FAKE FRIENDS EPISODE ONE: intro to parasocial relationships
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0:00 - 0:03[Voiceover: Strucci] Is it possible for
you to form a relationship with -
0:03 - 0:05someone who doesn't know you
and has never met you? -
0:05 - 0:07Or with someone who doesn't even exist?
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0:07 - 0:12Yes. You can. There's even a name for it:
A parasocial relationship. -
0:12 - 0:14[Nick Uhas] Creators find that the more
they give their audience, -
0:14 - 0:16the more their audience gives back to
them. -
0:16 - 0:20Think of it like having a conversation
with a friend. Or, a thousand of them. -
0:20 - 0:22- [Girl in audience] Woo!
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0:22 - 0:25[Bo Burnham] I'm giving you attention,
girl that's "woo"-ing. Are you happy now? -
0:25 - 0:25[Girl in audience] I love you!
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0:25 - 0:28[Burnham] You love me? That's very nice.
You love the idea of me. -
0:28 - 0:31You don't know me, but that's okay. It's
called a parasocial relationship. -
0:31 - 0:34It goes one way and is ultimately
destructive, but please -- -
0:34 - 0:36keep buying all my shit forever.
-
0:36 - 0:37- [Burnham in Voiceover]
Uh, and the best part about it, man, -
0:37 - 0:41you got all these young fans. Uh, and,
which is great, because young people, -
0:41 - 0:45they're very passionate, they're very
reliable consumers. -
0:45 - 0:48But what you gotta do, in order to
take your career to the next level, -
0:48 - 0:50you gotta cater more heavily to them.
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0:50 - 0:52- [Burnham] That's how it works.
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0:52 - 0:54Capitalism, I'm trapped.
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0:54 - 0:56It's terrible, I'm a horrible person.
-
0:56 - 0:58- [Burnham singing]
♫ Art is dead ♫ -
0:58 - 0:59♫ So people think you're funny ♫
-
0:59 - 1:01♫ How do we get those people's money? ♫
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1:01 - 1:03- [Jon LaJoie talking]
Girl, I love you so much. -
1:03 - 1:05I wish we could be together.
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1:05 - 1:07Unfortunately we can't, because,
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1:07 - 1:08I'm rich and famous and you're not.
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1:08 - 1:10But, why don't you just
-
1:10 - 1:12go out and buy my album?
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1:12 - 1:14And tell your friends about it too,
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1:14 - 1:16so that they also go out and buy it.
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1:18 - 1:20[Voiceover: Strucci]
This video will offer a basic definition -
1:20 - 1:24and exploration of the essay
that originated the concept and the term. -
1:24 - 1:27Part 2 will deal with parasocial
relationships with fictional characters, -
1:27 - 1:30and with real people, including
where that line is blurred. -
1:30 - 1:33Part 3 will expand on the research
covering these relationships, -
1:33 - 1:35along with their applications,
and how they have been deliberately -
1:35 - 1:37fostered and used, for better or for
worse. -
1:37 - 1:41And part 4 will be my own personal
conclusions and advice regarding them, -
1:41 - 1:44especially the phrase
"Don't meet your heroes." -
1:44 - 1:47This is something really important to name
and to think about, especially -
1:47 - 1:50with the way that these relationships
can be used to exploit vulnerable people, -
1:50 - 1:53or used in place of actual relationships
in a way that is unhealthy. -
1:53 - 1:56- [Burnham singing]
♫ I also hope that you don't see through ♫ -
1:56 - 1:59♫ This cleverly constructed ruse ♫
-
1:59 - 2:01♫ Designed by a marketing team ♫
-
2:01 - 2:05♫ Cashing in on puberty
and low self-esteem ♫ -
2:05 - 2:09♫ And girls' desperate need
to feel loved... ♫ -
2:09 - 2:10♫ (Please love me!) ♫
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2:10 - 2:11- [Voiceover: Strucci]
And I feel like it's a topic -
2:11 - 2:14that's very rarely touched on. I only
became aware of the term about -
2:14 - 2:17a year and a half ago, despite being
obsessed with media. And I feel like this -
2:17 - 2:20is something all the people watching this
video have experienced, -
2:20 - 2:23even if you haven't ever really
thought about it or tried to name it. -
2:23 - 2:26Parasocial relationships have been
researched so extensively -
2:26 - 2:29that studying them and condensing
information about them down is daunting. -
2:29 - 2:32But they seem unheard of
in a wider context. -
2:32 - 2:35Normally, I can pull from other video
essays and documentaries -
2:35 - 2:38and interviews for supplementary clips,
but on YouTube for example, -
2:38 - 2:41there are just some TED and TEDx talks,
maybe a couple of video essays, -
2:41 - 2:45and a bunch of PowerPoint-style
school projects and vloggers and academics -
2:45 - 2:46talking into the camera.
-
2:46 - 2:49The term "parasocial relationships" gives
about 900 results. -
2:49 - 2:53Other variations on the phrase
in an academic context give far fewer -
2:53 - 2:55results, and while "parasocial"
gives a ton of results, -
2:55 - 2:58most of them are not in English and have
nothing to do with the theory. -
2:58 - 3:02Compare this to auteur theory, which I did
an essay on a couple years ago, -
3:02 - 3:04which has over 10 times the results,
-
3:04 - 3:07with a ton of video essays by well-known
YouTube editors and personalities -
3:07 - 3:10and interviews and documentaries with
famous filmmakers, and the like. -
3:10 - 3:13I will refer to what videos I did find
throughout this series, -
3:13 - 3:16but overall, I was surprised by the
difference between the dozens and dozens -
3:16 - 3:20of academic studies and essays I found,
and the lack of video covering them. -
3:20 - 3:22And I was compelled to try
to help bridge that gap, -
3:22 - 3:25and provide more accessible information
on these relationships. -
3:25 - 3:35- [Man speaking Chinese]
-
3:35 - 3:36- [Voiceover: Strucci]
Also, please note that me talking about -
3:36 - 3:39a particular character or personality
in this series does not imply -
3:39 - 3:41that I'm endorsing them or their beliefs.
-
3:41 - 3:44Parasocial relationships can be formed
with all sorts of people and all sorts of -
3:44 - 3:47characters, and me talking about a
persona in this series is certainly not -
3:47 - 3:48an endorsement of that persona.
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3:48 - 3:51Okay, so what are parasocial relationships
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3:51 - 3:52and why do I care so much about them?
-
3:52 - 3:55- [Bo Burnham singing]
♫ I'm in magazines ♫ -
3:55 - 3:58♫ Full of model teens ♫
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3:58 - 4:02♫ So far above you ♫
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4:04 - 4:09♫ So read them and hate yourself ♫
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4:09 - 4:13♫ Then pay me to tell you I love you ♫
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4:14 - 4:16(whispering) I love you.
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4:16 - 4:19- [Voiceover: Strucci]
In 1956, Donald Horton and Richard Wohl -
4:19 - 4:23published "Mass Communication
and Para-Social Interaction: -
4:23 - 4:26Observations on Intimacy at a Distance"
in the journal Psychiatry. -
4:26 - 4:29Note that while I'm leaving my excerpts
from the piece unaltered, -
4:29 - 4:30it was written in the 50s,
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4:30 - 4:33so keep that in mind when outdated and
potentially offensive words -
4:33 - 4:35like "invalid" or the million times
personas and spectators -
4:35 - 4:37are referred to as "he" come up.
-
4:37 - 4:39Their essay opens
with the following paragraph: -
4:39 - 4:42"One of the striking characteristics
of the new mass media–– -
4:42 - 4:44radio, television, and the movies --
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4:44 - 4:46is that they give the illusion of a
face-to-face relationship with -
4:46 - 4:50the performer. The conditions of response
to the performer are analogous -
4:50 - 4:51to those in a primary group.
-
4:52 - 4:54The most remote and illustrious men are
met as if -
4:54 - 4:55they were in a circle of ones peers;
-
4:55 - 4:58the same is true of a character in a story
-
4:58 - 4:59who comes to life in these media
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4:59 - 5:01in an especially vivid and arresting way.
-
5:01 - 5:04We propose to call this seeming
face-to-face relationship -
5:04 - 5:05between spectator and performer
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5:05 - 5:07a para-social relationship."
-
5:07 - 5:10They refer to figures,
personalities whose existence -
5:10 - 5:13is a function of the media, as "personae:"
-
5:13 - 5:16referring to "quizmasters, announcers,
and interviewers," -
5:16 - 5:18who speak directly into the camera,
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5:18 - 5:19in an attempt to get the audience
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5:19 - 5:20to "consider that they are involved
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5:20 - 5:22in a face-to-face exchange,
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5:22 - 5:24rather than a passive observation."
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5:24 - 5:27They describe TV shows and radio shows
a persona would be on -
5:27 - 5:29as "personality programs."
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5:29 - 5:32They quote Dave Garroway, a radio and
television personality, -
5:32 - 5:34describing how he
"stumbled on the device": -
5:34 - 5:38"Most talk on the radio in those days was
formal and usually a little stiff. -
5:38 - 5:41But I just rambled along, saying whatever
came into my mind. -
5:41 - 5:43I was introspective.
-
5:43 - 5:45I tried to pretend
that I was chatting with a friend -
5:45 - 5:47over a highball,
late in the evening." -
5:47 - 5:49- Dave was one of the first
that didn't say -
5:49 - 5:51"Ladies and gentlemen."
-
5:51 - 5:52You know, the idea
when you were broadcasting, -
5:52 - 5:55to get on as though, you know,
there were millions of people out there, -
5:55 - 5:56so you say "Ladies and gentlemen!"
-
5:56 - 5:59Well, you're not broadcasting
to "ladies and gentlemen." -
5:59 - 6:01You're broadcasting
to individuals or small groups, -
6:01 - 6:04in a home or in an intimate setting,
-
6:04 - 6:07and that's the way Dave approached it.
It was kind of new to do that then. -
6:07 - 6:09- [Voiceover: Strucci]
"Then - and later - I consciously tried -
6:09 - 6:11to talk to the listener as an individual,
-
6:11 - 6:15to make each listener feel
that he knew me, and I knew him. -
6:15 - 6:17It seemed to work pretty well
then and later. -
6:17 - 6:21I know that strangers often stop me
on the street today, call me Dave, -
6:21 - 6:23and seem to feel that we are old friends
who know all about each other." -
6:23 - 6:25- This is a man who was able to look
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6:25 - 6:27into that lens, as I am doing now,
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6:27 - 6:29and talk to people at home.
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6:29 - 6:32As if he was talking one-to-one with you.
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6:32 - 6:34- [Voiceover: Strucci]
Horton and Wohl describe parasocial -
6:34 - 6:37relationships as
"a simulacrum of conversational -
6:37 - 6:40give-and-take, in opposition
to ortho-social relationships, -
6:40 - 6:43the difference lying
in lack of affective reciprocity. -
6:43 - 6:46It is a relationship that is one-sided,
non-dialectical, -
6:46 - 6:49controlled by the performer, and not
susceptible to mutual development." -
6:49 - 6:51They also say that the persona "offers,
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6:51 - 6:54above all, a continuing relationship,
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6:54 - 6:56where its appearance as a regular
and dependable event -
6:56 - 6:59to be counted on, planned for,
and integrated -
6:59 - 7:00into the routines of daily life.
-
7:00 - 7:02"To say that he is familiar and intimate
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7:02 - 7:05is to use pale and feeble language
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7:05 - 7:06for the pervasiveness and closeness
-
7:06 - 7:08with which multitudes feel his presence.
-
7:08 - 7:10And the persona's character
and pattern of action -
7:10 - 7:11remain basically unchanged,
-
7:11 - 7:14in a world of otherwise
disturbing change. -
7:14 - 7:16It's a relationship
where the technical devices -
7:16 - 7:18of the media themselves
are exploited -
7:18 - 7:19to create illusions of intimacy,
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7:19 - 7:21with no challenge
to the spectator's self." -
7:21 - 7:24Horton and Wohl were talking about radio
and televison, -
7:24 - 7:27but all this applies even more so
to Internet personalities, -
7:27 - 7:29being that the techniques
of exploiting these relationships -
7:29 - 7:32have had time to be honed and refined
over the past 60 years. -
7:32 - 7:35The YouTube Creator Academy,
free courses available online -
7:35 - 7:36behind the scenes
to YouTube content creators, -
7:36 - 7:39give recommendations for techniques
that deliberately foster -
7:39 - 7:41parasocial relationships
with audience members, -
7:41 - 7:45using terms like "Be authentic,"
and "Make your community feel loved", -
7:45 - 7:48in the same courses as phrases
like "Long-term channel growth" -
7:48 - 7:50and "How can you capitalize on this?",
-
7:50 - 7:52even encouraging YouTube personalities
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7:52 - 7:53to develop and play up catchphrases,
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7:53 - 7:55and give special names to fans.
-
7:55 - 7:56Back to Horton and Wohl.
-
7:56 - 7:59"All these devices are indulged in
not only to lure the attention -
7:59 - 8:01of the audience, and to create
the easy impression -
8:01 - 8:03that there is a kind of
participation open to them -
8:03 - 8:05in the program itself,
but also to highlight -
8:05 - 8:07the chief values stressed
in such 'personality' shows. -
8:07 - 8:10These are sociability,
easy affability, -
8:10 - 8:13friendship, and close contact -
briefly, all the values associated -
8:13 - 8:15with free access to,
and easy participation in, -
8:15 - 8:18pleasant social interactions
in primary groups. -
8:18 - 8:20Because the relationship
between persona and audience -
8:20 - 8:22is one-sided, and cannot
be developed mutually, -
8:22 - 8:23very nearly the whole burden
-
8:23 - 8:25of creating a plausible imitation
of intimacy, -
8:25 - 8:28is thrown on the persona and on the show
of which he is the pivot. -
8:28 - 8:31If he is successful in initiating an
intimacy which his audience -
8:31 - 8:32can believe in..."
-
8:32 - 8:35- [Man presenting award]
For giving generation upon generation -
8:35 - 8:39of children confidence in themselves.
For being their friend - -
8:39 - 8:40- [Voiceover: Strucci]
"... then the audience may help him -
8:40 - 8:42maintain it by fan mail,
-
8:42 - 8:43and by the various
other kinds of support, -
8:43 - 8:46which can be provided indirectly
to buttress his actions." -
8:46 - 8:48A fun part of this study
is where Horton and Wohl posit -
8:48 - 8:50that "other attitudes than compliance
-
8:50 - 8:53in the assigned role are, of course,
possible. -
8:53 - 8:55One may reject, take an analytical stance,
-
8:55 - 8:57perhaps even find a cynical amusement
-
8:57 - 8:58in refuting the offered gambit,
-
8:58 - 9:01and playing some other role
not implied in the script ..." -
9:01 - 9:03- [Voiceover on TV]
Who's that Pokemon? -
9:03 - 9:04- [Man offscreen]
(screaming) IT'S PIKACHU! -
9:08 - 9:09- [Voiceover on TV]
It's Koffing! -
9:09 - 9:10- [Man offscreen]
(screaming) GOD DAMN IT! ARRGHH! -
9:10 - 9:12- [Voiceover: Strucci]
"... Or view the proceedings -
9:12 - 9:14with a detached curiosity, or hostility."
-
9:14 - 9:16Which, of course,
is what I'm doing right here. -
9:16 - 9:18You could also see it
in the adversarial spectatorship -
9:18 - 9:22of Mystery Science Theater 3000,
especially in their educational shorts. -
9:22 - 9:24- [Character in film]
So, you never wanna see -
9:24 - 9:28another spring, eh? Okay, mister!
I'll fix it so you GET that way! -
9:28 - 9:29- [Crow]
... In HELL! -
9:29 - 9:31- [Voiceover: Strucci]
And in Red-Letter Media's Nerd Crew: -
9:31 - 9:34- Hello, and welcome to another
very special episode -
9:34 - 9:36of The Nerd Crew.
As always, I'm Mike. -
9:36 - 9:41- And I'm Jay, and I'm just someone
that really loves comic books, -
9:41 - 9:46and Star Wars. I didn't used to,
until it became commercially viable, -
9:46 - 9:49and now, me personally,
I love talking about Star Wars. -
9:49 - 9:51I thought it was fucking stupid,
-
9:51 - 9:55but now I think it is
the most amazing thing in pop culture. -
9:55 - 9:56- [Voiceover: Strucci]
A series that is a vicious parody -
9:56 - 9:59of quote-unquote "Nerd Podcasts"
and videos -
9:59 - 10:01that exist to milk revenue
from fans of geek culture. -
10:01 - 10:04- And, today's sponsor, is Nerd Coffin.
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10:33 - 10:35[Voiceover: Strucci]
Horton and Wohl differentiate between -
10:35 - 10:38the kind of identification a spectator
would have with a character in a play -
10:38 - 10:40or film, with a parasocial interaction.
-
10:40 - 10:43When you're looking at a fictional
character as a part of a drama separate -
10:43 - 10:45from yourself, you certainly might
identify with that character, -
10:45 - 10:48even on a deep emotional level -
what they refer to as -
10:48 - 10:51"that loss of situational references and
self-consciousness". -
10:51 - 10:55With a parasocial relationship in a
personality program though, -
10:55 - 10:57the persona continually addresses the
spectator, -
10:57 - 11:00with these references serving to "remind
the spectator of their own independent -
11:00 - 11:05identity. The only illusion maintained is
that of directness and immediacy of -
11:05 - 11:08participation." With a drama, you
surrender control through identification. -
11:08 - 11:12With a parasocial relationship, you are
"called upon to make appropriate responses -
11:12 - 11:14which are complimentary to those of the
persona." -
11:14 - 11:18-[DORA] I need your help to stop Swiper!
-
11:18 - 11:21You have to say "Swiper, no swiping!"
-
11:21 - 11:22Say it with us!
-
11:22 - 11:24- [Voiceover: Strucci]
Which is referred to as the "answering -
11:24 - 11:28role," described as, "to a degree, voluntary
and independent." -
11:28 - 11:32They describe watching a drama as a closed
system, with roles that are pre-determined -
11:32 - 11:35in their mutual relations, and a persona's
performance (which is open ended) -
11:35 - 11:38begging for a specific answering role to
give it closure. -
11:38 - 11:41They say "The 'personality' program – in
contrast to the drama – -
11:41 - 11:44is especially designed to provide
occasion for good-natured joking and -
11:44 - 11:47teasing, praising and admiring,
gossiping and telling anecdotes, -
11:47 - 11:50in which the values of friendship and
intimacy are stressed." -
11:50 - 11:53Horton and Wohl say of a parasocial
relationship that "the greatest pains -
11:53 - 11:56are taken by the persona to create
an illusion of intimacy. -
11:56 - 11:58We call it an illusion because the
relationship between the persona -
11:58 - 12:01and any member of his audience is
inevitably one-sided, -
12:01 - 12:04and reciprocity between the two can only
be suggested." -
12:04 - 12:08They speak of a general propaganda on
behalf of personae with the major theme -
12:08 - 12:11that "...the performer should be loved
and admired. Every attempt possible is -
12:11 - 12:13made to strengthen the illusion of
reciprocity and rapport -
12:13 - 12:17in order to offset the inherent
impersonality of the media themselves." -
12:17 - 12:20There is an emphasis on the ideal
performer having "heart" and -
12:20 - 12:24being "sincere," with a performance that's
"real" and "warm," so that the audience is -
12:24 - 12:27"entreated to assume a sense of personal
obligation to the performer." -
12:27 - 12:28They reference Robert K. Merton's
-
12:28 - 12:32Mass Persuasion: The Social Psychology
of a War Bond Drive, -
12:32 - 12:36describing his "acute analysis of the
audience's demand for 'sincerity' -
12:36 - 12:38as a reassurance against manipulation."
-
12:38 - 12:41The study was published in 1946, and
examined a radio entertainer -
12:41 - 12:45named Kate Smith's efforts to sell war
bonds on the CBS radio network. -
12:45 - 12:48An abstract for the study says that
"the emphasis in the analysis is -
12:48 - 12:52on the personal-social dynamics in the
individual which were stimulated to react -
12:52 - 12:56by the symbols presented by Smith. The
social and cultural context which gave -
12:56 - 12:59such a catalytic effect to Smith's type
of persuasion are considered in term -
12:59 - 13:01of the meanings which they had for the
listeners. -
13:01 - 13:05The moral implications for political
manipulators using this potent type of -
13:05 - 13:08radio technique is examined in the light
of the research findings." -
13:08 - 13:13Merton said "On every side, Americans feel
themselves the object of manipulation, -
13:13 - 13:16the target for ingenious methods of
control, through advertising which -
13:16 - 13:21cajoles, promises, terrorizes... Through
cumulatively subtle methods of -
13:21 - 13:24salesmanship which may simulate values
common to both salesman and client -
13:24 - 13:29for private and self-interested motives.
Listeners felt a magnified will to believe -
13:29 - 13:33in Kate Smith's sincerity as a consequence
of living in a society which has forgone -
13:33 - 13:37a sense of community and has substituted
the mere pretense of common values -
13:37 - 13:39in order to further private interests,"
-
13:39 - 13:41and that "Techniques of persuasion are
known to have a long history, -
13:41 - 13:45and they have, probably, a longer
pre-history. But never before the present day -
13:45 - 13:49has the quick persuasion of masses of
people occurred on such a vast scale. -
13:49 - 13:53The trivial and the large, decisions alike
are made the object of deliberate control. -
13:54 - 13:57Large populations are brought to prefer
a given brand of soap, -
13:57 - 14:01or hair tonic, or laxative; or,
predisposed by their conditions of life, -
14:01 - 14:05large masses are persuaded to follow a
political leader who means many things to -
14:05 - 14:09many men. Loyalties are captured and
control of mass behavior temporarily -
14:09 - 14:11ensured."
Horton/Wohl mention that viewers are also -
14:11 - 14:15"...expected to benefit by his wisdom,
reflect on his advice, sympathize with him -
14:15 - 14:19with him in his difficulties, forgive his
mistakes, buy the products he recommends, -
14:19 - 14:22and keep his sponsor informed of the
esteem in which he is held." -
14:22 - 14:26That's part of the insidiousness of
parasocial relationships. -
14:26 - 14:28- [Jon LaJoie singing]
♫ They'll market this song to young, ♫ -
14:28 - 14:32♫ impressionable, and insecure
teenage girls ♫ -
14:32 - 14:36♫ 'Cause all you gotta say is "ooh, baby,"
"I love you" ♫ -
14:36 - 14:39♫ or "girl, I need you in my world" ♫
-
14:39 - 14:40- [Narration: Strucci]
It's one thing to feel a connection -
14:40 - 14:44to someone or something, even if it's just
one-way. It's another for that connection -
14:44 - 14:48to be deliberately fostered and then
exploited for monetary gain. -
14:48 - 14:52- [Bo Burnham singing]
♫And your parents will always come along ♫ -
14:54 - 15:04♫ Because their little girl's in love,
and how could love be wrong? ♫ -
15:04 - 15:10- [Group chanting]
♫ Make money, make money money ♫ -
15:10 - 15:12- [Jon LaJoie singing]
♫ Rich men making money off ♫ -
15:12 - 15:14♫ of their investments ♫
-
15:14 - 15:17♫ Ooh, it's so sexual, baby ♫
-
15:17 - 15:19- [Voiceover: Strucci]
This might sound hypocritical, -
15:19 - 15:22considering I make money off of Patreon,
but I'm asking for money from Patrons -
15:22 - 15:26to help me keep making videos, not asking
for donations from friends or for people -
15:26 - 15:29to buy from any corporate sponsors.
I know I might not always succeed... -
15:29 - 15:31- [Bo Burnham singing]
♫ I must be psychotic, I must be demented♫ -
15:31 - 15:34♫ To think that I'm worthy of all this
attention ♫ -
15:34 - 15:37♫ Of all of this money you worked really
hard for ♫ -
15:37 - 15:40♫ I slept in late while you worked at the
drug store ♫ -
15:40 - 15:42- [Narration: Strucci]
I do try to speak from a place of -
15:42 - 15:45approachable expertise and come across
more like a laid-back film school -
15:45 - 15:49instructor rather than a close friend, and
keep at least somewhat of a barrier up. -
15:49 - 15:52It's off-putting and disturbing when I see
other content creators who use -
15:52 - 15:55parasocial relationships to deliberately
and cynically manipulate audiences. -
15:55 - 15:58Horton and Wohls speak of personality
programs being -
15:58 - 16:01"...particularly favorable to the
compensatory attachments by the socially -
16:01 - 16:06isolated, the socially inept, the aged and
invalid, the timid and rejected." -
16:06 - 16:10Whereas "The persona himself is readily
available as an object of love- especially -
16:10 - 16:14when he succeeds in cultivating the
recommended quality of 'heart.'" -
16:14 - 16:18- [Bo Burnham singing]
♫ Yeaaah, we know it's not right ♫ -
16:18 - 16:23♫ We know it's not funny
But we'll stop beating this dead horse ♫ -
16:23 - 16:27♫ When it stop spitting out money. ♫
-
16:27 - 16:29♫ But until then... ♫
-
16:29 - 16:31♫ We will repeat stuff. ♫
-
16:32 - 16:34- [Voiceover: Strucci]
I do think people who are more isolated -
16:34 - 16:38and vulnerable are more susceptible to
exploitative parasocial relationships. -
16:38 - 16:42I also think that, in modern day, the
quality of "heart" varies. Far-right -
16:42 - 16:45conspiracy theorists like Alex Jones
are seen by fans as "truth tellers"- -
16:45 - 16:48- [Interviewer]
But the thing that I will say in your -
16:48 - 16:51favor is you never, to me, come across as
insincere. -
16:51 - 16:55I believe that you mean what you say. And
I believe that you mean what you're doing. -
16:55 - 16:59[Alex Jones yelling]
GET AWAY FROM ME, RACISTS! SHE'S GOD! -
16:59 - 17:03[grunts and pants]
-
17:04 - 17:07[Man behind camera]
He's on the loose. He's on the loose! -
17:07 - 17:09[Alex Jones]
YOU'LL NEVER STOP ME! RACIST! -
17:09 - 17:12[Interviewer]
I-It's, um, always heartening to me when -
17:12 - 17:14I find someone who's the same off-screen
as they are on... -
17:14 - 17:16[Voiceover: Alex Jones]
Gay bomb, baby! -
17:16 - 17:17[Interviewer]
'cause there's a sort of authenticity and -
17:17 - 17:19earnestness about you that I really like.
-
17:19 - 17:21[Alex Jones]
I was told by a genetic engineer... -
17:21 - 17:25[distressed] They got humanoids crossed
with fish and stuff, I mean... -
17:25 - 17:27[Interviewer]
'Cause I know you mean it. -
17:27 - 17:29[Voiceover: Strucci]
And some people are fans of edgelords, -
17:29 - 17:33or fans of other cynical, hateful types
because their cynicism is read as sincere -
17:33 - 17:35and more "real" than kindness is.
-
17:35 - 17:39Horrible white supremacist Baked Alaska
addresses his viewers as "fam" and wants -
17:39 - 17:43you to, quote, [imitating] "Remember to
subscribe, comment, share, smash that like -
17:43 - 17:47button, and smash that bell button,"
the exact same way any former Vine star -
17:47 - 17:49or other benign personality would.
-
17:49 - 17:51Months and months ago, when I was first
researching for this essay, -
17:51 - 17:55I coincidentally came across this tweet
on my timeline. I had difficulty figuring -
17:55 - 17:59out its origin because it's an image that
has been posted again and again on the -
17:59 - 18:02internet, typically tagged "forever alone"
before it later became more associated -
18:02 - 18:06with podcasts and the like.
It encapsulates the feel and the allure -
18:06 - 18:09of parasocial relationships while also
plainly making fun of them, and -
18:09 - 18:13differentiating them from actual, two-way
relationships. Horton and Wohl point out -
18:13 - 18:16that "The encouragement of, not to say
demand for, a sense of intimacy -
18:16 - 18:20with the persona and an appreciation of
him as a "real" person is in contradiction -
18:20 - 18:24to the fact that the image he presents is
to some extent a construct – a facade – -
18:24 - 18:27which bears little resemblance to his
private character." -
18:27 - 18:29It's easy to feel that you know someone
if you're familiar with them through -
18:29 - 18:33their work. But unless you've actually
interacted with them, you don't know them. -
18:33 - 18:36You could watch every minute of every
video essay and review and short film -
18:36 - 18:39I put up, and read everything I've written
(including a frankly shameful number of -
18:39 - 18:43tweets), and on top of that I could start
a podcast and do hundreds of episodes -
18:43 - 18:47so you could have hundreds or thousands of
cumulative hours of me talking alone or -
18:47 - 18:49to friends to consume, and you could
consume every minute of it, -
18:49 - 18:52but you still wouldn't have a real
relationship with me. -
18:52 - 18:55You'd get my public persona– what I choose
to say while I'm being recorded– -
18:55 - 18:59which is removed from the realm of actual,
two-way social interaction. -
18:59 - 19:03Parasocial interaction theory is just as
valuable as auteur theory, if not more -
19:03 - 19:06valuable because it's an examination of
relationships that, -
19:06 - 19:09despite not being real, can have a
powerful emotional impact on anyone that's -
19:09 - 19:13ever been a big fan of any person, or of
any piece of art made by a person. -
19:13 - 19:16And any powerful emotional effect minus
rigorous examination and reflection can -
19:16 - 19:19lead to manipulation and exploitation
(which I'll talk about more in future -
19:19 - 19:22videos).
For this video, I just wanted to lay the -
19:22 - 19:26groundwork and give you incentive to
start examining parasocial relationships -
19:26 - 19:29you might have and how they might be
effecting your day-to-day life. -
19:32 - 19:35Thanks for watching! If you enjoyed this
video, please consider donating to my -
19:35 - 19:38Patreon. I also have plenty of other video
essays, film reviews, and comedy and -
19:38 - 19:41horror short films on my channel, so feel
free to check those out as well. -
19:41 - 19:44Look forward to part two of this series
coming soon! Thanks.
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