First impressions | Walker Steck | TEDxLakeTravisHigh
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0:21 - 0:22(Mumbling) Hi, everyone.
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0:22 - 0:25My name is Walker Steck,
and I would just like to talk to you guys -
0:25 - 0:28about the connection
between first impression and ... -
0:28 - 0:31(Normal talking) No, I'm just kidding.
That would be terrible. -
0:31 - 0:32Hi, everyone!
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0:32 - 0:35As I said up here rather quietly,
my name is Walker Steck, -
0:35 - 0:38and I'd like to talk to you guys
about the connection -
0:38 - 0:40between first impression
and future relationship. -
0:40 - 0:44Now, as I just stood up here,
rather, or - oh my gosh, sorry. -
0:44 - 0:47As I stood up here, holding on
to my index cards for dear life, -
0:47 - 0:50you all did a little something
called making a first impression. -
0:50 - 0:51And it's not your fault.
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0:51 - 0:55We all - oh my, I didn't get the clicker.
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0:56 - 0:57Sorry, guys.
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0:59 - 1:00Thank you.
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1:00 - 1:04Okay, so as humans,
we form 10 to 20 images -
1:04 - 1:06of what we think
a person's personality is like -
1:06 - 1:08based on 15 seconds of conversation.
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1:08 - 1:10Now, let's do the math.
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1:11 - 1:13Of these 10 to 20 images -
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1:13 - 1:16let's say we meet two new people a day
for seven days a week; -
1:16 - 1:19that's about 200 new images
that we have created of people -
1:19 - 1:22just based on 200 seconds of conversation.
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1:24 - 1:25Now, another fun fact:
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1:26 - 1:2985% of these images
are going to be just dead wrong, -
1:29 - 1:32not even in the same ballpark
of what the person's personality is like, -
1:32 - 1:37and only 15% are going to be remotely true
of how they act around people. -
1:37 - 1:38Now, let me tell you
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1:38 - 1:41about a little personal narrative
I [read], ironically titled -
1:41 - 1:43"Making a First Impression,"
by Maggie Scarf. -
1:43 - 1:46In the article, Scarf talks
about meeting a guy at a bar. -
1:46 - 1:48The two get to talking.
Things are going great. -
1:48 - 1:50A little laughter,
give-take conversation, -
1:50 - 1:53everything you look for
in a good first impression. -
1:53 - 1:54But she slips up.
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1:54 - 1:57One bad reaction to a joke.
She didn't laugh. -
1:57 - 1:59And in one or two seconds
of awkward silence, -
1:59 - 2:03the two have shut down any chance
of any sort of connection in the future. -
2:04 - 2:05Now, I know what you're all thinking.
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2:05 - 2:09"Why do I need to hear the story
about the girl who doesn't get the guy?" -
2:09 - 2:10And you don't.
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2:10 - 2:12I'm not here to tell you
about everyone's sad story, -
2:12 - 2:14because I can't - there's too many.
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2:14 - 2:17I am standing here in front of you
today on this TEDx stage -
2:18 - 2:19to make you aware
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2:19 - 2:21of how seriously we all take
these infamous first impressions. -
2:22 - 2:24Now, after all these numbers and stories,
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2:24 - 2:28some of you still might not be 100% sure
about what it is I'm trying to say. -
2:28 - 2:29So let me tell you.
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2:30 - 2:32I'm just asking you to consider my points.
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2:32 - 2:35The next time you meet someone,
ask a few more questions, -
2:35 - 2:37stay interested in their answers,
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2:37 - 2:40just keep the conversation
alive long enough -
2:40 - 2:43so that you're actually able
to form an accurate image -
2:43 - 2:44of what the person is like.
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2:44 - 2:48If you jump to conclusions too quickly,
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2:49 - 2:51you may never know
what the relationship could be like. -
2:52 - 2:53When I was in eighth grade,
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2:53 - 2:55my discovery teacher,
Ms. Magia, once told me, -
2:55 - 2:58"Walker, you miss 100%
of the shots you don't take." -
2:59 - 3:01Now, I found this quote
to be rather relevant to the situation, -
3:01 - 3:03so I took a little spin on it myself:
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3:03 - 3:05"You end every friendship
you don't start." -
3:05 - 3:07Good, yeah? Good, yeah?
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3:08 - 3:09Whatever.
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3:09 - 3:13The point is that you could be talking
to your soulmate, long-term best friend, -
3:13 - 3:16maybe even husband or wife in the future,
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3:16 - 3:17and it can all be thrown away
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3:17 - 3:20if you jump to conclusions
about their personality too soon. -
3:20 - 3:22So, just do me a favor.
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3:22 - 3:25Next time you meet someone,
try all these things: -
3:25 - 3:26the intriguing conversation,
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3:26 - 3:29the time extension
on the first conversation, -
3:29 - 3:32because I promise you one day
you'll look back and just think, -
3:32 - 3:35"Oh, man, that kid was right.
I wish there was some way to thank him." -
3:35 - 3:37"Thewalk101@gmail.com"
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3:37 - 3:40if you truly just can't wait
to thank me for my genius advice. -
3:40 - 3:41(Laughter)
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3:41 - 3:42No, only a joke.
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3:42 - 3:43But, in all seriousness,
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3:43 - 3:46you will be thankful that you spent
15 extra seconds of your life -
3:46 - 3:50talking to someone who you could spend
the next 15 years of your life with. -
3:50 - 3:51Thank you.
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3:51 - 3:53(Applause)
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3:53 - 3:54(Cheers)
- Title:
- First impressions | Walker Steck | TEDxLakeTravisHigh
- Description:
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Walker Steck asks us to delay judgment for just fifteen seconds before making a decision about someone we have just met – he or she just might prove to be a new best friend or the love of a lifetime.
Walker enjoys playing any sport involving a paddle: tennis, racquetball, ping-pong, badminton, and pickleball. Because he values relationships, he understands the importance of accepting people as they are, even from the very first impression.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at http://ted.com/tedx
- Video Language:
- English
- Team:
- closed TED
- Project:
- TEDxTalks
- Duration:
- 03:55
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