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What will you tell your daughters about 2016?

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    Tell your daughters of this year,
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    how we woke needing coffee
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    but discovered instead cadavers
    strewn about our morning papers,
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    waterlogged facsimiles
    of our sisters, spouses, small children.
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    Say to your baby of this year
    when she asks, as she certainly should,
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    tell her it was too late coming.
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    Admit even in the year we leased freedom,
    we didn't own it outright.
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    There were still laws for every way
    we used our privates while they pawed
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    at the soft folds of us,
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    grabbed with no concern for consent,
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    no laws made for the men
    that enforced them.
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    We were trained to dodge,
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    to wait, to cower, and cover,
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    to wait more, still, wait.
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    We were told to be silent.
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    But speak to your girls of this wartime,
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    a year preceded by a score of the same,
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    so as in two decades before,
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    we wiped our eyes,
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    laced caskets with flags,
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    evacuated the crime scene of the club,
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    caterwauled in the street,
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    laid our bodies on the concrete
    against the outlines of our fallen,
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    cried, "Of course we mattered,"
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    chanted for our disappeared.
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    The women wept this year.
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    They did.
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    In the same year, we were ready.
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    The year we lost our inhibition
    and moved with courageous abandon
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    was also the year we stared down barrels,
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    sang of cranes in skies,
    ducked and parried,
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    caught gold in hijab,
    collected death threats,
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    knew ourselves as patriots,
    said, "We're 35 now, time we settled down
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    and found a running mate,"
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    made road maps for infant joy,
    shamed nothing but fear,
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    called ourselves fat and meant, of course,
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    impeccable.
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    This year, we were women,
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    not brides or trinkets,
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    not an off-brand gender,
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    not a concession, but women.
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    Instruct your babies.
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    Remind them that the year has passed
    to be docile or small.
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    Some of us said for the first time
    that we were women,
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    took this oath of solidarity seriously.
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    Some of us bore children
    and some of us did not,
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    and none of us questioned
    whether that made us real
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    or appropriate or true.
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    When she asks you of this year,
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    your daughter, whether your offspring
    or heir to your trumph,
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    from her comforted side of history
    teetering towards woman,
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    she will wonder and ask voraciously,
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    though she cannot fathom your sacrifice,
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    she will hold your estimation of it holy,
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    curiously probing, "Where were you?
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    Did you fight? Were you fearful
    or fearsome?
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    What colored the walls of your regret?
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    What did you do for women
    in the year it was time?
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    This path you made for me,
    which bone had to break?
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    Did you do enough,
    and are you okay, momma?
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    And are you a hero?
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    She will ask the difficult questions.
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    She will not care about
    the arc of your brow,
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    the weight of your clutch.
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    She will not ask of your mentions.
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    Your daughter, for whom you have already
    carried so much, wants to know
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    what you brought, what gift,
    what light did you keep from extinction?
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    When they came for victims in the night,
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    did you sleep through it
    or were you roused?
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    What was the cost of staying woke?
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    What in the year we said time's up,
    what did you do with your privilege?
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    Did you suck on others' squalor?
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    Did you look away
    or directly into the flame?
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    Did you know your skill
    or treat it like a liability?
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    Were you fooled by the epithets
    of "nasty" or "less than"?
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    Did you teach with an open heart
    or a clenched fist?
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    Where were you?
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    Tell her the truth. Make it your life.
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    Confirm it. Say, "Daughter, I stood there
    with the moment drawn on my face
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    like a dagger and flung it back at itself,
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    slicing space for you."
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    Tell her the truth, how you lived
    in spite of crooked odds.
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    Tell her you were brave,
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    and always, always
    in the company of courage,
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    mostly the days
    when you just had yourself.
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    Tell her she was born as you were,
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    as your mothers before,
    and the sisters beside them,
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    in the age of legends, like always.
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    Tell her she was born just in time,
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    just in time
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    to lead.
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    (Applause)
Title:
What will you tell your daughters about 2016?
Speaker:
Chinaka Hodge
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Video Language:
English
Team:
closed TED
Project:
TEDTalks
Duration:
03:57

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