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Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.18,0:00:01.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,- Hey everybody.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:01.01,0:00:03.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Today we're gonna talk\Nabout schema therapy.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:03.41,0:00:05.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Before we jump into that,\Nare you new to my channel?
Dialogue: 0,0:00:05.70,0:00:06.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Welcome.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:06.53,0:00:08.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm a licensed therapist\Ncreating educational
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Dialogue: 0,0:00:16.93,0:00:20.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But now, let's get into\Ntoday's topic, schema therapy.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:20.76,0:00:23.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What is it, and why would a therapist
Dialogue: 0,0:00:23.33,0:00:25.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,recommend it for you?
Dialogue: 0,0:00:25.03,0:00:27.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, schema therapy is a therapy style
Dialogue: 0,0:00:27.51,0:00:30.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that was developed to\Ntackle pervasive patterns
Dialogue: 0,0:00:30.43,0:00:31.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in our lives.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:31.55,0:00:34.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Pervasive just means, it's like\Nrunning through everything,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:34.35,0:00:36.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's just always hangin' out there,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:36.40,0:00:39.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and what schema therapy\Ndoes is it helps us identify
Dialogue: 0,0:00:39.83,0:00:44.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and uncover schemas or\Nthemes that we formed
Dialogue: 0,0:00:44.16,0:00:46.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in response to early experiences
Dialogue: 0,0:00:46.86,0:00:50.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of unmet emotional needs, okay?
Dialogue: 0,0:00:50.10,0:00:52.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I know that's a lot,\Nbut just hang with me.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:52.18,0:00:53.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What that really means in short
Dialogue: 0,0:00:53.67,0:00:56.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is that when hurtful or\Nbad things happen to us,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:56.81,0:00:58.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we try, you know, to make sense of it
Dialogue: 0,0:00:58.83,0:01:01.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by believing that it's\Neither like our fault,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:01.45,0:01:03.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we did something, or we create
Dialogue: 0,0:01:03.55,0:01:05.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,an unhealthy or negative story about it
Dialogue: 0,0:01:05.88,0:01:08.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to kinda tell ourselves\Nwhy that thing happened.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:08.91,0:01:11.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And this type of therapy\Nseeks to help us learn
Dialogue: 0,0:01:11.31,0:01:14.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how to operate in a healthy\Nmode or state of being,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:14.90,0:01:18.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as we learn to get our\Ncore emotional needs met
Dialogue: 0,0:01:18.03,0:01:19.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in everyday life.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:19.24,0:01:20.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, before we go any further
Dialogue: 0,0:01:20.72,0:01:23.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,into why someone could\Nbenefit from schema therapy,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:23.68,0:01:27.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,let's talk a little bit\Nabout the origin of it.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:27.06,0:01:29.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, schema therapy is a type of therapy
Dialogue: 0,0:01:29.64,0:01:32.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that was developed in the mid 1980's.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:32.39,0:01:35.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A man named Dr. Jeffrey Young\Nwas working with patients
Dialogue: 0,0:01:35.55,0:01:37.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,at the Center for Cognitive Therapy
Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.51,0:01:40.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,at the University of Pennsylvania,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:40.08,0:01:42.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and while he was seeing a lot of success
Dialogue: 0,0:01:42.43,0:01:45.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,through cognitive therapy, he also noticed
Dialogue: 0,0:01:45.44,0:01:46.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that with patients who seemed to have
Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.90,0:01:49.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,more pervasive patterns of dysfunction
Dialogue: 0,0:01:49.58,0:01:53.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or personality disorders,\Nhe really wasn't seeing
Dialogue: 0,0:01:53.23,0:01:55.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,much lasting change, and that's why
Dialogue: 0,0:01:55.96,0:01:58.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he began to develop schema therapy.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:58.45,0:01:59.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He wanted to take the strengths
Dialogue: 0,0:01:59.98,0:02:02.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from multiple therapeutic techniques,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:02.69,0:02:05.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you know, like I kinda do in my practice.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:05.26,0:02:07.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He wanted to pick and choose\Nfrom the ones that existed
Dialogue: 0,0:02:07.89,0:02:11.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and combine them into\None integrated approach,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:11.30,0:02:13.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that's how schema therapy was born.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:13.75,0:02:16.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Schema therapy helps to navigate patterns
Dialogue: 0,0:02:16.06,0:02:17.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that developed out of our childhood
Dialogue: 0,0:02:17.67,0:02:20.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that now permeate our\Nlives, and it does this
Dialogue: 0,0:02:20.89,0:02:22.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by borrowing from multiple theories,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.73,0:02:24.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just like I was talking about.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:24.35,0:02:26.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For example, psychodynamic theory
Dialogue: 0,0:02:26.52,0:02:29.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,explores childhood\Nrelationship experiences
Dialogue: 0,0:02:29.65,0:02:32.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with the mindset that\Ninsight into the past
Dialogue: 0,0:02:32.72,0:02:36.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can in and of itself, help\Nus navigate the present.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.84,0:02:40.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Cognitive therapy takes a\Nmore present day approach,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:40.46,0:02:42.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,seeking to identify thought patterns
Dialogue: 0,0:02:42.71,0:02:44.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,taking place in specific situations,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:44.91,0:02:48.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and focusing on how we\Ncan shift our narrative.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:48.96,0:02:51.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Schema therapy integrates both approaches
Dialogue: 0,0:02:51.93,0:02:54.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by exploring elements,\Nas well as borrowing
Dialogue: 0,0:02:54.88,0:02:58.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from some attachment theory,\Nobject relations theory,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:58.27,0:03:00.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and emotion-focused therapies and more.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:00.86,0:03:03.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Okay, now let's talk a little bit about
Dialogue: 0,0:03:03.03,0:03:05.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,some of the key components\Nof schema therapy.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:05.78,0:03:08.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now schema therapy has\Nfour key conceptions.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:08.86,0:03:11.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Number one, emotional needs,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:11.57,0:03:15.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,number two, early maladaptive schemas,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:15.24,0:03:18.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,number three, maladaptive coping styles,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:18.15,0:03:20.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and four, schema modes.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:20.45,0:03:21.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now I know that sounds like a lot,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:21.75,0:03:23.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but don't worry, we'll break it down.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:23.21,0:03:26.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Okay, so let's get into each\Nof these concepts a little more
Dialogue: 0,0:03:26.03,0:03:28.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so that you can just\Nbetter understand them,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:28.81,0:03:32.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the first, the core emotional needs.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:32.37,0:03:35.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Schema therapy proposes that you and I
Dialogue: 0,0:03:35.00,0:03:37.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,have some basic emotional\Nneeds when we're children.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:37.71,0:03:38.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We've kind of talked about this
Dialogue: 0,0:03:38.84,0:03:41.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when it comes to, you know,\Nchildhood emotional neglect,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:41.58,0:03:44.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and some, maybe abuse that\Nwe sustained as children.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:44.92,0:03:48.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We all have emotional needs,\Nand when these are not met,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:48.80,0:03:51.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we develop early maladaptive schemas.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:51.56,0:03:55.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That really means a faulty\Nstory or belief about ourselves,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:55.34,0:03:57.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and these are damaging themes or patterns
Dialogue: 0,0:03:57.61,0:03:59.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we developed in our childhood,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:59.09,0:04:02.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then continued to add\Nto throughout our lives.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:02.89,0:04:04.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For example, one of these might be,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:04.84,0:04:08.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm not worth loving, or\Neveryone always leaves me.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:08.75,0:04:11.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now schema therapy has\Ncategorized our schemas
Dialogue: 0,0:04:11.32,0:04:13.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,into 18 themes, that can result
Dialogue: 0,0:04:13.55,0:04:18.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from a perceived lack of core\Nemotional needs being met.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:18.02,0:04:19.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm not gonna go through all 18.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:19.95,0:04:21.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can look it up if you want more.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:21.40,0:04:23.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Of course, our brains have lots of schemas
Dialogue: 0,0:04:23.63,0:04:25.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they form in our childhood, and even
Dialogue: 0,0:04:25.73,0:04:28.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,into adulthood, but\Nearly maladaptive schemas
Dialogue: 0,0:04:28.07,0:04:30.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,have a few things in common, and this
Dialogue: 0,0:04:30.99,0:04:32.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is our second one if you don't remember.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:32.65,0:04:34.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The second component of schema therapy
Dialogue: 0,0:04:34.76,0:04:36.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is early maladaptive schemas.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:36.53,0:04:38.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Okay, so they have a\Nlot of things in common,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:38.19,0:04:39.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the first is that
Dialogue: 0,0:04:39.46,0:04:43.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they have broad pervasive\Nthemes or patterns.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:43.27,0:04:46.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Two, they're comprised\Nof memories, emotions,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:46.54,0:04:49.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,cognitions and bodily sensations,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:49.73,0:04:52.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and three, they involve\Nthe way we see ourselves
Dialogue: 0,0:04:52.45,0:04:54.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or our relationship with others.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:54.86,0:04:58.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Four, they have developed\Nduring childhood or adolescence,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:58.83,0:05:01.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and were five, deepened and extended
Dialogue: 0,0:05:01.65,0:05:03.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,throughout our lifetime, and six,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:03.67,0:05:05.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and finally, they create\Na significant degree
Dialogue: 0,0:05:05.86,0:05:07.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of dysfunction in our lives.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:07.71,0:05:10.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Pretty much what we're saying\Nis these maladaptive schemas
Dialogue: 0,0:05:10.55,0:05:13.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we've created started in our childhood,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:13.85,0:05:16.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they're not helpful,\Nthey actually hinder us,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:16.52,0:05:19.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they kind of hang out\Nand permeate our entire life.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:19.92,0:05:22.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now from these schemas, we then develop
Dialogue: 0,0:05:22.53,0:05:24.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what they call coping mechanisms,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:24.31,0:05:26.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which you know a lot about.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:26.05,0:05:28.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I am always talking about coping skills,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:28.44,0:05:30.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that's really what these are.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:30.70,0:05:32.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For a child in a rough\Nsituation growing up,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:32.75,0:05:35.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,these coping strategies make sense.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:35.13,0:05:37.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They were our way to, you\Nknow, try to protect ourselves,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:37.79,0:05:40.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they can help us get\Nthrough really tough things.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:40.10,0:05:41.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know how I've mentioned that like,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:41.36,0:05:44.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,self- injurious behavior\Nor even dissociation
Dialogue: 0,0:05:44.71,0:05:47.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can help us get through\Na really tough time,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:47.66,0:05:50.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but what makes them\Nmaladaptive coping styles
Dialogue: 0,0:05:50.23,0:05:52.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is when we hang on to\Nthose coping mechanisms
Dialogue: 0,0:05:52.72,0:05:54.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,past the point that they're helpful.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:54.66,0:05:55.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've talked about this before,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:55.61,0:05:58.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like our self-injury is\Nno longer serving us,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:58.20,0:06:00.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and so that's when they kind of move in
Dialogue: 0,0:06:00.12,0:06:01.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to this maladaptive realm.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:01.67,0:06:05.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now these are different for\Nevery individual, obviously,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:05.56,0:06:08.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which can explain why we are\Ndifferent from our siblings,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:08.32,0:06:11.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even though we could grow up\Nin the exact same environment.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:11.94,0:06:14.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Coping mechanisms can be\Nshaped by our temperament,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:14.95,0:06:18.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or just from watching and or\Nimitating someone around us.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:18.87,0:06:21.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Coping mechanisms can be a\Nvariety of different things,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:21.50,0:06:24.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but they tend to fall in\Nto one of three categories,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:24.13,0:06:26.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I found this really fascinating.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:26.20,0:06:28.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The first category is surrender,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:28.82,0:06:32.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which means we're repeating our\Nschemas over and over again.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:32.38,0:06:35.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For example, if our\Nschema makes us feel weak,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:35.25,0:06:37.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we might have a coping strategy
Dialogue: 0,0:06:37.03,0:06:40.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of over-dependence on\Nothers, which really lines up
Dialogue: 0,0:06:40.76,0:06:42.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with that schema or that narrative
Dialogue: 0,0:06:42.48,0:06:45.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we are weak or unable.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:45.27,0:06:48.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The second category is avoidance.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:48.36,0:06:49.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now these strategies are the ones
Dialogue: 0,0:06:49.92,0:06:52.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that help us avoid or escape our schemas.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:52.66,0:06:54.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For example, you know, addictions,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:54.54,0:06:56.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or seeking some kind of stimulation
Dialogue: 0,0:06:56.67,0:06:58.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that can make us completely avoid
Dialogue: 0,0:06:58.91,0:07:01.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,all the stuff that we maybe\Nthink or feel about ourselves,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:01.70,0:07:03.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the third category\Nof coping mechanisms
Dialogue: 0,0:07:03.78,0:07:06.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is over-compensation.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:06.46,0:07:07.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now these strategies are the ones
Dialogue: 0,0:07:07.87,0:07:10.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that lead us to do the\Nopposite of our schema.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:10.71,0:07:13.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So if our schema makes\Nus feel out of control,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:13.44,0:07:16.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we might end up coping\Nwith obsessive disorder
Dialogue: 0,0:07:16.09,0:07:20.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or extreme planning, or maybe\Neven eating disorder behavior.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:20.25,0:07:22.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Okay, we talked about all three
Dialogue: 0,0:07:22.03,0:07:24.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of the main concepts in schema therapy,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:24.42,0:07:25.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I know that was a lot, remember
Dialogue: 0,0:07:25.94,0:07:28.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they were core emotional needs,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:28.23,0:07:32.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,early maladaptive schemas,\Nand maladaptive coping styles,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:32.49,0:07:35.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the last concept that's\Nimportant in schema therapy
Dialogue: 0,0:07:35.36,0:07:38.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is what's known as schema modes.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:38.59,0:07:40.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, this really refers to the modes
Dialogue: 0,0:07:40.74,0:07:43.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or states that our mind goes into
Dialogue: 0,0:07:43.71,0:07:46.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when we're triggered, okay?
Dialogue: 0,0:07:46.22,0:07:49.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Modes are a combination of our schemas
Dialogue: 0,0:07:49.10,0:07:51.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and our coping mechanisms,\Nand it's out of that
Dialogue: 0,0:07:51.78,0:07:53.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that flow these patterns
Dialogue: 0,0:07:53.77,0:07:55.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we see playing out in our lives.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:55.35,0:07:56.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, when you kind of find yourself
Dialogue: 0,0:07:56.96,0:07:58.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like in the same type of relationship
Dialogue: 0,0:07:58.57,0:08:01.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or having the same kind\Nof relationship issues.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:01.75,0:08:04.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A mode is not simply a narrative we have
Dialogue: 0,0:08:04.48,0:08:08.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or a coping behavior, or a\Nfeeling that's triggered.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:08.66,0:08:11.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's really when all\Nthose things come together
Dialogue: 0,0:08:11.44,0:08:14.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so consistently and repeatedly
Dialogue: 0,0:08:14.26,0:08:17.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that our brain kind of has\Na mode it now goes into
Dialogue: 0,0:08:17.61,0:08:19.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when we're triggered.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:19.33,0:08:20.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Does that make sense?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:20.28,0:08:22.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's kind of like our brain gets so used
Dialogue: 0,0:08:22.38,0:08:24.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to thinking and doing the same thing
Dialogue: 0,0:08:24.19,0:08:25.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,every single time it's triggered
Dialogue: 0,0:08:25.86,0:08:27.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that it either acts responsibly
Dialogue: 0,0:08:27.39,0:08:29.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to get us out of the situation,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:29.58,0:08:32.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or it possibly dissociates or, you know,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:32.18,0:08:35.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,has us engaging in some\Nkinda unhealthy coping skill,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:35.93,0:08:38.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the mode that we\Ngo into really depends
Dialogue: 0,0:08:38.69,0:08:40.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on our coping skills, and those early,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:40.54,0:08:42.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,unhealthy schemas that\Nwe kinda talked about
Dialogue: 0,0:08:42.54,0:08:44.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we developed as a child.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:44.47,0:08:45.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Does that make sense?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:45.87,0:08:47.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When it comes to these modes,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:47.42,0:08:49.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,schema therapy identifies and addresses
Dialogue: 0,0:08:49.88,0:08:52.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,10 different kinds of\Nthem, and it's designed
Dialogue: 0,0:08:52.75,0:08:55.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to tackle those 10, and if any of this
Dialogue: 0,0:08:55.91,0:08:56.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,doesn't make sense, or you want
Dialogue: 0,0:08:56.96,0:08:58.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,more clarification, just let me know
Dialogue: 0,0:08:58.36,0:09:00.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in those comments down\Nbelow, and I'm happy
Dialogue: 0,0:09:00.04,0:09:03.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to follow up, either in a\Ncomment or in another video.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:03.30,0:09:05.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So we've talked about the key concepts,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:05.15,0:09:07.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but what actually happens\Nwhen we walk into the office
Dialogue: 0,0:09:07.52,0:09:10.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of a therapist who\Nspecializes in schema therapy?
Dialogue: 0,0:09:10.97,0:09:12.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The primary goals of schema therapy
Dialogue: 0,0:09:12.73,0:09:15.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are to first unpack and identify
Dialogue: 0,0:09:15.29,0:09:17.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,those four concepts in our lives.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:17.77,0:09:21.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What experiences did\Nwe have of unmet needs?
Dialogue: 0,0:09:21.21,0:09:23.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What schemas have we developed,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:23.24,0:09:25.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and what coping mechanisms\Ngo along with these
Dialogue: 0,0:09:25.62,0:09:28.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to make up the modes that\Nwe're operating out of?
Dialogue: 0,0:09:28.71,0:09:30.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I know that sounds very therapisty,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:30.88,0:09:32.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I hope you kinda understand.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:32.04,0:09:34.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's like, what emotional\Nneeds weren't met,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:34.80,0:09:37.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then what do we do to\Ndeal with the feeling,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:37.39,0:09:39.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or that unmet need, and then how
Dialogue: 0,0:09:39.34,0:09:41.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,do we act as a result?
Dialogue: 0,0:09:41.23,0:09:42.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And moving on to the second thing
Dialogue: 0,0:09:42.55,0:09:44.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a schema therapist will do, is that
Dialogue: 0,0:09:44.41,0:09:47.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they'll wanna know how\Nwe get our needs met,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:47.20,0:09:49.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and how we can access a healthy mode
Dialogue: 0,0:09:49.48,0:09:52.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that operates out of adaptive schemas.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:52.07,0:09:54.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So they're gonna help you\Ncreate these adaptive schemas
Dialogue: 0,0:09:54.75,0:09:56.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and healthier coping mechanisms,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:56.83,0:09:59.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so it can help us in our\Nrelationships and our lives.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:59.50,0:10:02.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Like, if we could rise to the\Noccasion when we're triggered,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:02.50,0:10:04.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and not let that old way of thinking
Dialogue: 0,0:10:04.42,0:10:06.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,cause us to relapse or dissociate,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:06.53,0:10:08.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they're gonna help build\Nup those coping skills,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:08.94,0:10:10.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,also challenge some of those thoughts
Dialogue: 0,0:10:10.73,0:10:13.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or beliefs you have about\Nyourself in your past
Dialogue: 0,0:10:13.17,0:10:15.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so that we can feel more\Nconfident and empowered
Dialogue: 0,0:10:15.82,0:10:17.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to make healthy decisions.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:17.44,0:10:20.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Often schema therapy involves\Na period of assessment.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:20.90,0:10:24.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Therapists may ask us to\Ntake some kinda Q and A,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:24.09,0:10:26.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or may use techniques to\Nhelp us identify schemas
Dialogue: 0,0:10:26.93,0:10:29.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that are impacting our lives.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:29.18,0:10:32.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As schema therapy is such\Na multi-theory approach,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:32.10,0:10:33.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,remember, we're kinda picking and choosing
Dialogue: 0,0:10:33.74,0:10:36.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from different therapies,\Nwe'll likely experience
Dialogue: 0,0:10:36.25,0:10:39.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a number of different\Ntypes of therapy styles.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:39.29,0:10:41.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our therapist may utilize\Ncognitive techniques
Dialogue: 0,0:10:41.91,0:10:44.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or emotion-focused techniques,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:44.41,0:10:47.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which can involve more\Ntechniques like chair work.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:47.27,0:10:48.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you ever done like\NEmpty Chair Technique
Dialogue: 0,0:10:48.91,0:10:50.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where you talk to someone
Dialogue: 0,0:10:50.99,0:10:52.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that you're havin' a hard time with
Dialogue: 0,0:10:52.21,0:10:53.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and pretend that they're in that chair,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:53.84,0:10:56.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or you could role play to\Nexplore different schemas,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:56.50,0:10:59.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like, almost like taking that\Neating disorder voice out
Dialogue: 0,0:10:59.80,0:11:01.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and talking to it, like,\Nwhy are you doing that,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:01.63,0:11:03.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I know it sounds kinda crazy,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:03.73,0:11:05.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I know a lot of you don't like that,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:05.15,0:11:07.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but it can help us uncover
Dialogue: 0,0:11:07.40,0:11:10.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,some, maybe other schemas or other issues
Dialogue: 0,0:11:10.47,0:11:12.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or coping skills that\Nwe may be dealing with.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:12.62,0:11:15.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now the therapy relationship\Nmay also be utilized
Dialogue: 0,0:11:15.43,0:11:18.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in schema therapy by exploring any modes,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:18.53,0:11:20.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,remember, those ways we act out,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:20.41,0:11:21.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that are triggered in sessions,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:21.84,0:11:24.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which, really is just\Na fancy way of saying
Dialogue: 0,0:11:24.08,0:11:25.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we'll talk through and work through
Dialogue: 0,0:11:25.97,0:11:27.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,any transference that might come up.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:27.74,0:11:30.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And behavioral techniques\Ncan also be used,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:30.04,0:11:32.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,helping us press in to\Nnew coping strategies
Dialogue: 0,0:11:32.61,0:11:34.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and try out new behaviors to help us
Dialogue: 0,0:11:34.52,0:11:36.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,feel more confident and able to act out
Dialogue: 0,0:11:36.74,0:11:38.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in a healthier mode, instead of,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:38.83,0:11:41.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you know, going back to\Nthat old unhealthy one
Dialogue: 0,0:11:41.22,0:11:43.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that's really been holding us back.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:43.34,0:11:44.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Okay, now let's talk a little bit
Dialogue: 0,0:11:44.83,0:11:47.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about who can benefit from schema therapy,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:47.35,0:11:49.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the truth is, the key concepts
Dialogue: 0,0:11:49.56,0:11:52.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of schema therapy could\Nprobably help most of us.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:52.46,0:11:54.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I know when I was researching\Nthis, I thought that,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:54.96,0:11:56.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that it could really, really help me,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:56.82,0:11:58.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and many of us have emotional needs
Dialogue: 0,0:11:58.88,0:12:02.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we really felt were unmet as children
Dialogue: 0,0:12:02.04,0:12:04.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or adolescents, and we\Nall likely formed schemas
Dialogue: 0,0:12:04.87,0:12:07.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or unhealthy coping skills out of that,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:07.99,0:12:10.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and all of that can lead\Nus to having behaviors
Dialogue: 0,0:12:10.39,0:12:12.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or patterns in our\Nlives that we don't like
Dialogue: 0,0:12:12.75,0:12:14.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we maybe wanna change.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:14.94,0:12:16.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So how do we know if this therapy
Dialogue: 0,0:12:16.34,0:12:18.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is the best fit for us?
Dialogue: 0,0:12:18.04,0:12:20.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How do we know when we should\Nbe pursuing schema therapy
Dialogue: 0,0:12:20.95,0:12:24.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or something more commonly\Navailable, like CBT?
Dialogue: 0,0:12:24.40,0:12:26.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, schema therapy was developed
Dialogue: 0,0:12:26.11,0:12:27.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,specifically to provide options
Dialogue: 0,0:12:27.98,0:12:30.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and help for patients who\Nhave patterns in their life
Dialogue: 0,0:12:30.73,0:12:34.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that are so pervasive and\Ndeeply entrenched within them
Dialogue: 0,0:12:34.88,0:12:36.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that typical forms of therapy
Dialogue: 0,0:12:36.88,0:12:39.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can leave them feeling discouraged
Dialogue: 0,0:12:39.02,0:12:41.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,at their inability to go deeper
Dialogue: 0,0:12:41.61,0:12:44.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,than tackling just the\Nsymptoms they're feeling.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:44.51,0:12:47.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's commonly thought to be\None of the more helpful tools
Dialogue: 0,0:12:47.40,0:12:48.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for those of us who are struggling
Dialogue: 0,0:12:48.53,0:12:50.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with chronic psychological disorders
Dialogue: 0,0:12:50.67,0:12:54.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like borderline personality\Ndisorder or narcissism,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:54.28,0:12:56.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it's also been known to work well
Dialogue: 0,0:12:56.22,0:12:57.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with those who find they're struggling
Dialogue: 0,0:12:57.90,0:13:00.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with lifelong patterns\Nthat are really hindering
Dialogue: 0,0:13:00.92,0:13:04.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,their quality of life, like\Neating disorders or addiction.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:04.32,0:13:06.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There are a lotta different kinds
Dialogue: 0,0:13:06.03,0:13:08.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of therapies out there,\Nand it can be hard to know
Dialogue: 0,0:13:08.07,0:13:09.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which one's best for you, but I hope
Dialogue: 0,0:13:09.84,0:13:12.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this just gives you a\Nlittle bit more information
Dialogue: 0,0:13:12.16,0:13:15.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about schema therapy,\Nand if you're not sure,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:15.09,0:13:16.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,always chat with your therapist,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:16.38,0:13:18.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and ask for their take on this.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:18.06,0:13:19.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, what type of therapy
Dialogue: 0,0:13:19.41,0:13:21.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,might be the most helpful for you.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:21.57,0:13:23.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if you're watching this and\Nyou've tried schema therapy,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:23.71,0:13:25.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or have had any thoughts on it,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:25.68,0:13:27.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,please share in the comments down below,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:27.49,0:13:28.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I will see you next time.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:28.52,0:13:29.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Bye.