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I am the son of a terrorist. Here's how I chose peace.

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    On November 5th, 1990,
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    a man named El-Sayyid Nosair walked
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    into a hotel in Manhattan
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    and assassinated Rabbi Meir Kahane,
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    the leader of the Jewish Defense League.
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    Nosair was initially found not guilty of the murder,
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    but while serving time on lesser charges,
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    he and other men began planning attacks
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    on a dozen New York City landmarks,
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    including tunnels, synagogues
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    and the United Nations headquarters.
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    Thankfully, those plans were foiled
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    by an FBI informant.
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    Sadly, the 1993 bombing
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    of the World Trade Center was not.
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    Nosair would eventually be convicted
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    for his involvement in the plot.
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    El-Sayyid Nosair is my father.
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    I was born in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania
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    in 1983 to him, an Egyptian engineer,
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    and a loving American mother
    and grade school teacher,
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    who together tried their best
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    to create a happy childhood for me.
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    It wasn't until I was seven years old
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    that our family dynamic started to change.
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    My father exposed me to a side of Islam
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    that few people, including the majority of Muslims,
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    get to see.
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    It's been my experience that when people
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    take the time to interact with one another,
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    it doesn't take long to realize that for the most part,
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    we all want the same things out of life.
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    However, in every religion, in every population,
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    you'll find a small percentage of people
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    who hold so fervently to their beliefs
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    that they feel they must use any means necessary
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    to make others live as they do.
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    A few months prior to his arrest,
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    he sat me down and explained that
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    for the past few weekends, he and some friends
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    had been going to a shooting range on Long Island
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    for target practice.
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    He told me I'd be going with him the next morning.
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    We arrived at Calverton Shooting Range,
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    which unbeknownst to our group was being watched
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    by the FBI.
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    When it was my turn to shoot,
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    my father helped me hold the rifle to my shoulder
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    and explained how to aim at the target
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    about 30 yards off.
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    That day, the last bullet I shot
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    hit the small orange light that sat on top of the target
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    and to everyone's surprise, especially mine,
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    the entire target burst into flames.
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    My uncle turned to the other men,
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    and in Arabic said, "Ibn abuh."
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    Like father, like son.
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    They all seemed to get a really
    big laugh out of that comment,
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    but it wasn't until a few years later
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    that I fully understood what
    they thought was so funny.
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    They thought they saw in me the same destruction
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    my father was capable of.
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    Those men would eventually be convicted
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    of placing a van filled with
    1,500 pounds of explosives
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    into the sub-level parking lot of the
    World Trade Center's North Tower,
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    causing an explosion that killed six people
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    and injured over 1,000 others.
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    These were the men I looked up to.
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    These were the men I called
    ammu, which means uncle.
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    By the time I turned 19,
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    I had already moved 20 times in my life,
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    and that instability during my childhood
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    didn't really provide an opportunity
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    to make many friends.
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    Each time I would begin to feel
    comfortable around someone,
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    it was time to pack up and move to the next town.
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    Being the perpetual new face in class,
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    I was frequently the target of bullies.
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    I kept my identity a secret from my classmates
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    to avoid being targeted,
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    but as it turns out, being the
    quiet, chubby new kid in class
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    was more than enough ammunition.
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    So for the most part, I spent my time at home
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    reading books and watching TV
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    or playing video games.
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    For those reasons, my social skills were lacking,
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    to say the least,
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    and growing up in a bigoted household,
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    I wasn't prepared for the real world.
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    I'd been raised to judge people
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    based on arbitrary measurements,
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    like a person's race or religion.
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    So what opened my eyes?
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    One of my first experiences
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    that challenged this way of thinking
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    was during the 2000 presidential elections.
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    Through a college prep program,
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    I was able to take part
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    in the National Youth Convention in Philadelphia.
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    My particular group's focus was on youth violence,
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    and having been the victim
    of bullying for most of my life,
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    this was a subject in which
    I felt particularly passionate.
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    The members of our group came
    from many different walks of life.
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    One day toward the end of the convention,
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    I found out that one of the kids I had befriended
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    was Jewish.
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    Now, it had taken several days
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    for this detail to come to light,
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    and I realized that there was no natural animosity
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    between the two of us.
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    I had never had a Jewish friend before,
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    and frankly I felt a sense of pride
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    in having been able to overcome a barrier
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    that for most of my life I had been led to believe
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    was insurmountable.
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    Another major turning point came when
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    I found a summer job at Busch Gardens,
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    an amusement park.
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    There, I was exposed to people
    from all sorts of faiths and cultures,
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    and that experience proved to be fundamental
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    to the development of my character.
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    Most of my life, I'd been taught
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    that homosexuality was a sin, and by extension,
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    that all gay people were a negative influence.
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    As chance would have it, I had the opportunity
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    to work with some of the gay performers
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    at a show there,
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    and soon found that many were the kindest,
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    least judgmental people I had ever met.
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    Being bullied as a kid
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    created a sense of empathy in me
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    toward the suffering of others,
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    and it comes very unnaturally to me
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    to treat people who are kind
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    in any other way than how
    I would want to be treated.
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    Because of that feeling, I was able
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    to contrast the stereotypes I'd been taught as a child
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    with real life experience and interaction.
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    I don't know what it's like to be gay,
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    but I'm well acquainted with being judged
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    for something that's beyond my control.
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    Then there was "The Daily Show."
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    On a nightly basis, Jon Stewart forced me
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    to be intellectually honest with
    myself about my own bigotry
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    and helped me to realize that a person's race,
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    religion or sexual orientation
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    had nothing to do with the quality of one's character.
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    He was in many ways a father figure to me
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    when I was in desperate need of one.
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    Inspiration can often come
    from an unexpected place,
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    and the fact that a Jewish comedian had done more
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    to positively influence my worldview
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    than my own extremist father
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    is not lost on me.
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    One day, I had a conversation with my mother
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    about how my worldview was starting to change,
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    and she said something to me
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    that I will hold dear to my heart
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    for as long as I live.
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    She looked at me with the weary eyes
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    of someone who had experienced
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    enough dogmatism to last a lifetime, and said,
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    "I'm tired of hating people."
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    In that instant, I realized how much negative energy
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    it takes to hold that hatred inside of you.
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    Zak Ebrahim is not my real name.
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    I changed it when my family decided
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    to end our connection with my father
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    and start a new life.
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    So why would I out myself
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    and potentially put myself in danger?
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    Well, that's simple.
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    I do it in the hopes that perhaps someone someday
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    who is compelled to use violence
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    may hear my story and realize
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    that there is a better way,
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    that although I had been subjected
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    to this violent, intolerant ideology,
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    that I did not become fanaticized.
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    Instead, I choose to use my experience
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    to fight back against terrorism,
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    against the bigotry.
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    I do it for the victims of terrorism
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    and their loved ones,
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    for the terrible pain and loss
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    that terrorism has forced upon their lives.
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    For the victims of terrorism, I will speak out
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    against these senseless acts
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    and condemn my father's actions.
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    And with that simple fact, I stand here as proof
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    that violence isn't inherent in one's religion or race,
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    and the son does not have to follow
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    the ways of his father.
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    I am not my father.
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    Thank you. (Applause)
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    Thank you, everybody. (Applause)
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    Thank you all. (Applause)
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    Thanks a lot. (Applause)
Title:
I am the son of a terrorist. Here's how I chose peace.
Speaker:
Zak Ebrahim
Description:

If you’re raised on dogma and hate, can you choose a different path? Zak Ebrahim was just seven years old when his father helped plan the 1993 World Trade Center bombing. His story is shocking, powerful, and ultimately, inspiring.

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Video Language:
English
Team:
closed TED
Project:
TEDTalks
Duration:
09:13

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