OSHO: Marriage and Children

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Marriage and Children

Have you ever come close to getting married?

No, never.

I have been against marriage from the very beginning,

because it means

cutting down your freedom.

Getting

attached

legally to a woman or to a man, no

Freedom to me

is the ultimate value,

there is nothing higher than freedom.

It was difficult,

because I was fighting from the very beginning.

My parents were in difficulty,

my family was in difficulty,

but I told them absolutely clearly

that I was not going to be married.

They would have been perfectly happy

if I had been going to be a celibate monk.

. I said, "No,

I am not going to be a celibate monk either."

That was their trouble:

if I was going to be a celibate monk

they would be happy.

In fact,

they would have felt proud

that their son had become a great monk.

I said, "No,

both are ditches.

I am going to walk just in the middle,

on the razor's edge."

And I have enjoyed the walk

tremendously.

So, what would you say now to all the people in the world who are married? Should they all get divorced?

Everybody should get divorced,

without exception.

People should meet and love each other,

occasionally,

as opportunity comes.

There should be no

ugly

state

when a wife has to make love to a man

whom she does not

love anymore,

but she has

to fulfill her duty.

The husband is fulfilling his duty:

while he is making love to the woman he may be thinking of some other woman,

she may be thinking of some other man.

What kind of neurotic society have you created?

If you don't love each other

at least be

human

and say frankly

that it was beautiful to be together, but now it is finished.

Say goodbye.

I would like

marriage to disappear completely from the world,

and with marriage,

divorce will disappear.

With marriage, prostitution will disappear.

With marriage,

most of the work of the priest will disappear.

With marriage,

almost ninety-nine percent

of the work of psychoanalysts, therapists,

psychiatrists will disappear.

It is marriage that is creating all kinds of psychological

perversions,

repressions,

guilt.

It is simply human:

you see a beautiful woman

and you would like to have some time with her.

It does not need any God's permission

even your God

committed

rape with

the Virgin Mary,

without her consent.

Do you believe that story?

I just believe that story

because it proves that your God is a rapist;

otherwise, I don't believe in the story.

Jesus must be a bastard

it is certain he was not the son of Joseph,

and just to cover up the whole thing,

that great story has been invented.

He got God to do the job!

They say God

is a trinity:

God, the Holy Ghost and the Son.

The Holy Ghost did it,

but he is part of God.

It is just like my hand

is part of me

and your genitals are part of you

the Holy Ghost is part of God, perhaps he is his genitals.

Otherwise, how could he manage to make a virgin girl

pregnant?

What about family responsibilities, the married partners' responsibility to their children?

Children should be the responsibility of the commune,

not of the family.

It is the family which creates

tremendous problems

in the children's minds.

It gives them all their sickness,

all their

superstitions,

all their

stupid ideas,

theologies, religion, political parties.

It enforces on the child.

The child has to be freed from the family. If you want a new man,

then the family is an ugly institution,

its time is over.

It should be replaced by the commune,

and then it is very easy -- the commune takes care of all the children.

There will be the father, the mother; they can meet the child, the child can come to them.

But basically

it is the responsibility of the commune to take care of the children.

The children will have many uncles and many aunts,

and they will have more opportunity for human contact with different types of people.

They will be immensely enriched.

Our children are

very impoverished;

they know only one man, one woman,

and they know the constant quarrel between the two.

The woman is nagging the husband;

the husband is beating the woman.

And this is what you are training them for:

your boy will repeat you;

he will knowingly or unknowingly be your carbon copy.

Your daughter will repeat your wife,

knowingly or unknowingly.

That's why no son can ever forgive his father,

and no daughter can ever forgive her mother.

They destroyed

their lives.

It is

absolutely

a psychologically proved phenomenon.

But if

the commune takes care,

then they will have experience of so many different kinds of people.

It is my experience

that every person is so unique

that the more

contacts, intimacies,

love affairs

you have,

the richer you will be