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Three Powers - by sister Hội Nghiêm - 2019.12.27

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    Dear respected Thay
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    and the whole community
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    The sound is ok
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    It's a little bit loud
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    Today is the 27th of December
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    the year 2019
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    We are in the
    Assembly of Stars Meditation Hall
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    at Lower Hamlet.
    So welcome to Lower Hamlet
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    for the Mindfulness Day
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    I hope that everyone enjoyed
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    Christmas time together.
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    Are you happy with Christmas time
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    at Plum Village? Yes, thank you.
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    So, thank you for coming here
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    to celebrate Christmas time
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    together as a . . .with family
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    as a spiritual family
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    Christmas time is a time for
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    us to go home
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    to celebrate Christmas together
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    so in that spirit I would like
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    to share with you
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    about going home.
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    How we can go home
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    to take care of ourselves.
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    By breathing
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    we can go home to our body
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    and follow our breathing.
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    It's simple
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    to follow inbreath and outbreath.
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    And we calm
    our inbreath and outbreath
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    and we can smile to
    our inbreath and outbreath
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    And we feel very peaceful
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    when we enjoy our breathing.
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    And then we are aware
    of our whole body
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    and relax our whole body
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    Calm our whole body
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    When we are aware of our whole body
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    we can feel the tension
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    in our body
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    and then we release the tension
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    We can pay attention in that area
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    And breathe with that area.
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    And slowly, slowly you can feel relaxed
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    And the Zen method
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    we can
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    be aware of our feelings.
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    So what feelings come up
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    in our mind
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    we can be aware of them
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    and smile to our feelings
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    and calm our feelings.
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    And also
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    the same with our mind.
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    So what comes up in our mind
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    present in our body.
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    We can be aware of our mind
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    and calm our mind down
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    and smile to our mind too.
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    And when we can do that
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    we feel at ease,
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    we feel peaceful.
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    We can manage ourselves,
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    we can master ourselves
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    and we can be free.
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    The fact that our body and
    our mind relate to each other
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    what happens to our body,
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    it will happen to our mind
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    and also what happens to our mind
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    will stay in our body.
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    So take care of our body
    in order that we can take care of our mind
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    And to take good care of our mind,
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    we can take
    good care of our body,
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    and we feel at ease.
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    You feel solid,
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    you feel comfortable
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    to our body
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    to our feelings
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    and to our mind.
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    When we go somewhere
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    for a long journey,
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    and sometimes we are tired
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    because of the long journey.
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    And when we come home
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    come back home,
    we feel at ease,
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    we feel relaxed,
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    and we don't want to go
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    anywhere else.
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    Lie down and relaxed,
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    feel warm and feel cozy.
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    And so we do the same
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    when we go back home to our body.
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    We also feel at ease,
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    comfortable,
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    relaxed,
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    peaceful and solid.
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    And we can be our home.
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    And then, when we can be our home
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    we can sustain our home to other people.
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    When people come to us
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    they also feel at ease.
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    They feel peaceful, they feel relaxed.
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    And they can take refuge in our self.
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    Because our home now is very relaxed.
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    Our heart is bigger.
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    And we can be the place
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    for other people to take refuge in.
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    And first of all, for our beloved one.
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    When your partner comes to you,
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    they feel at ease.
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    When your children come to you,
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    they feel joyful,
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    happy, peaceful.
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    And then we can sustain our home
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    to other people, for example,
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    to our friends,
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    to our colleagues,
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    to our workers,
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    to the people around us,
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    to our Sangha.
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    And then we can sustain our home
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    to all people; to all humankind.
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    And our home becomes bigger
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    and bigger and bigger and bigger.
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    It's never limited.
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    We have to feel this before we
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    celebrate the New Year.
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    In Vietnamese tradition we prepare
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    a lot for the New Year.
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    And Vietnamese New Year, we call it.
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    And we don't wait until the 1st of January
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    to welcome the New Year.
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    But we also call the last days
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    of the year is like New Year,
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    like the 26th new year
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    (Vietnamese)
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    26th new year, 27th new year
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    28th new year, 29th new year
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    30th new year until the first day
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    of the New Year.
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    So we celebrate the new year before.
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    We prepare a lot of things.
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    We clean up our house.
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    We plant a lot of flowers.
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    We prepare a lot of food.
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    We have the new press.
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    Many things
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    to welcome the New Year.
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    So I would like to invite you
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    to benefit the spirit
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    at the Vietnamese New Year.
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    We can go home
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    to clean up our home.
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    To prepare ourselves to
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    welcome the New Year.
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    To plant in our garden
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    many kinds of flowers.
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    And maybe in our home
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    there is some garbage
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    so we can throw it away.
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    In order that our home
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    can be spacious,
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    our home can be clean,
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    can be beautiful,
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    and can be breathable
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    for us to enjoy.
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    So I would like to invite you
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    to reflect on yourselves
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    to see what kind of garbage
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    that you want to throw away.
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    There is some furniture
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    some things that you store
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    for a long time
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    and it's accumulating a lot of dust.
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    And maybe we never touch it,
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    and we don't want to throw it away.
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    And it occupies our home, our room
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    and maybe for 10 years we don't touch it.
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    So now we have to be brave
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    to recycle them, to throw them away
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    for our house to be spacious.
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    So we do the same to see
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    what kind of mind we have
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    that prevents us to be happy,
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    that prevents us to be free.
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    And we take it, put it in a bag
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    and bring it to the recycle area.
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    So I,
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    and to
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    to throw the garbage
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    sometimes we need the courage
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    because we feel regret
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    that we don't want to throw them away
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    and sometimes we need the courage.
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    And courage is one of the three powers
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    that lead us to be happy,
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    that lead us to be peaceful.
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    And sometimes we call this power virtue.
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    This power is not the power of money
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    it's not the power of fame,
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    it's not power of wealth,
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    it's not power of position.
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    But it's a power to lead us to
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    happiness,
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    lead us to be,
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    peaceful.
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    So I would like to write on the board
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    the three powers.
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    So the first power is compassion.
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    And first of all, we have to have
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    self-compassion.
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    We have to love ourselves.
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    We have to accept ourselves.
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    We have the capacity to forgive ourselves.
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    Sometimes we make a mistake
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    and we feel regret and we suffer
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    because of the regret.
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    We don't have the capacity
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    to forgive ourselves, so that is why we
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    are not so free.
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    So we have to have the capacity
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    to forgive ourselves.
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    We can practice to begin anew.
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    We can do it in a different way.
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    I remember that the
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    first days when I came
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    to Plum Village to become a nun
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    I missed my family a lot
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    and I also cried a lot.
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    Especially I missed my Mom
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    because I love her.
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    But also because I felt regret that in
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    the past I caused her a lot of suffering
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    so it is why I feel regret.
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    I was very stubborn;
    I didn't listen to her,
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    and so it is why I feel regret.
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    But with the practice
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    I communicate with her
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    and try to forgive myself.
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    And I say to myself that I have to
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    live wholeheartedly in this environment.
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    So when I leave this place
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    I don't feel regret.
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    But when I left my home
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    to become a nun,
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    it was a good lesson for me
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    It was a big lesson for me
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    so wherever I am I live wholeheartedly
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    in order that in the future
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    I don't feel regret.
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    Sometimes we suffer because we feel regret
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    what we have done in the past
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    or what we didn't do in the past
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    that instead we have to do,
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    so we try to live wholeheartedly
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    in the present moment,
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    and we don't feel regret later on.
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    So we have the capacity to forgive ourself
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    and to free ourself.
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    And when we are free,
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    we have a lot of space and we can
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    bring joy and happiness to others.
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    Like when I am free
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    I can bring joy and happiness to my Mom.
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    And I stopped (inaudible) communication
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    with my Mom.
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    And I become happy.
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    So compassion first of all,
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    you have to compassion,
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    you have to be compassionate to yourself.
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    Forgive yourself,
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    and embrace yourself.
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    Sometimes we cannot accept ourselves.
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    We feel we are not good enough.
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    We are not beautiful enough.
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    And we become suffering.
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    We are very clumsy.
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    We have a lot of shortcomings.
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    So imagine that we have a child
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    who is not so beautiful,
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    who is also very clumsy.
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    She did a lot of mistakes,
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    and the people disparage her.
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    And she suffers a lot and she cries a lot.
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    So what should we do as her mother?
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    We should embrace her,
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    and telling her that "you are ok."
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    "You are beautiful already in my heart."
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    Right?
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    You don't want to yell at her anymore.
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    You don't want to blame her.
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    You don't want to punish her
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    because she suffers a lot already.
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    You don't want to make her more suffering.
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    So we do the same with ourselves.
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    We suffer a lot already.
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    We don't want to make ourselves suffer more.
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    And we are a mother of ourselves.
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    To embrace our body,
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    to embrace our feelings,
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    to embrace our mind.
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    As a mother, to embrace our child.
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    And we can say to ourself,
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    "You are ok."
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    You don't want to become another person.
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    You don't want to become another
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    and you don't want to become
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    another thing.
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    And the mother is mindfulness.
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    Mindfulness helps you to embrace yourself
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    and calm down your feelings.
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    Calm down your suffering
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    Calm down your mind,
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    until you feel release,
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    until you feel relaxed.
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    Then you have the capacity
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    to help other people to do the same.
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    The people that also
    have a lot of suffering
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    and you can help them
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    to go back to themselves.
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    To accept themselves
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    and to water the
    good seed inside of themselves.
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    Sometimes we both lose something
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    to make us suffer
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    and we become angry
    with that person
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    and sometimes we
    become hatred with that person.
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    And we cannot forgive her or forgive him.
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    And we cannot forgive him
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    because the wound is still here
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    in our body and in our mind.
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    And every time
    we think of that person.
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    give you hurt.
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    You feel painful.
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    So that is why we have
    to go back to our body
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    to take care of the wound.
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    By the breathing, relax our whole body,
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    release the wound.
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    And when you are healed
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    you have the capacity to forgive.
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    If not, there is no way to forgive.
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    Maybe the first time it's easy to forgive.
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    The second time it's easy.
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    But when the person makes the same mistake
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    and cause you suffering,
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    it's really, really difficult.
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    "Why do you keep repeating this thing
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    again and again and again?"
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    And so it is really difficult.
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    And when you see that it's
    really difficult for you to forgive
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    so it means that the wound is still here.
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    But when the wound is healed,
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    you can forgive them easily.
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    And sometimes we don't need to say that
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    "I forgive her."
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    But forgiveness happens naturally,
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    because the wound is gone.
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    Sometimes they make a mistake
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    and you wait for them
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    to say sorry to you.
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    "Why did you make a mistake with me?"
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    "Why did you cause me this suffering?"
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    "But you don't want to say 'sorry" to me?"
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    And we only forgive her or him
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    when they say sorry to us.
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    But they didn't.
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    Why do we have to wait
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    until they say
    sorry to us to free ourself.
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    We have to free ourself first
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    not wait until
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    they say sorry to you.
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    Because maybe it's too late
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    maybe they never say sorry to you.
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    So please don't become the victim.
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    We can overcome the suffering.
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    And when we change, the people will change.
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    But sometimes because of our habit energy
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    we want that person to say sorry to us
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    and they never did it
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    and we suffer forever.
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    So if we are wise, if we are smart
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    So please . . .
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    liberate ourselves as soon as possible.
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    Don't wait for other people to change
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    for us to be happy,
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    for us to be free.
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    So it is a way we love ourself.
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    It is a way to take care of ourself.
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    And by this way we can transform
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    our wounds, our suffering,
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    our obsession into joy and happiness.
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    There is some (inaudible)
    that makes us to
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    obsess.
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    And we don't want to think of it
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    because every time we think of it
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    we suffer a lot.
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    And we don't want to touch it.
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    And when the times come
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    you feel suffering.
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    For example, if we
    have the wound happen
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    during the Christmas time
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    We feel very scared
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    when the Christmas time comes. Right?
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    Because we think of our obsession.
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    We think about the haunting memory.
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    And sometimes we run away
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    from that time.
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    We don't want to free to ourself.
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    If we have the wound happen
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    in the Christmas time we feel
    very scared when Christmas comes.
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    If we have the wound
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    in the new year we feel afraid
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    and scared when the new year comes
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    and we want to run away.
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    But by the way to come back to ourself
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    and heal the wound
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    we can transform the obsession.
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    We can transform the haunting memory.
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    And it becomes the big lessons for us.
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    We can do better, we can behave better
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    in order that we don't create
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    the same mistake again in the future.
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    So, whatever happened
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    if we are mindful,
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    if we are aware of it,
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    it becomes a big lessons for us.
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    And we can do better.
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    And by that way
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    we have the capacity
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    to begin anew,
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    and also we have . . .
    we offer other people opportunity
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    to practice beginning anew.
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    And we look at
    other people with the new eyes
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    We don't judge them,
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    we don't prejudice with them,
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    because they're already changed.
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    And we always look at her past,
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    we overlook his past.
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    And sometimes she wants to change.
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    She wants to change
    but we always look at her past
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    so she doesn't want to continue
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    to practice begin anew.
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    So we understand ourself
    and we can understand
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    other people.
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    So it is the first power
    that you need to nourish yourself.
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    And when the people come to you
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    they feel embraced by us.
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    They feel that they receive
    the forgiveness from us,
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    and they feel peaceful.
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    They can do beginning anew.
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    They can be the start of a new person.
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    And the second power is:
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    Clever.
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    Sometimes we call wisdom
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    or insight.
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    Sometimes we are caught.
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    We are caught in something
    that we cannot overcome.
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    But if we look deeply
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    into the situation
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    we can find the way out.
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    And clever here is not
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    the knowledge that you can
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    find in the book
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    or you can find in the DVD.
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    You can't find in my talk.
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    But this "clever" it comes from yourself.
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    It comes from inside of yourself
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    by your practice
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    in the daily life.
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    And all the lessons we learn (are)
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    the same.
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    You don't see (them) in the book.
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    You cannot learn compassion
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    when you open
    the book and you read it, no.
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    But by the way
    we contact with the people,
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    by the way we
    transform our suffering,
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    so we have the compassion.
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    We cannot learn the patience
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    in the book.
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    Or ways to deal with
    the situation during the day
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    in your relationships
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    then you learn the patience.
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    So it is the same with clever,
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    with insight, we never learn
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    in the book.
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    So it is not the knowledge
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    that you accumulate
    while you (are) reading books
  • 31:51 - 31:53
    or you watch a DVD.
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    You go to the YouTube and search
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    for what you need.
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    But it's not the insight.
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    But the insight
    comes from your experience.
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    And it also comes from your peaceful mind.
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    When you go home to your body,
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    calm down
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    your feeling,
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    calm down your emotion,
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    calm down your mind,
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    so you can see things clearly.
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    So it is the insight.
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    And insight comes up quickly.
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    It's like the thunder.
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    It comes up naturally,
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    quickly.
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    So sometimes we have
    the problem and we don't know how
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    to solve the problem.
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    Try not to think
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    but just go back to yourself.
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    Let your mind become peaceful,
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    and when you are peaceful enough
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    the solution comes up.
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    Of course we need the knowledge
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    because if we don't have the knowledge
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    maybe we don't kn.ow
    how to nourish it
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    We don't know how
    to nourish the insight.
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    For example, if we don't know
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    how to breathe maybe we
    don't breathe properly.
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    We if don't know how to
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    calm down our feeling and our mind
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    maybe we don't know how to do it
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    correctly.
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    So we have to
    learn how to do it.
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    And then we know how to do it
    we have to put it into practice.
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    We have to apply it.
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    And then we have the insight.
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    And sometimes we call it understanding.
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    And if there is .no understanding
    there is no love
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    We cannot love other people
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    if we don't understand them.
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    We may think that we love them
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    but in fact we cause
    them a lot of suffering.
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    As the parents
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    we see our children as our
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    treasured property.
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    We do everything for them.
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    Buy the new thing for them
    buy the new beautiful clothes for them,
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    raise them up.
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    Help them to go to the university,
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    to have the good job,
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    to buy the car for them. And
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    you think that you
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    have done everything for your children.
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    But in fact, you don't
    understand them.
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    You don't know what they want.
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    You don't know their
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    aspirations.
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    And you may never have a chance
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    to listen to them.
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    So you may come back
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    to have a good communication
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    with them to understand
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    your children.
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    And when you understand your children
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    you can bring them
    a lot of joy and happiness.
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    So that is the insight,
    that is the understanding.
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    And you see that your children
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    are your continuation.
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    You take good care of your children
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    is to take good care of your continuation.
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    Then your children can
    bring you to the future.
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    So it is the insight
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    And we have many kinds of insight.
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    Impermanent insight.
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    Non-self insight.
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    Interbeing insight.
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    So we have to learn about
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    impermanence.
    We learn about non-self,
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    we learn about interbeing,
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    we learn about love,
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    and we put them into practice
    in order that we have the
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    insight.
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    And the insight
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    can liberate us.
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    And the third power
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    is courage.
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    The courage
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    to cut through
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    afflictions.
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    Sometimes we call courage
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    sometimes we call
    "cutting through the afflictions"
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    or sometimes
    we call "letting go."
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    We have the courage to let go
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    of our ideas.
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    Sometimes the idea makes us suffer.
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    We think that we are right
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    and the people
    other people are wrong.
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    So it is why
    we are with each other
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    we bring disharmony
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    in our family.
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    I remember that when I was young
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    sometimes my parents
    are with each other
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    and my Mom
    thought that she's right
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    and my father thought that
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    he was right.
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    And both of them were right.
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    But I cannot ask the
    other people's ideas,
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    other people's view.
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    So it is why they cause
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    each other suffering.
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    And they make
    their children suffer.
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    So we have to be courageous
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    to let go of our ideas,
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    even we think that we are right.
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    But if it doesn't bring harmony
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    in our family so we can
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    bring it home
    oh sorry we can
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    let it go.
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    Because it doesn't
    bring happ.iness to each other
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    So maybe we can contemplate
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    to see what we need to let go
  • 39:04 - 39:06
    what we need to cut through.
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    And the first thing
    we need to cut through
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    is our craving.
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    So there are many kinds of craving.
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    We are craving for food, for example.
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    It can bring us a lot of suffering.
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    It is very tasty, very delicious,
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    but it's not good for our health.
  • 39:46 - 39:48
    So maybe we can let go.
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    We desire
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    to have a car,
  • 39:56 - 39:57
    a beautiful car.
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    And we do a lot of work,
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    we work hard to earn
    money to buy a car.
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    But, in fact, that when we have the car
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    we are not so happy.
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    We accumulate more
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    tension . . .
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    stress.
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    And when we are
    tense-ful and stressed
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    we make other people suffer also.
  • 40:25 - 40:27
    But we may not realize that.
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    And somethings
    that we think that if we have them
  • 40:34 - 40:35
    we are happy,
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    but in fact that when
    we have them, we are not happy.
  • 40:41 - 40:43
    So we have to look deeply to see
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    what kind of desire we have
  • 40:48 - 40:51
    that doesn't bring us happiness,
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    but we think that it
    will bring us happiness.
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    And we have to be courageous to let
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    them . . . . go away.
  • 41:02 - 41:04
    We have to let go.
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    It is the same with the material things
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    and spiritual things also.
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    We have to let go.
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    So . . .
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    when we look deeply
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    into the things
    and we can realize that
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    maybe the simple life is the best for us.
  • 41:34 - 41:37
    We don't need to have
    much things to be happy.
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    We live simply,
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    where we have time for ourselves,
  • 41:46 - 41:48
    we have time for our beloved one.
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    Sometimes we feel tense.
  • 41:54 - 41:56
    We feel stressful
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    but we don't have time to relax.
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    We do thing after thing.
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    And we think that when we finish
    these things we have opportunity to relax,
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    to rest.
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    But in fact when we finish
    one thing we have another thing to do.
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    And we never had the chance
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    to relax and to rest.
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    And even when we go to the vacation,
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    we also do a lot of things,
  • 42:33 - 42:35
    arrange a lot of things,
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    for us to relax,
    but in fact we accumulate more
  • 42:38 - 42:42
    tension . . . in our body and in our mind.
  • 42:56 - 42:58
    We want to have a big house
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    but in fact that when
    we have a big house
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    we are not happy.
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    But if you have time
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    you have everything.
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    And people say time is gold,
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    but our teacher says that time is our life.
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    We have to enjoy our time
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    as we enjoy our life.
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    And the second thing that we
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    want to cut through is
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    anger,
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    or hatred.
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    Anger is a big thing
    that. we have to deal with
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    Because of anger we also
    create a lot of suffering
  • 44:21 - 44:23
    for each other.
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    And when we are angry
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    we think that we are right
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    so it is why we're angry
    with other people.
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    They did something wrong
    they make us suffer.
  • 44:40 - 44:43
    Why they do like this?
    Why they say like that?
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    and because of that we're angry with that.
  • 44:47 - 44:50
    But the same method to go back to our home
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    to our body and feel it.
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    To take care of our body and feelings.
  • 44:56 - 44:58
    We take good care of our anger.
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    We embrace our anger,
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    calm down our anger,
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    and to free ourself.
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    When I do sitting meditation
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    I scan my whole body.
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    Aware of my whole body
  • 45:21 - 45:23
    from my breathing,
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    to my face,
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    my shoulders,
  • 45:27 - 45:29
    my arms,
  • 45:29 - 45:31
    my back, my legs,
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    my fingers,
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    my toes,
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    my intestines,
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    my liver, my heart.
  • 45:41 - 45:43
    So I scan my whole body.
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    And then I scan all
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    members
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    in the community.
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    In my sangha,
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    to see if I'm angry with anyone.
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    And then I scan all the people
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    with other hamlets with other sanghas.
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    With my family to see if I'm angry,
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    if I'm angry with anyone.
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    And the moment that I feel
    I'm not angry with anyone I feel so happy.
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    I feel so free.
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    So just the fact
    that we are not angry with anyone,
  • 46:24 - 46:25
    we're already happy.
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    So you may
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    do the same
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    when you have free time.
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    To think of yourself,
    think of other people
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    and see if you are angry with anyone.
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    And then the moment you feel
    that you are not angry with anyone,
  • 46:50 - 46:52
    you free yourself.
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    You liberate yourself,
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    and you become happy,
  • 46:59 - 47:02
    like you are the
    happiest person in the world.
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    And the same with the other mind.
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    If you have the jealousy,
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    and when you do
    sitting meditation you also scan
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    everyone
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    in your family or in the community.
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    And that moment
    you don't feel jealous with anyone,
  • 47:25 - 47:26
    you feel so happy.
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    And you can do like that
    with any kind of mind
  • 47:33 - 47:37
    that bothers you, that makes you unhappy.
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    And then you sustain
    the sitting meditation time,
  • 47:42 - 47:44
    all of the day.
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    Like when you do the work,
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    when you cook in the kitchen,
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    when you do washing,
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    when you take a walk.
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    So you sustain it
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    and you also feel happy,
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    and your happiness becomes huge.
  • 48:04 - 48:08
    And all day long you feel happy.
  • 48:08 - 48:10
    And if you can do for one day,
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    you can do for the second day,
    the third day, the fourth day,
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    a month, a year
  • 48:16 - 48:18
    and maybe forever.
  • 48:19 - 48:21
    And you can master yourself.
  • 48:22 - 48:24
    So . . .
  • 48:25 - 48:28
    anger or hatred
    is only ,one kind of mind
  • 48:28 - 48:32
    but with every kind of mind
    you can do the same.
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    And the third is ignorance.
  • 48:57 - 49:00
    With the insight of wisdom
  • 49:00 - 49:03
    we have to look deeply into things.
  • 49:04 - 49:06
    We have to look deeply into the situation
  • 49:07 - 49:09
    to understand the situation better.
  • 49:13 - 49:15
    And when we understand
  • 49:16 - 49:17
    the situation
  • 49:18 - 49:20
    we can free ourselves.
  • 49:24 - 49:27
    We suffer because
    we don't see things clearly.
  • 49:29 - 49:31
    We know nothing.
  • 49:33 - 49:34
    We're ignorant
  • 49:35 - 49:36
    about things,
  • 49:36 - 49:38
    about reality.
  • 49:41 - 49:45
    So we have to cut through ignorance.
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    We have to cut through ignorance
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    in order that we can free ourselves.
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    Sometimes we need friends to help us
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    because we don't see things clearly.
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    But we thought that we see things clearly.
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    It is very dangerous
    s.ometimes we need help
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    We can ask our friend
    who has experience in the practice
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    to show us the way, to help us.
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    In our community we say that
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    the individual insight
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    is not
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    as good as community insight.
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    So we need
    the collective insight to help us.
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    So when we have the difficulty
    please ask for help.
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    Because the (inaudible) is very dangerous.
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    We think that they are wrong,
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    and we are right.
    It's very dangerous,
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    so please ask for help.
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    So we go back to ourself
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    go back to our home
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    to see what kind of garbage
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    that you want (to) throw them away
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    by this kind of method.
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    And what kind of flower you want to plant
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    in order that we can welcome the new year.
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    (Bell rings gently)
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    (Bell rings)
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    Sometimes we can
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    we can let go of the big thing
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    but we cannot let go of the small thing.
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    And we turn the small thing
    into the big thing, the big deal.
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    I don't know if you read the magazines
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    New . . . .
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    New York Times
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    There is an article
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    with the title
    "Is he ever going to put away that shirt?"
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    It's very interesting.
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    It is written by
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    Brenda Chadowitz.
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    She tells about the shirt
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    of her husband.
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    The shirt was left
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    on the . . .upstairs in the hallway
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    for many days
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    and he didn't take it away.
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    And when she saw the shirt
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    she felt very irritated.
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    She says that "Why, my husband
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    didn't clean up,
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    didn't take it away?"
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    And she wanted to clean up
    she wanted to take it away.
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    And it only took a few steps
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    to take it, to put it in the cabinet.
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    But she didn't do it
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    because she didn't want
    to become the person who
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    cleans up after him,
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    to pick up after him.
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    Because she has two children
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    to take care of
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    and she always
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    cleaned up things for her children.
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    Pick up after her children.
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    So, it is why she doesn't want
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    to pick up things after him.
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    But everyday
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    she became more and more irritated.
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    And she told her Mom
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    and her Mom said that
    because her husband is the doctor
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    and he's busy so take it away.
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    But she doesn't want to
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    and she come to the therapy
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    (Laughs)
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    but it doesn't help.
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    She told her friend
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    it also doesn't help.
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    And she remembered the moment that
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    her husband
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    did a lot of things.
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    Clean up the house,
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    throw the garbage,
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    (inaudible).
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    And there were some very difficult moments.
  • 56:24 - 56:25
    Her husband
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    comfort her,
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    help her to go out of the fear
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    of the suffering,
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    of the worries.
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    But still
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    she still suffered because of that shirt.
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    And she paid attention
    to that shirt to see if it's moved
  • 56:53 - 56:55
    (Laughs)
    But it's difficult, huh?
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    Day by day,
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    for six minutes.
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    (Audience laughs)
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    And one day she saw it was gone.
  • 57:08 - 57:14
    And she asked her husband
    "You took the shirt away?"
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    And her husband said that
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    "What . . . what kind of shirt?"
  • 57:20 - 57:22
    (Gentle laughter)
  • 57:22 - 57:24
    And he said
    "That shirt on the upstairs?
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    And he said, "Yes"
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    I cleaned up this morning
    I took them away.
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    And I also
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    took off the socks.
  • 57:41 - 57:42
    And she asked
  • 57:43 - 57:44
    "What kind of socks?"
  • 57:44 - 57:47
    (Laughter)
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    In fact the socks that she
    wants to wear when she do exercise
  • 57:54 - 57:55
    She put the . . .
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    aside and she didn't use it and she
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    leave them there for many days.
  • 58:03 - 58:05
    Maybe many months.
  • 58:07 - 58:10
    But before that she so surprised why
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    her husband didn't pay attention
  • 58:13 - 58:15
    to the shirt.
  • 58:15 - 58:18
    And she feel that it
    seemed that it like nothing
  • 58:18 - 58:21
    but it has become a big deal for her.
  • 58:26 - 58:27
    But when she realized that
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    I think she feel free.
  • 58:31 - 58:33
    She may laugh to herself.
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    It is very human, huh?
  • 58:42 - 58:44
    It's very mundane
  • 58:45 - 58:47
    but sometimes it's very . . .
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    I think that everyone,
  • 58:52 - 58:53
    sometimes we
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    share the same situation
  • 58:56 - 58:58
    with her.
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    Sometimes we can deal with the big thing
  • 59:03 - 59:06
    but with the small thing.
    We cannot overcome it,
  • 59:10 - 59:12
    and it causes us a lot of suffering.
  • 59:13 - 59:16
    Why we have to worry until six months
  • 59:17 - 59:18
    to liberate ourselves?
  • 59:19 - 59:22
    Instead it can take
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    few seconds
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    to take it away
  • 59:27 - 59:30
    and we free ourselves of six months.
  • 59:36 - 59:38
    So maybe it is an invitation.
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    That I would like to invite you
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    to look deeply into yourself.
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    To see what bothers you, what ties you up
  • 59:51 - 59:54
    that allows you to be happy, to be free.
  • 59:58 - 59:59
    And we don't worry
  • 60:01 - 60:04
    until six months later to free ourselves.
  • 60:05 - 60:07
    We don't worry until
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    our husband took away
    the shirt for us to be free.
  • 60:13 - 60:17
    We can do it
    because it's very little thing.
  • 60:28 - 60:30
    Sometimes, there is something happen
  • 60:31 - 60:34
    that we don't like it.
  • 60:35 - 60:38
    Our mind attaches to that.
  • 60:38 - 60:41
    Our mind goes right to the object.
  • 60:42 - 60:46
    And it carries us away and
    it prevent us to be happy.
  • 60:49 - 60:52
    So we have to go back to ourself
  • 60:55 - 60:57
    and concentrate on our breathing.
  • 60:57 - 61:00
    Concentrate on our mind,
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    in our body,
  • 61:05 - 61:08
    in order that we can stop thinking.
  • 61:09 - 61:14
    We can stop directing our mind
    to the object that we don't like.
  • 61:16 - 61:17
    We cut off
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    the thing that prevents us to be happy.
  • 61:25 - 61:28
    Direct our mind back to our body.
  • 61:31 - 61:33
    And when we go back to our body,
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    we also see clearly
  • 61:37 - 61:39
    that we also have some mistakes.
  • 61:45 - 61:46
    In the . . .
  • 61:47 - 61:50
    Dhammapada Sutra
    (Vietnamese words)
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    the Buddha also said that
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    Easy seeing . . . .
    easy seeing are others faults.
  • 62:00 - 62:04
    Hard indeed to see one's own.
  • 62:05 - 62:07
    Like just one
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    we know others faults
  • 62:13 - 62:17
    but one's own faults, one hides.
  • 62:19 - 62:20
    As the crafty
  • 62:21 - 62:22
    gambler
  • 62:23 - 62:26
    conceals his gambling scars.
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    (Speaking vietnamese)
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    So easy to see the mistakes
  • 62:50 - 62:52
    of other people.
  • 62:53 - 62:56
    But for our own
    it's really difficult to see it.
  • 62:59 - 63:02
    So during the daily life
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    if you only see the
    mistakes of the other people.
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    So maybe our practice is strong,
  • 63:11 - 63:15
    you have to go back
    to ourselves to see our mistakes.
  • 63:15 - 63:18
    And the more mistakes we see,
  • 63:18 - 63:20
    the better we are.
  • 63:20 - 63:22
    Because we see
  • 63:22 - 63:24
    ourselves clearly.
  • 63:25 - 63:28
    Not because the more we practice
    the more mistakes we create
  • 63:29 - 63:31
    but the more practice, the more
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    clearly we see ourselves.
  • 63:37 - 63:39
    And when we see ourselves clearly
  • 63:39 - 63:42
    it's really easy for us to
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    forgive other people.
  • 63:49 - 63:52
    So mistakes are sometimes very precious.
  • 63:54 - 63:58
    If you don't do mistakes
  • 63:59 - 64:04
    maybe it's really difficult
    for you to forgive other people.
  • 64:06 - 64:08
    But when you have the mistake
  • 64:10 - 64:13
    it's easy for you to forgive
  • 64:13 - 64:14
    other people.
  • 64:20 - 64:23
    So it is why the Buddha always
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    advises us to go back to ourselves
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    to see ourselves clearly.
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    And if we see ourselves clearly
  • 64:47 - 64:51
    we can help other people
    to see themselves clearly too.
  • 64:53 - 64:55
    Outside it's very beautiful
  • 64:56 - 64:59
    Today we are lucky to have the sunshine
  • 65:01 - 65:03
    so maybe . . .
  • 65:03 - 65:06
    we stop here to enjoy the sunshine.
  • 65:06 - 65:09
    (Laughter).
  • 65:09 - 65:13
    But one more time, I would like
    to invite you to go back home
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    the physical home,
  • 65:16 - 65:18
    home here and home
  • 65:19 - 65:20
    in your family.
  • 65:21 - 65:22
    To clean up
  • 65:23 - 65:26
    your home and to plant a flower
  • 65:26 - 65:29
    in your garden to
    welcome the new year.
  • 65:30 - 65:32
    And . . .
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    of course we can plan.t
    many kinds of flowers
  • 65:37 - 65:39
    And every kind of flower
    they need different water,
  • 65:39 - 65:42
    different ingredients,
  • 65:43 - 65:44
    different manure.
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    So we can learn
    in order that we can plant
  • 65:49 - 65:50
    good flowers.
  • 65:51 - 65:53
    So we can do the same
  • 65:53 - 65:56
    we can plant in the garden of our mind
  • 65:56 - 65:59
    many kinds of flowers.
    Flowers of compassion,
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    of love, of forgiveness.
  • 66:02 - 66:06
    Of peace, joy, harmony, (unaudible)
  • 66:07 - 66:10
    and then we can plant a garden.
  • 66:10 - 66:14
    And sometimes our garden is not so
  • 66:14 - 66:17
    clean.
    It's not so in order
  • 66:18 - 66:21
    because we don't
    take good care of our garden.
  • 66:23 - 66:24
    And it becomes wiry.
  • 66:25 - 66:27
    And sometimes we
    go back to our garden
  • 66:27 - 66:30
    and our garden becomes
  • 66:31 - 66:32
    very dirty.
  • 66:33 - 66:37
    And we become bored
    when we see our garden.
  • 66:39 - 66:40
    And we worry
  • 66:41 - 66:43
    we don't know where we can start.
  • 66:47 - 66:51
    So if this is your situation,
  • 66:51 - 66:53
    to smile to your garden.
  • 66:55 - 66:57
    And we can be brave,
  • 66:58 - 67:00
    we can be courageous.
    to take care of that
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    And we look around to see in the garden
  • 67:05 - 67:07
    if there are any trees still alive.
  • 67:08 - 67:10
    So we can start from that tree.
  • 67:14 - 67:18
    And we take good care
    of that tree and we enjoy that tree.
  • 67:18 - 67:20
    And then from that tree
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    so we can sustain
  • 67:23 - 67:27
    to take care of
    other places in the garden.
  • 67:28 - 67:31
    So it is the same with
    the garden of our mind.
  • 67:31 - 67:34
    Sometimes we feel
  • 67:34 - 67:37
    unease with our mind.
  • 67:38 - 67:41
    But if we see that we
    still have the compassion.
  • 67:41 - 67:43
    it's good already.
  • 67:43 - 67:47
    If it's still alive we go back
    to take care of our compassion.
  • 67:48 - 67:51
    And make it bigger,
    make it stronger.
  • 67:53 - 67:57
    We can love,
    share our love to other people.
  • 67:59 - 68:01
    Feel compassionate to other people.
  • 68:02 - 68:03
    Feel compassionate
    to other's suffering,
  • 68:04 - 68:06
    other people's suffering.
  • 68:07 - 68:10
    And then we sustain to
  • 68:10 - 68:14
    other trees, love, forgiveness
  • 68:14 - 68:18
    understanding actual, and we make our
  • 68:18 - 68:22
    garden become more beautiful.
  • 68:24 - 68:26
    Become bright.
  • 68:26 - 68:29
    So I wish you a safe trip home
  • 68:30 - 68:33
    to take good care of your garden.
  • 68:34 - 68:36
    To clean up your
  • 68:37 - 68:38
    home,
  • 68:38 - 68:40
    with joy and happiness
  • 68:40 - 68:42
    to celebrate a new year.
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    Wherever you are
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    and enjoy the happy new year.
  • 68:49 - 68:53
    Thank you so much for your listening.
  • 68:55 - 68:59
    (Bell rings)
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    (Bell rings)
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    (Silence)
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    (Bell rings)
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    (Silence)
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    (Bell rings)
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    (Silence)
  • 71:21 - 71:23
    (Light bell rings)
Title:
Three Powers - by sister Hội Nghiêm - 2019.12.27
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