Am I A Difficult Person?

Hello! On TikTok I'm getting recommended
a lot of dog grooming videos,

which I would recommend.
[whoof]

Also, I've been seeing a lot of people
who have done the Difficult Person Test.

I always see that and I'm like,
why would I take that test?

I'm an easy breezy guy.

But then I thought, am I?

Apparently, it judges you on callousness,
grandiosity, aggressiveness, suspicion,

manipulativeness,
dominance and risk taking.

Why am I setting myself up
to look like a massive ass?

Why am I filming this video?

I think out of those,
maybe I'm a bit grandiose, a bit dominant.

I mean not that way.
I'm not getting the whips and chains out.

Or am I?

No, I mean if I'm hosting a party
and there's games or a movie,

I'll be the one that's like,
I want to play this game,

I think this movie would be best,
we should play this music.

So in that way, I'm a bit annoying.
Maybe that could show up.

Maybe you learn something
about yourself from this video.

If you relate to it, is that a bad thing?

I don't know.

As a little appetizer, aperitif,
I asked you guys on Instagram

with a little slidey poll,
how difficult you thought I'd be

if you were my friend.
Not that you're not my virtual friend.

Oh! You were nice.

Okay, you put me between
'not at all' and 'kinda'. I'll take that.

Anyone who did that
and got 'not at all',

I'm scared they're either
a robot or secretly a serial killer,

so I'm happy I'm a little bit on the list.

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Okay, it's time.

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Let's find out, am I difficult?
Yes.

[credit music]

I'm quite nervous.

Question 1: I've often been
described as cold or uncaring.

I don't want to toot my own trumpet,

or my horn, or any of my other
woodwind instruments,

but I feel like I'm quite a caring person.

I remember people's birthdays,
I think about them,

I like to make people happy.

No one has ever looked me in the eyes
and said, you are a cold-hearted bitch.

But if I've been at a YouTube convention
like VidCon and surrounded by people

and a bit overwhelmed and anxious,

a YouTuber might've come up to me:
Hey Phil, how's it going? How's your day?

And I might've been like,
Uhh, I got to go to a panel!

and not been that friendly.
I've done that a few times.

They might have been like:
He's a dick.

But that's more anxiety
than being uncaring and horrible.

I just want to be liked.

So I'm going to give that
a double thumbs-down.

Next: I think about hurting and/or
humiliating people who annoy me.

Okay, right. [laughs]

This is going to sound bad.

I don't think about
actually hurting people,

but I do fantasize about bad things
happening. [giggles]

If someone's really pissed me off,
if they've really annoyed me, I'm like,

I hope that ants crawl up your shorts
in the middle of the night. [gasp effect]

I'll think about that,
and I'll fantasise about

them hopping around
being bitten by ants.

So yeah, I do that.
Everyone does that.

You'd be lying if you don't.

I'm going to give it a mostly yes.

It'd be kinda disturbing
if I said, YES.

I sometimes get into dangerous situations.

I was about to say no,
but I'm so clumsy and accident-prone,

I think it's probably a yes. [giggles]

Me and Dan were trying to get a mirror
back on the wall the other day.

He'd hooked his side on and was like:
Phil, have you hooked your side on?

There were two hooks like this
and I was going like that.

I was like:
Yeah, mine's in place as well.

I let go. The entire mirror swung
like an axe pendulum towards Dan.

It missed his head by about that much,

and completely sliced a phone charger
in half with all of that force,

and doing so ripped
one of the plug sockets down the wall

and quacked all the plaster.

That was a Final Destination moment
caused by me being like:

Yeah, I got it. I'm fine.

and not really thinking about
if I actually had it.

I never have it.
I don't have it.

This is the hit plug socket,

and the crack that goes
all the way down the wall.

Sorry landlord. I'm going to try
to be more careful in the future, okay?

[futuristic effect]

Hello from the future.

You might've seen on Twitter
that after filming this,

I walked crotch-first into a bollard.

Now I can't really bend my knee
which also hit the floor.

Don't worry, I'm not
going too high.

Here is where the bollard hit. Ow!

Yeah, I'm not going outside again.

Yeah, I do. I'm giving myself
a little green thumbs-up.

People tell me I am out of control.

No, my partying
[party popper]

is quite mild to say the least.

So I'm going to go [NO] on that one.

I often feel suspicious of people,
even if they've acted loyally towards me.

I think for everyone
the suspicious snake can rear its head,

but generally, if someone's loyal to me,
I'm not suspicious of them.

That's weird.
They're loyal. They're nice.

I would say double no.

[sawing]

Why is someone revving up a chainsaw
outside the window?

Time for death.

People want to do-
People want to do me, is what I read.

No. [laughs] I hope so.

People do what I want them to
because they're afraid of me.

No, I'm very meek.
If I'm in a business meeting,

I'll be like,
[high] maybe we could think about

perheps changing that
if it doesn't bother you too much.

I'm not very good
at asserting myself.

I do not think people are afraid of me,
so I'm going to say NO.

I often say and do things
without stopping to think.

Fully yes.
That is one of my worst qualities.

I'm always spontaneously jumping
into an idea or a situation

without fully thinking it through.
Hence the mirror swinging earlier.

If we were choosing between two sofas
for the new house,

I'd just sit on one and be like:
This is fine. This is the one.

while Dan'd be like,

no, we need to test both individually
with our asses, with our laptops,

with our feet up, and fully know
that the ass is happy.

Double fist.

Other people's emotions
are their problem, not mine.

Wow, quiz. I mean, everyone does
need to manage their own emotions,

that's the thing, but if someone's upset
near me, I'm not like,

ugh, gross, sort it out yourself.

I definitely want to comfort them
or talk it through.

So that's a full no.

Uff. I exploit others toward my own ends.
That's very villain-y.

[evil] I exploit you to my own ends.

Exploiting people is gross,
but I am a bit of a blagger.

If I go to a hotel, I might be really nice
to the person behind the desk and be like,

Are there any upgrades going today?

It never really worked for me,
[laughs] but it's worth the try.

I'm going to give that a medium no.

Generally speaking,
I am a superior person.

At first, I was going to be like:
No, I'm not superior.

But also, does that mean
I'm inferior to other people?

Can we not all just be middle?

I'm going to say middle.
I don't like it.

I am a unique individual [laughs]
who deserves special treatment.

Some YouTubers let their followers
and the fame go to their heads.

I don't think I'm like that.
I don't think I deserve special treatment,

but I do think everyone
deserves special treatment.

Everyone is unique.
Everyone deserves a little cake.

So I'm going to go a little bit of yes.

I am unique and I deserve cake
every now and then. [giggles]

People sometimes bother me
by just being around me.

Full yes. [laughs]

No offence to people, but I don't like
being around them that much.

In small doses, that's fine.

A music festival, I can do
for about an hour and then just be like,

aah, get me away from all these people!

I'm being honest. They do bother me.
Sorry world.

Others have told me I am a hothead.

When is the Incredi-Phil-Hulk coming out?

No, I'm quite a coolhead. [laughs]
A cucumber head.

The only thing that
irritates me is printers.

That's why I went to
one of those wreck rooms.

I just wanted to F up a printer.

[Alliance effect]

No, apart from printers,
I'm going to give that a no.

Other people have not told me that.

I enjoy coming out on top
after humiliating others.

No, that's too mean.
I don't like that.

Nah. Neh neh.

People who don't do as I say
need to be criticised.

If someone kicked a geese-
[giggles]

a goose, and I was like,
don't kick the geese,

then they didn't do what I said
and didn't say sorry to the goose,

they deserve to be criticised.

But I'm not a dictator that's like,

[low voice] You must do what I say.
Everything I say is important.

Neh. Medium no.

I hold grudges.

Yep. I am the grudge.
[goose noise]

Is that the noise
in the horror film?

It was like [goose noise].

That was weird.

Yeah, I do. That's a bad trait of me.

If someone's crossed me
or annoyed me or upset me,

and there's not been an apology
or we've not talked it out

I will have arguments with them
over and over in my head.

I will just think, urgh,
if anyone mentions their name.

I do hold a grudge.
I need to learn to let things go.

Let it go.

There's some YouTubers
I muted five years ago,

'cause they were rude to me.

They're probably nice people.
They might've been having a bad day.

But yeah, I'm bad.
I hold a grudge.

[goose]

Wow, oh my God.

I keep track of sensitive information

that can be used
to hurt people at a later time.

[laughs] No! I don't do that.

I'm a very good secret keeper actually.

If you've got a secret,
tell me your secret.

I won't tell anyone.

It's like a steel box [cloink].
I know everything about all your faves.

Shut up.

I often hesitate to confide in others.

Ooh, I feel called out.

I'm not good at talking
about my feelings to someone

unless I'm super close to them,
so I'm rarely like,

I'm really upset about this
and I need to talk about it.

I just store all of that inside my head.
I'm quite guarded.

I've got a bit of a British
stiff upper lip, that I should lose.

I should have a loose lip,
a wet, floppy lower lip.

Yes, I would hesitate.

I only obey those laws and rules
that seem sensible to me.

No, I'm such a nerd
when it comes to laws and rules.

No, the hotel might find out
if we move the sun lounger.

Yeah, all the hands.

Final questioné.
I don't really care if I offend others.

Ooh. No, I do care.
I really care, probably too much.

If I've upset a friend
and said something bad

it goes over and over in my head.

They hate me. What have I done?
I've ruined our friendship.

It's probably not that bad and
they don't think about it anymore,

but I'm still thinking about it.

So sorry I said
your hair looked a bit weird.

I didn't mean it.
I meant messy, okay? [laughs]

That's not a specific example.
But it could be.

The double negative is confusing me.

No, I don't really care
if I offend others.

No to that negative point.

[game show music]

Here we go mates.
My result is,

You are a somewhat difficult person
to get along with. 47 percent, what!

My biggest one is risk-taking.
I think that's because I was talking about

how I almost killed Dan with the mirror
and how I do take risks.

I feel like even though I'm clumsy,
when it's an important decision,

I do think it over quite a lot.

If it's something flippant like a sofa

or Dan's head against a mirror,
it's fine. I'll just do it.

But if it's something life-changingly
important, I will think about it.

People high in this trait seek sensation
to overcome boredom, and get pleasure

[laughs]
— sensations and pleasure —

from shocking others
with their adventures and stunts.

I'm not sure
if this is describing me that well.

I wouldn't jump out of a plane,
but I am quite impulsive.

Risk-takers can make
others around them feel ill at ease,

since their actions may have consequences
for others as well as themselves.

I did almost smash a mirror
into someone's head,

so that made Dan feel ill at ease.

My callousness is the smallest.
I'm like a little rabbit.

Dominance is also low.

I guess I'm submissive. [giggles]

And aggression is also low.

I'm basically a kind, submissive rabbit
that likes taking risks. [laughs]

Grandiosity is my next highest one.

People high in grandiosity tout
their abilities and their accomplishments,

while downplaying
the contributions of others.

I don't think that's true,
but I see how it was slightly raised,

Because a lot of my answers were like,

Yeah, but everyone
should think they're great. It's fine.

So we should all be
a bit grandiose. It's okay.

They tend to put themselves on a pedestal

and have a sense of entitlement
about them.

Wow. Bow down to me.

If you look at the chart,
I'm only halfway.

So just bow down to me
a little bit. [laughs]

Callous people have no empathy,

so that's shown that I have
a lot of empathy for people,

'cause that's one of the traits
I value in myself.

I should maybe be
a little bit more dominant.

[imitates whip, laughs]

If I'm in a meeting or with some friends

and they all want to do something
that I don't want to,

I should assert myself.
I should assert dominance and say,

No, I don't like that.

That was interesting. I didn't
expect risk-taking to be so high,

but it made me think I should maybe
be a bit more open with my emotions

and not care about
what people think about me as much.

I shouldn't get in my head as much as I do
and just live life and see what happens.

I mean, saying that out loud was hard,
so I got a long way to go, guys.

So rather than saying
I'm a 47 percent difficult person,

I'm a 63 percent easy-going guy.

That sounds a lot better.

My brain has been
poked and prodded enough today,

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