Can Youtube Ruin a Relationship?

- Oh no.

The YouTubers broke up their relationship.

I hope it wasn't me and Dan.

(production beep)

I've been a YouTuber for a while,

and I've been around a
lot of YouTubers too.

So, when I'm at a convention or something,

I can usually tell when
I'm with a nice one

or when one is being a
total di- (dog bark).

I'm just kidding.

Am I?

I'm just kidding. Am I?

But yeah, spotting a bad apple isn't hard

in the YouTuber world.

I also like to think I've got good morals.

I would save a fish in distress.

I'd let you know if something was

behind you while you were watching this.

(ominous note)

If you checked you better, like
this video, I protected you.

Anyway, I'm gonna search the word YouTuber

into Reddit and help solve
some people's moral dilemmas.

I feel like I've got a good
standing to have opinions

on this matter, and we're gonna decide

if people are the (dog
bark) or the nasshole.

Can I say (dog bark) hole on YouTube?

A hole?

No, that's too American.

Bum hole.

That's too British and gross.

Hole. Just hole.

No, that's worse.

Hole. We're going with hole.

Are you the hole? (laughs)

Not you, are they the hole?

Right. Okay. (production beep)

Let's go.

YouTuber, am I the hole?

When I, 23 female, share funny
clips of YouTuber Markiplier

with my boyfriend, 26 male. (laughs)

What?

So he gets all jealous.

Is he think you're gonna
run off with Markiplier?

So I've been a fan of
Markiplier now for five years.

Five years. Get on my level.

I'm a bigger fan than you.

10 years, baby.

So the problem started a week ago

that I started to be a bit more open

about what I like and enjoy.

This is giving a red flag already

because I feel like if you're
truly comfortable with him,

it should have already
happened after two years

and you are scared to share
your interest until now

which seems a bit strange.

Anyway, I started to open
up a bit more on what I like

and enjoy with him and everything is fine

until I share a picture
meme clip of Markiplier

and then schisse hits the fan.

He starts to get all defensive saying

you like that guy way more than me?

What? No. You give him money.

Does he give you things I don't?

What is happening?

He also thinks the YouTube
membership is like only fans.

(laughs) Sorry.

I mean, Mark does have an only fans.

Maybe you got those two confused

but still that should be fine.

Come on.

What's going on?

I've always said that
Markiplier content always

gives me a laugh and makes my day.

And he says, "Well, next
time, don't come at me

with your problems and talk
to your boyfriend, Mark."

What the hell?

Dump his ass now.

Well, Mark is very attractive man

with that deep voice and
gives me confusing feelings.

He is not someone to be a threat.

You are not the hole.

Your boyfriend is deep in the hole.

He's so far down, he cannot
even see the sky anymore.

He's in the depths.

I mean, you could go to couples counseling

and talk about this with a professional

or find someone that you
can just watch Markiplier

videos with.

Enjoy that deep voice.

Even look at his only fans together

without any jealousy or weirdness.

I'm not feeling it.

Oh, we've got an update.

Wait, wait, what?

I, (laughs) sorry.

Sorry. I'm so invested in this already.

I talked to him and showed him this post

in the morning and he said,

"How dare I post this on Reddit?

That was a breach of privacy."

And he blocked me on our
text apps and he called me

and told me that he'll drop
the stuff I left. (claps)

Yes, in his apartment later today.

So I guess I'm single now.

Oh, I'm so relieved.

That's great.

That's amazing.

Look, as the blanket rule,
if you're in a relationship,

your significant other
should not be controlling

your interest in any way.

You're in your own bubble.

They are not you.

Get out of that.

Stop it.

(laughs) Oh, that got me riled up.

What we got next?

Ooh, am I the hole for not
telling my family about

my YouTube channel?

Okay. That's interesting.

I've been there.

When you first start a YouTube
channel, it does feel a bit

like a weird secret that you
might not be ready to share

with everyone because you're
putting yourself out there.

And for some reason, strangers
feel a lot less threatening

than friends and family at the beginning.

So I already get where they're going.

I, 19, make YouTube videos
for a very small niche.

Fursuit repair.

I'm no way famous in this niche

let alone on YouTube in general.

But I'm popular enough that
I can monetize the content.

I make nowhere near
enough to support myself

but it's some extra spending money.

Until recently, I've been
saving up for a tattoo

and I've been so excited to get this.

I designed it myself
and I had a consultation

and paid the deposit.

I'm excited for your tattoo.

I told my family about this.

My dad was super happy for me

and he knows how much I've
been looking forward to this.

However, my mother questioned
how I was able to save up

money so quickly

and started to doubt I was
putting away so many savings

as I said I was.

She kept grilling me.

I'm sure many people have grilly parents.

Until I told her that I've
got a small YouTube channel

that brings in a bit of money
and I want to spend that

on the tattoo.

She started demanding I tell
her what my channel was called

and showed her the videos.

I declined 'cause that's personal.

I don't want to be judged

and have to answer a million
questions about this niche.

She is now upset and not talking to me

and she's being really passive aggressive

and now I feel kind of bad.

So am I the hole?

You are not the hole.

Helicoptery parents, shwa, shwa, shwa.

I'm sure a lot of people
are relating right now.

It's up to you what you
share with your parents

at 19, you are an adult.

You could go live in Taiwan
and that's your choice.

But they might have just
had a bit of a pride hit

that they didn't know
everything they thought they did

about their child.

They've had this hobby, you
didn't want to share it.

I don't think they've got
any obligations to share this

with their parents.

I reckon if they wanted to keep the peace

they could just be like,

"Hey, I'm not ready to share it yet.

When I'm more confident with the videos

maybe I'll show you.

But the moment I just
wanna keep it for me,"

rather than falling into an arguing match.

But overall, your privacy is your privacy.

And mum has gotta respect
that, man. (laughs)

What's wrong with me today?

I don't know what's wrong
with me today. (laughs)

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Am I the hole feeling neglected

'cause the guy I'm seeing
prioritizes YouTube over me?

What? I'm a 17 year old girl.

I'm seeing an 18 year old boy.

We'll call him B.

He's a semi-famous YouTuber
with about 180,000 subscribers.

Ooh, anyone join the dots
on this one? (laughs)

It's quite specific information.

Starting last month, he went full force

into prioritizing his
career, good moves B.

Because his revenue quadrupled.

I believe it's a lot more

than he's investing into our relationship.

I don't think B owes you anything, really.

I currently don't work and
don't plan to until I go

to college and he usually
pays for everything.

Before his blow up,

he would take me on
mediocre dates to Red Robin.

What is Red Robin?

I'm, I'm invested. (laughs)

I'm banned from entering
the Red Robin website.

That looks fine.

That's like a diner meets a sports bar.

They shouldn't be complaining.

They're not paying for anything.

Oh, I can't. I can't decide yet.

There might be more to the story.

He never takes me anywhere
fancier, and I haven't

got nice gifts since my
friend's boyfriends do.

This makes me feel neglected.

Anytime I wanna hang out or
talk to him on the phone,

he is making videos and he
pays no attention to me.

He makes me feel like he
cares more about his channel

than he does me. Jealous
of a YouTube channel.

I don't know whether
I should leave or not.

My thoughts are that
if he's gonna reject me

for this channel, at least put some more

into the relationship
and make it worthwhile.

My sister thinks that's an a-hole move

and I sound like a gold digger.

Ooh. I don't think I am.

I just feel a bit neglected.

Ooh, okay.

Right, right, right.

You are the hole, I'm sorry.

I'm sorry. (laughs)

It's like it's not as bad
as some of them, but listen,

your boyfriend is buying
you Red Robin, snacks,

gourmet burgers.

I mean, you are not getting him anything.

So if you're in this
relationship for lovely treats

and bangals and quad bikes,
I feel like this is wrong.

This person needs to look
into their soul and think

am I with this person
for the right reasons?

Or do I just want an iPad?

You want the iPad.

I'm sympathetic.

They're spending all the time working,

but it's an exciting
time in their careers.

You've gotta kind of reach
some kind of understanding

that things could be
busy for a bit and then

you might go to Disneyland
when they get the fat checks.

(gasps)

No. He deleted his account, but it's here.

Hey guys. I'm the guy in the post.

I found out about 20 minutes
ago and texted her about it.

She basically told me I don't
spend enough money on her

and how much I make

and she feels neglected because of that.

I'm glad I know now that
she either isn't supportive

of my dreams or only is
when she benefits from it.

I've already texted her

that we will not be
seeing each other anymore.

(canned cheering, applause)

Thank you for all your defenses.

Wow. This Reddit is a poison chalice.

You could be just posting there,
calling your boyfriend out

and then he dumps your ass.

Ho, ho, ho. (laughs)

Turned into Mario there.
Watch out crisp rat.

That was a ride.

Can we keep the train going?

A lot of these seems to be

about people being jealous
of YouTube channels.

What we got?

Am the hole for blasting Disney music?

How is this gonna be related to YouTube?

Hello, I'm 16.

I've got an older brother, 19

who's one of those prank
YouTubers and TikTokers.

Oh, that must be hard
to live with. (laughs)

No offense to pranksters.

I do not like a prank.

Pranks stressed me out.

If I was in a prank house for a year,

I think I'd have to go live
in a monastery like my nerves,

my nerves cannot take a prank.

I would become Father Philip.

He's been doing this kind
of content since 2017

and makes some pretty good money from it.

It's annoying for me and I
hate it as his little sister.

I'm constantly having a
camera shoved in my face

even when I'm busy.

He's "pranked me" by pretending
to delete my school projects

off my laptop, throwing out
my homework/study material.

He once fabricated a fake
report card that he gave

to my tech illiterate parents
who've got me grounded

for a month.

What? What?

With my money, I recently
bought a Bluetooth speaker.

Whenever it- (laughs)

This is amazing.

Whenever I see him and his stupid camera,

I blast whatever Disney
music I can, Let It Go,

We Don't Talk About Bruno, anything I can

because then Disney is
vicious with copyright

and he cannot use any of the footage.

(canned cheering)
(claps)

This is the third time
I've clapped in this video

but I'm impressed.

He's tried talking to me about it,

usually on camera to "work out our issue".

That means he's just trying
to go back to pranking me.

Because I'm very popular
with his audience,

he's been slowly losing
views and followers

and blaming me for the speaker.

My parents are taking his
side as he's providing for us,

and he's the golden child.

It sounds to me like you've
got the perfect revenge.

I hate pranks so much.

I feel like pranks are only good

if you're doing something
nice for the person

not just using your sister
for quick entertainment.

So your brother had it coming.

Also, you should be
getting a cut of the videos

if you're the main star of the pranks.

Another thing I would tell you is most

prank channels are fake, right?

So if you and your brother
wanna be harmonious,

make some money.

Just fake some pranks

because that's what all
prankers do on YouTube.

It's so obvious as well

because there's so many
pranks where there's just

a high quality camera in the corner.

It's like, (laughs).

Like did they not notice the cameraman

in their bedroom?

Anyway.

Yeah. I'm sorry, your
brother sounds terrible.

Hopefully he'll move out soon
into one of those prank houses

and then you'll be free.

Am I the hole for
confronting my girlfriend

about her obsession with a celebrity?

Me and my girlfriend can
sometimes be a little jealous

but we are usually very
understanding of each other.

This happened moments ago. Ooh, live.

My girlfriend wanted me to
look at a video she saved

and as I was scrolling, I
begin to notice the amount

of pictures and videos saved
of this pair of YouTubers.

(laughs) It's not popular
YouTubers Dan and Phil, is it?

(laughs) Don't wanna
put salt in the wound.

No, I'm being vain.

Now, I knew she liked them

'cause she watches their videos every day

but it never seemed like
she liked them this much.

I scrolled and saw there were 200 pictures

of videos of them in
the span of two weeks.

Look, people hyperfixate on stuff.

It's fine.

Chill out.

I said, "I never knew you
were obsessed with them."

And she flipped.

She got really defensive and
claimed I was being jealous.

Long story short, we're no
longer on speaking terms.

Oh no.

The YouTubers broke up
the relationship. (laughs)

Hope it wasn't me and Dan.

It sounds like you got some
issues in this relationship

but you can't be jealous
of YouTubers on the phone.

People hyperfixate on stuff.

You should see someone's
phone that's been watching

Our Flag Means Death.

You should see the Twitter
bookmarks of a Heartstopper fan.

It's a whole thing.

It's a whole thing.

You kinda let your girlfriend
have their interests.

This guy is pretty deep in
my hole, right? (laughs)

Am I the hole for forcing my
friends to watch YouTube videos

on my birthday?

Me and my girlfriend don't
have a lot of friends

but we've managed to get
into a group of five people

but we're constantly inviting 'em to go

out and pay for almost every activity.

Cinema, waterpark, ice cream, pizza.

Last Saturday, I invited everyone
to my house, my birthday.

We had pizza and beers and
started playing some board games.

After a few hours got seated on the couch

and started chatting with each other.

I was kind of bored.

It's your birthday dude.

I was kind of bored.

So I turned on TV and
put on some Smosh videos.

Great choice.

We love Smosh.

No one seemed to care.

So I literally zoned out

and kept watching until I got
to Reddit videos. (laughs)

Have I just been called out?

Oh no.

I was so intrigued in the videos.

There we go.

See they're worth watching.

That I forgot there were people there

and just kept eating
snacks while watching.

I didn't realize no one
was talking anymore.

Oh no.

(groans)

Someone got up and said they
had to go because it was late.

The problem started when in the group chat

everyone got mad at me
and said I was a bad host

and they would never come to my home again

because I forced them
to watch YouTube videos.

I could.

Oh, oh no, my girlfriend and
I are shocked and confused.

I don't understand

if the YouTube videos really made them mad

if it was something else.

How did you zone out?

I don't understand.

Unless you're thinking we're all

in our rat mode on the phone.

Not really talking to each
other part of the evening.

But it doesn't seem like that.

I think they were all like,
let's have a chat, friend.

And then you were just
watching YouTube videos

and ignoring them and then they went home.

Like what?

But flip reverse.

I feel like on your birthday
you get a bit of a hole pass

to be slightly weird, slightly
extra or make your friends

do things they don't
necessarily want to do.

So I get the feeling they're
probably just roasting

in the group chat rather
than being actually mean.

I don't know.

I've not read the messages

but that's where I'm coming from.

Because if they're good friends

they're not gonna throw
it away over one evening.

If we're making a call, you
are a mild hole for that.

Oh my God, I just clicked off

and I have to read this
one from the homepage.

Am I the hole for giving my
daughter a stuffed bear filled

with human hair? (laughs)

What!? What?

What is happening?

My wife and I just had a daughter,

our first child three months ago.

My family has a tradition
where the firstborn

will get a special stuffed animal.

I got one from my mother
when I was born who got one

from their mother, who
got one from their father

and so on and so on.

And the reason it's special is

because the stuffing is
made from the parents.

Why? Why?

That's like saying

I've got a beanbag made
of my sister's teeth.

What, what is happening?

When the child is old enough

to start getting their hair cut,

their parents will save their
hair as much as they can.

When a child becomes a parent themselves,

the grandparent will save the used hair

to make a stuffed animal for the baby.

This is weird.

I don't wanna shame people's traditions,

but this is strange to me.

It's giving ritual, cult,
bear that is gonna reanimate

with granddad's soul after
being filled with his hair.

You know what I mean?

My mother spent a lot of
time making this stuffed bear

from scratch to fill
with my childhood hair.

She finished it last
week to give to the baby.

Instead of liking the bear,
my wife said it was gross

and disgusting and she wouldn't
have it around our daughter.

I told her, it's our daughter, not hers.

There's nothing disgusting
about my family's tradition.

She said it was unhygienic.

I told her it's not.

The hair is clean and preserved.

And she said, if I ever put
that thing near our daughter,

she would throw it in the trash.

I told my mother about the fight

and now she's feuding with my wife too.

Oh, bad move, dude.

Why did you tell the mother?

Listen, everyone has
their weird traditions

and stuff like that.

All you had to do was say, thanks mum.

Mum leaves.

Take it away and put it in a cupboard.

Mum comes back.

Oh, the baby was eating it.

So we've put it in storage for now.

Mum's happy. Wife's happy.

You went and ruin it by telling mummy.

I'm gonna say it's kind of a
nice but also gross tradition.

I don't see much wrong with it.

I don't think you are a hole,

I feel like you made the wrong decision.

I don't think your wife
is really either though.

I get both sides.

This one, I don't think
there's a wrong party.

I think you both just
have different opinions

about hair bears.

What the hell did that
have to do with YouTube?

Wow. Wow.

Okay. Right.

I'm gonna go shave my head

and shovel the cuttings
into a stuffed animal.

I'm feeling inspired.

Leave some comments about what you think

about these situations as well.

YouTube, it can make relationships.

It can break relationships.

Is it about the website
or is it about the people?

What do you reckon, guys?

Did they deserve my judgment there?

I don't know.

Was I too harsh?

It's too late now.

It's happened.

Look, no one's perfect.

We all have our moments.

We've all been a hole at
some part of our lives.

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