Violence against women—it's a men's issue | Jackson Katz | TEDxFiDiWomen
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0:12 - 0:14Before I begin my presentation
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0:14 - 0:18I want to say it's a great honor for me
to be part of a program -
0:18 - 0:20with so many impressive women.
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0:20 - 0:22I also want to say thank you
to the organizers -
0:22 - 0:24[who invited] me to be part of this.
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0:24 - 0:26It's important that I say and that men say
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0:26 - 0:28when we do the work that we do,
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0:28 - 0:31especially in the field
of gender violence prevention -
0:31 - 0:33that I'm going to talk with you about
this morning, -
0:33 - 0:36it's important that we acknowledge
that the growing movement of men -
0:36 - 0:39in the United States
in a multicultural sense -
0:39 - 0:41and all around the world
in an international sense, -
0:41 - 0:43the growing movement of men
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0:43 - 0:45who are standing up and speaking out
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0:45 - 0:47about men's violence against women,
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0:47 - 0:48and going into parts of male culture
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0:48 - 0:51that have historically been
either apathetic about -
0:51 - 0:54or openly hostile to women's efforts
to engage them, -
0:54 - 0:56that movement of men
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0:56 - 0:58is indebted to the leadership of women
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0:58 - 0:59on a personal level,
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0:59 - 1:01on a professional level,
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1:01 - 1:02on political level,
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1:02 - 1:03on an intellectual level,
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1:03 - 1:04on every level -
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1:04 - 1:06women built these movements
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1:06 - 1:08and these are movements that are affecting
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1:08 - 1:09in a positive way everybody.
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1:09 - 1:10Not just women and girls
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1:10 - 1:11but also men and boys.
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1:11 - 1:13And often times men like myself
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1:13 - 1:17get a lot of credit and public acclaim
for doing the work -
1:17 - 1:19that women have been doing
for a long time. -
1:19 - 1:22So one of the ways
that we can use the spotlight -
1:22 - 1:24is to thank women
and honor women's leadership, -
1:24 - 1:28going forward today, tomorrow,
and you know, into the future. -
1:29 - 1:33(Applause)
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1:33 - 1:34Having said that,
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1:34 - 1:38I'm going to share with you
a paradigm shifting perspective -
1:38 - 1:40on the issues of gender violence -
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1:40 - 1:43sexual assault, domestic violence,
relationship abuse, sexual harassment, -
1:43 - 1:46sexual abuse of children,
that whole range of issues -
1:46 - 1:49that I'll refer to in short hand
as gender violence issues. -
1:49 - 1:52They have been seen as women's issues
that some good men help out with. -
1:52 - 1:55But I have a problem with that frame
and I don't accept it. -
1:55 - 1:59I don't see these as women's issues
that some good men help out with. -
1:59 - 2:03In fact I'm going to argue that these
are men's issues, first and foremost. -
2:03 - 2:06(Applause)
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2:06 - 2:09Obviously, they are also
women's issues, so I appreciate that, -
2:09 - 2:12but calling gender violence
a women's issue -
2:12 - 2:15is part of the problem,
for a number of reasons. -
2:15 - 2:16The first is, it gives men an excuse
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2:16 - 2:18not to pay attention, right?
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2:18 - 2:20A lot of men hear the term
'women's issues' -
2:20 - 2:22and we tend to tune it out, and we think
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2:22 - 2:25"Hey, I'm a guy, that's for the girls,
for the women." -
2:25 - 2:29And a lot of men literally don't get
beyond the first sentence as a result. -
2:29 - 2:31It's almost like a chip in our brain
is activated, -
2:31 - 2:34and the neural pathways take our attention
in a different direction -
2:34 - 2:36when we hear the term "women's issues".
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2:36 - 2:39This is also true by the way
of the word "gender" -
2:39 - 2:41because a lot of people
hear the word "gender" -
2:41 - 2:42and they think it means "women".
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2:42 - 2:46So they think "gender issues"
is synonymous with "women's issues". -
2:46 - 2:48There is some confusion
about the term "gender", -
2:48 - 2:51and actually let me illustrate
that confusion by a way of analogy. -
2:51 - 2:53So let's talk for a moment about race.
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2:53 - 2:55In the US, when we hear the word "race",
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2:55 - 2:57a lot of people think
that means African-American, -
2:57 - 3:00Latino, Asian-American, Native American,
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3:00 - 3:02South Asian, Pacific, on and on.
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3:02 - 3:05A lot of people, when they hear the word
"sexual orientation", -
3:05 - 3:08think it means "gay", "lesbian",
"bisexual". -
3:08 - 3:10And a lot of people when they hear
the word "gender", -
3:10 - 3:12think it means "women".
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3:12 - 3:13In each case,
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3:13 - 3:15the dominant group
doesn't get paid attention to, right? -
3:15 - 3:18As if white people don't have
some sort of racial identity, -
3:18 - 3:20or belong to some
racial category or construct? -
3:20 - 3:23As if heterosexual people
don't have a sexual orientation? -
3:23 - 3:26As if men don't have a gender?
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3:26 - 3:27This is one of the ways
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3:27 - 3:30that dominant systems
maintain and reproduce themselves, -
3:30 - 3:31which is to say
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3:31 - 3:34the dominant group is rarely challenged
to even think about it's dominance, -
3:34 - 3:38because that's one of the key
characteristics of power and privilege: -
3:38 - 3:40the ability to go unexamined,
lacking introspection, -
3:40 - 3:44in fact being rendered invisible
in large measure -
3:44 - 3:48in the discourse about issues
that are primarily about us. -
3:48 - 3:49And this is amazing how this works
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3:49 - 3:51in domestic and sexual violence,
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3:51 - 3:53how men have been largely erased
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3:53 - 3:54from so much of the conversation
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3:54 - 3:57about a subject
that is centrally about men. -
3:57 - 4:00And I'm going to illustrate
what I'm talking about -
4:00 - 4:01by using the old-tech.
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4:01 - 4:04I'm old school on some
fundamental regards. -
4:04 - 4:06I make films, I work with high-tech,
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4:06 - 4:09but I'm still old school as an educator.
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4:09 - 4:12And I want to share with you
this exercise, -
4:12 - 4:14that illustrates
on a sentence structure level -
4:14 - 4:16how the way that we think,
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4:16 - 4:18literally the way that we use language,
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4:18 - 4:21conspires to keep
our attention off of men. -
4:21 - 4:23This is about domestic violence
in particular -
4:23 - 4:27but you can plug in other analogues.
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4:27 - 4:30This comes from the work
of the feminist linguist Julia Penelope. -
4:30 - 4:32It starts with a very basic
English sentence -
4:32 - 4:37"John beat Mary" -
that's a good English sentence, -
4:37 - 4:40John is the subject,
beat is the verb, Mary is the object. -
4:40 - 4:41good sentence.
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4:41 - 4:43Now we're going to move
to the second sentence -
4:43 - 4:45which says the same thing
in the passive voice: -
4:45 - 4:49"Mary was beaten by John"
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4:51 - 4:54and now a whole lot has happened
in one sentence. -
4:54 - 4:57We've gone from "John beat Mary" to
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4:57 - 4:59"Mary was beaten by John",
we've shifted our focus -
4:59 - 5:02in one sentence, from John to Mary.
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5:02 - 5:05And you can see John is very close
to the end of the sentence, -
5:05 - 5:07close to dropping off the map
of our psychic plane. -
5:07 - 5:10The third sentence,
John is dropped, and we have, -
5:10 - 5:14"Mary was beaten"
and now it's all about Mary. -
5:14 - 5:17We're not even thinking about John,
it's totally focussed on Mary. -
5:17 - 5:19Over the past generation
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5:19 - 5:22the term we've used synonymous
with "beaten" is "battered", -
5:22 - 5:24so we have, "Mary was battered."
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5:25 - 5:27And the final sentence in this sequence,
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5:27 - 5:29flowing from the others,
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5:29 - 5:32is "Mary is a battered woman."
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5:32 - 5:34So now Mary's very identity,
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5:34 - 5:37"Mary is a battered woman,"
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5:39 - 5:42is what was done to her by John
in the first instance, -
5:42 - 5:43but we've demonstrated
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5:43 - 5:45that John has long ago
left the conversation. -
5:45 - 5:49Now those of us who work in domestic
and sexual violence field know -
5:49 - 5:51that victim blaming
is pervasive in this realm, -
5:51 - 5:52which is to say
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5:52 - 5:54blaming the person
to whom something was done -
5:54 - 5:56rather than the person who did it.
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5:56 - 5:57And we say things like,
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5:57 - 5:59Why do these women go out with these men?
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5:59 - 6:02Why are they attracted to them?
Why do they keep going back? -
6:02 - 6:03What was she wearing at that party?
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6:03 - 6:07Why was she drinking with this group
of guys in that hotel room? -
6:07 - 6:08This is victim blaming.
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6:08 - 6:10And there are numerous reasons for it,
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6:10 - 6:12but one of them is that our
whole cognitive structure -
6:12 - 6:14is set up to blame victims.
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6:14 - 6:15It's all unconscious,
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6:15 - 6:18our whole cognitive structure
is set up to ask questions -
6:18 - 6:20about women and women's choices,
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6:20 - 6:22and what they are doing,
thinking and wearing. -
6:22 - 6:25And I'm not going to shout down people
who ask questions about women, -
6:25 - 6:27it's a legitimate thing to ask.
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6:27 - 6:28But let's be clear.
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6:28 - 6:31Asking questions about Mary
is not going to get us anywhere -
6:31 - 6:33in terms of preventing violence.
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6:33 - 6:35We have to ask
a different set of questions -
6:35 - 6:37and you see where I'm going with this.
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6:37 - 6:39The questions are not about Mary,
but about John. -
6:39 - 6:40The questions like,
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6:40 - 6:41Why does John beat Mary?
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6:41 - 6:44Why is domestic violence
still a big problem in the Unites States -
6:44 - 6:46and all over the world? What's going on?
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6:46 - 6:48Why so many men abuse
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6:48 - 6:50physically, emotionally,
verbally and in other ways -
6:50 - 6:53the women and girls and the men and boys
that they claim to love? -
6:53 - 6:54What's going on with men?
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6:54 - 6:58Why do so many adult men sexually abuse
little girls and little boys? -
6:58 - 7:00Why is that a common problem
in our society -
7:00 - 7:02and all over the world today?
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7:02 - 7:03Why we hear over and over again about
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7:03 - 7:05new scandals erupting
in major institutions -
7:05 - 7:09like the Catholic Church
or the Penn State Football Program -
7:09 - 7:11or the Boy Scouts of America?
On and on and on! -
7:11 - 7:14And in local communities
all over the country and all the world. -
7:14 - 7:17We hear about it all the time -
sexual abuse of children. -
7:17 - 7:19What's going on with men?
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7:19 - 7:20Why do so many men rape women
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7:21 - 7:22in our society and around the world?
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7:22 - 7:25Why do so many men rape other men?
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7:25 - 7:26What is going on with men?
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7:26 - 7:27And then -
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7:27 - 7:31What is the role of the various
institutions in our society -
7:31 - 7:34that are helping to produce the abuse
of men at pandemic rates? -
7:34 - 7:36Because this is not about
individual perpetrators. -
7:36 - 7:38That's a naive way of understanding
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7:38 - 7:41what is a much deeper
and more systematic social problem. -
7:41 - 7:43You know, the perpetrators
aren't these monsters -
7:43 - 7:45who crawl out of the swamp
and come into town -
7:45 - 7:47and do their nasty business
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7:47 - 7:49and then retreat into the darkness.
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7:49 - 7:50That's a very naive notion, right?
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7:50 - 7:54Perpetrators are much more normal
than that and everyday than that. -
7:54 - 7:55So the questions is,
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7:55 - 7:58What are we doing here in our society
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7:58 - 7:59and in the world?
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7:59 - 8:01What are the roles of various institutions
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8:01 - 8:03in helping to produce abusive men?
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8:03 - 8:05What is the role of religious
belief systems? -
8:05 - 8:07The sports culture,
the pornography culture, -
8:07 - 8:09the family structure, economics?
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8:09 - 8:11And how that intersects?
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8:11 - 8:13And race and ethnicity
and how that intersects? -
8:13 - 8:14How does all this work?
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8:14 - 8:17And then, once we start
making those kinds of connections -
8:17 - 8:19and asking those important
and big questions, -
8:19 - 8:22then we can talk about
how can we be transformative. -
8:22 - 8:24You know, how can we do
something differently, -
8:24 - 8:26how can we change the practices?
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8:26 - 8:28How can we change
the socialization of boys -
8:28 - 8:30and the definitions of manhood
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8:30 - 8:31that lead to these current outcomes?
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8:31 - 8:33These are the kind of questions
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8:33 - 8:34that we need to be asking
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8:34 - 8:37and the kind of work
that we need to be doing. -
8:37 - 8:38But if we're endlessly focused on
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8:38 - 8:40what women are doing and thinking
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8:40 - 8:42in relationships or elsewhere
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8:42 - 8:44we're not going to get to that piece.
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8:44 - 8:45Now I understand
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8:45 - 8:48that a lot of women who have been trying
to speak out about these issues -
8:48 - 8:51today and yesterday
and for years and years -
8:51 - 8:53often get shouted down for their efforts.
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8:53 - 8:54They get called nasty names like
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8:54 - 8:55"male-basher"
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8:55 - 8:57and "man-hater"
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8:57 - 9:01and the disgusting
and offensive "feminazi". -
9:03 - 9:04Right?
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9:04 - 9:06And you know what all this is about?
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9:06 - 9:08It's called "kill the messenger".
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9:08 - 9:10It's because the women
who are standing up and speaking up -
9:10 - 9:12for themselves and for other women
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9:12 - 9:14as well as for men and boys,
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9:14 - 9:16it's a statement to them
to sit down and shut up. -
9:16 - 9:18Keep this current system in place
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9:18 - 9:20because we don't like it
when people rock the boat, -
9:20 - 9:23we don't like it
when people challenge our power. -
9:23 - 9:25You better sit down and shut up,
basically. -
9:25 - 9:27And thank goodness
that women haven't done that! -
9:27 - 9:29Thank goodness that we live in a world
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9:29 - 9:32where there is so much women's leadership
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9:32 - 9:33that can counteract that.
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9:33 - 9:36But one of the powerful roles
that men can play in this work -
9:36 - 9:39is that we can say some things
that sometimes women can't say. -
9:39 - 9:40Or better yet,
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9:40 - 9:41we can be heard saying some things
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9:41 - 9:43that women often can't be heard saying.
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9:43 - 9:47Now I appreciate, that's a problem,
it's sexism, but it's the truth. -
9:47 - 9:50And so one of the things
my colleagues and I always say, is, -
9:50 - 9:52we need more men
who have the courage and the strength -
9:52 - 9:53to start standing up
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9:53 - 9:55and saying some of this stuff
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9:55 - 9:57and standing with women
and not against them -
9:57 - 10:00pretending that somehow
this is a battle between the sexes -
10:00 - 10:01and other kinds of nonsense.
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10:01 - 10:03We live in the world together.
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10:03 - 10:06And by the way,
one of things that really bothers me -
10:06 - 10:08about some of the rhetoric
against feminist and others -
10:08 - 10:12who have built the battered women's,
and crisis movements around the world -
10:12 - 10:13is that somehow, like I said,
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10:13 - 10:15that they're "anti male".
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10:15 - 10:17What about the boys
who are profoundly affected -
10:17 - 10:18in a negative way,
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10:18 - 10:20by what some adult man
is doing against their mother, -
10:20 - 10:22themselves, their sisters?
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10:22 - 10:23What about all those boys?
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10:23 - 10:25What about all the young men and boys
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10:25 - 10:28who have been traumatized
by adult men's violence? -
10:28 - 10:28You know what,
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10:28 - 10:31the same system that produces men
who abuse women, -
10:31 - 10:32produces men who abuse other men.
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10:32 - 10:36And if you want to talk about
male victims, let's talk about them. -
10:36 - 10:37Most male victims of violence
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10:37 - 10:39are the victims of other men's violence.
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10:39 - 10:40So it's something
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10:40 - 10:42that both women and men have in common.
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10:42 - 10:44We are both victims of men's violence.
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10:44 - 10:46So we have it in our
direct self-interest - -
10:46 - 10:49not to mention the fact
that most men that I know -
10:49 - 10:51have women and girls
that we care deeply about. -
10:51 - 10:53In our families,
in our friendship circles, -
10:53 - 10:55and in every other way.
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10:55 - 10:57So there is so many reasons
why we need men to speak out. -
10:57 - 11:00It seems obvious saying it out loud
doesn't it? -
11:01 - 11:03The nature of the work that I do
and my colleagues do, -
11:03 - 11:06in the sports culture,
in the US military, in schools, -
11:06 - 11:08we pioneer this approach
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11:08 - 11:10called the "bystander approach"
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11:10 - 11:12to gender violence prevention.
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11:12 - 11:13And I just want to give you
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11:13 - 11:15the highlights of the bystander approach,
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11:15 - 11:17because it's a big, sort of,
thematic shift, -
11:17 - 11:19although there is lots of particulars.
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11:19 - 11:20The heart of it is:
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11:20 - 11:23Instead of seeing men as perpetrators,
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11:23 - 11:24women as victims,
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11:24 - 11:27or women as perpetrators, men as victims,
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11:27 - 11:29or any combination in there.
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11:29 - 11:31I'm using the gender binary.
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11:31 - 11:33I know there is more than men and women,
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11:33 - 11:34more than male and female.
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11:34 - 11:36And there are women who are perpetrators,
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11:36 - 11:40and of course men who are victims,
there's a whole spectrum. -
11:40 - 11:42But instead of seeing it
in a binary fashion, -
11:42 - 11:44we focus on all of us
as what we call bystanders. -
11:44 - 11:46And a bystander is defined as anybody
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11:46 - 11:50who is not a perpetrator or a victim
in a given situation. -
11:50 - 11:51So in other words:
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11:51 - 11:53friends, teammates, colleagues, coworkers,
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11:53 - 11:54family members,
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11:54 - 11:58those of us who are not directly involved
in a dyad of abuse. -
11:58 - 11:59But we are embedded
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11:59 - 12:01in social family, work, school,
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12:01 - 12:03and other peer culture relationships
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12:03 - 12:05with people who might be
in that situation. -
12:05 - 12:07What do we do? How do we speak up?
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12:07 - 12:09How do we challnge our friends?
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12:09 - 12:10How do we support our friends?
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12:10 - 12:13But how do we not remain silent
in the face of abuse? -
12:13 - 12:15Now when it comes to men and male culture,
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12:15 - 12:19the goal is to get men who are not abusive
to challenge men who are. -
12:19 - 12:20And when I say abusive,
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12:20 - 12:22I don't mean just men
who are beating women. -
12:22 - 12:24We're not just saying that a men
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12:24 - 12:26whose friend is abusing his girlfriend
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12:26 - 12:29needs to stop the guy,
at the moment of attack. -
12:29 - 12:33I mean, that's a naive way
of creating a social change. -
12:34 - 12:36It's along a continuum
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12:36 - 12:38we're trying to get men
to interrupt each other. -
12:38 - 12:40So for example if you are a guy
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12:40 - 12:41and you are in a group of guys,
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12:41 - 12:44playing poker, talking, hanging out,
no women present, -
12:44 - 12:45and another guy says
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12:45 - 12:49something sexist or degrading
or harassing about women, -
12:50 - 12:51instead of laughing along
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12:51 - 12:53or pretending you didn't hear it,
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12:53 - 12:54we need men to say,
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12:54 - 12:55"Hey, that's not funny."
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12:55 - 12:58"You know it could be my sister
you're talking about. -
12:58 - 13:00Can you joke about something else?"
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13:00 - 13:02or "I don't appreciate that kind of talk."
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13:02 - 13:04Just like if you are a white person
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13:04 - 13:07and another white person
makes a racist comment, -
13:07 - 13:08you'd hope - I hope -
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13:08 - 13:11that white people would interrupt
that racist enactment -
13:11 - 13:12by a fellow white person.
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13:12 - 13:14Just like with heterosexism,
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13:14 - 13:15if you are a heterosexual person,
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13:15 - 13:18and you yourself don't enact
harassing or abusive behavior -
13:18 - 13:20towards people
of varying sexual orientations. -
13:20 - 13:22If you don't say something
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13:22 - 13:25in the face of other heterosexual people
doing that, then in a sense, -
13:25 - 13:28isn't your silence a form of consent
and complicity? -
13:28 - 13:29Well, the bystander approach
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13:29 - 13:32is trying to give people tools
to interrupt that process -
13:32 - 13:33and to speak up
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13:33 - 13:35and to create a peer culture climate
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13:35 - 13:37where the abusive behaviour
will be seen as unacceptable, -
13:37 - 13:39not just because it's illegal,
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13:39 - 13:42but because it's wrong and unacceptable
in the peer culture. -
13:42 - 13:44And if we can get to the place
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13:44 - 13:45where men who act out in sexist ways
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13:45 - 13:46will loose status,
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13:46 - 13:49young men and boys
who act out in sexist and harassing ways -
13:49 - 13:51towards girls and women,
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13:51 - 13:52as well as towards other boys and men,
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13:52 - 13:55will loose status as result of it,
guess what? -
13:55 - 13:57We'll see a radical diminution
of the abuse, -
13:57 - 14:00because the typical perpetrator
is not sick and twisted, -
14:00 - 14:02he's normal guy in every other way,
isn't he? -
14:04 - 14:05Among the many great things
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14:05 - 14:08that Martin Luther King said
in his short life was, -
14:08 - 14:11"In the end, what will hurt most
is not the words of our enemies, -
14:11 - 14:13but the silence of our friends."
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14:13 - 14:16"In the end, what will hurt most
is not the words of our enemies, -
14:16 - 14:18but the silence of our friends."
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14:18 - 14:20There has been an awful lot of silence
in male culture -
14:20 - 14:22about this ongoing tragedy
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14:22 - 14:25of men's violence against
women and children, hasn't there? -
14:25 - 14:27There has been an awful lot of silence.
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14:27 - 14:28And all I'm saying
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14:28 - 14:30is that we need to break that silence.
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14:30 - 14:32And we need more men to do that.
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14:33 - 14:35It's easier said than done.
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14:35 - 14:37Because, I'm saying it now,
but I'm telling you, -
14:37 - 14:39it's not easy in male culture
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14:39 - 14:40for guys to challenge each other.
-
14:40 - 14:43Which is one of the reasons why,
-
14:43 - 14:45part of the paradigm shift
that has to happen -
14:45 - 14:48is not just understanding
these issues as men's issues, -
14:48 - 14:50but they are also leadership issues
for men. -
14:50 - 14:52Ultimately, the responsibility
-
14:52 - 14:54for taking a stand on these issues
-
14:54 - 14:56should not fall on the shoulders
of little boys -
14:56 - 14:58or teenage boys in high school
-
14:58 - 14:59or college men.
-
14:59 - 15:01It should be on adult men with power.
-
15:01 - 15:04Adult men with power are the ones
we need to be holding accountable -
15:04 - 15:06for being leaders on these issues.
-
15:06 - 15:08Because, when somebody speaks up
in a peer culture -
15:08 - 15:10and challenges and interrupts,
-
15:10 - 15:12he or she is being a leader,
really, right? -
15:12 - 15:14But on a big scale,
-
15:14 - 15:16we need more adult men with power
-
15:16 - 15:18to start prioritizing these issues
-
15:18 - 15:20and we haven't seen that yet, have we?
-
15:20 - 15:23Now, I was at a dinner
a number of years ago, -
15:24 - 15:27and I worked extensively
with the US military, all their services. -
15:27 - 15:30And I was at this dinner,
and this woman said to me -
15:30 - 15:33- I think she thought
she was a little clever, she said, -
15:33 - 15:35"So how long have you been doing
-
15:35 - 15:37sensitivity training with the marines?"
-
15:37 - 15:40And I said, "With all due respect,
-
15:40 - 15:43I don't do sensitivity training
with the marines. -
15:43 - 15:45I run a leadership program
in the marine corps." -
15:45 - 15:48Now I know it's a bit pompous,
my response, -
15:48 - 15:51but it's an important distinction,
because I don't believe -
15:51 - 15:53that we need a sensitivity training.
-
15:53 - 15:54We need leadership training.
-
15:54 - 15:55Because, for example,
-
15:55 - 15:57when a professional coach
-
15:57 - 15:59or a manager of a baseball team
or a football team -
15:59 - 16:02- and i work extensively
in that realm as well - -
16:02 - 16:03makes a sexist comment,
-
16:03 - 16:05makes a homophobic statement,
-
16:05 - 16:06makes a racist comment,
-
16:06 - 16:08there'll be discussions
on the sports blogs -
16:08 - 16:09and in sports talk radio,
-
16:09 - 16:10and some people say,
-
16:10 - 16:12"Well, he needs sensitivity training."
-
16:12 - 16:13Others will say,
-
16:13 - 16:16"Get off it, that's political correctness
run amok," -
16:16 - 16:18and "He made a stupid statement,
move on..." -
16:18 - 16:20My argument is,
he doesn't need sensitivity training, -
16:20 - 16:22he needs leadership training.
-
16:22 - 16:24Because he's being a bad leader,
-
16:24 - 16:27because in a society with gender diversity
and sexual diversity, -
16:27 - 16:28(Applause)
-
16:28 - 16:30and racial and ethnic diversity,
-
16:30 - 16:31you make those kinds of comments,
-
16:31 - 16:33you're failing at your leadership.
-
16:33 - 16:35If we can make this point that I'm making
-
16:35 - 16:38to powerful men and women in our society
-
16:38 - 16:40at all levels of institutional authority
and power, -
16:40 - 16:42it's going to change.
-
16:42 - 16:45It's going to change the paradigm
of people's thinking. -
16:45 - 16:48For example, I work a lot in college
and university athletics -
16:48 - 16:51throughout North America, right.
-
16:51 - 16:55We know so much about how to prevent
domestic and sexual violence, right? -
16:55 - 16:59There is no excuse
for a college or university to not have -
16:59 - 17:01domestic and sexual violence
prevention training -
17:01 - 17:03mandated for all student athletes,
-
17:03 - 17:05coaches and administrators
-
17:05 - 17:07as part of their educational process.
-
17:07 - 17:09We know enough to know
that we can easily do that -
17:09 - 17:10but you know what's missing?
-
17:10 - 17:12The leadership!
-
17:12 - 17:14It's not the leadership
of student athletes. -
17:14 - 17:16It's the leadership
of the athletic director, -
17:16 - 17:18the president of the University,
-
17:18 - 17:21the people in charge who make decisions
about resources and priorities -
17:21 - 17:23in the institutional settings, right?
-
17:23 - 17:26That's a failure, in most cases
of men's leadership. -
17:26 - 17:27Look at Penn State.
-
17:27 - 17:30Penn State is the mother
of all teachable moments -
17:30 - 17:31for the bystander approach.
-
17:31 - 17:33You had so many situations in that realm
-
17:33 - 17:36where men in powerful positions
-
17:36 - 17:39failed to act to protect children,
in this case boys. -
17:39 - 17:41It's unbelievable, really,
but when you get into it, -
17:41 - 17:43you realize there are pressures on men,
-
17:43 - 17:46there are constraints within peer cultures
on men -
17:46 - 17:49which is why we need to encourage men
-
17:49 - 17:51to break through those pressures.
-
17:51 - 17:53And one of the ways to do that
-
17:53 - 17:55is to say there is an awful lot of men
-
17:55 - 17:56who care deeply about these issues.
-
17:56 - 17:58I know this. I work with men.
-
17:58 - 18:01I've been working with tens
and hundreds of thousands of men -
18:01 - 18:02for many many decades now.
-
18:02 - 18:05It's scary when you think about it
how many years, but ... -
18:05 - 18:06There is so many men
-
18:06 - 18:08who care deeply about these issues,
-
18:08 - 18:10but caring deeply is not enough.
-
18:10 - 18:11We need more men
-
18:11 - 18:14with the guts, with the courage,
with the strength, -
18:14 - 18:16with the moral integrity
-
18:16 - 18:17to break our complicit silence
-
18:17 - 18:19and challenge each other,
-
18:19 - 18:22and stand with women, not against them.
-
18:22 - 18:24By the way, we owe it to women
-
18:24 - 18:25there's no question about it.
-
18:25 - 18:27But we also owe it to our sons,
-
18:27 - 18:29we also owe it to young men
-
18:29 - 18:31who are growing up all over the world
-
18:31 - 18:33in situations where
they didn't make the choice -
18:33 - 18:36to be a man in a culture that tells them
that manhood is a certain way. -
18:36 - 18:38They didn't make the choice
-
18:38 - 18:41we that have a choice, have an opportunity
-
18:41 - 18:42and a responsibility to them as well.
-
18:42 - 18:45I hope that going forward
-
18:45 - 18:47men and women working together
-
18:47 - 18:48can begin the change
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18:48 - 18:50and a transformation that will happen
-
18:50 - 18:53so that future generations
won't have the level of tragedy -
18:53 - 18:54that we deal with on a daily basis.
-
18:54 - 18:55I know we can do it.
-
18:55 - 18:57We can do better.
-
18:57 - 18:59Thank you very much. (Applause)
- Title:
- Violence against women—it's a men's issue | Jackson Katz | TEDxFiDiWomen
- Description:
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Domestic violence and sexual abuse are often called "women’s issues.” But in this bold, blunt talk, Jackson Katz points out that these are intrinsically men’s issues -- and shows how these violent behaviors are tied to definitions of manhood. A clarion call for us all -- women and men -- to call out unacceptable behavior and be leaders of change.
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