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An unexpected place of healing

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    I'm actually going to share
    something with you
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    I haven't talked about
    probably in more than 10 years.
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    So bear with me as I take you
    through this journey.
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    When I was 22 years old,
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    I came home from work,
    put a leash on my dog
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    and went for my usual run.
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    I had no idea that at that moment,
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    my life was going to change forever.
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    While I was preparing my dog for the run,
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    a man was finishing drinking at a bar,
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    picked up his car keys, got into a car
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    and headed south,
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    or wherever he was.
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    I was running across the street,
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    and the only thing
    that I actually remember
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    is feeling like a grenade
    went off in my head.
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    And I remember
    putting my hands on the ground
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    and feeling my life's blood
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    emptying out of my neck and my mouth.
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    What had happened is, he ran a red light
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    and hit me and my dog.
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    She ended up underneath the car.
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    I flew out in front of the car,
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    and then he ran over my legs.
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    My left leg got caught up
    in the wheel well --
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    spun it around.
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    The bumper of the car hit my throat,
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    slicing it open.
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    I ended up with blunt chest trauma.
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    Your aorta comes up behind your heart,
    it's your major artery --
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    and it was severed, so my blood
    was gurgling out of my mouth.
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    It foamed, and ... horrible things
    were happening to me.
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    I had no idea what was going on,
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    but strangers intervened,
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    kept my heart moving, beating.
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    I say "moving," because it was quivering,
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    and they were trying to put
    a beat back into it.
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    Somebody was smart
    and put a Bic pen in my neck
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    to open up my airway,
    so I could get some air in there.
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    And my lung collapsed,
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    so somebody cut me open
    and put a pen in there as well,
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    to stop that catastrophic
    event from happening.
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    Somehow I ended up at the hospital.
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    I was wrapped in ice,
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    and then eventually put
    into a drug-induced coma.
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    Eighteen months later, I woke up.
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    I was blind, I couldn't speak
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    and I couldn't walk.
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    I was 64 pounds.
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    The hospital really has no idea
    what to do with people like that.
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    And in fact, they started
    to call me a "gomer."
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    That's another story
    we won't even get into.
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    I had so many surgeries
    to put my neck back together,
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    to repair my heart a few times.
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    Some things worked, some things didn't.
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    I had lots of titanium put in me;
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    cadaver bones,
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    to try to get my feet
    moving the right way.
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    And I ended up with a plastic nose,
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    porcelain teeth
    and all kinds of other things.
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    But eventually,
    I started to look human again.
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    But ...
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    It's hard sometimes
    to talk about these things,
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    so bear with me.
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    I had more than 50 surgeries.
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    But who's counting?
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    (Laughter)
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    So eventually, the hospital decided
    it was time for me to go.
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    They needed to open up
    space for somebody else
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    that they thought could come back
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    from whatever they were going through.
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    Everybody lost faith in me
    being able to recover.
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    So they basically put a map
    up on the wall, threw a dart,
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    and it landed at a senior home,
    here in Colorado.
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    And I know all of you
    are scratching your head:
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    "A senior citizens' home?
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    What in the world
    are you going to do there?"
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    But if you think about
    all of the skills and talent
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    that are in this room right now,
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    that's what a senior home has.
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    So there were all these skills and talents
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    that these seniors had.
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    The one advantage
    they had over most of you
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    is wisdom,
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    because they had a long life.
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    And I needed that wisdom
    at that moment in my life.
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    But imagine what it was like for them
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    when I showed up at their doorstep.
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    At that point, I had gained
    four pounds, so I was 68 pounds.
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    I was bald.
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    I was wearing hospital scrubs.
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    And somebody donated tennis shoes for me.
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    And I had a white cane in one hand
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    and a suitcase full of medical
    records in another hand.
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    So the senior citizens realized
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    that they needed to have
    an emergency meeting.
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    (Laughter)
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    So they pulled back
    and they were looking at each other,
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    and they were going, "OK,
    what skills do we have in this room?
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    This kid needs a lot of work."
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    So they eventually started
    matching their talents and skills
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    to all of my needs.
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    But one of the first things
    they needed to do
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    was assess what I needed right away.
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    I needed to figure out how to eat
    like a normal human being,
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    since I'd been eating
    through a tube in my chest
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    and through my veins.
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    So I had to go
    through trying to eat again.
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    And they went through that process.
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    And then they had to figure out:
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    "Well, she needs furniture.
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    She is sleeping in the corner
    of this apartment."
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    So they went to their storage lockers
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    and all gathered their extra furniture --
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    gave me pots and pans, blankets --
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    everything.
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    And then the next thing that I needed
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    was a makeover.
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    (Laughter)
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    So out went the green scrubs,
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    and in came the polyester
    and floral prints.
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    (Laughter)
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    We're not going to talk
    about the hairstyles
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    they tried to force on me
    once my hair grew back.
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    But I did say no to the blue hair.
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    (Laughter)
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    So eventually, what went on is,
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    they decided that, well,
    I need to learn to speak.
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    You can't be an independent person
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    if you're not able to speak
    and you can't see.
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    So they figured not being able
    to see is one thing,
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    but they need to get me to talk.
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    So while Sally, the office manager,
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    was teaching me to speak in the day --
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    it's hard, because when you're a kid,
    you take things for granted.
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    You learn things unconsciously.
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    But for me, I was an adult
    and it was embarrassing,
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    and I had to learn how to coordinate
    my new throat with my tongue
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    and my new teeth and my lips,
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    and capture the air and get the word out.
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    So, I acted like a two-year-old,
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    and refused to work.
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    But the men had a better idea.
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    They were going to make it fun for me.
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    So they were teaching me
    cuss-word Scrabble at night.
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    (Laughter)
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    And then, secretly,
    how to swear like a sailor.
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    (Laughter)
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    I'm going to just leave it
    to your imagination
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    as to what my first words were --
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    (Laughter)
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    when Sally finally got
    my confidence built.
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    (Laughter)
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    So I moved on from there.
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    And a former teacher
    who happened to have Alzheimer's
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    took on the task of teaching me to write.
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    The redundancy was actually good for me.
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    So, we'll just keep moving on.
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    (Laughter)
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    One of the pivotal times for me
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    was actually learning
    to cross the street again
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    as a blind person.
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    So close your eyes.
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    Now imagine you have to cross a street.
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    You don't know how far that street is,
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    and you don't know
    if you're going straight.
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    And you hear cars whizzing back and forth,
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    and you had a horrible accident
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    that landed you in this situation.
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    So there were two obstacles
    I had to get through.
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    One was post-traumatic stress disorder.
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    Every time I approached
    the corner or the curb,
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    I would panic.
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    And the second one
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    was actually trying to figure out
    how to cross that street.
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    So one of the seniors just came up to me,
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    and she pushed me
    up to the corner and said,
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    "When you think it's time to go,
    just stick the cane out there.
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    If it's hit, don't cross the street."
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    (Laughter)
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    Made perfect sense.
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    (Laughter)
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    But by the third cane
    that went whizzing across the road --
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    (Laughter)
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    they realized that they needed
    to put their resources together,
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    and they raised funds
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    so that I could go
    to the Braille Institute
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    and actually gain the skills
    to be a blind person,
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    and also to go get a guide dog,
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    who transformed my life.
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    And I was able to return to college
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    because of the senior citizens
    who invested in me,
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    and also the guide dog
    and skill set I had gained.
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    Ten years later, I gained my sight back.
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    Not magically --
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    I opted in for three surgeries,
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    and one of them was experimental.
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    It was actually robotic surgery
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    that removed a hematoma
    from behind my eye.
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    The biggest change for me
    was that the world moved forward,
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    that there were innovations
    and all kinds of new things --
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    cellphones, laptops,
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    all these things
    that I had never seen before.
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    And as a blind person,
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    your visual memory fades,
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    and is replaced with how you
    feel about things
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    and how things sound
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    and how things smell.
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    So one day, I was in my room
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    and I saw this thing sitting in my room.
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    I thought it was a monster,
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    so I was walking around it.
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    And I go, "I'm just going to touch it."
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    And I touched it and I went,
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    "Oh my God, it's a laundry basket."
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    (Laughter)
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    Everything is different
    when you're a sighted person,
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    because you take that for granted.
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    But when you're blind,
    you have the tactile memory for things.
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    The biggest change for me
    was looking down at my hands
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    and seeing that I'd lost
    10 years of my life.
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    I thought that time
    had stood still for some reason
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    and moved on for family and friends.
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    But when I looked down,
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    I realized that time
    marched on for me, too,
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    and that I needed to get caught up.
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    So I got going on it.
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    We didn't have words like "crowdsourcing"
    and "radical collaboration"
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    when I had my accident.
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    But the concept held true --
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    people working with people to rebuild me;
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    people working with people
    to reeducate me.
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    I wouldn't be standing here today
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    if it wasn't for extreme
    radical collaboration.
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    Thank you so much.
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    (Applause)
Title:
An unexpected place of healing
Speaker:
Ramona Pierson
Description:

When Ramona Pierson was 22, she was hit by a drunk driver and spent 18 months in a coma. At TEDxDU she tells the remarkable story of her recovery -- drawing on the collective skills and wisdom of a senior citizens' home.

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Duration:
10:52
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