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Make a time and place for healing.
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Whether or not we have sympathetic supporters for our healing.
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We always have ourselves.
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We can be our own soulmate.
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Choose a place and time to be with yourself
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and reflect on healing for just 15 minutes daily.
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Meditation instruction will come later.
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But for now, just think of finding time in your day.
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Sometimes it is helpful to reserve time for reflection at the beginning
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or the end of each day on waking or when going to bed.
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Think of it as an appointment with your soulmate.
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You may like to sit up to reflect in a special place,
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like in front of an altar,
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or you may like to lie down and relax.
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You may like to stand under a tree,
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or to take a regular walk outdoors.
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In a retreat in the Plum Village tradition,
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we create time for meditation in all four of these postures,
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sitting meditation, deep relaxation,
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standing meditation and walking meditation.
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Think about how you would like to practice.
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Find a notebook to write in
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and keep it by your bedside or on your desk.
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If writing is difficult,
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you may find an app on your phone,
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in which you can record your voice,
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which then transcribes your words for you to read at a later time.
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Your writing may take place as a journal,
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a poem or a story,
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whichever form is most fluid for you at the moment.
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Bringing poetry and music into your practice
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can infuse your being with joy, lightness and mindfulness.
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Let yourself create freely
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without the need for form or appraisal.
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This is time for yourself.
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Set an intention for healing during this special time in your day,
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when you will practice self-love
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and self reflection.
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Identify who in your family
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or circle of friends may be safe to share with
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in a one on one conversation.
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If there is no one with whom you feel safe,
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don't feel alone.
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Many survivors are in this position.
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This is just an indication
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that you may need to look outside of your current community for support
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and companionship on the path.
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In this case, consider joining a group
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dedicated to healing from trauma.
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Your Sangha,
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the Buddhist word for spiritual community
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is also a wonderful source of support.
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The collective energy of practitioners
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can help us gradually feel safe in our ourselves
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and in the presence of others.
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This is essential to our healing.