What does it feel like to be old and alone?
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0:00 - 0:04(clock ticking)
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0:04 - 0:11Margaret: If you've never been lonely, you don't realize what it is like.
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0:14 - 0:22Roy: It feels as though you've been dumped in the deep end and there's nobody there to rescue you.
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0:23 - 0:28Margaret: Well, you go hours and hours, never speak to anybody.
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0:30 - 0:35Roy: I don't think you'll ever get used to it. It's always loneliness.
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0:36 - 0:41Speaker 3: How do you measure loneliness? When even trying to talk about it takes your breath away?
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0:43 - 0:45Margaret: The room's just empty.
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0:55 - 0:59Speaker 3: 91 year old Margaret Nicholas has lived in this house virtually her whole life.
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1:00 - 1:03First with her parents, then her husband and family.
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1:04 - 1:082 years ago, her husband died. Now, it's just her.
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1:09 - 1:12Margaret: We used to do a big garden together.
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1:12 - 1:14We went shopping together.
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1:14 - 1:16Everything was done together.
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1:19 - 1:20Speaker 3: You obviously miss him.
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1:22 - 1:23Margaret: I do.
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1:26 - 1:30Speaker 3: Margaret's granddaughter takes her shopping and neighbors pop in to check she's okay.
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1:30 - 1:33But it's everyday company she misses.
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1:33 - 1:40Margaret: Some people would think me a bit odd but I do chatter to my husband.
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1:40 - 1:45I do it so I'm sort of speaking.
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1:46 - 1:48Roy: That's the wife with her cousin.
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1:48 - 1:53Speaker 3: Roy Croucher lives a short drive a way. He and Margaret have loneliness in common.
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1:53 - 1:58He lost his only son to cancer and then his wife of 50 years.
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1:59 - 2:03Roy: I'm always hoping that the wife will come through the door.
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2:03 - 2:05But she never will.
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2:07 - 2:13If you go out, you come back and you come back to an empty house.
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2:13 - 2:15It's loneliness again.
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2:16 - 2:18You're always waiting for somebody to call.
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2:19 - 2:24Speaker 3: Roy says he's lucky. A friend and her family see him most weeks.
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2:24 - 2:31But like Margaret, some days the only voice he'll hear is a call from the phone befriending service run by volunteers.
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2:32 - 2:34Roy: Judy rings up on a Saturday night.
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2:35 - 2:40Last Saturday, she was the first person I was spoke to all day.
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2:42 - 2:43Speaker 3: That's a long day.
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2:43 - 2:44Roy: It is a long day.
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2:47 - 2:51Speaker 3: How much difference has that made, that phone call that comes on Saturday night
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2:51 - 2:53when you haven't spoken to anyone else all day?
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2:53 - 2:59Roy: I look forward to it. Always put that phone on the seat, ready to pick it up.
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3:02 - 3:05That's a great help.
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3:07 - 3:11Speaker 3: The Campaign to End Loneliness says it should now be treated as a public health issue.
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3:12 - 3:14Identifying the most vulnerable is critical.
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3:15 - 3:20Then offering support to cope with the bewildering and painful reality of ending up alone.
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3:21 - 3:24Margaret: I've never been on my own ever before.
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3:31 - 3:34Speaker 3: Getting used to that has been hard.
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3:35 - 3:40Margaret: I don't think I'll ever get really used to it.
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3:41 - 3:43Roy: It's just something that is thrown at you.
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3:44 - 3:50You can't throw it back to anybody.
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3:50 - 3:52You got to just carry on.
- Title:
- What does it feel like to be old and alone?
- Description:
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The charity Campaign to End Loneliness says that one million of us are already suffering from acute loneliness, while two and a half million over 60s fear they could end up similarly isolated.
- Video Language:
- English
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- Duration:
- 03:53
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