Our Actions are Our True Legacy | Sister Hien Nghiem (True Dedication)
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0:04 - 0:12Dear community, we are August
the 10th in the year 2023, -
0:12 - 0:20and we are celebrating, savoring
the last day of our Wake Up retreat, -
0:20 - 0:24"Love in Action", here
in the Upper Hamlet, -
0:24 - 0:29in the Still Water meditation hall.
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0:33 - 0:37I'm having an interesting
moment sitting here. -
0:40 - 0:47When we first started creating
youth retreats, about 15 years ago, -
0:47 - 0:52it was a real challenge to try and
find enough young people -
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the next year there was like 65, -
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the year we hit 100, -
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we had 100 registrations! -
Not SyncedAnd we went to report to Thay.
This must have been around 2010. -
Not SyncedThay, there's a hundred
young people in Europe -
Not Syncedthat want to learn about mindfulness.
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Not SyncedCan you believe it ?
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Not SyncedAnd he was like - well done!
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Not SyncedAnd then, we started to
create the Wake Up movement. -
Not SyncedAnd I said (to Thay) it's a little
bit overwhelming! -
Not SyncedAnd he said, and his eyes
lit up with sparkles, -
Not Syncedhe's like "excellent, it should
feel overwhelming!" -
Not Syncedand then I'm sitting here and I
don't know how many hundreds -
Not Syncedof you there are, but it feels little
overwhelming -
Not Syncedso I guess Thay's smiling
with a sparkle in his eyes, -
Not Syncedand be careful what you wish for,
because it may come true. -
Not SyncedI hope that's going to make it easier,
but hey, I think speaking in front of -
Not Syncedspiritual friends
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Not Syncedis both challenging and wonderful,
because on the one hand -
Not SyncedI feel I want to share my heart
with you all, -
Not Syncedand on the other, of course, I have the
same feeling that we all do. -
Not Syncedof whether I can be enough
in this moment. -
Not SyncedBut I will share from my, my joy
my experience and my practice -
Not Syncedand that is my best, so,
we will see. -
Not SyncedWe had some little flowers here
thank you, thank you. -
Not SyncedEmotional support flowers,
we also have an emotional -
Not Syncedsupport cello, that we might, that I might
need to call on. -
Not SyncedI was 21 when I first came
to Plum Village -
Not Syncedand I was one of the people
who as soon as there was -
Not Synceda chance to receive the five
mindfulness trainings, I -
Not Syncedwanted to do it. And I was
here for three weeks that summer -
Not Syncedand I was also one of the people
who was like I am going to wait -
Not Synceduntil the last week.
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Not SyncedSo I know some of us have
been here through the summer -
Not Syncedand have received the five
mindfulness trainings -
Not Syncedthis morning, and some of us
are here for the first time -
Not Syncedand we also made that commitment
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Not Syncedand I have to say,
getting on the train in Saint-Foy, -
Not Syncedwith the five mindfulness trainings,
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Not Syncedkinda in my pockets, in my back pack
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Not SyncedMy life was different. It just was!
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Not SyncedI felt that I had a path. I felt that
I knew what was important to me. -
Not SyncedI felt that what the experience was that
I can't fall that far anymore. -
Not SyncedIt felt like the mindfulness trainings
were a safety net or something. -
Not SyncedLike, I'm held in their embrace
that has been my experience. -
Not SyncedAnd although I was sharing
with my dharma discussion family -
Not Syncedlike the path of the five mindfulness
trainings is not exactly -
Not Syncedlike a straight highway,
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Not Syncedits more like this, and thats
definitely been my experience. -
Not SyncedThat it has been an adventure,
an experiment, a work in progress -
Not Synceda challenge and also a training,
like really a training. -
Not SyncedAnd as many of us know whatever
kind of training we do, we learn -
Not Syncedby making mistakes.
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Not SyncedAnd by trying things out,
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Not Syncedand by realizing ... oops,
that was not in alignment or -
Not SyncedI have strayed far off my path
at this point -
Not SyncedBut it was wonderful and
has been wonderful to
feel that they are part of my life -
Not Syncedand I don't know if your facilitators
shared with you -
Not Syncedbut the dharma name we get
with our five mindfulness trainings -
Not Syncedis the dharma name for your life.
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Not SyncedSo even if you become monastics
your monastic name is not as important -
Not Syncedas your five mindfulness trainings name.
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Not Syncedbecause we are kind of born into our
spiritual path with this practice -
Not Syncedand with this training.
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Not SyncedAnd so this morning, definitely
more than a hundred of us, -
Not Syncedmaybe more than a hundred and fifty
possibly closer to two hundred of us -
Not Syncedacross the different hamlets.
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Not Syncedmade a passionate, wholehearted
commitment to take the insight -
Not Syncedand practises of the five mindfulness
trainings -
Not Syncedinto our lives
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Not Syncedand so when we get on the train
tomorrow, car or however we'r getting -
Not Syncedhome.
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Not Syncedthese mindfulness trainings
will be with us -
Not Syncedand even if we didn't make a formal
commitment to receive them -
Not Syncedplease take the piece of paper
with you. -
Not SyncedThey can penetrate our life
because in a way they -
Not Syncedencapsulate everything we
have been experiencing -
Not Syncedtogether in this retreat.
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Not SyncedAnd,
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Not Syncedthese trainings are, I guess, the
kind of Plum Village blueprint for -
Not Syncedchanging the world.
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Not SyncedThey are nothing less than
our full vision for the kind of -
Not Syncedloving action that can transform
society and the future. -
Not SyncedSomeone asked me in the
earth retreat earlier in this year -
Not SyncedI find the Plum Village teachings
on the earth and climate so -
Not Syncedfascinating, but do you have
some kind of manifesto? -
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Not SyncedI said yeh - we have the
five mindfulness trainings. -
Not SyncedAnd the person was like, no I
didn't mean that. -
Not SyncedAnd I was like, oh I mean that.
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Not SyncedBecause they are applied, they live
they are kind of mult-dimensional. -
Not SyncedEach one of them is about bringing
the energy of awakening and love -
Not Synceddirectly into the heart of our daily
lives, our relationship and our society. -
Not SyncedAnd so, as we take the practice
home, maybe you go home and -
Not Syncedsomebody comes up to you and
says, how was your retreat? -
Not SyncedAnd you say ... brilliant, great
wonderful. -
Not SyncedI'm going to practice meditation
every day. -
Not SyncedAnd we may have a tendency to
think that -
Not Syncedthe most easily applicable thing
we can take from this retreat -
Not Syncedis ten minutes sitting every day.
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Not SyncedAnd we may think, that's going to
be my aspiration, my intention -
Not Syncedmy volition, I'm going to put
it all into that. -
Not Syncedand that is good,
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Not Syncedbut I feel we can be more ambitious
then that, and I say that because -
Not Syncedif we only do 10 minutes of sitting
meditation a day, and then the -
Not Syncedrest of our life is the same,
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Not Syncedthe transformation will
not be very radical. -
Not SyncedBut what we can see in each one of
these amazingly challenging -
Not Syncedand inspiring trainings in the
five mindfulness trainings is -
Not Syncedthat they're about far more
than sitting meditation. -
Not SyncedIn fact, as a relatively active person,
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Not Syncedwhen I left Plum Village I, found
it really hard to do sitting meditation -
Not SyncedI think it was very rare that I made time.
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Not Syncedwas able to make time to do sitting
meditation in my daily life. -
Not SyncedBut, my life was utterly transformed.
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Not Syncedby the five mindfulness trainings.
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Not SyncedOne thing I learned, I used to
sit on public transport and -
Not Syncedbe present for the people
around me, and present for -
Not Syncedmy feelings.
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Not SyncedAnd honestly, I think I got
more kind of shift in my -
Not Syncedperspective and way of living
in the way I sat on buses in -
Not Syncedcentral London then I would
have done by sitting on my cushion. -
Not Syncedbecause I lived like many of us
a very -
Not Syncedactive and hyperstimulated life.
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Not SyncedI was juggling a job in journalism and
a masters degree. -
Not SyncedLike too much input, so if
I sat on a cushion all I -
Not Syncedheard or saw was just all
the inputs -
Not Syncedbut when I was in relation
with the world, -
Not Syncedfollowing my breathing and
being in contact with my body -
Not Syncedit's like I opened up a whole
new way of experiencing life -
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for me. -
Not SyncedSo as we think about what we
might want to take away from -
Not Syncedthis retreat, i'm gonna sort of
reflect back to some of the -
Not Syncedthings that we've been experiencing
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Not Syncedand we can see for ourselves
which of these elements -
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my daily life. -
Not SyncedOne of the things, perhaps
the most important thing -
Not Syncedwe've been doing on this
retreat is resting. -
Not Syncedrelaxing
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Not Syncedand spending time in silence
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Not Syncedboth with people but
also with nature -
Not Syncedand so we may ask ourselves
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Not Syncedin my daily life, am I making
time to rest -
Not SyncedSo resting without screens
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Not Syncedresting wihtout maybe headphones
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Not Syncedam I able to rest and listen to
my body -
Not Syncedand how might we incorporate
a practice of resting in our daily lifes -
Not SyncedSo those of us that work from home
we have a great chance to do relaxation -
Not Syncedafter lunch.
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Not SyncedBecause no one can see you.
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Not SyncedSo, you can find the Plum Village App
or your favorite relaxation teachers -
Not Syncedand you can listen to a relaxation
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Not Syncedand make it a part of your working day.
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Not SyncedWe can make a commitment to
ourselves, a promise to ourselves -
Not Syncedto spend more time in our
nearest park, or to use -
Not Syncedour days off from study or
work to actively go out into -
Not Syncednature.
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Not SyncedAnd we can also , like,
learning from this experience of being -
Not Syncedwith people, in nature, is great.
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Not SyncedHow can we invite our friends
and organize to have more time -
Not Syncedin nature together.
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Not SyncedThat is actively cultivating
ourselves, our body and mind -
Not Syncedour awakening and also our resistance.
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Not SyncedWhat I mostly want to talk to you today
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Not Syncedabout is, spiritual resistance.
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Not SyncedHow the choices we make about
how we live our life -
Not Syncedare a fundamental, deep
form, or resistance. -
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and to society. -
Not SyncedSo choosing to rest in our super busy
world is a form of resistance -
Not Syncedwe don't need to consume, we don't
need to do, -
Not Syncedwe're gonna be in the way
that is the future we would -
Not Syncedlike to see.
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Not Syncedmore simple, more connected
and more whole in ourselves, -
Not Syncednot relying on external things.
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Not Syncedlike consuming and doing to be happy.
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Not SyncedAnother thing we've been doing on
this retreat has been stopping -
Not Syncedand looking deeply. We have
had a chance to step back -
Not Syncedfrom our life, to step outside
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Not Syncedthe constant
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Not Syncedpressures that we are under
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Not Syncedto kind of take stock to reflect
a little bit and to listen -
Not Syncedand so the question about how we
could take this kind of -
Not Syncedstopping back with us could be
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Not Syncedis there a practice that you
can take in your life where -
Not Syncedevery day has at least
one moment of stopping in it. -
Not SyncedSo when I went back from
Plum Village, the something -
Not Syncedthat I chose was drinking a
glass of water from the water -
Not Syncedcooler at work.
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Not SyncedAnd my work was in a newsroom
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Not Syncedso it was a very overstimulated
environment, but I wanted to -
Not Syncedkeep this connection to Plum
Village into my spiritual life -
Not Syncedand the spiritual dimension of
my being because being in a - -
Not SyncedI was in the politics department
of the newsroom - -
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least, a very not spiritual place. -
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there for ethical reasons because -
Not Syncedthat ethical news was possible
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Not Syncedthats another story.
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Not SyncedSo I chose that the moment
that I drank water was the moment -
Not Syncedwhen I would be deeply into
touch with my spiritual life -
Not Syncedand I recited the poem that
we have here in plum village -
Not Syncedfor drinking water, many of us
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Not Syncedknow this poem, but if we are
here for the first time -
Not Syncedyou might have just seen it
near a water tap somewhere -
Not Syncedand this poem goes like this
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Not SyncedNow, with the collective
consciousness I don't have -
Not Syncedthe first word.
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Not SyncedWater, thank you.
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Not SyncedMy brain is a social brain.
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Not SyncedWater comes from high
mountain sources, -
Not Syncedwater runs deep in the earth
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Not Syncedmiraculously water comes to us
and sustains all life. -
Not SyncedMy gratitude is filled
to the brim. -
Not SyncedI was working in the newsroom
in Spring 2003 -
Not SyncedI was a peace activist and it
was at the outbreak of the Iraq war -
Not SyncedAnd every time I went to the
water cooler, I recited this poem. -
Not SyncedThere were screens all around me
that had a live screen from the war -
Not Syncedzone. And this was my act of
resistance. This was my resolve -
Not Syncedmy heart alive, to keep my hear
open and to stay in touch with -
Not Syncedthe beauty and wonder of life
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Not Syncedso that I could see clearly the
destruction and injustice of war. -
Not SyncedIt is very interesting to practice
mindfulness in the workplace -
Not Syncedso I invite you to try it out.
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Not SyncedYou could choose drinking water,
you could choose maybe if you go -
Not Syncedto a place of work or study, you
could choose some part of -
Not Syncedthe distance when you are transitioning
from your home life -
Not Syncedto go int work, you can take
200 meteres, and you can say -
Not Syncedto yourself, I will walk as a
free person, as my whole -
Not Syncedself including my spiritual
aspect from this lamppost -
Not Syncedto that pedestrian crossing
and you make a resolve, -
Not SyncedI will do this.
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Not SyncedSo this was another thing I did.
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Not SyncedAcross the center of London
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Not SyncedI had my anti-war umbrella.
In London it always rains -
Not Syncedexcept recently but that's
a different story. -
Not SyncedSorry. No diversion.
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Not SyncedI had my peace umbrella, in London
everywhere. Everyone about 15 years -
Not Syncedago still wore black in the city
and had black umbrellas, -
Not Syncedso my umbrellas was white and
it had the words peace that I -
Not Syncedhad stencilled on to it.
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Not SyncedAnd I got lots of reactions as
I would walk through the city -
Not Syncedon my way to the newsroom,
but that was my almost resistance. -
Not SyncedAnd when I can to a certain place
near a cathedral, I chose a stretch -
Not Syncedthat was quite nice, right in the
heart of the city and I said -
Not SyncedI will walk as a free person, free
from my anger about the war -
Not Syncedfree from my fear about the days
work ahead, -
Not Syncedfree from the fights, I will walk
as a free human being on this -
Not Syncedbeautiful planet earth and I
did this for 200 meters -
Not Syncedand these were delicious 200
meters, and now whenever I -
Not Syncedthink of London, my heart goes
right back to this particular stretch -
Not Syncedand whenever I have a chance to
go there, I like to revisit -
Not Syncedmy corner of these few hundred
yards, that become like a -
Not Synceddeep refuge for me
because when we make -
Not Synceda commitment to do that
what's amazing is -
Not Syncedour whole body remembers
the feeling, our whole -
Not Syncedbody remembers, I feel
peaceful and free here -
Not Syncedso even if my mind is
really stressed, about -
Not Syncedwhat was happening or
about what I need to do -
Not Syncedthat step up onto the pavement
those two steps through this -
Not Syncedgate, the step to the right
with the two trees, -
Not Syncedall the signals where, you
are peaceful, you are fee -
Not Syncedyou are a free person.
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Not SyncedSo this is another way that
we can take the practice -
Not Syncedhome, that we can,
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Not Syncedtake something as simple
as walking to be an act of -
Not Syncedresistence and an act of
freedom right in the heart -
Not Syncedof our daily life.
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Not SyncedI was walking in the rush hour
the people were often -
Not Syncedovertaking me, because
I had a certain pace. -
Not SyncedIt wasn't as slow as slow walking
but there was a certain pace -
Not Syncedthat I found could tasted free
to me. And everyone was like -
Not Syncedovertaking me.
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Not SyncedAnd literally, each step
felt like an act of resistance. -
Not SyncedI don't agree with the direction
that my society is going in and -
Not SyncedI will express my resistance with
my body, with each step. -
Not SyncedAnd I reclaimed my freedom
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Not Syncedfrom this rat race, from this
collective consciousness. -
Not SyncedAnother thing we have learned
to do on this retreat is to be -
Not Syncedpresent with discomfort, with
discomfort in the body, -
Not Synceddiscomfort in our feelings,
discomfort in the mind. -
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Not SyncedI think these things are changing
now but at least this was not -
Not Syncedsomething that I had a chance
to learn at school, it was only -
Not Syncedsomething I had a chance to
learn at age 21 when I came -
Not Syncedto Plum Village.
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Not SyncedMany of you
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Not Syncedhave a lot of emotional maturity.
I feel that I'm the kind of - -
Not SyncedI'm a millenial and I
know that many of us here -
Not Syncedare Gen Z - so we're possibly
slightly different generations. -
Not SyncedBut it's wonderful to see that the
emotional intelligence is there -
Not Syncedin the young generation. That we
are finding ways to understand -
Not Syncedthe landscape of our emotions.
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Not SyncedAnd we hope that over the last
few days, we've learned something -
Not Syncedreally tangible, felt ways that
we can be with a painful feeling -
Not Syncedwhen it comes up.
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Not SyncedWe've been learning how to
name it, or even beyond naming -
Not Syncedhow to feel it, in the body,
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Not Syncedhow it might effect our breathing.
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Not SyncedOur breathing becomes more tense,
or shorter or more jagged. -
Not SyncedOur jaw becomes tighter, and
we've been learning how to encounter -
Not Syncedand accompany and embrace
unconditionally, challenging and -
Not Synceduncomfortable feelings that come up.
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Not Syncedjust that this is a really
great skill to have. -
Not SyncedI feel that as a human being when
we can be with and master some -
Not Syncedof the most painful feelings that
we have, it's honestly, close to a -
Not Syncedsuperpower, kind of. It allows us
to have agency, to have freedom -
Not Syncedto have a way out, of some really
difficult situations that we will -
Not Syncedbe encountering in our life.
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Not SyncedTo be able to feel the feel, feel
the emotions and the painful feelings -
Not Syncedbut, not be overwhelmed by them.
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Not SyncedBecause we have an energy of
mindfulness, we hold on to -
Not Syncedour breathing, we hold onto
our felt sense of our physical body. -
Not SyncedSomething as simple as feeling our
hands, or feeling our toes. -
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through difficult feelings. -
Not SyncedAnd what we've found on this retreat
I'm thinking, I'm sure in every -
Not Synceddharma sharing circle group, is
that when we can be with a -
Not Synceddifficult feeling, it allows us
to be authentic. We can be real. -
Not SyncedWe can share our whole self
because we're not afraid of it -
Not SyncedAnd we've been able to speak
our truth in our dharma sharing -
Not Syncedcircle, and we've been training how
to listen to other people's uncomfortable -
Not Syncedfeelings and to accompany and offer
that spiritual friendship and support. -
Not SyncedAnd this also a kind of superpower.
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Not SyncedTo be able to show up for our friends
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Not Syncedwithout fear, but with a real strong,
and loving presence. -
Not SyncedAnd that we are also taking home
with us tomorrow. -
Not SyncedWhen we are with our friends and
when they are having a difficult -
Not Syncedmoment, we know how to come
back to our breathing, we know how -
Not Syncedto feel the reflection of their suffering
in our own body. -
Not SyncedTake care of it there and be with
them, not to change it in any way -
Not Syncedbut to be not alone.
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Not SyncedWe've been learning how to
be together, even in suffering. -
Not SyncedAnd this is so important for our
generation, because we know that -
Not Syncedthe path ahead will be challenging
for us. So learning how to suffer is -
Not Synceda really important skill and training.
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Not SyncedAnd this brings us to something
really important, which is, something -
Not Syncedthat Br. Phap Huu touched on in the
first talk, that mindfulness is not -
Not Syncedjust to make us feel better.
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Not SyncedMany of us may have come to
mindfulness through some kind -
Not Syncedof wellbeing program or because
someone said you can take care -
Not Syncedof your mental health with
mindfulness so please practice -
Not Syncedmindfulness to be well.
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Not SyncedAnd there are some offerings of
mindfulness that only go that -
Not Syncedfar. But in deep mindfulness,
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Not Syncedauthentic mindfulness, original
mindfulness, real mindfulness, -
Not SyncedI don't know - whatever this
thing is that we do here, that -
Not Syncedhas ancient roots, more than
2,000 years old, in our kind of -
Not Syncedmindfulness, we don't just practice
mindfulness to feel well. -
Not SyncedWe practice mindfulness to
understand our suffering and -
Not Syncedto find a way out, for ourselves,
for our loved ones, and for our -
Not Syncedsociety. So deep in the DNA of
our kind of mindfulness, is a kind -
Not Syncedof radical transformation.
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Not SyncedA way out, changing things.
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Not SyncedWe are leaving this retreat with
a spiritual path. -
Not SyncedPath.
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Not SyncedAnd it has something to do with
suffering and it has something to -
Not Synceddo with happiness.
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Not SyncedSuffering , illbeing,
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Not SyncedHappiness, illbeing
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Not SyncedWe're learning how to handle
painful feelings and suffering -
Not Syncedand we have been very actively
musically, joyfully, learning how to -
Not Syncedgenerate happiness. These are two
really important skills. -
Not SyncedSometimes we may think that
happiness only comes from -
Not Syncedoutside. And we may sort of
outsource our happiness ... -
Not Syncedoh you know because the conditions
are not enough, I can't be happy. -
Not SyncedSo we kind of give up our agency,
give up our freedome to be happy -
Not Syncedby making it someone else or something
else's responsibility. -
Not SyncedAnd here we reclaim our power, and we
say that it is possible to learn to train ~ -
Not Syncedto create a happy moment for ourself
and for the people around us. -
Not SyncedIn Buddhism we are not afraid
of suffering. We're ready to name it. -
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head on. -
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many of you are also -
Not Synceddeeply aware and awake to
suffering in the world. -
Not SyncedOne sister reflected to me
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Not Syncedsometimes it might be that in
the collective consciousness -
Not Syncedright now,
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Not Syncedwe think that we have the right
to suffering -
Not Syncedwe have the right to suffering
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Not Syncedbecause the situation is so bad
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Not Syncedin every aspect.
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right to be happy. -
Not SyncedIt's quite interesting - think
about that for a moment. -
Not SyncedWe allow ourselves to suffer
but we don't allow ourselves to -
Not Syncedbe happy.
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Not SyncedThat's a bit of a koan for us.
Maybe its' not true. -
Not SyncedBut we can investigate that
a little bit, why we might -
Not Syncedthink it is. And perhaps it
has something to do -
Not Syncedwith the collective consciousness
that surrounds us and we'll go into -
Not Syncedthat in a little bit.
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Not SyncedOur teacher said that learning how to
suffer is an art and a training and -
Not Syncedyesterday in the Q&A there was
a really interesting question -
Not SyncedI think it was the second question
about on the one hand we know that -
Not Syncedwe are enough, and we alrady
are what we want to become -
Not Syncedand we can feel complete and whole
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Not Syncedbut sometimes with the energy of mindfulness
or professional settings -
Not Syncedwe become aware that we are lacking
in some areas. -
Not Syncedand we want to train or to cultivate
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Not SyncedAnd I really appreciated this
question -
Not Syncedbecause both are true. There is
a kind of energy in mindfulness. -
Not Syncedthat when we wake up to
for example our habits -
Not Syncedor the thoughts and feelings
that are coming up in us -
Not Syncedwe may want right away
to do something, to change -
Not Syncedthe situation, there's a kind
of dynamism. On the one -
Not Syncedhand we accept it totally
on the other hand we see -
Not Syncedthe possibility for change.
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Not Syncedthings are impermanent - we
can effect things. -
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spirit of training, cultivating -
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i think that the one skill -
Not Syncedthat I've really got better at
in the monastery because -
Not SyncedI was the nearer of the four
is how to suffer. -
Not SyncedAnd the immediate result of
learning how to suffer -
Not Syncedis that you are also actually
directly learning how to be happy -
Not Syncedbecause for me the obstacle for
my happiness was my suffering -
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has given me more joy. -
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it's not that my suffering has -
Not Syncedneccesarily gone away,
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Not SyncedBut that I've learned to be with it
differently. -
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said, to be aware of the misconception -
Not Syncedthat we somehow might need to take
our suffering out of us -
Not Syncedput it down or take it out
that I've learned that the way -
Not SyncedI can be with it, because my
suffering is kind of real -
Not Syncedin some sense, because it's
felt, how can I be with it. -
Not SyncedAnd ye, for me what I've learned is
that my, -
Not Syncedmy suffering is not something
kind of fixed, it's a bit more like -
Not Synceda river. And this is really interesting
to kind of unpack a little bit. -
Not SyncedSo when we talk about taking care
of our suffering. The mind is an -
Not Syncedembodied mind. So we're taking
care of our mind and we're taking -
Not Syncedcare of our body at the same time.
-
Not SyncedThey're not two different things.
-
Not SyncedThis is really important.
-
Not SyncedHow we are living in our body,
how we are taking care of body -
Not Syncedhow we're eating, acting, consuming
-
Not Syncedhas a direct link also to our
suffering. -
Not SyncedAnd, our suffering may kind of
reflect, reflect the collective, -
Not SyncedAnd this is what I have kind of
discovered. -
Not SyncedThat, my suffering has quite
a bit to do with the suffering -
Not Syncedof my family.
-
Not SyncedLIke many of us I have a
strong seed of despair -
Not SyncedI also have another one of
fear and anxiety. -
Not SyncedI have another one that's a
little more like sorrow, or -
Not Syncedmelancholy.
-
Not SyncedAnd, when I've learned how to suffer
with them, I've learned not to -
Not Syncedsee them as mine alone.
-
Not SyncedBut to see them as something
that belongs to a river of -
Not Syncedancestors. And so when I'm taking
care of it, I'm taking care of it -
Not Syncedon behalf of my father, his father,
and grandfather and grandmother, -
Not Syncedand other grandfather, and other
grandmother. -
Not SyncedSo I would like to give you this
image of our emotions being this -
Not Syncedriver, kind of being fed by different
inputs, so that the lineage that -
Not Syncedcomes from our ancestors and
somewhat in the body, and -
Not Syncedso from our childhood and our
nurturing, and there are also -
Not Syncedthe inputs from our society.
-
Not SyncedFrom kind of collective consciousness.
-
Not SyncedAnd our way of consuming.
-
Not SyncedSo one of the interesting
things about this week is that -
Not Syncedwe have consumed a differend
kind of consciousness. -
Not SyncedI think the kind of screen
consumption, has probably -
Not Syncedgone down by like 90%.
-
Not SyncedWe have been with a lot of
non-violence, a lot of compassion -
Not Syncedand good will.
-
Not SyncedA lot of presence rather than
distraction. -
Not SyncedWe've had healthy good - very
particular kinds of the day -
Not SyncedI don't know if this is normal for
you to have three healthy -
Not Syncedregular meals may be very
new for our body and -
Not Syncedour body may be feeling
good aobut it. -
Not SyncedWE've had a different kind of
experience about our own -
Not Syncedconsciousness, because our
own good seeds, have been -
Not Syncedtriggered, while we've been here
they've been kind of activated. -
Not SyncedEach of us, our seed of compassion
our seed of stillness, our seed of joy -
Not Syncedin different ways.
-
Not SyncedSo what we have been kind of
immersing ourselves in -
Not Syncedis what Thay calls, community
-
Not Syncedof resistence.
-
Not SyncedWE have given ourselves the chance
to experience something difference -
Not Syncedthis week, and to see how it feels.
-
Not SyncedAnd all the insight that we've
had about our own, suffering -
Not Syncedour other's suffering, our families
-
Not Syncedsuffering, about different decisions
and choices, we have to make, is -
Not Syncedbecause we have given our
consciousness, a really deep -
Not Syncedkind of bath, in a different
environment. -
Not SyncedSo to recap something we were
learning this week, we were learning -
Not Syncedabout the different kinds of fuel
that are feeding the river of our body and mind. -
Not SyncedAnd, the fuel has something to do
with how we feel, so -
Not Syncedwe learned about four kinds
-food and drink (we used to call -
Not Syncedit edible foods) and i can't write
the word edible on the board -
Not Syncedso I'll just say food and drink.
-
Not SyncedSense impressions -
-
Not SyncedSo the screens and the music
but also like the noise of the city -
Not Syncedwe give ourselves a break from that.
-
Not SyncedThe fourth one (sic) my volition or
intention -
Not Syncedwe've been exposed to a different
kind of volition and intention this -
Not Syncedweek an intention to live differently
to build a different future, to -
Not Syncedbe with each other in a different way.
-
Not SyncedAnd this other one that I am talking
about now is consciousnness. -
Not Syncedexposing ourselves to a different
consciousness. -
Not SyncedSo the inputs this week have
been different, and that's -
Not Syncedwhy our feeling now is different.
-
Not SyncedThis is your power and this
is your freedom. -
Not SyncedWhen we go home from this
retreat, you are the master -
Not Syncedyou can choose how you will consume
-
Not Syncedthse different things, how you will
guard yourself, how you will -
Not Syncedprotect yourself.
-
Not SyncedHow you will resist.
-
Not SyncedWe want society to go in
a different direction, and -
Not Syncedall ours choices around these
things are a chance to resist -
Not Syncedand in our own life to embody
the different directions - to claim -
Not Syncedour freedom.
-
Not SyncedAnd it takes training, right.
We have had it surrounded. -
Not SyncedAnd going out from this retreat
we will be encountering a really -
Not Syncedgood intention, and then the
absolute reality. -
Not Syncedof our habit, how we usuallY
-
Not Syncedspend our evenings, how we
usually spend our mornings. -
Not SyncedHow we spend our free time.
-
Not SyncedSo there is some organizing
going onhere. -
Not SyncedHow could we make commitments
to organize our life so we are -
Not Syncedeating in a different way, so
we're spending our time -
Not Synceddifferently.
-
Not SyncedWhen we encounter, like for example
in our, many of us this week -
Not Syncedwe've touched a deep fear, inside
or a deap anger and one piece -
Not Syncedof the Buddhist understanding
of consciousness, that we want -
Not Syncedto give you, is that consciousness
is both individual and collective. -
Not SyncedWhen you feel angry,
-
Not Syncedwe name our anger, we allow
our anger to be there, embrace -
Not Syncedthat feeling of anger,
-
Not Syncedand we then have a chance to
ask ourselves the question -
Not Syncedand in what way is this anger
not only mine? -
Not SyncedSo to not identify with
our anger, to not like -
Not Syncedput ourselves in a box
-
Not Syncedand say I'm angry, I'm angry
because of this, and that -
Not Syncedbut to see, wow, my anger
at the fossil fuel companies -
Not Syncedis a generational, societal, collective
anger. My anger at inequity and -
Not Syncedracial injustice is a collective anger.
-
Not SyncedAnd we allow ourselves to recognize
-
Not Syncedthat our consciosness, also belongs
-
Not Syncedto the collective consciosness.
-
Not SyncedOur fear and anxiety for our future
also its strong in the collective. -
Not SyncedAnd that is why it is strong in us.
-
Not SyncedNow what is interesting about this
is that with the energy of mindfulness -
Not Syncedbecause of the deep interbeing,
between our consciousness and -
Not Syncedthe collective, that is exactly where
your power lies. -
Not SyncedThat is where we have agency.
-
Not SyncedWe belong to a collective. We are
intrinsic to the collective and when -
Not Syncedwe transform ourselves we transform
the collective. -
Not SyncedThis is one way we can apply
the insight of interbeing. -
Not SyncedThe Insight of Interbeing
-
Not SyncedOur grief with the destruction
of the earth and cultures -
Not Syncedis also the grief of the earth
herself. That is why it -
Not Syncedfeels so big.
-
Not SyncedAnd we are a part of that
-
Not SyncedThat we don't need to hold
it in. -
Not Syncedidentify with it, and kind
of imprison ourselves -
Not Syncedwithin it, saying me
I'm someone,I am angry -
Not Syncedand I am in grief and in
despair. -
Not SyncedAnd we've done quite
some work with climate -
Not Syncedleaders -I'm an activist
and we host retreats -
Not Syncedfor climate leaders, and
-
Not Syncedwe hosted one recently
near Vancouver in Canada -
Not SyncedAnd, it was very interesting
because it was the first time -
Not SyncedI realized that climate despair
has become a thing -
Not Syncedthata people were identifying
with -
Not Syncedand I realized that there was
a story that went with it, -
Not Syncedand that it was really hard,
people were finding it hard -
Not Syncedto see that their despair was
impermanent and ever changing -
Not Syncedand interrelational
-
Not Syncedso I'm a student of despair
in practice, and I've realized -
Not Syncedthat when I am learning to
suffer with my despair -
Not Syncedit's been really important for me
not to identify with it. -
Not Syncedbut to recognize it as a seed
that has been transmitted to -
Not Syncedme and activated by my environment.
-
Not SyncedAnd so I trained to allow my despair
-
Not Syncedto like, evolve a little bit, to have
-
Not Synceddifferent threads to it. To be
something fluid, something -
Not Syncedmade of non-despair elements.
-
Not SyncedSomething made of multiple parts,
-
Not Syncedand this can be - even our despair
inter-is, it's not a fixed thing -
Not SyncedI've really learned that it has
not helped me when I have -
Not Syncedidentified too much with my despair.
-
Not SyncedAnother thing that might belong
to the collective consciousnes -
Not Syncedthat might - any of us might
feel, is like an energy of -
Not Syncedrestlessness, and kind of craving.
-
Not SyncedBut this is very important to know
-
Not Syncedif we come to do sitting meditation
and we sit down and we feel -
Not Syncedthe restlessness in our body
-
Not Syncedand like urges and impulses
-
Not Syncedcraving in our feelings and body
-
Not Syncedthis is also the result
-
Not Syncedof our capitalist, consumerist society
-
Not Syncedyou are not enough, because
you need to consume more. -
Not SyncedAnd we've kind of been automated
and trained - all of these inputs -
Not Syncedare telling us that we need
more to be happy. -
Not SyncedSo when in this retreat, we are
sitting in stillness, not reaching -
Not Syncedfor the phone, not reaching
to eat or drink something -
Not Syncedthat is an act of resistance.
-
Not SyncedWhen we go home, we can
do the same, we can take time -
Not Syncedmaybe on the journey home
how can I simplify my life. -
Not SyncedWe've lived so simply this week.
We did not need much to be -
Not Syncedhappy. The presence of people
was a condition of happiness. -
Not SyncedWell hopefully for most of us,
most of the time. -
Not SyncedAnd hopefully the present of
the forest and the trees. -
Not Syncedfor quite moments, was a
condition of happiness. -
Not SyncedBut when we can be with
our friends in a simple way -
Not Syncedwe don't need a lot to be happy.
-
Not SyncedSister Hero has a good insight
around the question of striving -
Not Syncedand optimizing, kind of not-enoughness.
-
Not SyncedAnd we feel like society is telling us
-
Not Syncedthe collective consciousness is telling us
-
Not Syncedyou need to develop yourself more
in order to contribute. -
Not Syncedyou need to have these skills, this
and this diploma, these qualifications -
Not SyncedAnd, you need to be productive.
-
Not SyncedYou need to be efficient.
-
Not SyncedWe've created all of these systems
a kind of this crazy society -
Not Syncedall of these screens, these e-mails
and we have to learn to be -
Not Syncedefficient, productive,
Siste rHero has this questions. -
Not SyncedWhen we feel that pressure,
-
Not Syncedthat society is asking us to optimize
but for whose benefit. -
Not SyncedTo give up our time, our energy,
-
Not SyncedWwe may end up like losing our
life, like literally spending our -
Not Syncedtime to create a skill for a specific
economic process, but we may not -
Not Syncedbe living our life in the process.
-
Not SyncedWe may lose our freedom, our
contact with nature, -
Not Syncedour time with friends,
our ease with our body, -
Not SyncedWith the energy of mindfulness
we have a chance to stop -
Not Syncedto look deeply and to
deeply reflect on our questions. -
Not SyncedWhat I'm doing with my time,
and energy - is it meaningful for me. -
Not SyncedWho benefits?
-
Not SyncedLike every hour counts.
Our livelihood is important. -
Not Syncedand how we spend our time.
-
Not SyncedWho we're with.
-
Not SyncedThe collective consciousness,
we expose ourselves to. -
Not SyncedThere was one day in the newsroom
when after drinking my glass of water -
Not SyncedI came back round towards my desk
-
Not Syncedand
-
Not Syncedmy colleagues were cursing and arguing
-
Not Syncedand [booging] someone else
-
Not Syncedand
-
Not Syncedbeing very aggressive about
the next program. -
Not SyncedAnd I just suddenly realized
I'm in a toxic atmosphere. -
Not SyncedAnd it was literally like that
I'd probably been there like -
Not Synced18 months by then, drinking
my water, -
Not Syncedand I just suddenly was - what
am I doing to myself. -
Not Syncedwhat am I doing to myself.
-
Not SyncedPracticing mindfulness in the
workplace is really important. -
Not Syncedbecause you can wake up and
you can see -
Not Syncedhonestly, I swear that my path
out of the newsroom -
Not Syncedbegan in that split second.
-
Not Syncedwhen I woke up to reality
-
Not Syncedof my environment.
-
Not SyncedI'm on the sixth floor of this
gigantic building in Westminster -
Not Syncedin London and I'm wasting my life.
-
Not SyncedThat was quite a punch line. I didn't
mean it. Okay. -
Not SyncedThe one thing I wanted
to say about the path of -
Not Syncedthe five mindfulness trainings
-
Not Syncedand we heard it this morning, we read
it in the text, they all begin with this -
Not Syncedreally powerful phrase. Aware of the
suffering caused by -
Not SyncedWhen we wake up to like what is
actually going on -
Not Syncedand what is wrong with what
is going on, then immediately -
Not Syncedthere is a release of energy and
intention or volition - I want to -
Not Synceddo something about this. I vow
to change my choices, my -
Not Syncedsituation.
-
Not SyncedWe will now enjoy the sound of a bell.
-
Not Synced[Bell]
-
Not SyncedWhen we wake up we
realize that something is -
Not Syncedsuffering and then we want to
understand the roots of that suffering. -
Not SyncedWhy has it come to be?
-
Not SyncedIn simple ways and in deep ways.
-
Not SyncedIf I
-
Not Syncedam watching something late at
night and I am not able to -
Not Syncedresist this automatic play on
the next episode and I am -
Not Syncedstill watching something at
three in the morning -
Not Syncedand I have a headache the
next day, awareness of suffering -
Not Syncedthe path that led to suffering
-
Not Syncedis very clear.
-
Not SyncedIt's really good to be mindful.
-
Not SyncedMaybe we should have a pop-up
on certain apps and things so that -
Not Syncedwe have a certain awakening in the
moment, so we know -
Not Syncedwhat to change in order to
do it differently. -
Not SyncedAnd this is the case on the
personal level and also -
Not Syncedon the collective level.
-
Not SyncedOur way of consuming may water
our seeds of fear and anxiety. -
Not SyncedMaybe there can be a different
way that we read the news. -
Not Syncedor we can put a shorter timer on
social media. -
Not SyncedMaybe the choices we make
about how we spend our time -
Not Syncedwho we spend our time with.
Are the people we surround ourselves -
Not Syncedwith - lifting us up? or pulling us
down. -
Not SyncedWhen we look deeply into
suffering and we see it deeply -
Not Syncedright away we see the path
out of suffering. -
Not SyncedSo we see that there is
something we can do to -
Not Syncedmake a difference.
-
Not SyncedWe see the cause of suffering
and what we can do. -
Not SyncedSo Thay, he describes it
as the path that led to suffering -
Not Syncedhe called it the path of suffering
-
Not Syncedand the path of happiness and wellbeing.
-
Not SyncedSome of you may recognize this
as the four noble truths. -
Not SyncedSo what we are doing here
with the five mindfulness trainings -
Not Syncedrepresent a path that is leading us
through and out of suffering. -
Not SyncedAnd so we may ...
-
Not SyncedA very important point about this
-
Not Syncedso underline it - you may
have realized it already -
Not Syncedthe function or the purpose,
the intention of mindfulness -
Not Syncedis not to make an unliveable world
-
Not Syncedliveable.
-
Not SyncedMindfulness is not to help us
survive and unsurvivable situation. -
Not SyncedFor me in the newsroom, mindfulness
began by helping me stay true -
Not Syncedto myself in really difficult days.
And really painful moments. -
Not SyncedBut mindfulness carries a seed of
insight in it, until the day when -
Not Syncedthat mindfulness [says' you;re
in a toxic environment, get -
Not Syncedout of here. It didn't say
stay in this toxic environment -
Not Syncedand breathe. And this is really
important because sometimes -
Not Syncedmindfulness is introduced into
different sectors to kind of enable -
Not Syncedtoxicity, to enable an
unsurvivable working environment. -
Not Syncedor an unsurvivable ....well
-
Not Syncedeven military environment, there
Is now mindfulness in the military. -
Not SyncedBut that's another story.
-
Not SyncedWhen we practice the whole teaching.
-
Not SyncedWhen we practice the full}
scope of mindfulness -
Not Syncedas expressed in the five
mindfulness trainings -
Not Syncedit carries the seed of
a way out in it -
Not Syncedfor ourselves and [ ]
We don't perpetuate unjust -
Not Syncedand toxic ways of being.
-
Not SyncedI need to say that - thank you.
-
Not SyncedSo, we may ...how do you say this
-
Not SyncedWhen I first came here, I really
had this question -
Not Syncedhow can I contribute to a better wordl
-
Not Syncedand at the begining my answer was
I will transform - [ ]But -
Not SyncedI started to understand this
question much more -
Not Synceddeeply. How can I
-
Not Syncedact to contribute to a
better world. -
Not SyncedHow can I act to
contribute to a better world. -
Not Synced
-
Not SyncedIf you like we can call this
a koan. And in koans -
Not Syncedwe ___ to investigate our terms.
-
Not SyncedHow can I act?
-
Not SyncedHopefully this week ___
of who we are. -
Not SyncedThat we are
-
Not Syncedinter connected to all that is
-
Not Syncedwe represent a lineage of
ancestors -
Not Syncedour action now is action
that will impact our descendents -
Not Syncedand we are deeply affected by
our environment. -
Not Syncedcollected around us.
-
Not SyncedSometimes we can suffer a lot
with the question -
Not Syncedif we make the I too small.
and we limit ourselves -
Not Syncedto this body.
-
Not SyncedLittle me. In fact we are
a big me. We are a vast -
Not Syncedinterbeing self.
-
Not SyncedSo if we are suffering in this
question, we may be caught -
Not Syncedin who I am.
-
Not SyncedAnd this is also an interesting
thing about collective action -
Not Syncedfrom that which we will get to.
-
Not SyncedFrom that but it's very important
the word next to it. -
Not SyncedAct - how are we understanding
action. And the theme of this -
Not Syncedretreat is love in action.
-
Not SyncedIn Buddhism we have a
word for action. -
Not Syncedand a very clear understanding of it.
-
Not SyncedWe understand it as being
threefold. Action has three -
Not Syncedaspects.
-
Not SyncedYou can call it triple-action.
-
Not SyncedIt's our thinking, our speaking
and our bodily action. -
Not SyncedIt's very interesting that our
thoughts are our actions. -
Not SyncedOur teacher used to say that
our thoughts carry our signature. -
Not SyncedOur thoughts are hatred, resentment
anger go out into the world -
Not Syncedand carry our signature.
-
Not SyncedOur thoughts of love, tolerance
compassion also go out into -
Not Syncedthe world and carry out signature.
-
Not SyncedHe gave the image of like a
kind of candle -
Not Syncedand the candle is kind of
radiating our thoughts
our speech and our action -
Not Syncedjust like a candle radiates
light and warmth. -
Not SyncedRight now in this hall action
is happening -
Not Syncedwe are radiating an energy
of peace, of presence, of enquiry -
Not Syncedof stillness together.
-
Not SyncedAnd outside as well.
-
Not SyncedWe are radiating that energy
and just like the candle -
Not Syncedit also receives its own warmth
which is what melts the wax -
Not Syncedso the wick can burn.
It receives its own -
Not Syncedwarmth and it is lit
by its own light. -
Not SyncedSo in the same way, we
receive like the food of our -
Not Syncedthoughts, the food of our
speaking and the food of -
Not Syncedour bodily action is coming
-
Not Syncedback into us. And is creating
-
Not Syncedan impact.
-
Not Synced__ said a really interesting thing.
He said sometimes we say something -
Not Syncedthat we didn't mean to say.
-
Not SyncedMaybe it was only partly true.
-
Not SyncedAnd quite quickly it might come
back to us and we get what we call -
Not Syncedthe retribution of that and we have
to apologize or explain ourselves.
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