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So efficient and hushed are our
brains in their day to day operations,
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we are apt to miss what an extraordinary
and complicated achievement it is to feel
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mentally well. A mind in a healthy state is,
in the background, continually performing
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a near-miraculous set of manoeuvres that underpin
our moods of clear-sightedness and purpose.
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To appreciate what mental health might be
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(and therefore what its opposite
involves), we might take a moment
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to consider some of what will be going on in
the folds of an optimally-functioning mind:
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First and foremost, a healthy mind is an
editing mind, an organ that manages to sieve,
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from thousands of stray, dramatic, disconcerting
or horrifying thoughts, those particular ideas and
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sensations that actively need to be entertained
in order for us to direct our lives effectively.
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Partly this means keeping at bay punitive
and critical judgements that might want to tell
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us repeatedly how disgraceful and appalling we
are - long after harshness has ceased to serve
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any useful purpose. When we are interviewing
for a new job or taking someone on a date,
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a healthy mind doesn’t force
us to listen to inner voices
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that insist on our unworthiness. It allows us
to talk to ourselves as we would to a friend.
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At the same time, a healthy mind
resists the pull of unfair comparisons.
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It doesn’t constantly allow the achievements
and successes of others to throw us off course
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and reduce us to a state of bitter inadequacy.
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It doesn’t torture us by continually comparing
our condition to that of people who have,
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in reality, had very different upbringings and
trajectories through life. A well-functioning
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mind recognises the futility and cruelty of
constantly finding fault with its own nature.
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Along the way, a healthy mind keeps
a judicious grip on the faucet of fear.
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It knows that, in theory, there is an endless
number of things that we could worry about:
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a blood vessel might fail, a scandal might erupt,
the plane’s engines could sheer from their wings…
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But it has a good sense of the distinction between
what could conceivably happen and what is in fact
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likely to happen - and it is able to leave us in
peace as regards the wilder eventualities of fate,
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confident that awful things will either not
unfold or could be dealt with ably enough
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if ever they did so. A healthy mind avoids
catastrophic imaginings: it knows that there
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are broad and stable stone steps, not a steep and
slippery incline, between itself and disaster.
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A healthy mind has compartments with heavy
doors that shut securely. It can compartmentalise
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where it needs to. Not all thoughts belong at
all moments. While talking to a grandmother,
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the mind prevents the emergence of images of
last’s nights erotic fantasies; while looking
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after a child, it can repress its more cynical
and misanthropic insights. Aberrant thoughts about
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jumping on a train line or harming oneself with
a sharp knife can remain brief peculiar flashes
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rather than repetitive fixations. A healthy
mind has mastered the techniques of censorship.
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A healthy mind can quieten its own buzzing
preoccupations in o rder, at times, to focus on
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the world beyond itself. It can be present and
engaged with what and who is immediately around.
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Not everything it could feel has to be felt
at every moment. It can be a good listener.
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A healthy mind combines an
appropriate suspicion of certain people
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with a fundamental trust in humanity.
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It can take an intelligent risk with a stranger.
It doesn’t extrapolate from life’s worst moments
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in order to destroy the possibility of
anything good emerging with a new acquaintance.
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A healthy mind knows how to hope;
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it identifies and then hangs on tenaciously to a
few reasons to keep going. Grounds for despair,
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anger and sadness are, of course, all around. But
the healthy mind knows how to bracket negativity
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in the name of endurance. It clings to
evidence of what is still beautiful and kind.
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It remembers to appreciate; it can - despite
everything - still look forward to a hot bath,
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some dried fruit or dark chocolate, a chat with a
friend, or a satisfying day of work. It refuses to
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let itself be silenced by all the many sensible
arguments in favour of rage and despondency.
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Outlining some of the features of a healthy
mind helps us to identify what can go awry
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when we fall ill. We should acknowledge the extent
to which mental illness is ultimately as common,
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and as essentially unshameful,
as its bodily counterpart.
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True mental health involves a frank acceptance
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of how much ill health there will have to be in
even the most ostensibly competent and meaningful
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life. And we should be no more reluctant to
seek help than we are when we develop a chest
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infection or a sore knee - and should consider
ourselves no less worthy of love and sympathy.