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True love explained | Abraham Twerski

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    a young man why are you eating their
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    fish ISS because I love fish
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    you love the fish that's why you took it
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    out of the water and killed it and
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    boiled it he said don't tell me you love
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    the fish you love yourself and because
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    the fish tastes good to you
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    therefore you took it out of the water
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    and killed it and boiled it so much of
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    what is love right is fish and so young
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    couple falls in love young man the young
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    woman fall in love what does that mean
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    that means that he saw in this woman
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    someone who we felt could provide him
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    with all of his physical emotional needs
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    and she thought in this man somebody she
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    feels that she can write that was love
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    right but each one is looking out for
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    their own needs it's not well for the
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    other the other person becomes a vehicle
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    for for my gratification too much of
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    what is called love is fish love an
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    external love is not on what I'm going
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    to get but what I'm gonna give we had an
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    ethicist Rabbi Destler who said the
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    people make a serious mistake in
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    thinking that you give to those whom you
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    love and the answer is the real answer
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    is you love those two
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    and this point is if I give something to
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    you I've invested myself in you right
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    and since self-love is a given
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    everybody loves themselves now that part
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    of me has becoming you but there's part
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    of me he knew that I loved so true love
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    is a love of giving not a love of
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    receiving
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    you
Title:
True love explained | Abraham Twerski
Description:

Abraham Twerski explains the meaning of true love.

Young man why are you eating that fish?

You man says:

"Because I love fish"

He says,

Oh you love the fish, thats why you took it out of the water and killed it and boiled it.

Don't tell me you love the fish.

You love yourself, and because the fish tastes good to you, therefore you took it out of the water and killed it and boiled it.

So much of what is love, is fish love.

And so, young couple falls in love, young man young woman fall in love, what does that mean?

That means that he saw in this woman someone who he felt could provide him with all his physical and emotional needs, and she felt in this man somebody she feels that she can write that was love, but each one was looking out for their own needs.

It's not love for the other. The other person becomes a vehicle, for my gratification.

Too much of what is called love, is fish love.

An external love is not on what i'm going to get but what i'm going to give.

We had in ethicist rabbi dessler who said, 'The people make a serious mistake in thinking that you give to those who you love.'

And the real answer is, you love those whom you give.

His point is, if I give something to you, i'v invested myself to you. And since self love is a given, everybody loves themselves.

now that part of me has become in you, there's part of me in you that I love.

So.. true love is a love of giving, not a love of receiving.
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Video Language:
English
Duration:
02:05

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