PARENTS REACT TO DIVORCE SELFIES?! (#DivorceSelfie)

- I don't get it.

I mean, was it really that bad?

- Take marriage
a little more serious.

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- (FBE) For this episode,
we're going to be showing you

a selection of selfies
that are part of a new trend.

- Okay.

- Called?
- (FBE) Well, we'll get into that.

- Oh, no.

Dude, being on summer break,
I'm so out of the loop now

of everything-- I haven't heard
of a new selfie trend.

- "Can we take a divorce selfie?

Duh, in front the eagle."

I don't get the correlation.

- Mmm, I don't get it.

- They're divorcing.

Most people who
get divorced are unhappy,

so I guess this would be a step
in the right direction?

- Crazy, that's a divorce selfie?

(laughing)

- Divorce selfie? Uh-oh.

- Wow, so divorce selfies?

That's heavy. I can't imagine
taking a happy selfie.

- Oh, the divorce-- yeah.

You know what?

Listen, if people are taking
their divorce selfie,

good on 'em because clearly
that marriage wasn't working out

and you're gonna be better friends
than you were married couples.

- "We are officially unmarried.

"Here's to the most friendly,
respectful,

and loving split imaginable."

- "We smile not because it's over,
but because it happened.

Divorce selfie."

I don't get it!

I mean, was it really that bad?

- That's the new hashtag
then, I guess?

That's what everybody's putting,
is #DivorceSelfie?

I'm married (laughing)
and, yeah, I won't be doing that.

- If you're that happy
getting a divorce,

maybe you didn't take the time
to invest in the relationship

before you got married.

- I guess they're really positive
about this divorce, you know,

and they want to capture it
for (laughing) their grandkids?

- "Not all dinner dates end
in divorce, but this one did."

Awww. (laughing)

That's awesome.

- He looks a little sadder
than she does,

let's just be honest.

- I wonder who paid the bill.
Think they went dutch?

- It's weird. I suppose it's nice,
and it should be celebrated,

but I never looked that happy
when I was getting divorced.

It's kind of painful.

- Take marriage
a little more serious.

Hey, but the gays are ruining
the sanctity of marriage, right?

- "Proudly announcing
our official divorce.

What remains is love,
respect, friendship,

and a pair of really great kiddos."

See, I love that. That's cool.

- That feels very
non-heartfelt. (laughing)

I mean, very projection
to the world,

but beneath it all, right,
are we buying it?

- I think people are moving on
way too quickly.

I've been with my wife
for 26 years.

You don't think at some point
we looked at each other

and wanted to just call it quits?

- That's the big thing,
when you got kids involved.

My wife is remarried,
so we try to make it

as amicable as possible
in terms of dealing with

her ex-husband
and, hopefully, we did right

by her daughter.

- Awww.

"Divorce selfie number two.
Incredibly hard today."

See?

"That said, we were shown
several signs today

that our path is correct."

Yeah, that makes me
tear up a little.

- So they probably tried
to do it once,

and that they
want each other back

and they realized
this is some bullshit.

What did we do this for?

We should've just been friends.

- "#BlessedToBeGay."

Well, that explains
a lot right there.

I mean, seriously #Blessed.

"#BlessedToBeGay."

Oh, okay! That makes sense.

Well, good for Christopher.

I mean, it's sad
that it took two divorces

to finally realize his path
and where he needed to go,

but, you know, it's probably
hard on both parties.

- "Finally signed divorce papers
on our 13th anniversary.

Lucky 13."
They are funny.

That is cute, though.

I mean, hey, it didn't work out.

Let's do it on our anniversary day.

- I can't imagine 13 years
because we just celebrated 14 years.

Gosh, man, that's a long time
to be with someone

and then just have it end.

- They're just embracing
the new challenge of being single.

- I like that these people
are making it look like

the latest trend and really fun,
but I don't think it's fun.

I know a lot of people
who have gone through it

and it's not fun.

- It's so, "Welcome
to our social age.

Even when things suck ass,
we're so happy!"

On the flip side, I guess,
if you're not happily married,

then you're gonna be happy
when you're divorced.

- If you know that
you don't belong together,

just get it done and then
move on with your life.

Life is way too short to be hung up
about stuff like this.

- When a person
goes through a divorce,

the only reason why
they feel down is because

society looks down at them.

It's good that they let
the world know, you know what,

I'm getting divorced,
I'm happy about it,

leave me alone,
don't feel bad for me.

- "Get a whistle. It's official."

(chuckling) Man, you're a punk.

- Oh, no. No.

- "Out with the old Peggy (left).
In with the new Charity (right).

Had to share. #DivorceSelfie."

- Seriously,
am I reading that right?

That's his new girlfriend
and his old wife?

- (laughing) That's cold blooded!

- Look at he way he's looking.

He's like, (lecherously) "Yeah."

(laughing) "Had one
and moving on to the next."

That's terrible.

- I like the guy's face.

He's like-- he's like...
(making perverted noises).

You know what I mean?
He's-- ugh, bastard.

- He's such a douchebag,
just based on this picture

and that comment,
that the ex should be celebrating.

- Peggy looks hot!
The hell's wrong with that dude?

Seriously, not that
new Charity isn't adorable,

but, wow, that's some #Cajones.

- "Divorce day done right."

Heck yeah, shots.
Let's do this.

- Alcohol is a really good friend
when you're getting a divorce.

And ice cream, also.

- Boomeranging like crazy
on our #DivorceSelfie.

- Then they're gonna get drunk
and they'll probably have

sex afterwards, you know,
after divorce sex. Nice.

- You've all broken up, right?

You've all, I'm sure,
had a breakup.

Were you so happy that you were
out celebrating with the person?

To have drinks and celebrate that,
it's like-- uh-uh.

Nope.

- It's great that people can
part ways in such a great way.

- It's cute. It's good.
I mean, why not?

It's like we're mature enough
to say, you know what,

we realize it's not working.

It's better than cheating and doing
all type of other things

in a relationship.

You know, they're being mature
about it, like, hey,

it didn't work out.

It is what it is.
We can still be friends.

- Maybe it's just my old-school
roots coming through,

but I don't know if that's
something to be celebrated.

What was supposed to be
something that was long-lasting,

it's almost kind
of making a mockery of it

and, I don't know, it's sad.

- (FBE) So has divorce
impacted your life at all?

- No. I've never been divorced.

My parents are still together.

- My husband's family,
he comes from a divorced family.

His parents would've
been those people

because they've always been
really amiable

and cool with each other.

- No, my parents are still together.

My wife's parents are still together.

But I've seen the effects
of it with students

and there's some kids that can
pull through and manage,

and then there are others
that it just shakes their world.

- Oh my god, seriously? Yes.

Many times, actually,
as a child, as an adult.

- My grandparents
divorced after 37 years.

My mom and dad divorced.

- Shit, I hate to say
I was divorced, but I am.

(laughing)

We get along better, you know,
and our divorce was

similar to that divorce.

I just couldn't post selfies
in the early 2000's.

- I wasn't bitter, but it was
one of those things,

like, dang, why
didn't we work out?

You know, you ask that question,

but it just made me
a stronger person

and made me hustle more
and grind and motivate more,

so it was a good decision for myself
because I wasn't happy.

- I got a divorce and my kids
were kind of young.

I left the house and,
you know, my son,

seeing me moving out,
he started crying.

Divorce is something else.

I mean, you know,
it's a serious situation.

There's a lot of weight on it
and you just have to go through it.

I mean, if that's
the choice you make,

you gotta live with your choices.

- (FBE) So would you ever participate
in a divorce selfie?

- I don't think so.

- I would've done a divorce selfie.
I really would have.

- Heck yeah, I would've done that,
took a picture,

and I would've
been the one smiling.

- I would be able to do that,
but my husband,

we've been married 25 years
this past June.

He wouldn't have it.

- I would want to because
then I would have

enjoyed divorce,
but I didn't enjoy divorce.

- No, absolutely not.

To me, it just screams attention.

- I wouldn't want people
to think that I got joy

in splitting up with
someone I was married to.

I don't know if you should have
a tremendous amount of joy

in leaving your partner.

- (FBE) So divorce
is not really a topic

that you see
made light of very often,

where people kind of shy away
from talking about it.

- Exactly.

- (FBE) Why do you think that is,
and do you think

all divorce is negative?

- All? No, but I think
there is a negative stigma

about divorce itself.

- The realities of it are tough,
like financial consequences,

impact on your family,
there's a lot of consequences.

- Nobody wants to talk about
how I failed at something

I thought was, you know,
we were gonna be together

for the rest of our lives
because, you know,

you go through stages,
but working through it

and coming to terms
that we're no longer compatible

in that way and handling it
in a great way like that,

it's such a positive thing
for everybody involved.

And also a great example
for all involved,

especially your children.

- Everything has a lot
of weight, you know,

and people wanted you to make it.

You feel like you're
letting other people down,

but it's really you.

You're the one in it.

If you shouldn't be together
in that kind of commitment,

then you shouldn't fake
the funk, you know?

Get a divorce.
Take a divorce selfie.

- (FBE) So finally, do you think
this is a good or bad trend

to be out in the world?
- I think it's a bad trend

to be out in the world.

- I would have to call it bad
because it feels bad.

- I don't like it.

It's almost (chuckling) letting
everyone know,

especially on Instagram,
that you're back on the market.

- I look at it more as good.

You only showed pictures
of positive divorce selfies.

I didn't see any negative ones,
so-- I'm sure there's some out there.

- It's a good one.

Let people know
how happy you are

when you get divorced.

It's over. If it's over, it's over.

Why feel sad now?

- It's a good trend.

I mean, it's showing maturity.

I mean, it's showing that
we can still be friends after this.

We didn't work out
and we recognize it

and there's nothing wrong with that.

- It's a very good trend.

To start off something negative
and end on a positive,

you can't just beat that.

Versus people
not working through it

and it just goes downhill very fast.

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- Hey, guys, I'm Ethan.
- And I'm Kyle.

Thank you so much
for watching this episode

of Parents React.

- Hey, Kyle, are you
getting a divorce?

- I am happily married.

- Oh, well, let's
take a selfie anyway.