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In every stage of our lives
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we make decisions that will profoundly influence
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the lives of the people we're going to become,
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and then when we become those people,
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we're not always thrilled with the decisions we made.
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So young people pay good money
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to get tattoos removed that teenagers
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paid good money to get.
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Middle-aged people rushed to divorce people
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who young adults rushed to marry.
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Older adults work hard to lose
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what middle-aged adults worked hard to gain.
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On and on and on.
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The question is, as a psychologist,
that fascinates me is,
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why do we make decisions
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that our future selves so often regret?
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Now, I think one of the reasons --
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I'll try to convince you today —
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is that we have a fundamental misconception
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about the power of time.
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Every one of you knows that the rate of change
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slows over the human lifespan,
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that your children seem to change by the minute
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but your parents seem to change by the year.
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But what is the name of this magical point in life
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where change suddenly goes
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from a gallop to a crawl?
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Is it teenage years? Is it middle age?
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Is it old age? The answer, it turns out,
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for most people, is now,
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wherever now happens to be.
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What I want to convince you today
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is that all of us are walking around with an illusion,
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an illusion that history, our personal history,
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has just come to an end,
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that we have just recently become
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the people that we were always meant to be
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and will be for the rest of our lives.
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Let me give you some data to back up that claim.
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So here's a study of change in people's
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personal values over time.
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Here's three values.
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Everybody here holds all of them,
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but you probably know that as you grow,
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as you age, the balance of these values shifts.
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So how does it do so?
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Well, we asked thousands of people.
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We asked half of them to predict for us
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how much their values would
change in the next 10 years,
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and the others to tell us
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how much their values had
changed in the last 10 years.
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And this enabled us to do a really
interesting kind of analysis,
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because it allowed us to compare the predictions
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of people, say, 18 years old,
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to the reports of people who were 28,
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and to do that kind of analysis
throughout the lifespan.
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Here's what we found.
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First of all, you are right,
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change does slow down as we age,
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but second, you're wrong,
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because it doesn't slow nearly as much as we think.
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At every age, from 18 to 68 in our data set,
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people vastly underestimated how much change
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they would experience over the next 10 years.
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We call this the "end of history" illusion.
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To give you an idea of the magnitude of this effect,
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you can connect these two lines,
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and what you see here is that 18-year-olds
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anticipate changing only as much
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as 50-year-olds actually do.
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Now it's not just values. It's all sorts of other things.
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For example, personality.
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Many of you know that psychologists now claim
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that there are five fundamental
dimensions of personality:
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neuroticism, openness to experience,
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agreeableness, extraversion, and conscientiousness.
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Again, we asked people how much they expected
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to change over the next 10 years,
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and also how much they had
changed over the last 10 years,
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and what we found,
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well, you're going to get used to
seeing this diagram over and over,
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because once again the rate of change
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does slow as we age,
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but at every age, people underestimate
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how much their personalities will change
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in the next decade.
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And it isn't just ephemeral things
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like values and personality.
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You can ask people about their likes and dislikes,
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their basic preferences.
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For example, name your best friend,
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your favorite kind of vacation,
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what's your favorite hobby,
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what's your favorite kind of music.
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People can name these things.
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We ask half of them to tell us,
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"Do you think that that will
change over the next 10 years?"
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and half of them to tell us,
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"Did that change over the last 10 years?"
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And what we find, well, you've seen it twice now,
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and here it is again:
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people predict that the friend they have now
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is the friend they'll have in 10 years,
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the vacation they most enjoy now is the one
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they'll enjoy in 10 years,
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and yet, people who are 10 years older all say,
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"Eh, you know, that's really changed."
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Does any of this matter?
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Is this just a form of mis-prediction
that doesn't have consequences?
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No, it matters quite a bit, and
I'll give you an example of why.
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It bedevils our decision-making in important ways.
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Bring to mind right now for yourself
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your favorite musician today
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and your favorite musician 10 years ago.
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I put mine up on the screen to help you along.
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Now we asked people
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to predict for us, to tell us
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how much money they would pay right now
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to see their current favorite musician
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perform in concert 10 years from now,
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and on average, people said they would pay
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129 dollars for that ticket.
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And yet, when we asked them
how much they would pay
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to see the person who was their favorite
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10 years ago perform today,
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they say only 80 dollars.
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Now, in a perfectly rational world,
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these should be the same number,
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but we overpay for the opportunity
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to indulge our current preferences
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because we overestimate their stability.
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Why does this happen? We're not entirely sure,
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but it probably has to do
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with the ease of remembering
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versus the difficulty of imagining.
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Most of us can remember
who we were 10 years ago,
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but we find it hard to imagine who we're going to be,
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and then we mistakenly think
that because it's hard to imagine,
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it's not likely to happen.
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Sorry, when people say "I can't imagine that,"
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they're usually talking about
their own lack of imagination,
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and not about the unlikelihood
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of the event that they're describing.
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The bottom line is, time is a powerful force.
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It transforms our preferences.
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It reshapes our values.
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It alters our personalities.
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We seem to appreciate this fact,
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but only in retrospect.
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Only when we look backwards do we realize
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how much change happens in a decade.
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It's as if, for most of us,
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the present is a magic time.
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It's a watershed on the timeline.
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It's the moment at which we finally
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become ourselves.
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Human beings are works in progress
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that mistakenly think they're finished.
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The person you are right now
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is as transient, as fleeting and as temporary
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as all the people you've ever been.
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The one constant in our life is change.
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Thank you.
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(Applause)