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For this evenings talk I am going to be
addressing a subject
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which is central to Buddhist teachings but
is difficult to understand
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You see understanding that craving or desire
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and how that actually fits into our
modern day lifestyles.
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especially for those of you who know
traditional Buddhism
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You know in all of the schools of Buddhism
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We have something called the
Four Noble Truths
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and the second Noble Truth says quite bluntly
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that craving is the source of suffering
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And so as Buddhists we are supposed to
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somehow let go of craving, have no desires
or few desires
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But then how do we actually practice that
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in our daily lives because we actually do
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desires that what of we want.
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Does that mean that we should all
become monks
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and nuns or just give up our jobs and just live
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on the streets? Not look after our kids, not
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have the latest cloths.
What does it really mean?
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It is a difficulty (for many Buddhism)
for many Buddhists
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trying to reconcile our lifestyles
with the idea that
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suffering is caused by craving.
So I am going to
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investigate what that really means
especially in our lives today
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And I thought we can actually
start by just knowing
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that our present world is in
great danger because of the
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untrammeled or unrestricted craving
of our species;
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always wanting more and more and obviously
that cannot be sustained.
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Few years ago we were talking about
Ozone layers.
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Now we are talking about global warming.
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Interesting to see what comes next.
It all seems to come by just using too many resources
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And it's tough being a modern western person
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to see how can we actually deal with this.
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because yeah once we finished our house then
we can actually start worrying about global warming.
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or once we got what we need then we can actually
try to help other people.
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Unfortunately sometimes that's not really sufficient
actually to save our future.
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We see like so many wars and so many arguments
and so many
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competition over limited things.
So we wonder is this the world
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we really want to bequeath to
our children or is this the world we
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really want to live ourselves. As far as Twenty Five
Hundred years ago Buddhism was concerned
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was saying that the biggest problem here
is the craving.
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Sure that yeah we know that we want to
try and do something
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about global warming,
we want to have peace on earth,
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we want couples being able to live
happily together
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we want to have people sharing the
resources of our planet
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but something called craving gets in the way.
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And this is our problem.
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However, that craving doesn't mean no desires
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this is going to be may be the central
point of this talk today.
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This is if the desire is ok but we are desiring the
wrong things in life.
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We are desiring the material things rather than the
spiritual things.
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Measuring people by possessions rather than by
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qualities such as compassion, virtue and peace.
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We are actually having goals in our lives,
you know which
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allows to pay off our mortgages but we never have
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enough time to ourselves and to our loved ones.
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So the heart of this talk to day is
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Well we have to have desires that's part
of being a human being
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part of having a mind, some of those desires
are very worthwhile
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but what type of desires do we have in our lives?
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Being a monk I am in privileged position
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simply because you do have acquaintances
across the spectrum
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from very poor people to very wealthy people,
from Presidents to Prisoners
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from multimillionaires to people on the dole
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and when you actually meet
all these types of people
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you can actually see that it's not really their
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economic circumstances which
determines their happiness
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This is one of the first insights I got when I was
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relatively wealthy westerner.
I say this even though I was a student
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with very little money and holes in my jeans, I had holes
in my jeans because I couldn't afford better ones.
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not because of the fashion statement.
I was ahead of my time.
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These days people buy jeans straight from the
shop with pre-maid holes.
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But mine were real.
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But then going to a place like North East Thailand
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in the villages a long way away from anywhere
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there there were some system farmers who just had
very spare cash and would live on a barter economy
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just growing rice or whatever they could catch
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specially fish in the rainy season and building their
houses with whatever can be found in the forest
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or in the fields. And you saw there that some of
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those people were just so poor compared to the
poor student I thought I was
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I was actually very wealthy compared to them.
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But one of the things which
I did notice living in that village.
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yeah sure many of those poor people were
happier than the
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people I knew sort of from the great
university like Cambridge
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I also saw some miserable people in that village.
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When I saw those miserable
people in that village
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I wanted to find out why
some people were miserable
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other people were happy when they both had
very few things.
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and I found out that basically it worked out like this
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Every house had a water buffalo which
they used to plough the fields.
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and the dung from the water buffalo
would be the fertilizer for their fields
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The buffalo would plough their fields
and do all sorts of tasks
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like pulling the cart and that was a very
important part of their house
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But I noticed the farmers who had say
one water buffalo
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and happy with one water buffalo
seem to be the ones always smiling
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But the farmer who had one water buffalo
but wanted two
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that was the farmer who was unhappy.
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who didn't seem to have so much time and
so much joy in their lives
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Seemed to me that happiness was not
so much how much you have
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but how much you want.
And that started to make me think
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the basic question in life; how much do you
really need to be happy in life?
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Does it really mean the more you have,
the happier you are
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I think that's the greatest myth
of our modern existence.
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thinking that more we have the
more pleasure and happiness
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and the freedom and power we can exert.
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But every one of you are old enough
to know by now
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that the promise of
freedom and happiness when you
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gain wealth is a very false promise.
Those people who have
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experienced the gain of wealth,
people whose business goes well
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people who win the lottery or inherit coming
to a great deal of money
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very often realizes it spoils their lives.
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A classic story is few years ago one of the
people who won a huge lottery in the United States
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hundred million dollars or more,
his picture was in the newspaper being led to jail
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He was a very happy man
before he won the lottery
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and as soon as he won the lottery
things started to go wrong in his life
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Sure before he won that lottery
he didn't have much money
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but he had enough to enjoy his life, to be able eat
and have a modest little house and
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go out with his friends but as soon as he became
really really wealthy
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all of his friends he could not trust anymore because all
were asking for loans or bits of money here and there
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it was one of the problems with wealth; even though
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it promises you so much it tends to
limit your enjoyment
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of the world rather than facilitate it .
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And I have seen this so many times
and sometimes wonder
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what do you want wealth for? It's much better
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to not be wealthy and not be poor
but be someone in the middle
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That reminded me of one of the books
I read as a student
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which was a very famous book Plato's Republic
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where in the last chapter, this was you know
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Greek Philosophy twenty five hundred years ago
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in the last chapter where
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describing reincarnation,
most of the Greeks believed
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in reincarnation at that time,
it was just common knowledge
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So you know reincarnation is not
an Asian thing
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it was right there in Europe
two thousand or so years ago.
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And in Plato's Republic he was noticing that; in his
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last chapter about reincarnation;
that when people chose their
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future lives, this was his way of describing it;
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it is a wonderful metaphor,
we chose our wealth in lives.
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the stupid people were the once who chose to be
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rich and powerful in their next life.
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Because the rich and powerful
have far more suffering
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than the people who are just life in the middle.
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So first of all, the Buddhist teachings
of the middle way
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just applies to your wealth as well.
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Please don't aspire to be too wealthy.
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because you will find it gives you
more problems in life.
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if you just have enough in the
middle somewhere,
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middle income, that's good enough.
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And indeed that's what Plato said
twenty five hundred years ago in Greese
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was confirmed by a famous study
which was done in the
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United States twelve months ago
where they were trying to find out
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what the maximum happiness was compared to
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peoples' annual income. And it was not that hard
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to gain the information, the data, they had a huge
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sample of people from different levels of income
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and they could gauge their happiness by
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how strong their marriages were,
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whether they have had many divorces,
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whether they are depressed, drug dependency,
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alcoholism and all these are very clearly indicators
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that things were going wrong in your life, or
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whether things were going well in your life.
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And after done a huge sample that they found out
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that the optimum income,
in other words the income which
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would guarantee you the
best happiness was about
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fifty thousand dollars US per year.
More than that your
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happiness level went down.
Less than that you couldn't just
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afford the things which you wanted.
So you weren't happy.
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So actually the best, as far as happiness
was concerned,
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and this was proved in, look at the research yourself,
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a large sample and I think
it is probably similar in Australia,
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similar demography, about fifty thousand US
or the equivalent over here;
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what that would that be about
fifty five thousand Australian or something
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was the optimum income;
more than that and you have more suffering.
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Less than that you have more suffering.
And that's actually the income to aim for.
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So if you are earning more than that the
Buddhist Society of WA
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can help you (audience laughs) to become
happier by allowing
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you to give the difference to our Retreat Center,
to our Nuns Monastery or to this joint
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Or even better just to tell your boss fifty five thousand
is enough for me, I don't want the raise.
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because (laughs) I want to be happy.
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People laugh at that but actually that's evidence based.
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And that's dhamma based, that's Buddhist based.
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Because sometimes we think the more money,
the more happiness
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the truth of the matter is the opposite.
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So when you are having your desires and cravings,
your aspirations in life
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please keep that in mind.
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And number two if we don't want the salary
what most people aspire to in this life
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and you work your butts off for this is, is actually to
get the nice big house in a nice suburb
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Now look at Nollamara here, this was actually a
bad suburb before we came in (audience laugh)
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and now we raised the house prices.
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So those of you who want to invest in property,
or got property in some suburb
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build a monastery next door,
your house prices go up.
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No that's not the point (audience laughs),
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the point is what I have often seen is
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you can see this huge houses which are
built these days
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and even a week ago just I went to our
local councils at Christmas lunch
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And it was over in Jarradale because we want to be
friends with our local councilors
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and other sort of people in Serpentine and
Jarrahdale, went there for PR
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And as we were going through Jarrahdale
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which is a very pretty little town in the hills there were
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big development there, huge houses in the forest
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but before I got to this huge mansions
I passed these small
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the old wooden cottages which used to be in that
logging twon or timber town in Jarrahdale.
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I saw these huge places and thought 'my goodness
people have to work so hard to pay for these big mansions'
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and I thought 'what they are doing that for?'
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Number one if you have a
very very big house people say well
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I need that for my family. Jee when I grew up
we were living on top of one another
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I was in the same bedroom with my brother
all the time.
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Sure we used to fight but we also learned to
love one another as well.
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You had to because there was no escape
in such a small house.
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One of the things which you learn living in such close
quarters with other members of your family
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is how to get on together.
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When you live in such a huge place
where everyone has their own rooms
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actually probably two or three rooms
to every person in the family
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It means you got too many bog holes too
many places you can go
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instead of fixing up the social problems
which you have with your
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siblings or with your parents or children.
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There are many advantages in living in
close quarters with one another
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you tend to get on. And I think that is one
of the social problems which
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comes with people living in such huge houses
in our modern age.
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We don't know how to live with each other.
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May be that is the cause of so many divorces or
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people changing partners. We haven't earned
those skills of cooperation
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and give and take between one and another
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You have to learn that when
you live in such close quarters.
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I remember my father telling me, at least
I had my own bed when I grew up,
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he shared his bed with about six or seven
brothers and even sisters when he grew up.
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How can you go to sleep that way
in a small bed with
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four or five or six other brothers in the same bed.
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we certainly learn how to cooperation
in such a small bed.
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But they did have such a great time,
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they loved each other very very much
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so sometimes though we think that wealth will
give us such a huge property
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but it comes at a great cost,
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one of the biggest costs
is how hard you have to work,
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how many hours you have to spend
to pay for such a big place.
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You can only be at a one room at a time,
sometimes that we
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as an example, as a counter example
we have our monasteries
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where we live, and I enjoy taking people
to see where I live
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even years ago when I lived in a bigger
place than I live now
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there was a big room, may be
three meters by two point four
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with a walking path in the front.
And I still remember about
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ten years ago taking a group of women
who were visiting
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the monastery, it was a local women's group
who wanted to
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do weird things on an afternoon and had
never been to the monastery
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and that qualified as being weird, and when
I took them to see my hut
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my room, I always remember one of the girls
turning around to me
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and saying 'wow if only my house were
this small I get all
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my house work done in half an hour'.
She looked at my
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simplicity with a lot of envy which is the
other reason
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huge houses takes a lot of maintenance,
a lot of work,
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and you haven't got the time;
number one you are working so hard
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to pay off the mortgage and
number two you have to work so hard
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to maintain the place and keep it clean.
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And you never manage to get all the things done.
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So isn't it something wrong about that?
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So it's great to be able to downsize.
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Any of you who come and visit
Bodhinyana Monastery
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many of you saw this my cave, where I live
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it is a small cave.
It's not even two and half meters
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if it is that circular and about that high.
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It is only a little cave were I live.
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And that's so easy when
I wake up in the morning
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it takes me about 30 seconds to make my bed.
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I sleep on the floor. It takes about five minutes
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to sweep it out. It's just a simple place to stay
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it gives me so much time and so much freedom.
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This is an example when we have big places
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we think that this is going to create happiness
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and space, sure it got physical space but
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we have no time space left.
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And that is one of the great complaints of our
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modern age. We are material wealthy but
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time poor. So we have desires, we want comfort,
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we want well being,
we want sort of some happiness
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but sometimes our craving and desires
are misplaced
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they haven't got wisdom with it.
And a lot of times
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it is because we are sheep, we just follow what
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other people do. one of the great things about
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religion, what they should be doing
especially you know in
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parts like Buddhism, is making you question.
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Don't just follow what other people are doing
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like lemmings just going over the cliff
of environmental destruction,
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think for yourselves. Question.
Don't follow the norm.
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But follow wisdom and common sense instead
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You follow what other people are always up to
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you going to be in lot of trouble
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if you just think what most people are doing
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it must be right, I always remember one of my
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favorite quotes from Voltaire
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It was Voltaire who made a quote
from mathematics
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he was a mathematician as well, one of his
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famous quotes which I thought was very funny
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but also so true,
"The only way to understand the
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mathematical concept of infinity
(to really get your head around what infinity means)
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is to contemplate the extent of human stupidity."
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Then you know what infinite means.
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So it's a waste of time following other people
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We question and find out for ourselves.
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So doesn't matter what other people are saying
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Saying ' oh you should upgrade
move to a bigger house,
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it is an investment for the future.
May be for your future
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but not for your children's future. And it's not
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a future for your peace and happiness at the time.
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How much do you really need?
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And it's the same when we want fame or status.
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Even when I was a young monk,
there was a fellow monk
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his name was Garry,
and I remember as a young man
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he grew up in Los Angeles,
he met that filmstar
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who was that who played
'dirty harry' what was his name?
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Clint Eastwood,
he met Clint Eastwood in his early days
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because they went to the same university together
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he told all these stories about being with the rich
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and the famous
but he remembered once when that
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Singer Bob Dylan was in Los Angles
and he found out
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from his friends which hotel he was in
and managed
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to use one of his contacts to sneak
in the back and spend a
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whole evening and night with Bob Dylan.
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This is a famous man,
at that time he was multi famous
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and Bob Dylan was saying ...
no he was saying to Bob Dylan
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Ah it must be great being famous;
Bob Dylan swore
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no its xxxx whatever it is, I can't repeat it here
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its terrible being famous.
It's such a pain to be well known.
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I am not well known as Bob Dylan,
but I think you know
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sometimes I have gone to a toilet in
Singapore airport
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I have not been able to go to the loo
because some one
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in the toilet in the Changi airport
stopped me to ask me
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questions on meditation.
Sometimes that happens here as well.
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twenty five past seven
I am trying to get to the toilet
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before I do the talk here,
and someone stops me 'Ajahn Brahm'
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So one of the great things of being 'not famous' is
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you can go to the toilet whenever you want
(audience laugh)
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So but do you want to be famous?
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would it be lovely to be famous?
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Why do people go in this TV shows like
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Australian Idle or this other big brother shows
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they wanna be famous, they must really
need to see a psychiatrist very quickly
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because no one in their right mind
would want to be famous.
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But lot of time people desire that,
they want that, they crave that
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And really sort of they are putting all of their
energies into the wrong place.
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There is a great story which I sort of adapted
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and wrote in that newsletter,
a journal for one of the
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Buddhist centres in Sydney and I told that in a
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recent concert in Singapore, its a nice story
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about a monastery somewhere in the world
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and in the middle of the night
the Abbot was woken up
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when he heard a noise in the main shrine room
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So he got up and checked,
and sure enough there was a
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burglar in the temple.
As soon as the burglar saw the Abbot
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the burglar was trying to open the donation box
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and he told the Abbot just get out of here.
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And the Abbot took one look at the burglar
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instead of actually stopping the burglar
opening the donation box
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'here's the key' so the burglar took it
and told not to do anything
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But the Abbot took one look at the
burglar and like many burglars
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and this guy was so thin.
So the Abbot asked him when was the
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last time you ate. Burglar said
'shut up' . When I give talks I
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always like to wake people up every
now and again (audience laughs).
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'Shut up' he said.
But the Abbot didn't shut up he said
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'look there is some left over food from this
mornings meal in the cupboard, help yourself.
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And the man was hungry.
So just looking at the Abbot
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and brandishing a knife from the kitchen he said
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'don't come near.
He quickly sort of stuffed some food
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into his mouth and the Abbot said
'don't rush, there is
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plenty of time' and the burglar
opened the donation box
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emptied it, took some more food and ran away
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saying don't call the police, Abbot said I wan't
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the donations are there for
charity, for compassion
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you are a poor person
just take whatever you want
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I will clear with the committee tomorrow
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So the next day when the
committee heard about this
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At least the guy was being kind and they liked
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the Abbot for being kind but usually what happens
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a few days later that bugler was caught robbing
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another house somewhere and
was sentenced to jail
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The abbot forgot all about that and few years later
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The bugler returned with another knife.
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He came and said you remember me?
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I robbed this temple five years ago,
now I have come
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to rob again; but the burglar said this time;
but last time I took the wrong thing
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I took the money
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Putting down his knife he said now
I have come to take
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compassion and wisdom, please show me
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how you were so kind to me, even though
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I was about to kill you and rob your temple.
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So the Bugler realizing for the first time
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he thought that money was happiness
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after those five years realized
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that kindness is more important than money
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he said the first time he have
stolen the wrong thing
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now he come to take the
right thing and asked the
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Abbot to teach him; compassion and kindness.
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I like that story because sometimes
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when we want something,
we are wanting the wrong thing.
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It is ok to want; but not the material things in life
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the rich people in this world are not the people
in the big houses
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The rich people in this world are the
people with the big hearts
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Those people who are wealthy are not the
people with big bank balances
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Those people who are wealthy are
the people who have got time for each other.
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Isn't that so? It is obviously the quality of life
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which is why that the craving which we have
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in this world is actually wrongly directed
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And that's why it leads to suffering.
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And usually you should grow older
and older and older in life
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while other people start to
question more and more
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when you experience getting the
big house or the wealth
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or the fame, so many people say 'so what?'
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This is it? This is what I worked so hard for?
Where's the pay off?
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because such craving;
we call it unfaithfully craving
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We call it unfaithful because it promises so much
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but fails to deliver. But the desire for
the beautiful qualities of life
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things like peace, time, contentment
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kindness, compassion, generocity
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those are the real things which is
wonderful to crave for
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which is great to desire, you are actually desiring
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something which is truly worth something in life.
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Why? because what does the wealth, the money
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the house, the car,
what does it really promise you?
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It promises freedom and happiness,
respect, security
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That's sometimes what people
think about these days
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If I get wealthy then I can be secure and
I can be happy for ever after
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I still remember the story which
I read still as a young man
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May I read all the right stories
which is why I became a monk
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instead of seeking fortune in the world
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I sort fortune in my heart.
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There was a man who was in the boom years of
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United States in the roaring 20s
made enough money
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and managed to cash it in before
the depression years
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and being a multimillionaire he decided
'why should I just live in the United States'
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are there any other places in the world
where I can live
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which got a better climate, safer,
more happy existence
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so he went to the local public library
got out books
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and he used his intelligence
to try and find the perfect
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place in the world where he could
retire and enjoy his
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remaining years using his great wealth.
He could go
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anywhere he wanted with so much money.
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So he decided on a tropical island
with perfect climate
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it was called Guadalcanal
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For those of you who are old enough
you know that
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Guadalcanal became famous
because it was the site
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of two major battles in the Second World War.
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First when it was taken over by the
Japanese Imperial Troops
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and then it was actually taken over
by the Americans afterwards
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two huge battles.
So there was a guy who made his pile,
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and thought I am now gonna retire
to Guadalcanal
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thinking of being peaceful for ever after.
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What happened?
He gets involved in two major wars,
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Actually he survived both battles apparently.
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Two major battles,
he survived both and lived to tell the tale
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but it wasn't a peaceful place. So don't know
where you want to retire
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Whether it is the Peppermint Grove
or to the Darryl Keys
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I don't know what other places
you think but who knows
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what's going to happen there later on?
(audience laughs)
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That's the trouble they might have a
new airport in peppermint Grove
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in next five years; wherever else you live
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this is a great uncertainty of life so you cannot trust
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such material investments.
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sometimes you invest so much in your wife
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you take her shopping to Paris
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you bring her all the latest fashions
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and of course she runs away with your best friend
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because he is more wealthy than you
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whatever else it is you know what it is like
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how can you really have any security in life?
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Now look at myself as a monk, I got no money
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and I have no health insurance,
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I have no superannuation, no pension plans
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I am getting old now.
And I think wow what am I going to do next?
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But you know I don't worry about my future
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I got great investments than you have
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kamma investments
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Because of how much I have served,
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how much I have given over these last years
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I know I don't have to worry about anything
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about my future. Even when I go overseas
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sometimes they ask whether
I have any health insurance
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because thing happen when you are overseas
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you may get into an accident,
fall sick or something
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But I say I have health insurance
when I go overseas
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there are enough people who care about me
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when I go to Singapore or Thailand or Sri Lanka
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and I know I would get the best of care if I fall sick
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and same here; why?
its because I have been kind enough to
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many people that people
just want to be kind back
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that is my health insurance,
by paying in many many
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installments of kindness and giving to others
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This is what I know, will come back to me
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It is basic Buddhist teachings
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If you want security for your future
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make lots of good kamma
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be kind, be generous, be there for others
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and others will be there for you
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which is why the wealthy people
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sometimes gets so lonely
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they wonder, I got all this money
but I can't get the best care
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Sure they have invested in the share market
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but they have never invested in their
kamma market
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This is the Wall Street of Australia,
Dhammaloka Buddhist Center
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This is the way you can make great investments
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with a guaranteed returns, and the
Buddhist Kamma stockmarket
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never crashes and always is there for you
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for this life and the next
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and that actually, this is not just a joke
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this is not an exaggeration, people actually
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craving and desiring, they want happiness
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they want peace, ask yourself sometime
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what do I really want in life?
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Sometimes people just say
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they want to be cared for.
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How do you become 'cared for'
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you don't become 'cared for'
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because you are rich, you just become exploited
or you become feared
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you become 'cared for' when you know how to
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care for others.
This is again; what kamma is all about
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So if you desire,
is to care for other people in this world
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If that is your craving in life,
seeing how much I can care for others
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Then you are putting the craving
in the right place.
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The craving to have a more harmonious
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peaceful, sharing, kind warm society
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Not having big houses,
but again by having big hearts
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Big hearted communities which really
look after one another
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That's sometimes why in the poorer suburbs
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people look after each other much easier
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My mother because I came from a poor family
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was always lived in what was called Council Flats
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Council Flats were State subsidized housing
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Even after my father died we just moved from
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one council flat to another
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My poor mother lived in these Council Flats
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for many years.
And these big tall tower blocks in London
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were supposed to be a hot bed of crime.
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So my little old mother was a prime suspect
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according to the sociologists.
But she lived in this
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tower block for many years
and I remember when I went
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to visit her and stayed in that
tower block for a short while
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I was going to give a talk in the
Sri Lankan Vihara is Chiswick
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one day and it was not that far from
where my mother lives
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so I wanted to walk. I enjoyed those walks
in the streets of London
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especially in my robes.
Because I was always a radical
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I wanted to surprise and stagger
and confront people with my
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sartorial elegance of brown robes.
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But I also enjoyed having fun
because people would
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look at me and sometimes not knowing exactly
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what you were dressed in these robes,
these are like
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what people used to called bed blankets
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sometimes they are cross the other side
of the road but I'll always take
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pleasure in wishing them Good Morning
with a smile
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to an Englishman when someone actually
wishes you 'Good Morning'
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you have to say Good Morning back.
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It is psychological torture for them.
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Being a sadist I enjoyed that.
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But anyhow on this particular occasion when I
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in the elevator, the lift, when I got to the bottom
as the door was
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open I was the only one in the
elevator and as the door
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was opened I was confronted by an
old lady who was
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covered with blood.
It was like a scene out of a movie
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I didn't know what had happened
to her whether she
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has been attacked, mugged or whatever
but she actually told me
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that she had fallen down by the flight of steps.
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She must have been about sixty five or seventy
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because she could still stand so immediately I forgot
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about giving a talk at any sort of Vihara it's more
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important I am kind and compassion; I like to
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practice Buddhism rather than teach it. So I forgot
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about the talk and I took this old lady upstairs to
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my mother's apartment
where we bathed her wounds
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called the ambulance, she did have a broken leg
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but because of the shock she couldn't feel the pain
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at the time, so we bathed her,
comforted her, called the
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ambulance but the wonderful
thing which happened was that
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because it was an accident and because
I took her into
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my mother's apartment very quickly,
my mother left
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the door opened and there was a trail of
blood which was
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leading into my mother's apartment
and I was so pleased
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in a matter of five minutes
I don't know how many people
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had come into my mother's apartment to find out
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what was going on and whether she was alright.
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And when they found out the reason why
one of the
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tenants in these apartment blocks
had an accident,
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fallen over and was wounded,
it was wonderful to see
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the community coming together
and helping one and another
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I was bathing the wounds because
my mother doesn't like blood
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someone else was going to her
house to actually to turn her
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oven off because she had something
in the oven cooking
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and somebody was going to ring
her daughter somewhere else
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and everybody was working together so well
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I thought, this is not a hot bed of crime
this is a community
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where people cared about each other.
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And because they were all poor,
they weren't afraid of
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one and another.
I thought actually one of the reasons
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why a community was made
in this tower block was because
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of the elevator.
Every day people will be stuck together
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in this very small elevator,
not this big elevators you find
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in these big mansions,
a small elevators. Small elevators are great.
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You are stuck together going up and down
no matter how much of a
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stiff upper lip, how reserved you are
as an English person you see
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these same people up and down on the lift,
after a couple of years
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you start talking to them.
When you start talking to them you get
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to know them. When you get to know them
you become friendly
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when you become friendly
you start caring for each other.
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That's one of the lovely things which
happens when you live in small places.
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People get to know each other
and care for one another.
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And I thought Wow that places is not
wealthy as far as material
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things are concerned. But what a wonderful thing
is to know that somebody would
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switch off our oven if you had to go to a
hospital unexpectedly,
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someone would bath your wounds,
someone would look after you
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and care for you and that's called
health insurance.
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The real one.
Because there is always someone to care
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because you would have cared for others.
That's what people want most of all
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to be cared for and looked after specially
in times of difficulty and
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stress. So really when we talk about craving;
this is really what
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we should be craving for.
We are using our mental energies,
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using our desires to build up something which is
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worth while in life.
Instead of these false shimmers like
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big houses, big bank balances,big cars
and fancy cloths
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shee you don't need fancy cloths to get on in life
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This is why we wear brown robes,
these are far more practical
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these brown robes like this because
whenever I spill a
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cup of tea I don't need to wash it.
The brown goes to brown
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most stains are brown stains;
that's one of the reasons why
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we have brown robes because they are
easy to look after
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and this actually seconds as a blanket
at night times
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so this is so practical to have few things
and use them well
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I don't know how many clothes you have
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specially those poor people who are
young and have
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to wear designer clothes,
designer shoes and designer
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everything. It's great being like a monk
which is so simple
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the same robe we wear day in and day out.
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I wear this robe to see the
Queen of England, I wear
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this robe to see the builders at the
building site of the
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retreat center. Isn't that wonderful
you don't have to
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think 'I am seeing the Queen today
what shall I wear?'
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I am going to see the builder
what shall I put on today?
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It the same before I saw the Queen
I never had a haricut either
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the same old thing or the
President of Sri Lanka or these other
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people you tend to go and see.
So it's great being simple.
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So my craving is to see how
simpler I can make my life
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materially and how rich I can
make my life emotionally
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carrying and looking after others. And that's
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precisely what we learn in Buddhism
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You don't need that much to be happy
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The Secret of Happiness and I am saying this
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because someone asked me today
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can I talk about 'the Secret'
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'The Secret' is a book with a video which has
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sold a lot of copies and has made
the author into
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a very unhappy rich person. Stupid.
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But that's not the secret
like willing something and it comes to you.
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Because sure there is something to that,
if you imagine it
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if you will it long enough
eventually it will come
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But do you really want that?
Is that how you are going
-
to use the power of your mind just to get a
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car parking space you want in the mall?
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It is much better to have the car park space
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further away then you get some exercise.
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And then you don't die of a heart attack when you
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are forty.
So the thing is yes, there is some truth to that
-
but you are wanting the wrong things. wouldn't it
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be wonderful if that book said if you just
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imagine world peace or you can imagine just
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poor people in Africa having wells in every village
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or you can imagine just the people in Perth
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having enough water because they don't sprikle
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their gardens too often or
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you can people being kind to each other.
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You can imagine people say in the buses
or in the trains
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giving their seats up to the elderly
or sick or pregnant
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people. It would be wonderful
if the different communities
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whether it is the aboriginal community or the other
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ethnic communities
can live together in peace and harmony
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it would be wonderful you know if we can have love
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between our families. Kids looking after one another
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looking after their parents. It would be wonderful if
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there is no violence in our schools.
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Dreaming of things like that
I think is far more worth while
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than sort of dreaming about material things .
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So that sort of secret, that's not the
secret to happiness
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that's the secret to more headaches
and more problems in the world.
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So the real secret revealed by the
Buddha if you like
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it's common knowledge now, its not a secret
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we teach it all the time is that
if you really want something
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in life, if you really aiming for something in life
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if you are using craving and the power of
your physical body and
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mind to do something,
to get something, please get the
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right things in life.
The things which are really worth. You don't
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use the power of your mind for second rate
sham stuff.
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Otherwise you are like the person going to the doggy
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brother's car deals and getting an old bomb as a car.
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That's what that book reminded me of--people selling
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false goods.
So if you really want happiness, contentment
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kindness compassion generosity
that's what makes the world go around,
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that's what inspires, brings happiness,
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brings peace and brings
a world in which you want to live
-
rather than a world in which we always
complain why is it
-
life this, why is this all happening,
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So use your cravings for the right goals.
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And if you start to use your cravings
for the right goals
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for things like peace, harmony for kindness,
for generosity
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you will also find that's precisely how one gets
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success in meditation. Why people love to meditate
-
why people like to become
monks and nuns sometimes
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People often say the happiest times of their lives
-
is when they are at peace.
And that's actually what we
-
say; that peace is golden or silence is golden
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peace of mind is the most valuable
commodity in the world
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Isn's that really why we search
high and low for a partner
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for a lifestyle so we can have a
few moments of peace
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So really the craving,
if you really want to crave the right things,
-
you really want to crave for peace,
peace in our own hearts
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if you can't find peace in your own hearts,
of course you
-
can never make peace in the world.
All the peace makers
-
have a lot of anger inside of them.
They also have lot of
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self doubt; because of that
they can never make real peace.
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Only a temporary pause or
ceasefire in the hostilities
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between mankind or the womankind or the planet
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When we learn how to find a bit of peace
in our own hearts
-
then we understand what's truly
worth craving for
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which is why in that book which I wrote
Open the Door of your Heart
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I said one way of making that peace
in you own heart
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is to say to yourself; whoever I am,
whatever I have done,
-
the door of my heart is open completely to me.
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you make peace with your past
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Not by fighting it but by accepting it.
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You can't make peace and war at the same time.
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Peace means accepting,
embracing, being one with something
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which is another word for unconditional love.
Acceptance
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embracing. So when you embrace the moment
you embrace yourself
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you embrace the people you have to live with
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only then you can find peace.
This is precisely what one does in
-
meditation. Like meditation is almost
like a training ground
-
like a gym where one learns the
strengths of character
-
so that one can go and take those
skills out into the world
-
and really make something of this world instead of
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making problems.
So learning how to make peace in ones own
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meditation, sitting here for half an hour,
a short time ago
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did you make peace or did you make war?
Did you try and
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fight all the defilements,
the wondering mind, the itchy head,
-
the aches and pains;
did you try and fight past and future
-
or did you learn how to embrace them
and make peace with them.
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When you realize what craving does, it makes war
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When you understand that peace,
kindness, gentleness
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gives you the highest happiness
then only do you understand
-
how to make peace with yourself and be truly
-
free, be rich because the highest wealth
even in our English Language
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is called 'to want for nothing'. To want for nothing.
How much do you need
-
before you can want for nothing?
You need nothing at all.
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You have enough right now.
A moment of contentment
-
a moment of accepting yourself,
the situation, your partner, your life
-
in this moment is a moment of great peace.
Once you understand that
-
peace in the heart you understand
what enlightenment is.
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What the aspiration of Buddhism is.
Why we meditate, why we
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keep precepts, why we come here to listen
to talks like this
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because every now and again you get a
taste of freedom
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a taste of peace, beautiful silence in the heart
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where you want for nothing.
When you want for nothing is the most
-
beautiful feeling in the world.
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completely content, at ease and
happy with this moment.
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And as a result of that you know
what compassion is
-
and no one not even monks sit
in meditation for ever
-
half a hour, a hour two or three hours on retreat
-
and of course then you come and
take that peace and put it
-
there in the world. So your craving is sometimes to
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make peace in your heart and with your eyes
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you are out of meditation to create the same
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peace in this world using the same way.
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To embrace the people you are with.
To be kind to them.
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To be gentle. To be soft.
We call that making good kamma
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The generosity the kindness, the compassion
-
that's really what we should be craving for
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And if we can make that in this world,
sure we work hard,
-
we have our job,
we contribute to the society but then we
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never have any stress. (Our work does ... )
our Vocation becomes our
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Vacation as Mark Twain used to say
-
We enjoy what we are doing, because we are not
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doing this for money, we are not doing this
-
to start a big house, we are doing this for peace.
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We are doing this for kindness. We are doing this
-
to contribute to the happiness of our world.
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When the goal becomes well aimed we never get
-
the collateral damage, environmental destruction
-
broken families, corruption and war.
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It's not that craving is wrong,
its the craving for the wrong things,
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things which lead to suffering, rather than things
-
which leads to peace.
There is a challenge for you in
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this life. You have desire,
you have craving, you have aspirations
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What is really worthwhile to aspire for?
where do you want to be
-
in one, two, three, four, five years time.
Where do you want the
-
world to be? Really it's up to you to crave
for the right things. Thank you for listening.
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Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu.
So is somebody celebrating my talk tonight
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with a firework display? I am very proud of that..
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So does anyone got
any comments or questions about
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the talk tonight about 'the Secret'
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Are there any comments or questions
for the second time, for the third time
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Gone!
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Thank you for coming
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