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me arey here Anisha is a Japanese woman
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who in her own words draws
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autobiographical and fictional butch
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lesbians stories of an androgynous woman
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in often failed pursuit of an
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androgynous girlfriend from the webtoon
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description of her comic me arey is an
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unfeminine otaku that's only interested
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in androgynous women with short hair the
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problem is they never liked her back
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these are the autobiographical train
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wrecks of a single woman who loves women
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trying to make hot butch women notice
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her will she die single or find the hot
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androgynous girlfriend of her dreams
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here Anisha makes a lot of blanket
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statements and her observations about
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dating other women which surprised me
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and felt of all off putting it first
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but she does go out of her way to not
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portray her experience as the end-all
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be-all experience in fact while she uses
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butch an androgynous pretty
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interchangeably which I wouldn't do
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personally she makes sure to mark her
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personal opinions and experiences as
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such and she acknowledges repeatedly in
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the comic that definitions vary by
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person she also includes the T when
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talking about the LGBT community so the
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comic does not come across as turfy
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either its story is just a specific
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person describing a specific experience
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and has clearly marked as such versus
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some kind of comprehensive explainer on
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the universal queer experience which I
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would say doesn't really exist I just
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wanted to get that out of the way so no
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one went in expecting the latter and for
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people who really want to avoid anything
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that could be interpreted as
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essentialist
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I really love this comic though the girl
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that can't get a girlfriend is super
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super funny and endearing it's deeply
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self-deprecating without ever being self
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pitying or depressing so it's a light
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and entertaining read that's relatable
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thematically dealing with subjects that
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in a different comment could be heavier
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or more upsetting romantic frustrations
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feeling inadequate struggling with
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whether or not it's worth you changing
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yourself specifically your gender
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expression to be better liked and so on
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so far it's also very PG with stronger
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profanity censored and it focuses on
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these social and romantic aspects of
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dating rather than anything explicitly
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sexual so it would definitely be
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something I'd recommend for people with
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certain content sensitivities and for
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younger readers in like middle school
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which I can't say for a lot of what I
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review or read myself even though it's
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such a specific experience
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and I wouldn't say it should be
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extrapolated out to stand in for any
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kind of Universal lesbian experience for
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me is someone who is not a lesbian I
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find it really interesting and at times
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informative of a lifestyle I'm not super
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familiar with tyranny she being Japanese
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also impacts her dating life in ways I
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as a white person don't have to deal
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with and while it's not a focus of the
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comic so far it has come up especially
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in jokes journey she draws herself very
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simply and draws women she's attracted
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to and in almost over-the-top shoujo
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manga style to emphasize her own
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self-consciousness compared to her
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infatuation with these women one of my
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favorite panels has the person she has a
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crush on drawn as a goddess while she's
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drawn as a level 1 cockroach the writing
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outshines the art for this comic though
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he ranae she uses meme and nerd language
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and really blunt and brutal self
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deprecation for great comedic effect
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without ever coming across like a
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trihard phone nerd or speaking in a way
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that will date the comic or in a way
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that's a downer are self pitying one
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thing I really appreciate about the girl
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that can't get a girlfriend is often in
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media if someone is a romantic loser
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you're supposed to relate to its a
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down-on-his-luck sis straight guy and
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women with romantic problems outside of
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like idealized fantasy romantic comedies
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are portrayed as really really pathetic
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and weird and unattractive irony she
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walks the line of brutal self
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deprecation beautifully where she does
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all these sad and embarrassing things
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but never in a way that evokes disgust
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but rather in a way that's relatable and
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endearing and she usually circles back
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to self love and the deliberate choice
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to forge your own path and stick to your
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preferences and beliefs regardless of
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failing being made fun of or having
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trouble finding a partner and does so
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without being saccharine or cliched
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because she's so brutally
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self-deprecating the warm moments in the
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comic actually feel earned rather than
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contrived I know for me personally I
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used to get a lot of pressure to grow my
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hair out or wear makeup or otherwise be
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more feminine to express myself in a way
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that I didn't like and that made me
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uncomfortable and just sacrifice the
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comfort in exchange for being perceived
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as more conventionally attractive and
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more desirable to straightenin
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specifically but also just generally to
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anyone and I'm glad I never did it
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because I know I would have just ended
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up resentful about it and would have
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hated it similar to how certain people I
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knew in high school suddenly and
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mysteriously giving me a lot more
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attention after I lost weight in college
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just made me feel weird and upset rather
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than flattered it isn't a nice Hirt
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rewarding feeling to know that someone's
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interest in you was superficial and
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official interests are interested me
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based on me portraying myself in ways I
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don't really feel comfortable portraying
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myself or two things I do not try to
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cultivate or feel good about when I do
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cultivate them I won't spoil it but
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there's a whole plot thread in the comic
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about hearing AG going through similar
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as far as struggling with preferring an
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androgynous appearance and I enjoyed it
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and appreciated it a lot I haven't had a
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lot of the same dating or life
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experiences as she has but I definitely
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relate to the struggles of
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self-expression and weighing the
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sacrifice of authenticity to be liked or
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or be considered conventionally
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attractive that she explores in the
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comic bruni she says in her patreon
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comic that she's choosing to self-fund
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and self-published through patreon
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because most publishing companies aren't
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interested in what she writes she says
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they want to market their comics to
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street men and straight men expect more
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feminine women and their gay lady comics
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so she's very deliberately working on
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her own to bridge that gap which again
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though her dating and general life
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experiences vary a lot from mine and
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some of her views differ from how I view
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gender and sexuality and dating
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conceptually I think that's really
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really cool I love this comic and it's
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super fun to read and I support here in
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AC on patreon because I believe that one
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shortcut to having more sustained
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marginalized voices telling their own
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individual unique stories is to support
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them directly financially if you're able
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or if you're not able which obviously is
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totally understandable
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just with stuff like retweets and
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encouraging comments the comic is really
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short now it's only three chapters long
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so it wouldn't take very long at all to
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catch up and keep up with her releases i
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also suma pyrenees she made enough on
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patreon she could maybe quit her day job
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and make more comics so if you like the
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comic check out her patreon if you want
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to read a comic that is still uplifting
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and sweet but that is darker and deals
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much more with mental illness my lesbian
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experience with loneliness is another
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excellent autobiographical comic you
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should check out I considered also
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reviewing it for this video but I
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haven't read the related comics that
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came out after by the same author and I
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figured I should do a video on all that
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at once instead so I'll probably with
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all the other stuff that I plan to
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review I'll probably add that to the
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pile thank you for watching I know this
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is a shorter video but there isn't a
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time to talk about for a webcomic that
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is just three chapters long and I
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couldn't find any like interview clips
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with the author or anything else to add
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to it but I really did feel like this
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was worth talking about and just how
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brutal and
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it was and I can't promise I'll always
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check them out but I'm always open to
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recommendations for stuff like this
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like weird funny obscure niche comics or
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video games or anything like that I
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don't even remember how I found this
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comic I think it just showed up on my
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Twitter or something so if you have
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something like this or something else
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that's different that you would like to
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recommend feel free to put it in the
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comments or tweet it at me at plenty of
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alcoves or anything like that if you
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enjoyed this video please consider
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supporting me on patreon I also have the
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cofee if you want some information on a
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queer webcomic that is not light and
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Goofy and pg-rated check out my review
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for a feast for a king thanks