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I was an eight-year-old kid
in the mid-1990s.
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I grew up in the southern Philippines.
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At that age, you're young enough
to be oblivious
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about what society expects
from each of us
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but old enough to be aware
of what's going on around you.
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We lived in a one-bedroom house,
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all five of us.
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Our house was amongst clusters of houses
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made mostly of wood
and corrugated metal sheets.
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These houses were built
very close to each other
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along unpaved roads.
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There was little to no
expectation of privacy.
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Whenever an argument broke out next door,
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you heard it all.
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Or, if there was a little
something something going on --
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(Laughter)
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you would probably hear that, too.
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Like any other kid, I learned
what a family looked like.
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It was a man, a woman,
plus a child or children.
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But I also learned
it wasn't always that way.
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There were other combinations
that worked just as well.
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There was this family of three
who lived down the street.
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The lady of the house was called "Leni."
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Leni had long black hair,
often in a ponytail,
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and manicured nails.
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She always went out
with a little makeup on
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and her signature red lipstick.
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Leni's other half,
I don't remember much about him
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except that he had a thing
for white sleeveless shirts
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and gold chains around his neck.
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Their daughter was
a couple years younger than me.
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Now, everybody in the village knew Leni.
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She owned and ran what was
the most popular beauty salon
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in our side of town.
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Every time their family
would walk down the roads,
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they would always be greeted with smiles
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and occasionally stopped
for a little chitchat.
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Now, the interesting thing about Leni
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is that she also happened to be
a transgender woman.
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She exemplified one of the Philippines's
long-standing stories
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about gender diversity.
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Leni was proof that oftentimes
we think of something as strange
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only because we're not familiar with it,
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or we haven't taken enough time
to try and understand.
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In most cultures around the world,
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gender is this man-woman dichotomy.
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It's this immovable, nonnegotiable,
distinct classes of individuals.
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We assign characteristics
and expectations
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the moment a person's
biological sex is determined.
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But not all cultures are like that.
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Not all cultures are as rigid.
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Many cultures don't look
at genitalia primarily
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as basis for gender construction,
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and some communities in North America,
Africa, the Indian Subcontinent
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and the Pacific Islands,
including the Philippines,
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have a long history
of cultural permissiveness
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and accommodation of gender variances.
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As you may know,
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the people of the Philippines were under
Spanish rule for over 300 years.
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That's from 1565 to 1898.
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This explains why everyday
Filipino conversations
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are peppered with Spanish words,
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and why so many of our last names,
including mine, sound very Spanish.
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This also explains the firmly entrenched
influence of Catholicism.
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But precolonial Philippine societies,
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they were mostly animists.
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They believed all things
had a distinct spiritual essence:
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plants, animals, rocks, rivers, places.
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Power resided in the spirit.
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Whoever was able to harness
that spiritual power was highly revered.
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Now, scholars who have studied
the Spanish colonial archives
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also tell us that these early societies
were largely egalitarian.
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Men did not necessarily
have an advantage over women.
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Wives were treated
as companions, not slaves.
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And family contracts were not done
without their presence and approval.
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In some ways, women had the upper hand.
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A woman could divorce her husband
and own property under her own name,
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which she kept even after marriage.
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She had the prerogative
to have a baby or not
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and then decide the baby's name.
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But the real key to the power
of the precolonial Filipino woman
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was in her role as "babaylan,"
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a collective term for shamans
of various ethnic groups.
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They were the community healers,
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specialists in herbal and divine lore.
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They delivered babies
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and communicated with the spirit world.
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They performed exorcisms
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and occasionally, and in defense
of their community,
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they kicked some ass.
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(Laughter)
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And while the babaylan was a female role,
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there were also, in fact,
male practitioners in the spiritual realm.
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Reports from early Spanish chroniclers
contain several references
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to male shamans who did not conform
to normative Western masculine standards.
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They cross-dressed
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and appeared effeminate
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or sexually ambiguous.
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A Jesuit missionary named Francisco Alcina
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said that one man
he believed to be a shaman
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was so effeminate
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that in every way he was
more a woman than a man.
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All the things the women did
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he performed,
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such as weaving blankets,
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sewing clothes and making pots.
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He danced also like they did,
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never like a man,
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whose dance is different.
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In all, he appeared
more a woman than a man.
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Well, any other juicy details
in the colonial archives?
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Thought you'd never ask.
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(Laughter)
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As you may have deduced by now,
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the manner in which these
precolonial societies conducted themselves
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didn't go over so well.
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All the free-loving,
gender-variant-permitting
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gender equality wokeness
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clashed viciously with the European
sensibilities at the time,
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so much so that the Spanish missionaries
spent the next 300 years
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trying to enforce their two-sex,
two-gender model.
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Many Spanish friars also thought
that the cross-dressing babaylan
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were either celibates like themselves
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or had deficient or malformed genitals.
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But this was pure speculation.
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Documents compiled between 1679 and 1685
called "The Bolinao Manuscript,"
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mentions male shamans marrying women.
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The Boxer Codex, circa 1590,
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provide clues on the nature
of the male babaylan sexuality.
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It says, ordinarily they dress as women,
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act like prudes,
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and are so effeminate
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that one who does know them
would believe they are women.
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Almost all are impotent
for the reproductive act,
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and thus they marry other males
and sleep with them as men and wife
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and have carnal knowledge,
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carnal knowledge, of course, meaning sex.
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Now, there's an ongoing debate
in contemporary society
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about what constitutes gender
and how it should be defined.
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My country is no exception.
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Some countries like Australia,
New Zealand, Pakistan, Nepal and Canada
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have begun introducing nonbinary options
in their legal documents
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such as their passports
and their permanent resident cards.
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In all these discussions about gender,
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I think it's important to keep in mind
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that the prevailing notions
of man and woman as static genders
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anchored strictly on biological sex
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are social constructs.
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In my people's case,
this social construct is an imposition.
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It was hammered into their heads
over hundreds of years
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until they were convinced that their way
of thinking was erroneous.
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But the good thing about social constructs
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is they can be reconstructed
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to fit a time and age.
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They can be reconstructed
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to respond to communities
that are becoming more diverse.
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And they can be reconstructed
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for a world that's starting to realize
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we have so much to gain from learning
and working through our differences.
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When I think about this subject,
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I think about the Filipino people
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and an almost forgotten
but important legacy
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of gender equality and inclusivity.
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I think about lovers who were
some of the gentlest souls I had known
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but could not be fully open.
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I think about people
who have made an impact in my life,
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who showed me that integrity,
kindness and strength of character
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are far better measures of judgment,
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far better than things
that are beyond a person's control
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such as their skin color, their age
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or their gender.
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As I stand here today,
on the shoulders of people like Leni,
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I feel incredibly grateful for all
who have come before me,
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the ones courageous enough
to put themselves out there,
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who lived a life that was theirs
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and in the process, made it a little
easier for us to live our lives now.
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Because being yourself is revolutionary.
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And to anyone reeling from forces
trying to knock you down
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and cram you into these neat little boxes
people have decided for you:
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don't break.
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I see you.
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My ancestors see you.
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Their blood runs through me
as they run through so many of us.
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You are valid, and you deserve
rights and recognition
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just like everyone else.
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Thank you.
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(Applause)