WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:01.068 - I don't get it. 00:00:01.068 --> 00:00:03.071 I mean, was it really that bad? 00:00:03.071 --> 00:00:05.530 - Take marriage a little more serious. 00:00:05.530 --> 00:00:09.155 ♪ (industrial music) ♪ 00:00:09.676 --> 00:00:11.138 - (FBE) For this episode, we're going to be showing you 00:00:11.138 --> 00:00:14.408 a selection of selfies that are part of a new trend. 00:00:14.408 --> 00:00:15.111 - Okay. 00:00:15.111 --> 00:00:17.244 - Called? - (FBE) Well, we'll get into that. 00:00:17.244 --> 00:00:18.756 - Oh, no. 00:00:18.756 --> 00:00:21.924 Dude, being on summer break, I'm so out of the loop now 00:00:21.924 --> 00:00:25.344 of everything-- I haven't heard of a new selfie trend. 00:00:25.344 --> 00:00:27.545 - "Can we take a divorce selfie? 00:00:27.545 --> 00:00:29.687 Duh, in front the eagle." 00:00:29.687 --> 00:00:30.816 I don't get the correlation. 00:00:30.816 --> 00:00:32.001 - Mmm, I don't get it. 00:00:32.001 --> 00:00:33.014 - They're divorcing. 00:00:33.014 --> 00:00:35.538 Most people who get divorced are unhappy, 00:00:35.538 --> 00:00:38.364 so I guess this would be a step in the right direction? 00:00:38.364 --> 00:00:40.220 - Crazy, that's a divorce selfie? 00:00:40.220 --> 00:00:41.457 (laughing) 00:00:41.457 --> 00:00:42.967 - Divorce selfie? Uh-oh. 00:00:42.967 --> 00:00:47.186 - Wow, so divorce selfies? 00:00:47.186 --> 00:00:50.158 That's heavy. I can't imagine taking a happy selfie. 00:00:50.158 --> 00:00:53.230 - Oh, the divorce-- yeah. 00:00:53.230 --> 00:00:54.465 You know what? 00:00:54.465 --> 00:00:57.015 Listen, if people are taking their divorce selfie, 00:00:57.015 --> 00:01:00.934 good on 'em because clearly that marriage wasn't working out 00:01:00.934 --> 00:01:04.343 and you're gonna be better friends than you were married couples. 00:01:04.343 --> 00:01:05.815 - "We are officially unmarried. 00:01:05.815 --> 00:01:07.414 "Here's to the most friendly, respectful, 00:01:07.414 --> 00:01:08.820 and loving split imaginable." 00:01:08.820 --> 00:01:12.011 - "We smile not because it's over, but because it happened. 00:01:12.011 --> 00:01:13.109 Divorce selfie." 00:01:13.109 --> 00:01:14.152 I don't get it! 00:01:14.152 --> 00:01:16.180 I mean, was it really that bad? 00:01:16.180 --> 00:01:17.669 - That's the new hashtag then, I guess? 00:01:17.669 --> 00:01:20.206 That's what everybody's putting, is #DivorceSelfie? 00:01:20.206 --> 00:01:23.575 I'm married (laughing) and, yeah, I won't be doing that. 00:01:23.575 --> 00:01:26.048 - If you're that happy getting a divorce, 00:01:26.048 --> 00:01:30.906 maybe you didn't take the time to invest in the relationship 00:01:30.906 --> 00:01:32.558 before you got married. 00:01:32.558 --> 00:01:37.210 - I guess they're really positive about this divorce, you know, 00:01:37.210 --> 00:01:42.942 and they want to capture it for (laughing) their grandkids? 00:01:42.942 --> 00:01:46.007 - "Not all dinner dates end in divorce, but this one did." 00:01:46.007 --> 00:01:49.760 Awww. (laughing) 00:01:49.760 --> 00:01:51.130 That's awesome. 00:01:51.130 --> 00:01:52.536 - He looks a little sadder than she does, 00:01:52.536 --> 00:01:53.539 let's just be honest. 00:01:53.539 --> 00:01:56.272 - I wonder who paid the bill. Think they went dutch? 00:01:56.272 --> 00:01:59.937 - It's weird. I suppose it's nice, and it should be celebrated, 00:01:59.937 --> 00:02:03.708 but I never looked that happy when I was getting divorced. 00:02:03.708 --> 00:02:04.613 It's kind of painful. 00:02:04.613 --> 00:02:07.861 - Take marriage a little more serious. 00:02:07.861 --> 00:02:10.787 Hey, but the gays are ruining the sanctity of marriage, right? 00:02:10.787 --> 00:02:12.956 - "Proudly announcing our official divorce. 00:02:12.956 --> 00:02:15.357 What remains is love, respect, friendship, 00:02:15.357 --> 00:02:17.301 and a pair of really great kiddos." 00:02:17.301 --> 00:02:18.812 See, I love that. That's cool. 00:02:18.812 --> 00:02:22.582 - That feels very non-heartfelt. (laughing) 00:02:22.582 --> 00:02:24.284 I mean, very projection to the world, 00:02:24.284 --> 00:02:26.877 but beneath it all, right, are we buying it? 00:02:26.877 --> 00:02:30.164 - I think people are moving on way too quickly. 00:02:30.164 --> 00:02:35.504 I've been with my wife for 26 years. 00:02:35.504 --> 00:02:38.086 You don't think at some point we looked at each other 00:02:38.086 --> 00:02:40.629 and wanted to just call it quits? 00:02:40.629 --> 00:02:42.403 - That's the big thing, when you got kids involved. 00:02:42.403 --> 00:02:44.322 My wife is remarried, so we try to make it 00:02:44.322 --> 00:02:47.169 as amicable as possible in terms of dealing with 00:02:47.169 --> 00:02:51.305 her ex-husband and, hopefully, we did right 00:02:51.305 --> 00:02:52.363 by her daughter. 00:02:52.363 --> 00:02:53.166 - Awww. 00:02:53.166 --> 00:02:55.714 "Divorce selfie number two. Incredibly hard today." 00:02:55.714 --> 00:02:57.182 See? 00:02:57.182 --> 00:02:59.371 "That said, we were shown several signs today 00:02:59.371 --> 00:03:01.087 that our path is correct." 00:03:01.087 --> 00:03:03.124 Yeah, that makes me tear up a little. 00:03:03.124 --> 00:03:04.734 - So they probably tried to do it once, 00:03:04.734 --> 00:03:06.729 and that they want each other back 00:03:06.729 --> 00:03:08.972 and they realized this is some bullshit. 00:03:08.972 --> 00:03:10.170 What did we do this for? 00:03:10.170 --> 00:03:11.305 We should've just been friends. 00:03:11.305 --> 00:03:12.771 - "#BlessedToBeGay." 00:03:12.771 --> 00:03:14.385 Well, that explains a lot right there. 00:03:14.385 --> 00:03:16.112 I mean, seriously #Blessed. 00:03:16.112 --> 00:03:17.014 "#BlessedToBeGay." 00:03:17.014 --> 00:03:19.753 Oh, okay! That makes sense. 00:03:19.753 --> 00:03:21.107 Well, good for Christopher. 00:03:21.107 --> 00:03:26.738 I mean, it's sad that it took two divorces 00:03:26.738 --> 00:03:32.461 to finally realize his path and where he needed to go, 00:03:32.461 --> 00:03:36.448 but, you know, it's probably hard on both parties. 00:03:36.448 --> 00:03:39.884 - "Finally signed divorce papers on our 13th anniversary. 00:03:39.884 --> 00:03:42.505 Lucky 13." They are funny. 00:03:42.505 --> 00:03:44.266 That is cute, though. 00:03:44.266 --> 00:03:46.775 I mean, hey, it didn't work out. 00:03:46.775 --> 00:03:48.359 Let's do it on our anniversary day. 00:03:48.359 --> 00:03:52.323 - I can't imagine 13 years because we just celebrated 14 years. 00:03:52.323 --> 00:03:55.841 Gosh, man, that's a long time to be with someone 00:03:55.841 --> 00:03:57.244 and then just have it end. 00:03:57.244 --> 00:04:02.560 - They're just embracing the new challenge of being single. 00:04:02.560 --> 00:04:04.561 - I like that these people are making it look like 00:04:04.561 --> 00:04:07.961 the latest trend and really fun, but I don't think it's fun. 00:04:07.961 --> 00:04:09.477 I know a lot of people who have gone through it 00:04:09.477 --> 00:04:11.152 and it's not fun. 00:04:11.152 --> 00:04:14.031 - It's so, "Welcome to our social age. 00:04:14.031 --> 00:04:17.222 Even when things suck ass, we're so happy!" 00:04:17.222 --> 00:04:21.362 On the flip side, I guess, if you're not happily married, 00:04:21.362 --> 00:04:23.959 then you're gonna be happy when you're divorced. 00:04:23.959 --> 00:04:27.644 - If you know that you don't belong together, 00:04:27.644 --> 00:04:30.477 just get it done and then move on with your life. 00:04:30.477 --> 00:04:33.100 Life is way too short to be hung up about stuff like this. 00:04:33.100 --> 00:04:37.032 - When a person goes through a divorce, 00:04:37.032 --> 00:04:38.964 the only reason why they feel down is because 00:04:38.964 --> 00:04:40.333 society looks down at them. 00:04:40.333 --> 00:04:42.453 It's good that they let the world know, you know what, 00:04:42.453 --> 00:04:45.577 I'm getting divorced, I'm happy about it, 00:04:45.577 --> 00:04:47.693 leave me alone, don't feel bad for me. 00:04:47.693 --> 00:04:49.621 - "Get a whistle. It's official." 00:04:49.621 --> 00:04:51.930 (chuckling) Man, you're a punk. 00:04:51.930 --> 00:04:54.618 - Oh, no. No. 00:04:54.618 --> 00:04:57.087 - "Out with the old Peggy (left). In with the new Charity (right). 00:04:57.087 --> 00:05:00.277 Had to share. #DivorceSelfie." 00:05:01.387 --> 00:05:03.712 - Seriously, am I reading that right? 00:05:03.712 --> 00:05:05.992 That's his new girlfriend and his old wife? 00:05:05.992 --> 00:05:07.867 - (laughing) That's cold blooded! 00:05:07.867 --> 00:05:09.064 - Look at he way he's looking. 00:05:09.064 --> 00:05:10.530 He's like, (lecherously) "Yeah." 00:05:10.530 --> 00:05:13.072 (laughing) "Had one and moving on to the next." 00:05:13.072 --> 00:05:14.106 That's terrible. 00:05:14.106 --> 00:05:14.881 - I like the guy's face. 00:05:14.881 --> 00:05:17.926 He's like-- he's like... (making perverted noises). 00:05:17.926 --> 00:05:20.619 You know what I mean? He's-- ugh, bastard. 00:05:20.619 --> 00:05:23.609 - He's such a douchebag, just based on this picture 00:05:23.609 --> 00:05:27.674 and that comment, that the ex should be celebrating. 00:05:27.674 --> 00:05:30.009 - Peggy looks hot! The hell's wrong with that dude? 00:05:30.009 --> 00:05:32.895 Seriously, not that new Charity isn't adorable, 00:05:32.895 --> 00:05:36.018 but, wow, that's some #Cajones. 00:05:36.018 --> 00:05:37.831 - "Divorce day done right." 00:05:37.831 --> 00:05:39.976 Heck yeah, shots. Let's do this. 00:05:39.976 --> 00:05:42.601 - Alcohol is a really good friend when you're getting a divorce. 00:05:42.601 --> 00:05:43.749 And ice cream, also. 00:05:43.749 --> 00:05:46.714 - Boomeranging like crazy on our #DivorceSelfie. 00:05:46.714 --> 00:05:48.385 - Then they're gonna get drunk and they'll probably have 00:05:48.385 --> 00:05:51.111 sex afterwards, you know, after divorce sex. Nice. 00:05:51.111 --> 00:05:52.960 - You've all broken up, right? 00:05:52.960 --> 00:05:55.086 You've all, I'm sure, had a breakup. 00:05:55.086 --> 00:05:59.911 Were you so happy that you were out celebrating with the person? 00:05:59.911 --> 00:06:05.442 To have drinks and celebrate that, it's like-- uh-uh. 00:06:05.442 --> 00:06:06.135 Nope. 00:06:06.135 --> 00:06:11.091 - It's great that people can part ways in such a great way. 00:06:11.091 --> 00:06:13.357 - It's cute. It's good. I mean, why not? 00:06:13.357 --> 00:06:15.782 It's like we're mature enough to say, you know what, 00:06:15.782 --> 00:06:17.470 we realize it's not working. 00:06:17.470 --> 00:06:20.422 It's better than cheating and doing all type of other things 00:06:20.422 --> 00:06:21.392 in a relationship. 00:06:21.392 --> 00:06:23.257 You know, they're being mature about it, like, hey, 00:06:23.257 --> 00:06:24.344 it didn't work out. 00:06:24.344 --> 00:06:25.983 It is what it is. We can still be friends. 00:06:25.983 --> 00:06:30.391 - Maybe it's just my old-school roots coming through, 00:06:30.391 --> 00:06:34.296 but I don't know if that's something to be celebrated. 00:06:34.296 --> 00:06:37.201 What was supposed to be something that was long-lasting, 00:06:37.201 --> 00:06:40.884 it's almost kind of making a mockery of it 00:06:40.884 --> 00:06:43.719 and, I don't know, it's sad. 00:06:43.719 --> 00:06:46.965 - (FBE) So has divorce impacted your life at all? 00:06:46.965 --> 00:06:51.183 - No. I've never been divorced. 00:06:51.183 --> 00:06:52.943 My parents are still together. 00:06:52.943 --> 00:06:55.975 - My husband's family, he comes from a divorced family. 00:06:55.975 --> 00:06:57.742 His parents would've been those people 00:06:57.742 --> 00:06:59.342 because they've always been really amiable 00:06:59.342 --> 00:07:00.476 and cool with each other. 00:07:00.476 --> 00:07:02.062 - No, my parents are still together. 00:07:02.062 --> 00:07:03.435 My wife's parents are still together. 00:07:03.435 --> 00:07:07.175 But I've seen the effects of it with students 00:07:07.175 --> 00:07:09.916 and there's some kids that can pull through and manage, 00:07:09.916 --> 00:07:14.599 and then there are others that it just shakes their world. 00:07:14.599 --> 00:07:16.746 - Oh my god, seriously? Yes. 00:07:16.746 --> 00:07:19.574 Many times, actually, as a child, as an adult. 00:07:19.574 --> 00:07:23.162 - My grandparents divorced after 37 years. 00:07:23.162 --> 00:07:26.201 My mom and dad divorced. 00:07:26.201 --> 00:07:28.364 - Shit, I hate to say I was divorced, but I am. 00:07:28.364 --> 00:07:28.957 (laughing) 00:07:28.957 --> 00:07:32.204 We get along better, you know, and our divorce was 00:07:32.204 --> 00:07:33.479 similar to that divorce. 00:07:33.479 --> 00:07:36.902 I just couldn't post selfies in the early 2000's. 00:07:36.902 --> 00:07:39.640 - I wasn't bitter, but it was one of those things, 00:07:39.640 --> 00:07:41.169 like, dang, why didn't we work out? 00:07:41.169 --> 00:07:42.942 You know, you ask that question, 00:07:42.942 --> 00:07:44.656 but it just made me a stronger person 00:07:44.656 --> 00:07:48.167 and made me hustle more and grind and motivate more, 00:07:48.167 --> 00:07:51.529 so it was a good decision for myself because I wasn't happy. 00:07:51.529 --> 00:07:54.870 - I got a divorce and my kids were kind of young. 00:07:54.870 --> 00:07:56.629 I left the house and, you know, my son, 00:07:56.629 --> 00:07:58.889 seeing me moving out, he started crying. 00:07:58.889 --> 00:08:00.151 Divorce is something else. 00:08:00.151 --> 00:08:04.278 I mean, you know, it's a serious situation. 00:08:04.278 --> 00:08:07.408 There's a lot of weight on it and you just have to go through it. 00:08:07.408 --> 00:08:08.716 I mean, if that's the choice you make, 00:08:08.716 --> 00:08:10.006 you gotta live with your choices. 00:08:10.006 --> 00:08:12.718 - (FBE) So would you ever participate in a divorce selfie? 00:08:12.718 --> 00:08:13.962 - I don't think so. 00:08:13.962 --> 00:08:16.615 - I would've done a divorce selfie. I really would have. 00:08:16.615 --> 00:08:18.812 - Heck yeah, I would've done that, took a picture, 00:08:18.812 --> 00:08:20.572 and I would've been the one smiling. 00:08:20.572 --> 00:08:23.012 - I would be able to do that, but my husband, 00:08:23.012 --> 00:08:26.420 we've been married 25 years this past June. 00:08:26.420 --> 00:08:27.451 He wouldn't have it. 00:08:27.451 --> 00:08:29.529 - I would want to because then I would have 00:08:29.529 --> 00:08:31.954 enjoyed divorce, but I didn't enjoy divorce. 00:08:31.954 --> 00:08:33.925 - No, absolutely not. 00:08:33.925 --> 00:08:39.138 To me, it just screams attention. 00:08:39.138 --> 00:08:41.386 - I wouldn't want people to think that I got joy 00:08:41.386 --> 00:08:43.522 in splitting up with someone I was married to. 00:08:43.522 --> 00:08:47.867 I don't know if you should have a tremendous amount of joy 00:08:47.867 --> 00:08:50.322 in leaving your partner. 00:08:50.322 --> 00:08:51.724 - (FBE) So divorce is not really a topic 00:08:51.724 --> 00:08:53.440 that you see made light of very often, 00:08:53.440 --> 00:08:55.507 where people kind of shy away from talking about it. 00:08:55.507 --> 00:08:56.336 - Exactly. 00:08:56.336 --> 00:08:58.342 - (FBE) Why do you think that is, and do you think 00:08:58.342 --> 00:09:00.020 all divorce is negative? 00:09:00.020 --> 00:09:03.549 - All? No, but I think there is a negative stigma 00:09:03.549 --> 00:09:05.585 about divorce itself. 00:09:05.585 --> 00:09:09.228 - The realities of it are tough, like financial consequences, 00:09:09.228 --> 00:09:12.957 impact on your family, there's a lot of consequences. 00:09:12.957 --> 00:09:16.802 - Nobody wants to talk about how I failed at something 00:09:16.802 --> 00:09:19.736 I thought was, you know, we were gonna be together 00:09:19.736 --> 00:09:20.853 for the rest of our lives because, you know, 00:09:20.853 --> 00:09:22.574 you go through stages, but working through it 00:09:22.574 --> 00:09:25.999 and coming to terms that we're no longer compatible 00:09:25.999 --> 00:09:29.728 in that way and handling it in a great way like that, 00:09:29.728 --> 00:09:32.611 it's such a positive thing for everybody involved. 00:09:32.611 --> 00:09:34.407 And also a great example for all involved, 00:09:34.407 --> 00:09:36.240 especially your children. 00:09:36.240 --> 00:09:37.922 - Everything has a lot of weight, you know, 00:09:37.922 --> 00:09:39.650 and people wanted you to make it. 00:09:39.650 --> 00:09:41.733 You feel like you're letting other people down, 00:09:41.733 --> 00:09:43.100 but it's really you. 00:09:43.100 --> 00:09:44.089 You're the one in it. 00:09:44.089 --> 00:09:46.934 If you shouldn't be together in that kind of commitment, 00:09:46.934 --> 00:09:50.093 then you shouldn't fake the funk, you know? 00:09:50.093 --> 00:09:52.445 Get a divorce. Take a divorce selfie. 00:09:52.445 --> 00:09:55.914 - (FBE) So finally, do you think this is a good or bad trend 00:09:55.914 --> 00:09:57.934 to be out in the world? - I think it's a bad trend 00:09:57.934 --> 00:09:59.401 to be out in the world. 00:09:59.401 --> 00:10:01.506 - I would have to call it bad because it feels bad. 00:10:01.506 --> 00:10:02.364 - I don't like it. 00:10:02.364 --> 00:10:05.309 It's almost (chuckling) letting everyone know, 00:10:05.309 --> 00:10:08.012 especially on Instagram, that you're back on the market. 00:10:08.012 --> 00:10:09.611 - I look at it more as good. 00:10:09.611 --> 00:10:13.627 You only showed pictures of positive divorce selfies. 00:10:13.627 --> 00:10:17.594 I didn't see any negative ones, so-- I'm sure there's some out there. 00:10:17.594 --> 00:10:19.151 - It's a good one. 00:10:19.151 --> 00:10:21.123 Let people know how happy you are 00:10:21.123 --> 00:10:23.426 when you get divorced. 00:10:23.426 --> 00:10:25.142 It's over. If it's over, it's over. 00:10:25.142 --> 00:10:26.491 Why feel sad now? 00:10:26.491 --> 00:10:27.429 - It's a good trend. 00:10:27.429 --> 00:10:28.899 I mean, it's showing maturity. 00:10:28.899 --> 00:10:32.213 I mean, it's showing that we can still be friends after this. 00:10:32.213 --> 00:10:34.533 We didn't work out and we recognize it 00:10:34.533 --> 00:10:35.941 and there's nothing wrong with that. 00:10:35.941 --> 00:10:37.312 - It's a very good trend. 00:10:37.312 --> 00:10:40.357 To start off something negative and end on a positive, 00:10:40.357 --> 00:10:42.085 you can't just beat that. 00:10:42.085 --> 00:10:43.725 Versus people not working through it 00:10:43.725 --> 00:10:45.644 and it just goes downhill very fast. 00:10:45.644 --> 00:10:48.036 - Thanks for watching this episode of Parents React. 00:10:48.036 --> 00:10:50.861 - Subscribe and hit the bell to know when we release new episodes. 00:10:50.861 --> 00:10:52.025 - Thanks for watching, everyone! 00:10:52.025 --> 00:10:53.115 We'll see you next time. 00:10:53.115 --> 00:10:54.512 - Hey, guys, I'm Ethan. - And I'm Kyle. 00:10:54.512 --> 00:10:55.777 Thank you so much for watching this episode 00:10:55.777 --> 00:10:56.685 of Parents React. 00:10:56.685 --> 00:10:57.795 - Hey, Kyle, are you getting a divorce? 00:10:57.795 --> 00:10:58.760 - I am happily married. 00:10:58.760 --> 00:11:00.979 - Oh, well, let's take a selfie anyway.