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HOW TO OVERCOME OFFENCE IN RELATIONSHIPS!

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    How to Overcome Offence
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    Grace and peace to you all
    in Jesus’ mighty name.
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    Welcome, everyone, to another edition of ‘Faith Is Natural’ here on God's Heart TV.
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    Now, today, I want to share with you all a message with an important lesson
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    about how to overcome offence
    in our relationships.
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    Because I have seen on so many occasions
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    just how easily relationships can be damaged because of words.
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    Many relationships today end prematurely because of words.
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    You see marriages fall into divorce.
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    You see families become fractured.
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    You see friendships hit the point of separation because of words.
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    In the same vein, I have seen how many times little issues that could have been
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    resolved quickly become worsened and lengthened because of words.
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    Insensitive words, careless words, bitter words, provoking words, poisonous words.
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    But people of God, I put it to you today
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    that it is not the poison of words
    but the pollution of hearts
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    that really builds offence
    and breaks relationships,
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    sometimes even beyond repair.
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    The pollution of hearts.
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    You see, words can be spoken in a moment of indiscretion, insensitivity,
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    provocation, pain or anger.
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    But those words can be harboured in the heart for days, weeks, months, even years -
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    long after the emotions of that moment have faded,
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    long after the circumstances that surrounded that exchange have changed.
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    Now, let me be very clear with you,
    people of God.
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    I’m not in any way excusing or condoning the use of poisonous words.
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    No! Not at all.
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    In fact, our Lord Jesus Christ said
    in Matthew 12:36-37,
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    ‘We will give an account for every
    idle word that is spoken.’
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    As Christians, we must offer that prayer that David offered in Psalm 141:3,
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    ‘Oh Lord, set a watch over my lips;
    set a guard over the door of my mouth’,
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    so that we avoid tongue trouble.
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    So I'm not in any way excusing the use of poisonous words. No!
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    But in today's message,
    I want to focus on our reaction
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    when we are on the receiving end.
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    You see, the issue is not the
    hearing of such words.
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    The issue is the harbouring of such words in our hearts.
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    It is the harbouring of poison that truly brings the contamination.
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    Now, I want to be practical.
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    Let's give a practical example of this.
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    Just imagine you eat, drink or take something into your system
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    and it's something strange and your body recognises it as something toxic,
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    something poisonous.
    What is your first reaction?
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    You spit it out.
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    You get rid of it as quickly as possible.
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    God has designed our body
    in a way that we reject
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    and eject that thing which
    we recognise as dangerous.
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    In the same way, people of God,
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    harbouring poisonous words
    in your heart is dangerous.
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    Because what you hold onto
    can easily take hold of you.
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    Think about that.
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    Let me say it again.
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    What your heart holds onto
    may soon take hold of you.
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    So, the question is this.
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    Why then is it so common today for us to harbour something that is so hazardous?
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    It's a question.
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    And this ushers me to the main point
    I want to emphasise
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    in today’s message, people of God.
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    I believe one of the major contributing factors to this offence in our hearts
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    is because we register the words of man
    in our hearts
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    as if they were the Words of God.
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    What do I mean?
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    We assign the same degree of value, importance, significance to human words,
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    as if they were the Word of God.
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    Now, Jesus Christ says in Luke 6:45
    that our heart is the treasury.
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    Many today have sadly reduced or cheapened this treasury
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    to the position of a dustbin
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    where we permit all kinds of rubbish,
    all kinds of garbage
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    to fester wounds and to foster lies
    in our hearts.
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    Many of us today are so quick, too quick to cheaply give our hearts away
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    to words that spring from
    an untrustworthy source.
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    A common example, people of God.
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    Maybe you've had an argument with someone.
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    And in the course of that argument, negative words have been used.
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    And that night when you go to bed,
    you begin to turn those negative words
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    over and over again in your heart.
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    You begin to rewind in your mind the moments when such words were spoken.
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    In fact, many of us even continue imaginary dialogue with our offender.
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    What is happening?
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    We relegate the value of the heart
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    because we elevate the words of man.
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    What happens because of this,
    people of God?
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    Offence easily takes root and
    words become wounds.
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    And if care is not taken, damaged hearts lead to damaged homes,
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    damaged relationships,
    damaged opportunities.
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    Because we have treated the words of man as if they were the Words of God.
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    People of God, to overcome offence,
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    you must recognise that your heart
    is too precious
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    to harbour words that do not
    define your destiny.
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    You must recognise that your heart is simply too precious
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    to harbour words that do not
    define your destiny.
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    People of God, let me tell you this vital, important and life-changing truth!
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    The only words worthy of your hearts are the Words of the Living God!
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    The only words that are trustworthy enough, dependable enough,
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    reliable enough, consistent enough,
    pure enough
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    to turn over and over again in our hearts
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    is the Living Word of God,
    the Word of the Holy Spirit.
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    Therefore, people of God, we must stop the registration of illegitimate declarations!
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    What do I mean?
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    Even in this natural world, we recognise that registration is for something official.
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    It is for something that has been
    proven genuine.
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    So, we must register when it's time to vote.
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    We must register to attend university.
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    We must register when we get married.
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    The government bodies may receive many applications but they filter them
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    and register once they are confirmed,
    once they are proven.
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    I hope you see where I'm going,
    people of God.
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    Our mind can process many things without our heart absorbing them,
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    without our heart registering them.
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    Registration is for things that are proven true.
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    Registration is not for falsehood.
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    Registration is not for fantasy. No!
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    Stop registering in your heart
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    unofficial declarations over your life.
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    Don't give your heart to such words, people of God.
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    The only declarations that are
    worthy of your attention
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    are those sanctioned by Scripture, in tune with Scripture, in line with Scripture -
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    things that are pure, just, noble, excellent, upright, admirable, praiseworthy -
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    as Philippians 4:8 says.
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    That's the only thing worthy.
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    Worthless words are not worthy
    of your heart.
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    They do not define your worth. No!
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    The only One who is worthy...
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    Worthy is the Lamb who sits on the throne!
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    The only One who is worthy is the only One who has the power to define your worth,
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    people of God.
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    In a world where there are so many conflicting views and voices,
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    the only opinion that really matters,
    that really counts is God’s opinion.
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    So, if someone has spoken
    negative words over your life,
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    people of God, don't take them to heart.
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    Don't give place to the devil,
    as Ephesians 4:27 says.
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    Examine them in the pure light of
    God's Word.
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    You can come to the conclusion that -
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    I refuse to be defiled by that which does not define me.
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    I refuse to idolise words that are idle.
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    I refuse to be misled by the
    devil’s misinformation!
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    Yes, they may hurt me but they
    do not hold me.
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    They may wrong me but they
    do not own me. No!
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    I may feel bad but my feelings are not the captain of my heart.
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    My emotions are not the rudder of my soul.
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    I am not a slave to my senses.
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    Yes, I may react in the flesh
    but I am not ruled by the flesh.
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    Thank You, Jesus!
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    People of God, when the Word of God
    is in our hearts,
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    when we take hold of that Word,
    it becomes our stronghold,
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    our anchor in the storms,
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    our shelter from the deceptions of darkness and the fluctuations of our feelings.
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    So let me put it to you today.
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    Ask yourself this question.
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    Are there any negative words that have been spoken over your life
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    that you are harbouring in your heart
    at this moment?
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    Take note of something.
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    For a ship to harbour,
    there must be an anchor.
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    What you harbour reflects
    where you anchor.
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    So let this message today encourage you!
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    Let this message encourage you to anchor your life, your hope, your heart
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    on the unchanging authority of
    the living Word of God,
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    not the powerless and changing
    words of man.
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    May God bless His Word in the midst
    of our hearts, in Jesus’ name.
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    Right now, let us pray together.
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    A Time of Prayer
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    Every lie of the devil registered
    in your heart -
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    I say, be cancelled!
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    Be cancelled, in the mighty name
    of Jesus Christ!
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    Every negative pronouncement
    over your life - be nullified!
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    Be nullified, in the name of Jesus Christ!
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    Whatever poison has polluted your heart -
    I declare purification right now!
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    Be purified!
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    Be cleansed by the precious
    Blood of Jesus Christ!
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    Be purified from that poison of bitterness!
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    Be purified from that poison of resentment!
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    Be purified from that poison of offence,
    in the mighty name of Jesus Christ.
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    Remember, harbouring offence is actually a reflection of insecurity
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    about our identity in Christ.
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    When words become wounds, it is an indicator of just how far we have fallen
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    from the understanding of God's paramount position.
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    Right now, whatever is attacking that assurance of who you are in Christ -
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    I say, be removed!
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    Be removed, in the mighty name
    of Jesus Christ!
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    Refuse right now to be a dumping ground for the devil's lies.
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    Refuse to be a dumping ground for the devil's propaganda.
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    By faith in the name of Jesus Christ,
    walk in the light!
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    Talk in the light.
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    Move in the light.
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    Walk in freedom. Walk in truth.
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    Walk in the light of the living Word of God and overcome the senses,
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    in Jesus’ mighty name.
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    Amen.
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    Thank You, Jesus.
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HOW TO OVERCOME OFFENCE IN RELATIONSHIPS!
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