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What does it feel like to be old and alone?

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    Margaret: If you've never been lonely, you don't realize what it is like.
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    Roy: It feels as though you've been dumped in the deep end and there's nobody there to rescue you.
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    Margaret: Well, you go hours and hours, never speak to anybody.
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    Roy: I don't think you'll ever get used to it. It's always loneliness.
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    Speaker 3: How do you measure loneliness? When even trying to talk about it takes your breath away?
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    Margaret: The room's just empty.
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    Speaker 3: 91 year old Margaret Nicholas has lived in this house virtually her whole life.
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    First with her parents, then her husband and family.
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    2 years ago, her husband died. Now, it's just her.
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    Margaret: We used to do a big garden together.
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    We went shopping together.
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    Everything was done together.
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    Speaker 3: You obviously miss him.
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    Margaret: I do.
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    Speaker 3: Margaret's granddaughter takes her shopping and neighbors pop in to check she's okay.
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    But it's everyday company she misses.
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    Margaret: Some people would think me a bit odd but I do chatter to my husband.
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    I do it so I'm sort of speaking.
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    Roy: That's the wife with her cousin.
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    Speaker 3: Roy Croucher lives a short drive a way. He and Margaret have loneliness in common.
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    He lost his only son to cancer and then his wife of 50 years.
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    Roy: I'm always hoping that the wife will come through the door.
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    But she never will.
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    If you go out, you come back and you come back to an empty house.
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    It's loneliness again.
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    You're always waiting for somebody to call.
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    Speaker 3: Roy says he's lucky. A friend and her family see him most weeks.
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    But like Margaret, some days the only voice he'll hear is a call from the phone befriending service run by volunteers.
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    Roy: Judy rings up on a Saturday night.
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    Last Saturday, she was the first person I was spoke to all day.
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    Speaker 3: That's a long day.
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    Roy: It is a long day.
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    Speaker 3: How much difference has that made, that phone call that comes on Saturday night
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    when you haven't spoken to anyone else all day?
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    Roy: I look forward to it. Always put that phone on the seat, ready to pick it up.
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    That's a great help.
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    Speaker 3: The Campaign to End Loneliness says it should now be treated as a public health issue.
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    Identifying the most vulnerable is critical.
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    Then offering support to cope with the bewildering and painful reality of ending up alone.
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    Margaret: I've never been on my own ever before.
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    Speaker 3: Getting used to that has been hard.
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    Margaret: I don't think I'll ever get really used to it.
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    Roy: It's just something that is thrown at you.
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    You can't throw it back to anybody.
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    You got to just carry on.
Title:
What does it feel like to be old and alone?
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The charity Campaign to End Loneliness says that one million of us are already suffering from acute loneliness, while two and a half million over 60s fear they could end up similarly isolated.

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