Searching for a Life Partner ~ Mooji

Excerpt from the DVD entitled "Is This Love That I Am Feeling" recorded 29 Jan 2010 in Tiruvannamalai, India
With Hungarian and English subtitles

Searching For a Life Partner
(with subtitles)

[Mooji] There are so many letters today.

'Blessed Mooji,

what do you have to say
to all the single people,

that are searching for a life partner?'
[laughter]

'What do you have to say
to all the single people,

that are searching for a life partner?'

Where are you? Show me your hands!

You wrote the letter?
[laughter]

Only one dares to put the hand up.
[laughter]

'What do you have to say
to all the single people,

that are searching for a life partner?'

[silence]

You don't know how lucky you are!
[laughter]

I said before, life has given

such a beautiful opportunity, for the moment.

Because if people are single,
they sometimes feel a bit lonely,

they think, 'It is going to be forever!

I am going to be single forever!'

And the mind steps in and goes,
'Yes, you better move quickly!'

And the time, when sometimes being single
can feel really painful,

is in Satsang, because ego is thinning away.

It is thinning out, and it is looking
for something to attach itself onto,

to buy some more time.

I say quite often,
we have some very forced relationships, quickly.

The ego is trying to hold on.

Because when a relationship begins like this,

Satsang becomes a near-death experience.

It is like, 'Wow, that was a close miss, man!'
[laughter]

'Thank you for coming along,
to rescue my ego a little bit!'

But really, I would say to people,
Use the time well,

to really have some undisturbed time,
to focus on your own Self.

Be secure in yourself.
So that when the time comes,

when life brings you one who is suited to you,

this is the gift, in fact.
You don't have to go searching.

Someone will come, unexpectedly,
but you will recognise inside,

'I am so happy to meet someone like you!'

You are not searching by your own power!

You are not going through your checklist,
to see if they fit.

It will bring you someone,
who will be a beautiful surprise for you.

And then you will bring your fullness into this.
What a beautiful thing!

Even in Satsang, some relationships happen here,

and some people even go on to get married.

Some of them are here also.
It is a beautiful thing,

to be looking together, from the same place,

when it comes to something
as profound as the Truth.

In the meantime, if something doesn't come along,
don't be waiting.

Use your full energies to be steady in the Truth.

Don't go into a relationship
in a disadvantaged position.

Don't go desperate!
Nobody wants anybody desperate!

They will only abuse you.
Nobody wants anybody desperate!

It is such a turn-off! Don't be desperate!

If you are desperate,

it means that,
you are misguided by your own thinking.

Use your single time to throw off desperation,

and to be anchored in the Truth.

Then, in the right moment, life brings someone

who is so suited to you.
And you feel, 'Oh my God!'

This person doesn't disturb your Satsang.

They actually encourage
and intensify your Satsang.

What a fantastic thing!

Because you asked,
'What do you have to say

to all the single people,
who are searching for a life partner?'

If you are not yourself really ...

I'm not saying that you have to be a Buddha
to have a partner,

but at least have your priorities
in the right place.

You don't put that,
the most important thing in life,

is not to be alone!
How can it be like this?

But somehow you understand that,

this is your dedication to Truth, to yourself,
your devotion to Truth.

Otherwise a life partner
could become a life sentence.

Did I say that? Sorry!
I didn't want to say it like that, but ...

This person signed 'A. Human Now'.
Is that someone's name?

'A. Human Now.'
'A' is the Christian name, dot, 'Human Now'.

So what will your wife or your husband be?

Mr. and Mrs. 'Human Now'.
[laughter]

Next one! [sound of the bell]
[laughter]