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Evan Carmichael:
He's an
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American motivational speaker, personal finance
instructor and self-help author.
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He became well known from his infomercials
and self-help books.
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In 2013, Forbes estimated his net worth at
480 million dollars.
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He's Tony Robbins, and here are his Top Ten
Rules For Success.
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Tony Robbins:
Ultimately, if you're going to have lasting
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change in anything, you're really talking
about just raising your standards.
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I mean, I always tell people; if you want
to know how to change your life, I'll give
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it to you in three words, boring as it sounds,
"raise your standards."
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Now, what does that mean, corny as it sounds,
"raise your standards"?
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"Well, thank you for the breakthrough thought,
Tony.
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I'm glad I wasted my time watching this little
email with you."
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Think about it.
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Lasting change is different than a goal.
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You don't always get your goals, but you always
get your standards.
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Maybe what'll help you is to think about it
this way.
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I try to explain standards to people with
a different set of words.
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Think of it as everybody in life gets their
"musts."
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They don't get their "shoulds."
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Think about it.
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Most people have a list of "shoulds"; don't
they?
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Don't you have a list of "shoulds," things
you should do, you should follow through on?
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"I should lose some weight."
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"I should work out more."
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"I should make more calls."
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"I should respond more rapidly to my email,"
whatever.
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"I should get into the office earlier."
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"I should be more confident."
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Whatever your "should" list, people love to
have their "should" list be met, but it's
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like New Year's resolutions.
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If it does, it's really exciting.
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If it doesn't, which is most of the time,
it's a little disappointing, but you kind
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of know it's not going to happen.
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When you decide something is a "must" for
you, an absolute "must," when you cut off
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any possible... you say, "I'm going to find
a way, or I'm going to make the way."
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Human beings, when they resolve things, when
they make a real resolution inside themselves,
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which is they raise the standard and they
make it a "must," they find the way.
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Think about it in your own life.
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Haven't you had some area of your life where
you raised your standard, and your life has
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never been the same?
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Maybe, at one time in your life, you smoked
cigarettes.
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Or you did something, and you did it for years.
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You kept trying to change it, trying to change
it and kept telling yourself, "I should."
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Then, one day, something happened.
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Something just clicked you over.
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Something took you over that tipping point,
and inside yourself, you said, "No more."
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That was a very, very different experience;
wasn't it?
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Something inside of you shifted.
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What was a "should" became a "must," and you've
never gone back.
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Is there an area like that in your life that
you can think of?
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Again, did you ever smoke cigarettes?
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Did you ever eat a certain way, drink a certain
form of alcohol and then finally say, "No
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more," and you just don't go back?
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Notice this; it doesn't really take any willpower,
anymore, because somewhere, when we make this
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click, when we make something a "must," we
attach ourselves to it.
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It becomes part of our identity.
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One thing I've learned, in the last, gosh,
33 years of work on people from, now, over
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100 countries, four million people, is human
beings absolutely follow through on who they
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believe they are.
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If you said to me, "Well, I'm really going
to work hard to stop smoking, but I've been
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a smoker my whole life.
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I am a smoker," I know your days are numbered.
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You're going to be back smoking cigarettes,
again, because we all act consistent with
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who we believe we are.
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I tell people the strongest force in the whole
human personality is this need to stay consistent
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with how we define ourselves.
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If you define yourself as somebody who is
really conservative, you're not going to be
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crazy and act nuts, unless you're really drunk
or something.
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Then you can say it's the alcohol, when it's
really just you finally getting permission
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to be yourself.
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The alcohol is your excuse.
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If you're a really crazy person, you act crazy,
outrageous, playful.
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You don't act conservative because it's not
who you are.
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Very often people say, "Well, I can't do that.
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I'm not that kind of person."
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I always say to people, "Really?
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When did you define yourself?
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I mean, really, how many years ago did you
come up with what you could and couldn't do
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in your life?
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How many years ago?"
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Most people, if they really look at how they're
living their life today, it's based on a set
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of standards, a set of beliefs that they made
choices about 10, 20, 30 or more years ago.
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Very often, we made decisions in our youth,
or very young, about what to believe, about
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what we were capable of, about who we are
as a person, and that becomes the glass ceiling,
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if you will, that controls us.
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There is a corny metaphor, but it's true.
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I remember, one time, I was with my family
at the circus.
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There was a person there, and they had this
big, giant elephant.
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You look at this elephant.
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They take this little rope, put it around
the elephant's neck, and they drive this stake
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into the ground.
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I mean, you look at this, and you know that
elephant could rip down the entire tent with
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almost no effort.
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Yet, the elephant doesn't struggle, doesn't
try.
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Why?
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Because the elephant's conditioned.
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They could take that elephant and condition
the elephant when it's a baby elephant.
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That's how they train them.
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When it's a little baby elephant and it doesn't
have the power, yet, they put a big rope around
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it, and they drive this huge stake in the
ground.
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The elephant fights and fights and fights.
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One day, finally, that elephant decides, "I'm
not capable of pulling this out."
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Once that becomes the definition of an identity
of anyone - an elephant, in this case - they
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don't even try, anymore.
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"It's just who I am.
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That's how it is.
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That's just the way it is in my life."
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I'd like to ask you to take a look at any
place you've got a limitation and ask yourself,
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"When did I decide to accept that limitation?"
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You may not even see it as a limitation.
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You might see it as, just, "That's who I am."
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So often, in our lives, we've adapted to be
a certain way, so that we don't fail or so
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that people will like us or respect us.
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It's not necessarily who we are.
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Joy comes when you're spontaneous.
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It's really hard to be truly happy when you're
not being yourself, and most of us have no
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clue who we are.
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A big part of my work - if you've ever been
to event, you know - is to get people to do
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things spontaneously, without thinking, because
that's when the real you shows up.
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That's when the energy comes alive.
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When you do that, when you start to connect
your true nature, suddenly, there's energy
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available for you to set a higher standard
for what you want in your life.
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That's what this is really all about.
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When I talk about "standards" or I talk about
"shoulds" versus "musts," think about your
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own life.
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I know there have been areas in your life
where, at some point in time, you just shifted.
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You raised the standard, and your life changed
because whatever people have their identity
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attached to, they live.
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We live who we believe we are.
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That's just how it works.
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I'll give you an example.
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Look at your physical body.
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Your physical body, today, is an absolute
reflection of only one thing.
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Not your goals, not your desires, but your
standards, the identity you have for yourself.
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If your standard is you're an athlete, then
there's a certain amount of strength, a muscle
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tone, an energy that's available in your body,
on a regular basis, because that's who you
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are.
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You do whatever is necessary to maintain that
identity.
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Again, the strongest force in the human personality
is this need to stay consistent with how we
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define ourselves because if you don't know
who you are, you wouldn't know how to act.
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Once you lock in on that identity, your brain
finds a way to keep you there.
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If you say, "Man, I'm overweight.
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I've always been overweight.
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I'm big-boned" and that's the story you've
got, then you're going to always find a way
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to get back there.
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That's your settling point.
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That's your identity.
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That's where things lock in.
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If you see somebody who's in really great
shape, you ask them, "Do you work out?"
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You know the answer, "Yes."
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"How often?"
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They'll tell you, "Three times," "Four times,"
"Five times a week," whatever.
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In a seminar, I'll ask people, "Who, here,
works out at least five days a week?
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Stand up."
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You look around that room, and you know that
they work out five times a week because you
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can see their body.
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You don't just get a result without some kind
of action, without some form of ritual; "ritual,"
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meaning actions you do consistently.
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Now, do you believe those people that are
out there, working out five days a week, do
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they have more time than you do or I have
or anybody else?
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Of course not.
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Is their life less busy?
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Of course not.
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It's just a "must" for them.
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They must work out that way.
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They've made that turn, and their life changed.
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I'm not saying you have to work out five days
a week.
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I'm just saying, whatever you really want,
"wants" don't get met consistently; "standards"
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do.
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Whatever you identify, "This is who I am."
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It's not so much about changing your identity,
as it is expanding it; deciding that, instead
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of your goal is to lose 10 pounds, which is
not compelling, what if your vision was to
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"get back to my fighting weight"?
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"This year," "This month," "This next 90 days,
I'm going to transform my body.
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I'm going to take on a new challenge.
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I'm going to find some technique or strategy.
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There's a million of them - that can reframe
myself."
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Or, "I want to feel younger, stronger, more
vibrant than ever before.
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Here are my reasons.
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I want the energy to really make my life work
because it's tough out there, and I want to
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be stronger than I've ever been before.
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I want to go in front of the mirror, and if
I'm naked, not want to laugh.
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I want to look there and take a good look,
and go, 'Yeah.
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I'm proud of whatever I see there.'"
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Whatever it takes.
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Something is going to make you laugh, smile.
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Something is going to tease yourself, but
something is going to move you to another
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level.
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If you identify yourself in a new way, you
own that every day and that becomes the standard
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of how you live, you'll find a way to make
that standard real.
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Money is the same way.
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Think about it.
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It doesn't matter what's happening "in the
marketplace."
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People that make money find a way to make
money, no matter what; don't they?
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I mean, most people's standard is to pay their
bills, so that's what most people find a way
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to do.
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Even when economic times get tough, most people,
if that's their absolute standard, they find
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a way.
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Some people's standard is to pay their bills
most of the time, and so, most of the time,
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they do.
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Some people's standard is not just to pay
their bills, but to take care of their family
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and maybe even some of their friends.
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They find a way.
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In fact, some people may be in a family where,
if they don't have enough money...
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They barely have money to pay their bills.
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They worked their guts out, and then somebody
- their mother, their father or somebody else,
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their sister - gets ill.
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There's not enough money to take care of it.
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Nobody else has money in the family.
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They don't, either, but they find a way to
get that money and take care of their mother
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or father, don't they, and pay their bills.
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They never could do it before.
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Why?
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The situation made them raise their own standard.
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Not everybody does that.
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Somebody else in the family might have money
and still not take care of their mother.
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It all comes down to the inner game, my friends.
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Changing your life is a change in the inner
game.
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The outside world, you can't control, but
you have absolute control over this one, if
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you learn the dynamics of what shapes you.
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Identity is one of those simple, clear, fundamental
basics that if you start to shift it, everything
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else will shift in your life, as well.
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Somebody will, by the way, have to have more
than enough money to do what they want, when
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they want, where they want, with whomever
they want, contribute the way they want.
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If that's their "must," they find a way.
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I know that sounds overly simplistic, but
it's true.
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Somebody once said you could take all the
money in the world out of the hands of everybody,
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out of all the wealthy people in the world
who are really successful, give it to other
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people.
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It wouldn't take too long; those people would
have it back in their hands.
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It's not because they're manipulative.
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It's because they have standard.
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Some are manipulative.
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Don't get me wrong, but they have a standard
of what they're going to find a way to make
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happen.
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I'm just simply saying to you, take those
three magic words and live them.
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Raise your standard.
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Michael Gerber, the guy that wrote The E-Myth,
talks about why so many businesses, young
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businesses fail.
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One of the things he says is most people are
not really entrepreneurs, but they think that's
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what they should be.
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They think that's the sexy thing, that's the
most attractive thing, that's the best answer.
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What I say to you is you've got to separate
the vehicle from the outcome.
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What is it that's going to truly fulfill you?
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What is it that's going to give you that extraordinary
life?
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What's going to make things magnificent, on
your terms, not somebody else's terms, not
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your father, your mother, your background?
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What is that, really?
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Separate the vehicle.
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There are many ways to get to that vehicle,
but I'm saying, sometimes you have to reevaluate
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what's going to really make you fulfilled.
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What is your gift?
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Are you an artist?
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Are you the talent that can produce something
no one else produces as a skill, a product,
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a service or some impact?
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Are you incredibly good at management; you
really know how to manage or lead people?
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Are you an extraordinary entrepreneur that
can take that gigantic gut-load of risk, create
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the vision, attract the talent that you need,
the managers and leaders?
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You may have all three abilities, but which
one really fulfills you the most, is going
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to be the critical question.
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We tend to want to do them all, especially
in a room like this, because you're all overachievers;
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right?
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Me, too.
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You say, "Well, I can do all these."
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Yes, you can, but what will it do to your
quality of life?
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See, again, the secret is going to be this.
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What is an extraordinary life, on your terms,
today?
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Things, getting things is not going to make
you happy.
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That's good news in a tough economy.
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It's a good reminder.
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It doesn't matter what you get.
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It doesn't matter whether it be money or opportunity.
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All those things might excite you for the
moment.
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Even a relationship, as magnificent as it
may be, might exciting for a while, but if
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you don't keep growing, that relationship
isn't going to stay exciting.
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The secret to real happiness is progress.
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Progress equals happiness, and if we can make
progress on a regular basis, we feel alive.
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That's why, at the beginning of the year,
we get this thing like, "Okay.
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I could have this fresh start.
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I could really do what my soul desires.
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I could expand.
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I could grow.
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I could improve.
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I could change.
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Or maybe, better than change, I could progress."
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See, think about that.
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Progress has an aliveness to it; doesn't it?
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You don't have to work at changing.
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People say all the time, now, "Well, I'm working
on changing."
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Don't worry about it.
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You don't have to work on changing.
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Change is automatic.
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Your body is going to change, whether you
want it or not, as the years go by.
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No matter how hard you work, there are going
to be some changes going on there.
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The economy is going to change, no matter
what you want it to do.
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The weather is going to change.
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Relationships are going to change.
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Everything in life is always changing.
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We don't have to work on change.
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Change is automatic, but progress is not.
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If you want to make real progress, then you
really have to look at your life in a different
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way.
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You have to say, "I have to take control of
this process and not just hope it's going
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to work out," like people do who make a resolution.
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Treat people, at the end of the relationship,
like it's the beginning, and there won't be
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an end.
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That's not just your intimate relationship.
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What if your customers...
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What if you fell in love with your customers,
with your clients more than your product,
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more than your company?
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If your entire life is about meeting their
needs, if you would do what for your customers
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or clients, you would do what?
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If you loved your customers and clients; you'd
do anything, guess what?
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They're going to love you.
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Most people love their customers and clients
as long as they buy from them, do what they
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want, respond to them.
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If they don't, they go, "That's the end."
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You want clients for life, not just customers,
fall in love with them.
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It's a different focus; isn't it?
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It's a different meaning, and that creates
a different life because you make decisions
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differently from that place.
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What does it take to create world-class marketing?
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What is the unique selling proposition?
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What is what we call "value-added marketing,"
VAM?
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Today, most people are sick and tired of advertising
because where is it?
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Everywhere.
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In fact, I have a question for you.
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How many of you, in this room, do not even
see banner ads, anymore?
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Literally, it's there, but you don't perceive
it, like your brain literally washes it out.
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Raise your hand if that's true.
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Keep your hands nice and high, and look around
the room right now.
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You'll see 98% of the people wash it out,
so don't buy them, unless you're going to
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create something really unique.
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It's a total waste of your money and your
time, in the world we're in today.
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Today, what creates marketing is when you
don't just market, but you add value to people.
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You do something.
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You teach them.
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You give them an insight.
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You give something valuable that costs them
nothing, and then they look to you as an expert.
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They look to you as a person that adds value.
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They want you to supply them more information,
more experience, more products and more services.
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If you lend me this whole business about meeting
your needs, you can run a successful business,
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but it'll be a job because you'll never be
able to sell it.
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If it's just meeting your needs, it's not
a system.
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It demands your attention, your connection.
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It's giving what you want.
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Ultimately, it's not going to give somebody
else what they want, so you can't sell it.
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If you can't sell your business, if you don't
have an exit strategy, you have a job.
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I don't care how successful the business is.
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That doesn't mean you have to sell the business,
but one of the most important decisions you
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make in business is, ultimately, "If I was
going to sell this, if I chose to, I have
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to know who would I sell this to, so that
I have long-term value, not just an income
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along the way.
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I have this critical mass here.
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I have a multiple of my business."
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Most people don't have a clear exit strategy.
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They think, "I'll come up with that someday."
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You have to start with that in the mind.
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That has to be part of your focus, if you're
going to be successful in your business.
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I can remember the gentleman who built CAA
in Hollywood.
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It was the largest, most successful agency;
right?
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Michael Ovitz, remember that name?
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He put together Nike, Coca-Cola and these
billion-dollar deals.
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Eventually, Michael Ovitz went to go sell
that business.
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He had never thought through an exit strategy,
and he got almost nothing for it because the
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laws prevented him from selling it to a studio.
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He had to sell it to some of his employees
for pennies on its real value.
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Mike found a way to make money, later on,
in another place, off of Disney, but the bottom
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line is the guy didn't have an exit strategy.
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It was brilliant.
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He made lots of money.
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In the end, didn't get the value.
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Whenever people fail to achieve their goals,
99.9% of the time, you ask them why and they'll
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tell you it's because of a lack of resources.
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That's what all these things are.
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"I didn't have the support," right?
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"I didn't have the money."
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"We didn't have the time."
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"We didn't have this."
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"We didn't have that."
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There is a resource that people believe is
missing, and that resource belief structure
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then keeps people from every being able to
really lead because what leaders do is they
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find a way to maximize whatever resources
they have, as little as they may be.
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They don't believe in limited resources.
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I'll give you an example.
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Let's take a business example, to start with.
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In 1974, a guy named Sam Walton had built
his little company up.
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He came up with an idea.
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He started with $20,000 in, I think, 1962,
if I remember right.
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By 1974, within 12 years, he had 78 stores,
and you know how he did it?
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In the middle of the night, he'd drive across
the border, and he'd go and study other people's
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stores.
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He'd buy everything the cheapest he could,
in the middle of the night.
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He'd go to other people's stores.
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Whatever was working, he figured out.
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Success leaves clues.
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He came back and did it in his store.
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Whatever was working in any store, in any
competitor, anywhere he could do it, he did
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it.
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He figured out how to maximize the little
resources he had, his 20,000; built 78 stores.
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If you read any of the people following him
- the company had gone public in that year
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- they're all saying, "This is it.
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He's maximized his resources."
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He only had so much money.
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There are only so many cities that are going
to appeal to this "discounting" mentality;
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right?
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This is it.
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This is all he can do, and the word on Wall
Street was "sell."
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Now, what's interesting is, at that time,
you look at Sears and Kmart, and they were
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gargantuan companies, weren't they; 20, 30,
40, 50 times, 100 times his size or more,
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probably?
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At that time, they were the leaders, and they
knew what was going to happen.
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Did things change; yes or no?
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Did he suddenly get mass amounts of capital?
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No.
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Here's what they didn't understand?
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Sam Walton, now, or the Walton organization,
Walmart, is the most successful retailing
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operation on Earth.
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When you talk about Bill Gates being the richest
man in the world, that's only true because
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Sam's fortune is divided amongst a bunch of
different family members.
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You put them together, they dwarf Bill Gates.
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Sam Walton did this.
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How did he do it?
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What people underestimated is that this guy
could go to 4,400 stores, do 250 billion.
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Where is Kmart today?
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They've been shrinking.
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All of them have been shrinking, and he is
the dominant force on Earth.
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Here's the thing he understood; resources
are interesting, but the ultimate resources
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are the feelings of emotion that make you
resourceful.
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Think of it this way; resourcefulness is the
ultimate resource.
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What do I mean?
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What are the emotions that make all this possible?
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What's the fuel that takes an idea from being
in your head, where you, intellectually, know
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what to do?
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How many have had an idea, for example, it
was a great idea; you're excited about it,
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and then you didn't do anything?
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Then, one day, there you saw it, on the shelf.
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You saw it somewhere.
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Someone stole your idea.
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How many have had this happen?
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Say "Aye"?
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[audience says "aye"] The only difference
between you and that person was not that they
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had more resources.
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They were more resourceful.
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Success and failure are not giant events.
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They don't just show up.
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You don't just suddenly became successful
or suddenly have this cataclysmic event that
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makes you fail.
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It may look that way, but failure comes from
all the little things.
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It's failure to make the call.
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It's failure to check the books.
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It's failure to say "I'm sorry."
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It's failure to push yourself to do things,
physically, that you don't want to do.
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All those little failures, day after day,
come together until, one day, some cataclysmic
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event happens, and you blame that.
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That event happened because you missed all
the little stuff.
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Do you agree with me?
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Success, by the way, is not some overnight
event.
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It's all these little things.
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Success is having a vision.
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Success is making it compelling.
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Success is really seeing it and feeling it,
every day, with strong enough reasons.
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Success is feeling the sense that "I'm here
to grow, and I'm here to give something to
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the world, more than just myself."
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All the little stuff, that's where success
comes from.
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In business, it comes from delivering more
than anybody could imagine.
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All those little things add up, and people
go, "Wow.
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That's who I want to do business with."
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It's true in any area of your life.
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Leverage is critical.
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You know how I get so much done?
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Because I don't just get it done.
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I know the outcome.
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I know the purpose, and I look for leverage.
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Leverage is different than delegation.
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What's the problem with delegation?
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Delegation is you have all that needs to be
done, so you give it to someone else.
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You tell them what needs to be done, and when
they don't do it, you're pissed off.
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Leverage says, "I can move the biggest boulder
in the world, with a little bit of effort.
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I have something I can do it with, but I'm
still part of it."
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Leverage is, if I'm going to leverage something
here with Tom, I'm going to make sure Tom
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understands the what?
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The outcome.
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I want to make sure Tom understands the...?
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The purpose, the why and the action.
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I might say to Tom, "If you can get this done
without this action or better action, go for
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it, baby, and I want to talk to you on this
date.
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We have to promise that we're going to check
in before it's needed, so there are no surprises.
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If you're having problems, Tom, come back
to me because we're partners on this."
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That, I call "leverage."
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You know what I do when I have no time?
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There is time.
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I just have to leverage it.
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You know what I'm saying?
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You say, "I have no one to leverage it, too."
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Shane, over here, right?
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I have all the stuff he wants to do; can't
leverage it.
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Shane's answer was hire somebody.
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Then he thinks about what it's going to take,
and goes, "$125,000, I can't do that now."
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He's getting caught up in one way to get the
outcome.
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Leverage.
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He goes through his list, and goes, "What
if I go someone to do 20% of this stuff?
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I could spend 20 grand to get that much freedom.
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I could pay for it times 10."
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Hmm.
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If I'm really productive, my productivity
should enhance the world.
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Not only in my clients and customers; but
it should provide jobs for other people.
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If there's anything you hate to do, it's because
you're either ineffective at it or you don't
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think it's very important, but it is urgent.
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You need to hire somebody for those things,
and ideally, somebody who loves that job.
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You're never going to grow when your time
is eaten up for activities that aren't that
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important.
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Activity without high levels of purpose is
the drain of your fortune.
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Do it now.
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If you can't get it all now, do a part of
it now.
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Leverage is power.
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Leverage is ultimate power.
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Here's what I've created for me life, and
anyone I know has succeeded.
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I'm a 17-year-old kid from Mezuzah, California,
with no real education, other than self-education;
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with no background; with parents that did
their best, all of them; with no money.
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I did one thing.
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I love people, and I had a enormous banana
[sp?
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0:24:10.8] made upon myself.
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I sculpted my mind and my emotions to get
me to do whatever it would take to achieve
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and to contribute, but to do that, I did it
by using my body and changing my focus.
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I did it by putting myself in a peak physiology
and using what I called "incantations."
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Can you train yourself to believe something;
yes or no?
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[audience says "yes"] Absolutely.
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How many of you ever made the fatal mistake
of going to Disneyland or Disney World, and
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while you're there, made the fatal mistake
of going to a ride called It's a Small World
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After All?
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[laughter] What happens for about a week after
you're out of that damn place?
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You're still singing this thing in your head,
in 24 languages; right?
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Well, let me tell you something.
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How many of you have things, when you want
to go achieve them, and this part of your
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voice goes, "It's not going to happen" or
"Forget it"?
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How many have a voice that sometimes interrupts
that good pattern?
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Say "Aye." [audience says "aye"] What you
want to do is train a new one.
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Starting when I was 17, I started doing incantations,
not affirmations.
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Affirmation, you go, "I'm happy.
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I'm happy.
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I'm happy."
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What's the problem?
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You haven't changed your what?
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Your what?
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Physiology.
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If you don't change your physiology, you won't
get anything.
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An incantation is not only you speak it, but
you embody what you're saying with all the
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intensity you can.
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You do it with another repetitions that it
sticks in your head.
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Like It's a Small World Now, the conversation
in your head is always the same, and it gives
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you want you want.
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Use your body and your voice.
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Seventeen years ago, I started doing things.
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I was working for Jim Rohn, the speaker, and
I was 17 years old.
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I had long hair; minestrone soup acne on my
face.
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I was trying to call on Bear Stearns-type
of people and convince them why they should
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go to this man's seminar and be more successful.
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I was driving a 1968 Volkswagen that I had
earned at $40 a week, as a janitor.
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The only way I did it was park far from the
building and then go in.
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I loved people, and I believed.
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When I put myself in state, I was able to
influence people that were far more successful
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than I was at the time.
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I will do something that I still do backstage
and I've done for 23 years because I don't
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hope I'm going to be in good state.
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I demand it, so I do an incantation.
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Using my whole body, I'd say, "I no command
my subconscious mind to direct me in helping
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as many people as possible today, to better
their lives, by giving me the strength, the
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emotion, the persuasion, the humor, the brevity,
whatever it takes to show these people and
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get these people to change their lives now."
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I would that, literally, driving in my Volkswagen
to a meeting, in LA, on a freeway for 40 minutes.
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People would look.
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I'm screaming at the top of my lungs, and
they're going, "I know he's a serial killer.
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I know he is."
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By the time I entered that room...
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When two people meet, if there is rapport,
the person who is most certain will always
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influence the other person, and I was totally
certain.
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They were trying to get revved up to certainty.
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Do you agree with this; yes or no?
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[audience says "Yes"]
I'd do another one because I was poor.
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I had to change my mindset.
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I kept doing things, but I never got beyond
it.
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I'd say, "God's wealth is circulating in my
life.
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His wealth flows to me, in avalanches of abundance.
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All my needs, desires and goals are met instantaneously
by infinite intelligence.
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For I am one with God, and God is everything."
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I would imagine the abundance in my life,
and I would feel so grateful.
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A year later, I went from making $38,000 a
year to making a million dollars a year, in
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one year.
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Evan Carmichael:
Thank you so much for watching.
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I made this video because Subash Limbu and
my cameraman, Jason, asked me to.
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If there is a famous entrepreneur that you
want me to profile next, leave it in the comments
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below, and I'll see what I can do.
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I'd also love to know which of Tony Robbins
top 10 rules was the most impactful on you.
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Leave it in the comments, and I'll join the
discussion.
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Thank you so much for watching.
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Continue to believe, and I'll see you soon.
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BONUS
Tony Robbins:
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There's a man named Ken Blanchard who wrote
those books called The One Minute Manager
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books.
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He said something very early in my life.
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He said, "Tony," he said, "A business will
always consume whatever's available."
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And, he said, "I see you're coming out with
your first book."
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I was 24, it was Unlimited Power, and he goes,
"You're coming out with this book, I think
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it's going to be a big success.
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Do not put that money in your business.
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Take that money and put it into a separate
investment account that nobody else touches.
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He said, I'm telling you the business will
get all the benefit of all the media, of all
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the things that come to it, but the actual
dollars of that should stay out."
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He said the same thing when I had an infomercial.
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He said, "Take that money and put it aside."
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Well it was one of the best pieces of advice
I'd ever gotten in my entire life because
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I put it aside and there were times when that
money was needed.
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But, I was like putting it in a chapel, it
was like putting it where it was sacred money
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and it was not going to be touched.
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If someone came along and said, "You have
no money for your business, but guess what
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Obama just raised the taxes 20% more for your
business."
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You'd scream, you'd yell, you'd be upset and
you'd pay it.
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So, why not put your family first?
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Why not have a portion of what you own, or
what you earn, I should say, for yours to
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keep.
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It doesn't go to Kate Spade, it doesn't go
to Wall Street, it goes to your family.
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The way you do that is you tax yourself, it's
a wealth tax.
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You go, "That's my freedom fund."
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It comes off the top.
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The secret is automate it so you don't see
it, that's really the most important thing.
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Very often you're getting what you're asking
for you're just not aware of how general you're
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asking.
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Clarity is power.
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The more clear you are about exactly what
it is you want, the more your brain knows
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how to get there.
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Your brain is a servomechanism.
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It's like a bomb.
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Those bombs, those missiles, they have a servomechanism,
so if the target moves, it knows what the
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target is and it follows it.
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Your brain, when you condition it, knows exactly
what to go for and it will find a way to get
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there.
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Did you ever buy a certain outfit or a certain
car and suddenly see that car or outfit everywhere?
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How many of you have had that experience?
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Say, "I".
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How come that car or outfit is everywhere?
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It always was everywhere, but now you notice
it and the reason is because there's a part
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of your brain called the reticular activating
system, the RAS.
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That part of your brain determines what you
notice and what you don't notice.
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Your brain spends most of its time trying
to make sure you don't notice because you'll
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go crazy if you notice everything.
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But, when you decide what's most important
to you, your brain goes after it.
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Everyone I know who's successful, builds what
I call an RPM plan.
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RPM is built on the metaphor that the way
to get from where you are to where you want
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to go the fastest is you've got to build power,
like in a car, RPMs.
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The "R" stands for, they know the result in
the rafter, they know what they want precisely.
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If you don't know exactly what you want or
if you let yourself get beyond that into something
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general, you're not going to achieve it.
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Clarity is power.
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You've got to know the specific result you're
after.
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What do you want.
-
If you can't answer that question right now
in personal life, in your body, in your relationships,
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in your finances, in your spirituality, then
you're not going to be as fulfilled as you
-
want to be.
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Here's my assignment for you, if you want
one.
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If you want to go from conversation to some
action, here's a simple thing to do.
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What's an area in your life right now that
you really want to improve?
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What's an area that's important to improve?
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If you're body's great, how about your career?
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If your career's great, how about your relationships?
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Intimate ones especially.
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Or, your kids.
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Or, your relationship with your creator, your
spiritual side of your life.
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Or, is it your finances.
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Figure an area that really matters, decide
on that area.
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Number One: Write down what your life is like
in that area right now as specifically as
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possible.
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So, you might say, "Well I'm 13.5 pounds'
overweight.
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You know, whatever the weight is, whatever
the situation is.
-
Or, "My body fat's like this" or "I wake up
exhausted in the morning."
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And you write the truth of where you are right
now, so you're real clear.
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Or, I'm not in a relationship.
-
I say I want a relationship, but I'm not in
one.
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I don't seem to find them; all the good ones
seem to be gone is my belief.
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I really do want one, but I don't have it.
-
Whatever your definition is, "I'm in a relationship
and God I wish I wasn't in a relationship.
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I'm planning my escape."
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Wherever you are.
-
Or, "I have a wonderful relationship, we love
each other, but there just isn't enough passion."
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Just write the truth of where you are.
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The area you want to change, but write how
it is.
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The Second Step is, and this is where you've
got to be really honest with yourself, what
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are the rituals that have put there?
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Because, whatever results you're getting,
even if you don't like the results, there
-
are some rituals that are putting you in that
place.
-
There are some rituals of what you eat or
don't eat, how you move or don't move, how
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you sleep or don't sleep.
-
There are some rituals in the lack of variety
or spice or energy or focus in an area.
-
There's something you're doing and it's usually
not one thing, it's a bunch of little things
-
that you kind of do consistently whenever
you think about getting in a relationship,
-
whenever you think about working out, whenever
you think about money, you get yourself into
-
a state of overwhelm.
-
You start thinking about all of the things
you can't control.
-
Just write down all of the rituals you have.
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Here's the Third Step: What do you want?
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What's your vision?
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Be really specific.
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I want to be my fighting weight; I want to
be the strongest I've ever felt.
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I want to be.
-
. .I'm going to turn.
-
. .whatever it is, be specific.
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Last step Number Four: What are the rituals
that will get you there?
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What would you need to do differently each
morning if you were going be that kind of
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energy, that kind of strength?
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How often would you have to work out?
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What days would you work out?
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What time?
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A ritual is something you do consistently,
usually at a specific time so it becomes automatic.
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Let me tell you something, will power doesn't
last.
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But rituals can last a lifetime.
-
I bet you have some rituals you have in your
life that you've been doing for years, even
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though some of them don't serve you.
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I'm just saying, wake yourself up.
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If you want a new year and a new life, you
don't have to start on January first, start
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today.
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Start with this little video.
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Just begin to see what happens and see how
easy it is to just to a few little rituals.
-
Don't do them all, just do two or three new
things.
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You know what happens?
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You'll get momentum, because once you discipline
yourself in one area of your life, you feel
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yourself doing it in other areas as well.
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I always say something that my original teacher
taught me, I always remind people; there's
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always two pains in life, there's the pain
of discipline or there's the pain of regret.
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Discipline weighs ounces, as my friend Jim
Rohn taught me, regret weighs tons.
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You don't want to have regret.
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So, right now, what do you want to change,
what's it really like, what are the rituals
-
that got you there?
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That will take a little homework.
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If you're not sure, ask the people around
you, they'll tell you what your rituals are.
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What do I really want in depth, what are the
rituals that will get me there and then get
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yourself to start a few of those actions and
lock them in place.
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