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OK, so lately I've been getting all these
messages about being Mormon and being gay.

And a lot of them are actually from
LDS members

and for those of you that don't know

LDS it's short for the Church
of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints,

which is actually the official name for
the Mormon religion

and Mormon it's a nick name.

So a lot of messages have been from
LDS members that have asked me

how I've dealt with
being Mormon and being gay.

Because yes, believe it or not,
I was brought up in a Mormon household

and I went to church every Sunday and so
I dealt with the whole shit pain.

So good right now.

Sorry if I speak really fast
the Espresso is just... it's working.

It's actually really ironic, because
I recently moved back in with my parents.

And my family is still practising
the LDS religion.

So how does that work?

Well...
Let me tell you.

First of all, before we get started into
all of this.

I always get wary whenever like we
step into the waters of religion,

just because religion is something that
people are super passionate about.

And I just... I fear for the arguments
that are going to happen

in the comment section.

I just want people to try and be kind and
open-minded with one another.

This isn't about the LDS religion and
it's right and or wrongness.

It's just about how to deal
with Mormonism...

I felt like there was dust
flying from my camera.

Now, there are some old-fashioned folk
out there

And I know those of you that are watching
this that some of you have parents

that can't even fathom gayness.

Or they can't even think about it.

It makes them so disgust
that it makes them so angry...

Maybe you're not even Mormon, maybe
your family is just Christian, right.

And it's just really hard for them
to wrap their head around it.

First of all, you're incredible and you're
beautiful and you are amazing.

I can't express how sorry I am the people
that are supposed to love you most

and are supposed to accept you the most

would not love and adore every single
facet of who you are.

The best thing that I can tell you

is to hold on and to embrace
the understanding

that the reason why they are so hateful is
because they're scared.

I say this in all my videos.

I mean I think literally
everyone I talked about how we fear

what we do not understand and more than
anything if you are being treated unfairly

and if you are being shut out
you are being misunderstood.

And I wish I could just like reach into
the minds of those parents

and those brothers and those sisters

or maybe even those communities
and help them get it.

But unfortunately we can only do so much.

When I first came out,
my mom actually found out that I was gay,

I didn't sit down and say
"You know I'm homosexual".

But she found out that I was gay
and she had a really hard time,

That was really difficult for her
not just because of the Mormon religion,

but also because she saw her daughter

getting married to a man
and this has been in her head

her entire life.

That adjustment is difficult
and not to forget that in her mind

she has been raised with the belief that
you must be married to a man

in the Mormon temple,

to spent forever together in
the Celestial Kingdom, remember that,

that's the highest place we're
talking about.

So the idea that I wouldn't be there

was absolutely gutting to her.
And that maybe it's a most of you,

you're like "Well, that's ridiculous.

Why wouldn't gay people be there",
but look guys

it's not like that thought process
is about,

because there's hatred.

We're just talking about religion here,
okay?

People believe different things and
it's just as important to accept that

as it is important that they accept that
we have a right to love

and that we have a right to be gay.

It was really hard for her
and we fought a lot and we cried a lot

and it was, oh, let me tell you.

I felt like crap and I know
she felt like crap,

but how we made it work was
I was as equally patient with her

as she was with me and we gave
each other time.

And I think because I have the mindset of
I recognize

that this is something that you're not
going to change your mind about.

And she believes in this religion.

That's her heart and soul and I knew
that I wasn't going to change.

Instead I said "All I want is your love,
even if you don't understand

what I'm doing even if you're
afraid try and love me.

And of course, she did.

As badly as we want people's minds
to align with ours, right.

It's a natural human feeling.

To want to have that alignment.
It isn't always going to happen,

so what really matters is love.

And you can believe something
totally polar opposite from those of you

loved most in this world.

And that's okay. And a fact is,
it's never ever okay to treat anyone badly

just because of this set of beliefs
that you have.

I don't care what they are,

it's inexcusable, period. Love matters first
and it matters most above all else

try to put yourself
in the other person's shoes.

It requires patience and time
and sometimes it's freaking difficult.

Right? I mean, like I'm sort of sat
in the middle and just watch

the two sides like pull their hair out
and I get it but like I always say,

what makes us so incredible is that
we are so different.

And I think that's beautiful.

If you're in a bad situation I love you
and I know that

we don't personally know each other,

but I love you and I care
and I appreciate you

for all that you are
and there is a world of people out there

ready to love you.
Everybody keep your chins up

And remember that it's not about

who's right or who's wrong and it's easy
to get caught up in that.

Instead it's about embracing somebody
in their entirety.

And we all have the capacity to do that.
We all have the capacity to love.

Already, that's it.

Thank you for letting me ramble on to you
and for listening to my thoughts always.

I love you guys so much.
And until next time