Why being respectful to your coworkers is good for business
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0:01 - 0:03Who do you want to be?
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0:03 - 0:05It's a simple question,
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0:05 - 0:07and whether you know it or not,
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0:07 - 0:10you're answering it every day
through your actions. -
0:11 - 0:15This one question will define
your professional success -
0:15 - 0:17more than any other,
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0:18 - 0:21because how you show up
and treat people means everything. -
0:22 - 0:26Either you lift people up
by respecting them, -
0:26 - 0:30making them feel valued,
appreciated and heard, -
0:31 - 0:36or you hold people down
by making them feel small, -
0:36 - 0:40insulted, disregarded or excluded.
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0:40 - 0:44And who you choose to be means everything.
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0:45 - 0:48I study the effects
of incivility on people. -
0:48 - 0:49What is incivility?
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0:49 - 0:51It's disrespect or rudeness.
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0:52 - 0:54It includes a lot of different behaviors,
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0:54 - 0:56from mocking or belittling someone
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0:56 - 0:59to teasing people in ways that sting
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0:59 - 1:01to telling offensive jokes
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1:01 - 1:03to texting in meetings.
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1:03 - 1:07And what's uncivil to one person
may be absolutely fine to another. -
1:07 - 1:10Take texting while someone's
speaking to you. -
1:10 - 1:12Some of us may find it rude,
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1:12 - 1:15others may think it's absolutely civil.
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1:15 - 1:17So it really depends.
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1:17 - 1:22It's all in the eyes of the beholder
and whether that person felt disrespected. -
1:23 - 1:26We may not mean to make
someone feel that way, -
1:26 - 1:28but when we do, it has consequences.
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1:30 - 1:32Over 22 years ago,
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1:32 - 1:35I vividly recall walking into
this stuffy hospital room. -
1:36 - 1:42It was heartbreaking to see my dad,
this strong, athletic, energetic guy, -
1:42 - 1:46lying in the bed with electrodes
strapped to his bare chest. -
1:47 - 1:49What put him there
was work-related stress. -
1:50 - 1:52For over a decade,
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1:52 - 1:55he suffered an uncivil boss.
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1:57 - 2:02And for me, I thought he was
just an outlier at that time. -
2:02 - 2:05But just a couple years later,
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2:05 - 2:08I witnessed and experienced
a lot of incivility -
2:08 - 2:10in my first job out of college.
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2:10 - 2:13I spent a year going to work every day
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2:13 - 2:15and hearing things from coworkers like,
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2:15 - 2:18"Are you an idiot?
That's not how it's done," -
2:18 - 2:22and, "If I wanted your opinion, I'd ask."
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2:23 - 2:26So I did the natural thing.
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2:26 - 2:30I quit, and I went back to grad school
to study the effects of this. -
2:30 - 2:33There, I met Christine Pearson.
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2:33 - 2:37And she had a theory
that small, uncivil actions -
2:37 - 2:39can lead to much bigger problems
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2:39 - 2:41like aggression and violence.
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2:42 - 2:46We believed that incivility affected
performance and the bottom line. -
2:46 - 2:50So we launched a study,
and what we found was eye-opening. -
2:50 - 2:53We sent a survey to business school alumni
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2:53 - 2:55working in all different organizations.
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2:55 - 2:58We asked them to write a few sentences
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2:58 - 3:01about one experience
where they were treated rudely, -
3:01 - 3:04disrespectfully or insensitively,
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3:04 - 3:07and to answer questions
about how they reacted. -
3:09 - 3:12One person told us about a boss
that made insulting statements like, -
3:12 - 3:14"That's kindergartner's work,"
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3:15 - 3:19and another tore up someone's work
in front of the entire team. -
3:20 - 3:24And what we found is that incivility
made people less motivated: -
3:24 - 3:2766 percent cut back work efforts,
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3:27 - 3:3080 percent lost time
worrying about what happened, -
3:30 - 3:33and 12 percent left their job.
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3:35 - 3:38And after we published these results,
two things happened. -
3:38 - 3:41One, we got calls from organizations.
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3:42 - 3:43Cisco read about these numbers,
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3:43 - 3:48took just a few of these
and estimated, conservatively, -
3:48 - 3:51that incivility was costing them
12 million dollars a year. -
3:52 - 3:57The second thing that happened was,
we heard from others in our academic field -
3:57 - 4:01who said, "Well, people are reporting
this, but how can you really show it? -
4:01 - 4:04Does people's performance really suffer?"
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4:05 - 4:07I was curious about that, too.
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4:07 - 4:11With Amir Erez, I compared
those that experienced incivility -
4:11 - 4:14to those that didn't
experience incivility. -
4:14 - 4:18And what we found is that those
that experience incivility -
4:18 - 4:20do actually function much worse.
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4:22 - 4:24"OK," you may say. "This makes sense.
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4:24 - 4:27After all, it's natural
that their performance suffers." -
4:28 - 4:32But what about if you're not
the one who experiences it? -
4:32 - 4:34What if you just see or hear it?
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4:35 - 4:36You're a witness.
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4:36 - 4:39We wondered if it affected witnesses, too.
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4:40 - 4:41So we conducted studies
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4:41 - 4:45where five participants would witness
an experimenter act rudely -
4:45 - 4:47to someone who arrived late to the study.
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4:48 - 4:50The experimenter said,
"What is it with you? -
4:50 - 4:53You arrive late, you're irresponsible.
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4:53 - 4:56Look at you! How do you expect
to hold a job in the real world?" -
4:57 - 4:59And in another study in a small group,
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4:59 - 5:03we tested the effects of a peer
insulting a group member. -
5:03 - 5:06Now, what we found was really interesting,
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5:06 - 5:09because witnesses'
performance decreased, too -- -
5:09 - 5:12and not just marginally,
quite significantly. -
5:14 - 5:16Incivility is a bug.
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5:17 - 5:18It's contagious,
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5:18 - 5:22and we become carriers of it
just by being around it. -
5:23 - 5:25And this isn't confined to the workplace.
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5:25 - 5:28We can catch this virus anywhere --
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5:28 - 5:32at home, online, in schools
and in our communities. -
5:33 - 5:38It affects our emotions,
our motivation, our performance -
5:38 - 5:39and how we treat others.
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5:40 - 5:43It even affects our attention
and can take some of our brainpower. -
5:44 - 5:48And this happens not only
if we experience incivility -
5:48 - 5:49or we witness it.
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5:49 - 5:53It can happen even if we
just see or read rude words. -
5:54 - 5:56Let me give you an example of what I mean.
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5:57 - 6:01To test this, we gave people
combinations of words -
6:01 - 6:02to use to make a sentence.
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6:03 - 6:04But we were very sneaky.
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6:05 - 6:10Half the participants got a list
with 15 words used to trigger rudeness: -
6:10 - 6:15impolitely, interrupt, obnoxious, bother.
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6:15 - 6:18Half the participants
received a list of words -
6:18 - 6:20with none of these rude triggers.
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6:21 - 6:24And what we found was really surprising,
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6:24 - 6:26because the people who got the rude words
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6:26 - 6:30were five times more likely to miss
information right in front of them -
6:30 - 6:32on the computer screen.
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6:33 - 6:35And as we continued this research,
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6:35 - 6:38what we found is that those
that read the rude words -
6:38 - 6:40took longer to make decisions,
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6:40 - 6:42to record their decisions,
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6:42 - 6:44and they made significantly more errors.
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6:45 - 6:47This can be a big deal,
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6:47 - 6:50especially when it comes
to life-and-death situations. -
6:51 - 6:55Steve, a physician, told me
about a doctor that he worked with -
6:55 - 6:56who was never very respectful,
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6:56 - 6:59especially to junior staff and nurses.
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6:59 - 7:03But Steve told me about
this one particular interaction -
7:03 - 7:06where this doctor shouted
at a medical team. -
7:07 - 7:08Right after the interaction,
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7:08 - 7:12the team gave the wrong dosage
of medication to their patient. -
7:13 - 7:17Steve said the information
was right there on the chart, -
7:17 - 7:20but somehow everyone
on the team missed it. -
7:21 - 7:25He said they lacked the attention
or awareness to take it into account. -
7:26 - 7:27Simple mistake, right?
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7:28 - 7:29Well, that patient died.
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7:30 - 7:34Researchers in Israel have actually shown
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7:34 - 7:36that medical teams exposed to rudeness
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7:36 - 7:40perform worse not only
in all their diagnostics, -
7:40 - 7:42but in all the procedures they did.
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7:43 - 7:46This was mainly because
the teams exposed to rudeness -
7:46 - 7:48didn't share information as readily,
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7:48 - 7:51and they stopped seeking
help from their teammates. -
7:51 - 7:55And I see this not only in medicine
but in all industries. -
7:57 - 8:00So if incivility has such a huge cost,
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8:00 - 8:02why do we still see so much of it?
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8:03 - 8:06I was curious, so we surveyed
people about this, too. -
8:06 - 8:09The number one reason is stress.
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8:09 - 8:11People feel overwhelmed.
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8:12 - 8:15The other reason that people
are not more civil -
8:15 - 8:17is because they're skeptical
and even concerned -
8:17 - 8:20about being civil or appearing nice.
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8:20 - 8:23They believe they'll appear
less leader-like. -
8:23 - 8:25They wonder: Do nice guys finish last?
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8:26 - 8:29Or in other words: Do jerks get ahead?
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8:29 - 8:30(Laughter)
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8:31 - 8:33It's easy to think so,
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8:33 - 8:36especially when we see
a few prominent examples -
8:36 - 8:38that dominate the conversation.
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8:38 - 8:41Well, it turns out,
in the long run, they don't. -
8:42 - 8:46There's really rich research on this
by Morgan McCall and Michael Lombardo -
8:46 - 8:49when they were at
the Center for Creative Leadership. -
8:49 - 8:54They found that the number one reason
tied to executive failure -
8:54 - 8:57was an insensitive, abrasive
or bullying style. -
8:58 - 9:03There will always be some outliers
that succeed despite their incivility. -
9:03 - 9:04Sooner or later, though,
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9:04 - 9:07most uncivil people
sabotage their success. -
9:08 - 9:10For example, with uncivil executives,
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9:10 - 9:13it comes back to hurt them
when they're in a place of weakness -
9:13 - 9:15or they need something.
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9:15 - 9:17People won't have their backs.
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9:18 - 9:20But what about nice guys?
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9:20 - 9:21Does civility pay?
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9:21 - 9:23Yes, it does.
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9:24 - 9:28And being civil doesn't just mean
that you're not a jerk. -
9:28 - 9:32Not holding someone down
isn't the same as lifting them up. -
9:33 - 9:36Being truly civil means
doing the small things, -
9:36 - 9:39like smiling and saying
hello in the hallway, -
9:39 - 9:42listening fully when
someone's speaking to you. -
9:42 - 9:44Now, you can have strong opinions,
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9:44 - 9:49disagree, have conflict
or give negative feedback civilly, -
9:49 - 9:51with respect.
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9:51 - 9:53Some people call it "radical candor,"
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9:53 - 9:55where you care personally,
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9:55 - 9:57but you challenge directly.
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9:58 - 10:00So yes, civility pays.
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10:00 - 10:03In a biotechnology firm,
colleagues and I found -
10:03 - 10:05that those that were seen as civil
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10:05 - 10:08were twice as likely
to be viewed as leaders, -
10:08 - 10:10and they performed significantly better.
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10:11 - 10:13Why does civility pay?
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10:13 - 10:18Because people see you
as an important -- and a powerful -- -
10:18 - 10:22unique combination
of two key characteristics: -
10:22 - 10:25warm and competent, friendly and smart.
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10:25 - 10:30In other words, being civil
isn't just about motivating others. -
10:30 - 10:31It's about you.
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10:32 - 10:35If you're civil, you're more likely
to be seen as a leader. -
10:35 - 10:38You'll perform better, and you're seen
as warm and competent. -
10:40 - 10:43But there's an even bigger story
about how civility pays, -
10:43 - 10:47and it ties to one of the most
important questions around leadership: -
10:48 - 10:51What do people want most
from their leaders? -
10:52 - 10:56We took data from over
20,000 employees around the world, -
10:56 - 10:58and we found the answer was simple:
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10:59 - 11:00respect.
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11:01 - 11:04Being treated with respect
was more important -
11:04 - 11:06than recognition and appreciation,
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11:06 - 11:08useful feedback,
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11:08 - 11:10even opportunities for learning.
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11:11 - 11:14Those that felt respected were healthier,
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11:14 - 11:16more focused,
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11:16 - 11:18more likely to stay
with their organization -
11:18 - 11:20and far more engaged.
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11:22 - 11:24So where do you start?
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11:24 - 11:28How can you lift people up
and make people feel respected? -
11:28 - 11:31Well, the nice thing is,
it doesn't require a huge shift. -
11:32 - 11:35Small things can make a big difference.
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11:35 - 11:38I found that thanking people,
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11:38 - 11:39sharing credit,
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11:39 - 11:41listening attentively,
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11:42 - 11:44humbly asking questions,
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11:44 - 11:47acknowledging others and smiling
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11:47 - 11:48has an impact.
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11:49 - 11:53Patrick Quinlan, former CEO
of Ochsner Health [System], -
11:53 - 11:56told me about the effects
of their 10-5 way, -
11:56 - 11:58where if you're within 10 feet of someone,
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11:58 - 12:01you make eye contact and smile,
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12:01 - 12:03and if you're within five feet,
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12:03 - 12:04you say hello.
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12:05 - 12:07He explained that civility spread,
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12:07 - 12:10patient satisfaction scores rose,
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12:10 - 12:12as did patient referrals.
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12:13 - 12:17Civility and respect can be used
to boost an organization's performance. -
12:18 - 12:24When my friend Doug Conant took over
as CEO of Campbell's Soup Company in 2001, -
12:24 - 12:27the company's market share
had just dropped in half. -
12:27 - 12:28Sales were declining,
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12:28 - 12:31lots of people had just been laid off.
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12:31 - 12:35A Gallup manager said it was
the least engaged organization -
12:35 - 12:36that they had surveyed.
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12:37 - 12:40And as Doug drove up
to work his first day, -
12:40 - 12:44he noticed that the headquarters
was surrounded by barbwire fence. -
12:44 - 12:47There were guard towers
in the parking lot. -
12:48 - 12:51He said it looked like
a minimum security prison. -
12:51 - 12:53It felt toxic.
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12:55 - 12:58Within five years, Doug
had turned things around. -
12:58 - 13:02And within nine years, they were setting
all-time performance records -
13:02 - 13:05and racking up awards,
including best place to work. -
13:05 - 13:07How did he do it?
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13:07 - 13:10On day one, Doug told employees
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13:10 - 13:13that he was going to have
high standards for performance, -
13:13 - 13:15but they were going
to do it with civility. -
13:15 - 13:18He walked the talk,
and he expected his leaders to. -
13:19 - 13:24For Doug, it all came down
to being tough-minded on standards -
13:24 - 13:25and tenderhearted with people.
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13:26 - 13:29For him, he said it was all about
these touch points, -
13:29 - 13:33or these daily interactions
he had with employees, -
13:33 - 13:37whether in the hallway,
in the cafeteria or in meetings. -
13:37 - 13:40And if he handled each touch point well,
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13:40 - 13:42he'd make employees feel valued.
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13:43 - 13:47Another way that Doug
made employees feel valued -
13:47 - 13:49and showed them that
he was paying attention -
13:49 - 13:54is that he handwrote over 30,000
thank-you notes to employees. -
13:55 - 13:57And this set an example for other leaders.
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13:58 - 14:02Leaders have about 400
of these touch points a day. -
14:02 - 14:06Most don't take long,
less than two minutes each. -
14:06 - 14:10The key is to be agile and mindful
in each of these moments. -
14:11 - 14:13Civility lifts people.
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14:13 - 14:17We'll get people to give more
and function at their best -
14:17 - 14:18if we're civil.
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14:19 - 14:22Incivility chips away at people
and their performance. -
14:22 - 14:24It robs people of their potential,
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14:24 - 14:26even if they're just working around it.
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14:27 - 14:31What I know from my research is that
when we have more civil environments, -
14:31 - 14:37we're more productive, creative,
helpful, happy and healthy. -
14:37 - 14:39We can do better.
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14:39 - 14:42Each one of us can be more mindful
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14:43 - 14:46and can take actions
to lift others up around us, -
14:46 - 14:49at work, at home, online,
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14:49 - 14:51in schools
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14:51 - 14:52and in our communities.
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14:53 - 14:55In every interaction, think:
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14:56 - 14:58Who do you want to be?
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14:58 - 15:01Let's put an end to incivility bug
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15:01 - 15:03and start spreading civility.
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15:03 - 15:06After all, it pays.
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15:06 - 15:07Thank you.
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15:07 - 15:10(Applause)
- Title:
- Why being respectful to your coworkers is good for business
- Speaker:
- Christine Porath
- Description:
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Looking to get ahead in your career? Start by being nice to your coworkers, says leadership researcher Christine Porath. In this science-backed talk, she shares surprising insights about the costs of rudeness and shows how little acts of respect can boost your professional success -- and your company's bottom line.
- Video Language:
- English
- Team:
- closed TED
- Project:
- TEDTalks
- Duration:
- 15:24
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