Why we must stop dancing to the sound of our own oppression

So often,

I'll take a fitness class,

or I'll go to a music venue,

or really anywhere that plays
music in the background,

and I'll find myself loving the rhythms

and the melodies and the beats,

and then I take a second
to listen to the lyrics,

lyrics that, for example,
place us in a position of subservience

that we would never tolerate
in any other context.

And I'm aghast at the degree to which
we normalize sexism in our culture.

I listen to this music and I'm like,

I don't want to have to turn up
to the sound of my own oppression.

You know, music is one of
the most powerful forms of communication,

because it has the potential
to either uplift or oppress.

Music caters to the emotions.
Music caters to the soul.

Music opens up our soul.

It opens up our channels
to receive information

about somebody else's walk of life,

to inform our own ??.

And while I have no problem
with male fantasy,

what I do have a problem with

is that according to a recent study,
only 2.6 percent of all music producers

identify as women.

That means an even smaller percentage
identify as trans or gender nonconforming.

And why does this matter?

Because, if we don't own
and control our own narrative,

somebody else will tell
our stories for us,

and they will get it wrong,

perpetuating the very myths
that hold us back.

And I'm not here to tell other people
how to make their music,

but I am here to provide
and design the alternative.

One strategy I take in my music

is making uplifting, energetic,
percussive, global beats

and placing lyrics on top of them

that genuinely describe
my life's experiences

without contributing
to the oppression of anybody else.

It's funny because it's the same reason

as to why we excuse
so many problematic lyrics.

It's because we love
how the beats make us feel.

An example of this is my song
"Top Knot Turn Up."

[Music: "Top Knot Turn Up"]

I turned off my phone's notifications
so I have more time

One thing to know
I'm not here to please

Hair tied up I do it properly
My time is not your property

When I'm productive like my ovaries, ayyy

Give a grown girl room to breathe
Basic rights and her liberty

Free from insecurity
That the world's projecting onto me

Please do not trouble me when I am focused
The future is female you already know this

I'm Fighting against
the corruption on SCOTUS

Turned up in my top knot
since when I first wrote this

It's a top knot turn up
It's a top knot turn up, turn up, turn up

It's a top knot turn up
It's a top knot turn up, turn up, turn up

It's a top knot turn up
It's a top knot turn up, ayyy

It's a top knot turn up

I want us to keep making
sex-positive, beautiful music

about joy and freedom.

I want us to embrace our own pleasure

just as much as we embrace our own pain.

I want us to celebrate the authentic,

nuanced,

multidimensional aspects
of our human existence,

rather than perform false narratives

of degrading sexuality

in order to feel accepted or loved.

And another strategy
that I take in my music

to combat the misogyny
that exists on the airwaves

is to visually depict the very world
I wished we lived in.

In the music video
for my song "See My Thru,"

which is like a vibe-y,

Queer electronic R&B song,

I cast two of my dear friends, ??

to play the role of the lovers,
because they're married in real life.

But what you don't know
is that they also are behind the camera

concepting and directing

the entire video.

(Video) Heyyyyy ohhhh
My emotions were tired

Madame Gandhi: Music
should be safe and accessible

for all to experience.

As you can see, it's not about
losing the sex appeal or swag

that music has,

it's about writing messages
that infuse tenderness and positivity

into music that motivates us
and challenges us,

and while we as musicians
absolutely have the responsibility

to make music that isn't disempowering,

the consumers can be
part of the change too.

Firstly, we get to choose
which songs we want to mute

and which songs we want to turn louder.

We get to say I respect myself enough
to say I don't want to listen to this

and I don't want this to be
in anybody else's space either.

Secondly, we can simply ask ourselves,

does this music or this message

contribute to the oppression
of somebody else?

Why am I tolerating it?

And finally, we can all be choosing
to make playlists or DJing music

that provides the right vibe or mood
that we're looking for in that moment

without the problematic messaging.

Why does this matter?

Because it's teaching algorithms
in our streaming systems and our world

exactly what it is that
we do want to listen to,

creating long-term change
and a feedbacking mechanism

that impacts the entire industry.

This is not a message

for just a small group of people.

This is a message that affects everybody,

because when we project and liberate
our most vulnerable genders,

we liberate everybody.