.
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50:58 - 51:00I am the breathing.
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51:12 - 51:14There is only breathing.
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51:20 - 51:22There is no 'breather.'
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51:30 - 51:32Peace,
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51:33 - 51:35while breathing.
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51:41 - 51:44Peace is the breathing.
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51:59 - 52:00This is something possible.
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52:04 - 52:06You can allow Thay to breathe for us.
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52:06 - 52:09And he can continue to teach us
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52:12 - 52:13how to enter concentration,
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52:15 - 52:16stillness.
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52:17 - 52:19How to be peace.
-
52:24 - 52:26And then when we
go to make our breakfast -
52:27 - 52:29we can make our breakfast, like Thay.
-
52:30 - 52:33Thay loved to make his breakfast.
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52:35 - 52:37And he wasn't in a hurry.
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52:40 - 52:42He didn't have to multi-task.
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52:42 - 52:44He didn't have to listen to a podcast
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52:45 - 52:46whilst making breakfast.
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52:50 - 52:52He didn't have to check his e-mail
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52:52 - 52:54whilst making breakfast.
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53:00 - 53:02So let's try, and do it like Thay.
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53:02 - 53:05Let's just do one thing at a time,
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53:07 - 53:09with ease, with freedom,
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53:12 - 53:13with joy.
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53:15 - 53:17And when we eat our breakfast
-
53:19 - 53:22before putting the food
in your mouth you can -
53:22 - 53:23look at it.
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53:23 - 53:25Recognize it.
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53:25 - 53:27This is porridge.
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53:29 - 53:31Or this is a piece of apple.
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53:34 - 53:36Then we can touch gratitude.
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53:39 - 53:40We have food to eat.
-
53:40 - 53:42Not everybody does.
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53:45 - 53:47It's already a wonder,
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53:47 - 53:49to have something in our bowl.
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53:52 - 53:55And when we take a spoonful of
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53:55 - 53:56porridge or cereal
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53:57 - 53:59and we can put our spoon down
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54:00 - 54:01and chew.
-
54:02 - 54:05And wait until we have swallowed
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54:05 - 54:07before picking up our spoon.
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54:08 - 54:10It's a real practice.
-
54:14 - 54:17And we invite Thay
to have breakfast with us. -
54:19 - 54:23It's a great honor
to eat breakfast with Thay. -
54:24 - 54:25And we can all do it.
-
54:26 - 54:27It's wonderful.
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54:28 - 54:30There's plenty of Thay to go around.
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54:30 - 54:32There's no shortage.
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54:37 - 54:39Now we can listen to the dharma talk
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54:40 - 54:42with Thay's ears, and I know that Thay
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54:44 - 54:47will be so happy
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54:47 - 54:49to listen to Thay Phap Huu tomorrow,
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54:49 - 54:51and Sister Chan Duc on Saturday.
-
54:54 - 54:56Thay will be so proud
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54:58 - 55:00to hear his students sharing the dharma.
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55:04 - 55:06And so we can listen with Thay's ears,
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55:06 - 55:08with Thay's heart,
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55:08 - 55:10with Thay's breath,
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55:13 - 55:16with Thay's concentration and stillness.
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55:20 - 55:22And then we can walk.
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55:25 - 55:27Hopefully each of us has
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55:27 - 55:30somewhere we can go
to practice walking meditation. -
55:31 - 55:33Whether it's in our yard, or
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55:34 - 55:36maybe just along the street,
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55:36 - 55:37or in a park,
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55:39 - 55:41or even just in our home.
-
55:43 - 55:46And Thay taught us so well
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55:46 - 55:47how to walk.
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55:48 - 55:50How to walk in freedom.
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55:52 - 55:55How to arrive with every step.
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55:59 - 56:01Not to hurry towards our destination,
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56:03 - 56:05but to know that
our true destination is -
56:05 - 56:07this moment.
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56:07 - 56:09This step.
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56:14 - 56:16Now we can do that
where ever we have to walk -
56:17 - 56:19in our house, even from the bathroom
-
56:19 - 56:21to the living room, or
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56:21 - 56:23as we walk around the kitchen.
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56:25 - 56:27We can take steps in freedom.
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56:29 - 56:30This is something possible.
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56:37 - 56:39And I know if we all do this together
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56:39 - 56:42it generates a powerful collective energy
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56:42 - 56:44and we support each other.
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56:44 - 56:47It's much easier to do it together
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56:48 - 56:49than alone.
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56:58 - 57:01We may have the
impulse to check the news -
57:01 - 57:03many times, coming up in the
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57:04 - 57:06spaces in between activities.
-
57:07 - 57:09It's like, oh, I have some time
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57:09 - 57:11before the dharma sharing.
-
57:12 - 57:14Let me just check the news.
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57:17 - 57:19And you can, if you want to.
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57:21 - 57:24But try to read the news like
Thay would read the news. -
57:27 - 57:29And we can ask ourselves
-
57:29 - 57:32how much is enough?
-
57:33 - 57:36How much do we need to take in?
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57:38 - 57:41And, can we give ourselves a break
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57:44 - 57:45for these few days.
-
57:45 - 57:48It's up to you.
Each of us can make a decision. -
57:51 - 57:54But you may like
to set a timer on your phone. -
57:54 - 57:56To give yourself ten minutes.
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57:59 - 58:01If you really need to know,
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58:03 - 58:06I think ten minutes is enough.
Just to check in. -
58:10 - 58:14And then, when you
turn off the phone -
58:17 - 58:19it's very interesting to ask
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58:19 - 58:21What did I learn?
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58:24 - 58:25How do I feel?
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58:28 - 58:29Did it help?
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58:32 - 58:33Was it important?
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58:34 - 58:37What will I now do, as a result
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58:38 - 58:40of knowing this?
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58:42 - 58:44Is there anything I can do?
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58:46 - 58:48Was it important?
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58:49 - 58:50Really.
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58:54 - 58:56It's very interesting,
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58:56 - 58:59if you need to check, check, but then,
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58:59 - 59:01ask yourself afterwards
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59:01 - 59:03What did you learn?
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59:04 - 59:06Was it important?
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59:08 - 59:09And how do you feel?
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59:09 - 59:11How do you feel in your body?
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59:15 - 59:17And how often do you want to do that?
-
59:23 - 59:27You may like to
install a bell of mindfulness -
59:28 - 59:30on your computer or your phone.
-
59:30 - 59:33We have the wonderful Plum Village app.
-
59:33 - 59:36You can set a bell to sound
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59:38 - 59:40every hour or every half hour
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59:40 - 59:42how ever often you want
-
59:44 - 59:47and that is a practice
that Thay really enjoyed. -
59:51 - 59:52Stopping . . .
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59:58 - 60:00coming back to the present moment.
-
60:02 - 60:05We can let the sound of the bell
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60:07 - 60:09be the voice
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60:10 - 60:12of Thay calling us back.
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60:16 - 60:18"Hello."
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60:18 - 60:21Would you like to breathe with me?
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60:22 - 60:24Would you like to rest,
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60:27 - 60:28to relax,
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60:30 - 60:32to take care of yourself in this moment.
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60:34 - 60:37To greet any stress or tension
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60:37 - 60:39or discomfort that may have arisen
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60:40 - 60:42with love and tenderness.
-
60:43 - 60:45It's amazing, in one sound of the bell
-
60:45 - 60:48you can do a
complete body scan if you want. -
60:48 - 60:51Just check.
How does your body feel? -
60:51 - 60:54Has any tension gathered anywhere?
-
60:56 - 60:58It's very nice.
-
61:00 - 61:03And when you brush
your teeth you can smile. -
61:06 - 61:08If you like, you can use the gatha.
-
61:12 - 61:13Brushing my teeth
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61:14 - 61:16and rinsing my mouth
-
61:16 - 61:21I vow to speak purely, lovingly.
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61:25 - 61:29When my mouth is purified,
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61:29 - 61:31is fragrant with loving speech
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61:32 - 61:35a flower blooms in the garden of my heart.
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61:38 - 61:40It's very interesting to check
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61:41 - 61:42if that's true.
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61:44 - 61:46I sometimes use that gatha to check
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61:47 - 61:50in that day, how was my speech?
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61:51 - 61:52Was it skillful?
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61:53 - 61:55Did I allow myself to be
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61:58 - 62:00aggressive or cynical?
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62:00 - 62:02Did I use humor to put someone down?
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62:03 - 62:06Did I lie?
Did I distort the truth? -
62:10 - 62:12Just to check; it's very interesting.
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62:12 - 62:14Once a day, or twice a day; to check
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62:14 - 62:16How is my speech?
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62:16 - 62:18And to notice that, when my speech
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62:18 - 62:20really was mindful and kind,
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62:21 - 62:25(breathing in) wow, yes.
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62:27 - 62:28I can feel
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62:30 - 62:32a flower blooms in my heart.
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62:34 - 62:37It's very wonderful to notice
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62:38 - 62:41when we haven't been unkind,
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62:42 - 62:45when we haven't been unfair,
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62:46 - 62:49when we haven't taken advantage of anyone.
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62:51 - 62:53When we've been generous.
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62:56 - 62:57When we've been loving.
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63:01 - 63:04And it's also, kind of
letting our ancestors know, -
63:05 - 63:07"Yeah, look! We're doing ok."
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63:08 - 63:09"It's good."
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63:14 - 63:16So we know that Thay
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63:17 - 63:19loved life.
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63:20 - 63:23He loved to do all these things.
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63:25 - 63:27And so it's very easy,
if we want to -
63:28 - 63:30live like Thay.
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63:30 - 63:32We just do the things that Thay loved.
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63:34 - 63:37You may like to stare at the moon.
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63:39 - 63:42And just become absorbed in the moon.
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63:43 - 63:45I remember one time
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63:46 - 63:49I was Thay's attendant
just for a few days, and -
63:50 - 63:54I was carrying Thay's bag
during the walking meditation. -
63:56 - 63:59And it was in a big retreat there,
many hundreds of people. -
63:59 - 64:01But he stopped,
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64:01 - 64:03and he turned to me with this huge grin
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64:04 - 64:06and he pointed at the trunk of a tree.
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64:06 - 64:09He said,
"It's so green!" -
64:10 - 64:12Because there was moss,
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64:12 - 64:15there was like beautiful emerald moss.
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64:16 - 64:18It was so green.
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64:18 - 64:21And Thay was just completely
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64:22 - 64:24absorbed with this moss.
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64:25 - 64:27And there were hundreds of people there
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64:28 - 64:30kind of like,
what's Thay doing? -
64:30 - 64:32(Whispering)
Why have we stopped? Where? -
64:32 - 64:34What's happening?
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64:34 - 64:36And Thay's just like,
"Look! It's so green!" -
64:37 - 64:39(Laughs)
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64:39 - 64:41So you can do that too.
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64:41 - 64:44You can fall in love with the moss.
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64:45 - 64:48You can say hello to every tiny flower
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64:48 - 64:50that crosses your way.
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64:52 - 64:56You can look at the blue sky
as if it's the first time. -
65:06 - 65:08And I think if we can do that
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65:10 - 65:12then . . .
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65:13 - 65:14Thay will be with us.
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65:16 - 65:19Thay will be alive.
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65:21 - 65:23And we will know what to do.
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65:25 - 65:26What not to do.
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65:26 - 65:28What to say,
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65:28 - 65:30and what not to say.
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65:46 - 65:50(Wake the bell - soft ring)
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65:50 - 65:58(Deep bell sound)
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66:22 - 66:32(Deep bell sound)
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66:52 - 67:00(Deep bell sound)
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67:16 - 67:17(Wake the mini-bell)
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67:17 - 67:19(Mini bell rings)
- Title:
- "The Secret to Continuing Thay" - Br. Phap Linh (Brother Spirit) | Dharma talk | 2022 03 10
- Description:
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This poignant Dharma Talk was given in the Upper Hamlet on 10th March 2022, on the first day of the "Coming & Going in Freedom" weekend retreat to honor 49 days since Thich Nhat Hanh's passing. There so many urgent crises in the world, we may think, "If only Thay were still alive, he would know what to do." In this talk, Brother Phap Linh explains that Thay can be VERY alive in us, if we know how to practice. By applying the essence of Thầy's teaching on mindfulness of the body we can learn to be peace in our daily lives, and this can right away offer peace to those around us.
Thay loved life. Brother Phap Linh invites us to do the things that Thay loved to do, and not to do those things that could hurt "Thay in us". Then we will know what to do and what not to do, what to say and what not to say, to respond to the suffering in the world.------------------
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- Duration:
- 01:07:25