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- Hey everybody.
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Today we're gonna talk
about schema therapy.
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But now, let's get into
today's topic, schema therapy.
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What is it, and why would a therapist
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recommend it for you?
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Now, schema therapy is a therapy style
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that was developed to
tackle pervasive patterns
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in our lives.
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Pervasive just means, it's like
running through everything,
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it's just always hangin' out there,
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and what schema therapy
does is it helps us identify
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and uncover schemas or
themes that we formed
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in response to early experiences
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of unmet emotional needs, okay?
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I know that's a lot,
but just hang with me.
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What that really means in short
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is that when hurtful or
bad things happen to us,
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we try, you know, to make sense of it
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by believing that it's
either like our fault,
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we did something, or we create
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an unhealthy or negative story about it
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to kinda tell ourselves
why that thing happened.
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And this type of therapy
seeks to help us learn
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how to operate in a healthy
mode or state of being,
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as we learn to get our
core emotional needs met
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in everyday life.
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Now, before we go any further
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into why someone could
benefit from schema therapy,
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let's talk a little bit
about the origin of it.
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Now, schema therapy is a type of therapy
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that was developed in the mid 1980's.
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A man named Dr. Jeffrey Young
was working with patients
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at the Center for Cognitive Therapy
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at the University of Pennsylvania,
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and while he was seeing a lot of success
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through cognitive therapy, he also noticed
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that with patients who seemed to have
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more pervasive patterns of dysfunction
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or personality disorders,
he really wasn't seeing
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much lasting change, and that's why
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he began to develop schema therapy.
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He wanted to take the strengths
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from multiple therapeutic techniques,
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you know, like I kinda do in my practice.
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He wanted to pick and choose
from the ones that existed
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and combine them into
one integrated approach,
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and that's how schema therapy was born.
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Schema therapy helps to navigate patterns
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that developed out of our childhood
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that now permeate our
lives, and it does this
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by borrowing from multiple theories,
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just like I was talking about.
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For example, psychodynamic theory
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explores childhood
relationship experiences
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with the mindset that
insight into the past
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can in and of itself, help
us navigate the present.
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Cognitive therapy takes a
more present day approach,
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seeking to identify thought patterns
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taking place in specific situations,
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and focusing on how we
can shift our narrative.
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Schema therapy integrates both approaches
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by exploring elements,
as well as borrowing
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from some attachment theory,
object relations theory,
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and emotion-focused therapies and more.
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Okay, now let's talk a little bit about
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some of the key components
of schema therapy.
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Now schema therapy has
four key conceptions.
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Number one, emotional needs,
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number two, early maladaptive schemas,
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number three, maladaptive coping styles,
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and four, schema modes.
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Now I know that sounds like a lot,
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but don't worry, we'll break it down.
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Okay, so let's get into each
of these concepts a little more
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so that you can just
better understand them,
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and the first, the core emotional needs.
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Schema therapy proposes that you and I
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have some basic emotional
needs when we're children.
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We've kind of talked about this
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when it comes to, you know,
childhood emotional neglect,
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and some, maybe abuse that
we sustained as children.
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We all have emotional needs,
and when these are not met,
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we develop early maladaptive schemas.
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That really means a faulty
story or belief about ourselves,
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and these are damaging themes or patterns
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that we developed in our childhood,
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and then continued to add
to throughout our lives.
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For example, one of these might be,
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I'm not worth loving, or
everyone always leaves me.
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Now schema therapy has
categorized our schemas
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into 18 themes, that can result
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from a perceived lack of core
emotional needs being met.
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I'm not gonna go through all 18.
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You can look it up if you want more.
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Of course, our brains have lots of schemas
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they form in our childhood, and even
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into adulthood, but
early maladaptive schemas
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have a few things in common, and this
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is our second one if you don't remember.
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The second component of schema therapy
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is early maladaptive schemas.
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Okay, so they have a
lot of things in common,
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and the first is that
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they have broad pervasive
themes or patterns.
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Two, they're comprised
of memories, emotions,
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cognitions and bodily sensations,
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and three, they involve
the way we see ourselves
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or our relationship with others.
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Four, they have developed
during childhood or adolescence,
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and were five, deepened and extended
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throughout our lifetime, and six,
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and finally, they create
a significant degree
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of dysfunction in our lives.
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Pretty much what we're saying
is these maladaptive schemas
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we've created started in our childhood,
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they're not helpful,
they actually hinder us,
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and they kind of hang out
and permeate our entire life.
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Now from these schemas, we then develop
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what they call coping mechanisms,
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which you know a lot about.
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I am always talking about coping skills,
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and that's really what these are.
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For a child in a rough
situation growing up,
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these coping strategies make sense.
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They were our way to, you
know, try to protect ourselves,
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and they can help us get
through really tough things.
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You know how I've mentioned that like,
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self- injurious behavior
or even dissociation
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can help us get through
a really tough time,
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but what makes them
maladaptive coping styles
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is when we hang on to
those coping mechanisms
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past the point that they're helpful.
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I've talked about this before,
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like our self-injury is
no longer serving us,
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and so that's when they kind of move in
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to this maladaptive realm.
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Now these are different for
every individual, obviously,
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which can explain why we are
different from our siblings,
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even though we could grow up
in the exact same environment.
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Coping mechanisms can be
shaped by our temperament,
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or just from watching and or
imitating someone around us.
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Coping mechanisms can be a
variety of different things,
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but they tend to fall in
to one of three categories,
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and I found this really fascinating.
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The first category is surrender,
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which means we're repeating our
schemas over and over again.
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For example, if our
schema makes us feel weak,
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we might have a coping strategy
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of over-dependence on
others, which really lines up
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with that schema or that narrative
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that we are weak or unable.
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The second category is avoidance.
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Now these strategies are the ones
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that help us avoid or escape our schemas.
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For example, you know, addictions,
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or seeking some kind of stimulation
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that can make us completely avoid
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all the stuff that we maybe
think or feel about ourselves,
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and the third category
of coping mechanisms
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is over-compensation.
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Now these strategies are the ones
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that lead us to do the
opposite of our schema.
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So if our schema makes
us feel out of control,
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we might end up coping
with obsessive disorder
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or extreme planning, or maybe
even eating disorder behavior.
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Okay, we talked about all three
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of the main concepts in schema therapy,
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and I know that was a lot, remember
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they were core emotional needs,
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early maladaptive schemas,
and maladaptive coping styles,
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and the last concept that's
important in schema therapy
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is what's known as schema modes.
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Now, this really refers to the modes
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or states that our mind goes into
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when we're triggered, okay?
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Modes are a combination of our schemas
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and our coping mechanisms,
and it's out of that
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that flow these patterns
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that we see playing out in our lives.
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You know, when you kind of find yourself
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like in the same type of relationship
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or having the same kind
of relationship issues.
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A mode is not simply a narrative we have
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or a coping behavior, or a
feeling that's triggered.
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It's really when all
those things come together
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so consistently and repeatedly
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that our brain kind of has
a mode it now goes into
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when we're triggered.
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Does that make sense?
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It's kind of like our brain gets so used
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to thinking and doing the same thing
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every single time it's triggered
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that it either acts responsibly
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to get us out of the situation,
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or it possibly dissociates or, you know,
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has us engaging in some
kinda unhealthy coping skill,
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and the mode that we
go into really depends
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on our coping skills, and those early,
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unhealthy schemas that
we kinda talked about
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that we developed as a child.
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Does that make sense?
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When it comes to these modes,
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schema therapy identifies and addresses
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10 different kinds of
them, and it's designed
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to tackle those 10, and if any of this
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doesn't make sense, or you want
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more clarification, just let me know
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in those comments down
below, and I'm happy
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to follow up, either in a
comment or in another video.
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So we've talked about the key concepts,
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but what actually happens
when we walk into the office
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of a therapist who
specializes in schema therapy?
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The primary goals of schema therapy
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are to first unpack and identify
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those four concepts in our lives.
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What experiences did
we have of unmet needs?
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What schemas have we developed,
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and what coping mechanisms
go along with these
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to make up the modes that
we're operating out of?
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I know that sounds very therapisty,
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but I hope you kinda understand.
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It's like, what emotional
needs weren't met,
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then what do we do to
deal with the feeling,
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or that unmet need, and then how
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do we act as a result?
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And moving on to the second thing
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a schema therapist will do, is that
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they'll wanna know how
we get our needs met,
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and how we can access a healthy mode
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that operates out of adaptive schemas.
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So they're gonna help you
create these adaptive schemas
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and healthier coping mechanisms,
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so it can help us in our
relationships and our lives.
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Like, if we could rise to the
occasion when we're triggered,
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and not let that old way of thinking
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cause us to relapse or dissociate,
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they're gonna help build
up those coping skills,
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also challenge some of those thoughts
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or beliefs you have about
yourself in your past
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so that we can feel more
confident and empowered
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to make healthy decisions.
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Often schema therapy involves
a period of assessment.
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Therapists may ask us to
take some kinda Q and A,
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or may use techniques to
help us identify schemas
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that are impacting our lives.
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As schema therapy is such
a multi-theory approach,
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remember, we're kinda picking and choosing
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from different therapies,
we'll likely experience
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a number of different
types of therapy styles.
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Our therapist may utilize
cognitive techniques
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or emotion-focused techniques,
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which can involve more
techniques like chair work.
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If you ever done like
Empty Chair Technique
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where you talk to someone
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that you're havin' a hard time with
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and pretend that they're in that chair,
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or you could role play to
explore different schemas,
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like, almost like taking that
eating disorder voice out
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and talking to it, like,
why are you doing that,
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and I know it sounds kinda crazy,
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and I know a lot of you don't like that,
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but it can help us uncover
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some, maybe other schemas or other issues
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or coping skills that
we may be dealing with.
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Now the therapy relationship
may also be utilized
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in schema therapy by exploring any modes,
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remember, those ways we act out,
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that are triggered in sessions,
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which, really is just
a fancy way of saying
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that we'll talk through and work through
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any transference that might come up.
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And behavioral techniques
can also be used,
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helping us press in to
new coping strategies
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and try out new behaviors to help us
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feel more confident and able to act out
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in a healthier mode, instead of,
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you know, going back to
that old unhealthy one
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that's really been holding us back.
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Okay, now let's talk a little bit
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about who can benefit from schema therapy,
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and the truth is, the key concepts
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of schema therapy could
probably help most of us.
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I know when I was researching
this, I thought that,
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that it could really, really help me,
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and many of us have emotional needs
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that we really felt were unmet as children
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or adolescents, and we
all likely formed schemas
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or unhealthy coping skills out of that,
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and all of that can lead
us to having behaviors
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or patterns in our
lives that we don't like
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and we maybe wanna change.
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So how do we know if this therapy
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is the best fit for us?
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How do we know when we should
be pursuing schema therapy
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or something more commonly
available, like CBT?
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Well, schema therapy was developed
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specifically to provide options
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and help for patients who
have patterns in their life
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that are so pervasive and
deeply entrenched within them
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that typical forms of therapy
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can leave them feeling discouraged
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at their inability to go deeper
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than tackling just the
symptoms they're feeling.
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It's commonly thought to be
one of the more helpful tools
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for those of us who are struggling
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with chronic psychological disorders
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like borderline personality
disorder or narcissism,
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and it's also been known to work well
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with those who find they're struggling
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with lifelong patterns
that are really hindering
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their quality of life, like
eating disorders or addiction.
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There are a lotta different kinds
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of therapies out there,
and it can be hard to know
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which one's best for you, but I hope
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this just gives you a
little bit more information
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about schema therapy,
and if you're not sure,
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always chat with your therapist,
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and ask for their take on this.
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You know, what type of therapy
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might be the most helpful for you.
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And if you're watching this and
you've tried schema therapy,
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or have had any thoughts on it,
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please share in the comments down below,
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and I will see you next time.
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Bye.