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Welcome to this next lesson in the Pioneer School, lesson 25.
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Today we are taking the next step.
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It's time to build churches.
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It's time to build new churches
on a new foundation.
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We still want to see a reformation
of the church that is already there,
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but it's really time to build something new.
And I was looking forward to this moment,
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to do this teaching,
to talk about church.
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What is the church?
Where church is like a family
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but where most people have grown up
in church like an an orphanage.
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In this lesson we will look at church as a family
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and we'll see that one model does not work for all families.
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Every family is different and you can not use one model for all.
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You can not use a church model and use that for all churches.
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See this lesson, I hope it will bless you,
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challenge you, and create a longing in you
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to be the church that God wants us to be.
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Hello everyone and welcome to lesson 25 of the Pioneer School.
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It's half a year since I did the last lesson of the Pioneer School
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and a lot has happened since then.
We have moved to a new place,
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we are now at the Jesus Center, in Denmark,
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1h30 from Aalborg, where we were living before.
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We released the movie "7 days of adventure with God"
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and many people have been changed through that movie.
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And in a few days, we'll release the next film, "The Last Reformation - The Life"
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A lot of things have happened since I did the last lesson of the Pioneer School.
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I'm excited about life, about what God is doing.
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And we are learning so much.
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We are seeing so many lives changed!
More than I dreamed, many years ago,
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to see lives getting changed.
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We meet many people who are starting
with going on YouTube
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and then suddenly seeing the movie
"The Last Reformation - The Beginning".
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Then they get challenged and provoked,
but long for more.
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Then they find the online Pioneer School,
you're looking at now,
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and they start this journey with us,
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they join PTS training or kickstart.
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And it's just beautiful to see what God is doing.
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But as I said, we're learning a lot of things
God is doing new things.
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And we really believe
that now it's time to take the next step.
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It's time to build churches.
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It's time to build new churches,
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new fellowships, on a new foundation.
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I would want to say that the name "The Last Reformation",
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is because we want to see a reformation of the church.
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And we have been trying to do that.
We tried to reform the church we already have.
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We've been trying to reform the church through different ways.
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We worked with pastors who came to us and said,
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"I want to reform my church,
can you help us? How can we do that?"
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We worked with elders who wanted to reform their church, or with members.
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And it's not easy. I want to say it: it's not easy!
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Many times we have experienced that they
have tried to change that old system,
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but without success.
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In some cases, the pastor was fired.
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In some cases, the elders left the church
or the members needed to leave the church.
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Or in some cases, it actually looked
like it is going to be a split.
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And every time I see that, I sometimes think, like:
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"Jesus, when do we learn? When do we learn
to understand what you are saying? "
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Because what do we read
that Jesus is saying? He says:
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"Neither you put new wine into old wine skins,
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else, the skin bursts, and the wine is spilled
and the skin perished,
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but you put new wine into fresh wine skins, and both are preserved. "
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This is what Jesus says in Matthew 9:17.
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Jesus said you do take this new wine
and put it into old wine skins. Why?
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Because the old wine skin can not handle it.
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And if you try to do that, the skin is
destroyed and the new wine is spilled.
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So to preserve the new wine, what God
is doing, you need new wine skins.
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And I don't say that everyone who has a church building, a Sunday meeting, etc. is the old wine skin.
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There are people out there who really are the new wine
and who want to be transformed and see a reformation.
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But I just want to say, it's not easy.
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It's our experience: it's not easy. We will continue to try to reform the church,
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we will continue to work with the churches
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and we will continue to try to see this reform.
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More ...
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at the same time, it's really time to build something new too.
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It's time to build from scratch,
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on new foundations.
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instead of "only" spending our time and energy reforming the old system
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My friends and I talked a lot about it, prayed a lot for that,
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and we know that a lot of people are following us
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may have left the church, or else have been saved and are not in an institutional church.
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People came to be kickstarted and really experienced this life.
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And many ask, "Now what?"
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"And now? I'm no longer in a church or in a community,
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I left her, or I never attended and I do not integrate in what I see, so what to do?
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What is the next step? "
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That's what I'd like to talk about now and in the next lessons from Pioneer School.
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It will be about the church.
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I want to help you remove those religious glasses again
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and challenge yourself with regard to the church.
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How can we come to see the true church of which the Bible and Jesus speak?
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So I hope you're ready to be challenged, ready for the next church lessons
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and I hope this will bring freedom to many of you
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and that it will also be a foundation for you,
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so that you have something to start and you can say, "That's what we want,
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that's what we can do. "Then bring people together so that together they build
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these communities, churches, groups - call it what you like - from the New Testament.
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So I hope you're ready, I'll start with prayer.
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God, thank you for what you're doing, thank you for the extraordinary things happening in the world
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and what we are allowed to see.
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Jesus, we know there is more. There is more than going on the streets,
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that the kickstart, than to lead people to Christ,
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there is the church. And we want everything.
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We want to see New Testament churches appear everywhere.
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I pray that you help me share this message
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and I pray for those who watch, that you open their eyes and ears to receive the message
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and that it is a foundation on which we can build in the future.
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Come with your Holy Spirit, in the name of Jesus. Amen.
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I'd like to start by talking about things I've talked about before
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because I want to continue building
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on some things we talked about in the first 20 lessons.
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In lesson 17, I talked a little about the church
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and we had this.
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I was talking about the church ...
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and two legs, so to speak, on which she is built.
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The first is the great commandment
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and the other is the big commission.
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We have the great commandment: love God and love your neighbor.
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That's what Jesus says, that's where the Fa is built.
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Love God with all your being and love your neighbor as yourself.
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This is the great commandment.
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Then we have the great commission: Go, and make disciples.
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This is a definition of what the church is:
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people who gather, who love God with all their being
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who love each other, who love their neighbor as themselves
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and who will make disciples.
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So, if we put the church in a box,
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it becomes building, staff, program and budget.
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The early church loved God, loved his neighbor, and made disciples
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without building, staff, program or budget.
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You can use your house, you can do that without all these things.
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I'm not saying we should not have a building, we have one ourselves
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and Paul was preaching in a building, but that's not what defines a church.
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The church is these things.
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In lesson 17, I also speak of a problem that I see in the church today:
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By our way of doing church, there is 10% doing all the work
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and they are very, very busy. 30% are frustrated
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because they wonder when their turn will come. They also want to be used by God.
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So 30% are frustrated and yearning for more.
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Then 60% who have ever been frustrated
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but who have given up their call, their vision.
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Now they are just going to church. They lost the first love and they move away.
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For to go away is not to leave the church; the church is the last thing you leave.
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To go away is to give up the first love.
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I talked about all this, so we need church reform.
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But you'll know more by watching lesson 17.
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In lesson 18, I spoke about Jesus' vision for the church.
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Luke 10. Not that my will be done, but his. This is his vision.
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It's not our vision and what we think is the church,
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but to determine what He sees as the church,
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then do it in his own way.
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If you have not seen these lessons yet, I encourage you to watch them
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because I will continue and build on some of these foundations for the future.
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What is the church?
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How is the church done?
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That's a good question.
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Many already know that this is not the meeting, the building or the institution.
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Many already know it so I will not talk about it now.
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I'll try to show another image of the church,
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a beautiful image that shows what God was thinking when he was thinking of the church.
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That's ... the family.
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The church is a family.
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The church is ...
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a family is like a family.
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What defines a family?
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We are all born in a family.
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In the flesh we are born into a family.
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We have a mother, a father, brothers and sisters.
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And the family is the project of God
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for us so that we grow up, become mature
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left the house and found our own family.
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So God's plan for us, the humans,
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growing up in the natural is the family.
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This is the purpose of God.
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And the idea itself is fantastic!
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May God have conceived everything, with a mother and a father
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where the mother was supposed to create security
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so that we can think: "Everything is fine because mom is there, she loves us, she is here for us."
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And with a father to give confidence.
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"Go, my son, you can do it!" "Go, my daughter, you are beautiful, my princess!"
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A father and a mother create something in us.
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Then we have brothers and sisters with whom we grow up.
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The family is the purpose of God. Now I know
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that many of us grew up in a family that was not perfect.
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Maybe you grew up without a father or brothers and sisters,
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maybe you did not have a close relationship with your mother.
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But in the natural, since the creation, it was supposed to be like that.
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That we grow up in an environment with a father, a mother, brothers and sisters.
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A family.
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This is the perfect idea of God.
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Even in a perfect family, people argue,
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Even in a perfect family, there are sometimes problems, challenges.
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But you forgive yourself and love yourself anyway, for you are a family.
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So even the perfect family is never enough.
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I believe it's God's plan for us humans to grow up in a family.
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Some have grown up without families, some without mothers or father,
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or grew up in an orphanage.
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Without any parent,
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but instead have had leaders,
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leaders who do their work and then return to their own families.
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And that's how many people have lived in the church - I'll talk about it later -
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not like a family with parents,
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but as an orphanage with rulers.
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And there is really a very, very big difference
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between living in an orphanage with leaders and in a family with parents.
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But I'll come back to it. I will start by saying that God wants the family.
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The family is the purpose of God.
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God is our Father.
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Jesus is our savior but also our brother.
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We are all brothers and sisters. We are a family.
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A family is a setting in which you are born, or adopted.
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And for our good, when we are born again, we are born in the family of God.
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John 1:12says:
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"But to all who have received it, to those who believe in his name,
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she gave the power to become children of God,
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which are born not of blood, nor of the will of the flesh,
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neither of the will of man, but of God. "
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When you are born again, you become a child of God,
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you enter the family of God, the true family.
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In Matthew 12, Jesus spoke of the family when his mother and his brothers came to him.
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They thought that Jesus had lost his head, that he was mad.
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He was teaching and someone said to him,
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"Jesus, your mother and your brothers are outside, they want to talk to you."
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Jesus answered him, "Who is my mother, and who are my brothers?"
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Then he pointed to his disciples and said,
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"See, my mother and my brothers are here.
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For he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven is my brother, my sister, or my mother. "
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Imagine Jesus ...
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Put yourself in the place of the mother or brothers of Jesus.
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They come to talk to Jesus. They think he lost his mind at that moment.
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They come as families, close to Jesus.
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The brothers, the mother. And Jesus said to all who are present:
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"Who is my family? In fact, they are not those people.
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These are these people. That's my real family. "
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It seems so radical that Jesus saw these people as his true family.
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There's a saying in Denmark ... -I think it's used everywhere-
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"Blood is thicker than water."
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What does that mean?
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That the family is stronger than friendship.
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What people mean by that is that the family always comes first.
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It's good to have friends, but if you had to choose between friends and family,
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it would be the family, because it is more important,
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deeper, or stronger. The blood is thicker than the water.
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But what about the mind?
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The mind is thicker than the other two.
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The mind is thicker in many ways. We become a spirit.
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And I would like to say that the idea of God with the church,
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it's really not a membership, where we become members of the same institution,
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of the same church,
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being obliged to love one another because one frequents the same church:
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p.m. "Hello! Hello! How are you? Good thanks. Everything is fine? Yes everything is fine."
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People do not communicate. The idea of God with the church is a family.
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Something that brings us together,
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which is even deeper than what one lives with the natural family,
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especially if they are not born again because if you are a family born again
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so of course it's even more special.
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I want to start by saying that ...
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personally, I was in a church,
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I helped start a church and then another church
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before you start to taste
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to the church as a family.
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You can be in a church all your life help start churches, without ever experimenting
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the true church, which is a family.
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And I'm not saying we're here because we're learning and growing up.
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But what we see now, I think it's extraordinary.
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We see a family!
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We're starting to see this in a really beautiful way.
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It's not a membership in an institution, it's a family and a spirit.
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And this family is so much stronger
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than anything else.
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If you look at this: Family and Orphanage
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There is a very, very big difference between the two.
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As I said, the family has parents.
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The vocation of parents in life is their children.
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The orphanage has leaders. Their role is to do a good job.
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But when this job is done,
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they go home to their families, those people they really love,
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those people for whom they would be willing to give their lives.
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But in a family, as parents you have a goal: your children.
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It's not about you, but about your children.
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Your goal is to see your children healthy, to see them grow up,
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to see them be independent,
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to see them leave the house, have children,
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to see your mature children.
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People do not just make children just for fun, they take it seriously.
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And it takes all their time.
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Many of us have never experienced this.
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Many have experimented
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the church as an orphanage, with rulers.
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No parents, many leaders,
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with a lot of control and rules, and little time for everyone
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because in an orphanage there are some leaders and many, many children.
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We do not really have time to get to know each other.
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Many of us have experienced the church, which is more of a program than a life,
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where one speaks, grows up, as one does in a family.
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Since working with churches and building communities,
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there is a recurring problem,
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is that people come from an orphanage church
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in which they were wounded. And this wound, this bitterness
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is there, and it generates fear in people, who are afraid to submit again.
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They are afraid to submit and to be hurt again. They are afraid of ...
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They want to be independent in a way that is not healthy.
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We can not be the church alone.
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You can not be the church alone.
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None of us is the body of Christ alone, we are all a member of the body
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and we really need each other.
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We can not grow alone,
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we need each other, we need to experience the true church.
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The question is:
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How to become a family?
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How to become this true church?
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If you're at home and want to start a New Testament church,
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If you want to experience this family of which the Bible speaks, this church ...
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how to do?
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The first thing, and some people will think it's obvious but ...
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People think they know it, but it's not the case.
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The first thing to experience this unity, this life, this family
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is that you must be born again.
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People must be born again and have the same spirit.
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You can not be one with people who do not have the same spirit.
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This is not possible because it is a unity in spirit.
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Not in the blood, but in spirit.
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And you can not be one with people who do not have the same spirit.
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And I see there a big problem with the churches today because as I said before,
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Many of those who attend churches are not really born again.
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Many of those who attend churches are not really born again.
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So you can not have this unity in mind.
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You can not have that if people do not have the same spirit.
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Impossible. And we see more and more that our churches
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compromise the truth, compromise the gospel,
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to have members in the church.
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And because we compromise and are no longer radical,
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people come into the church, who have another spirit, who are not born again
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therefore you do not experience this family, it is not possible!
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So to live that, you must be born again.
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As in the physical, you must be born into a family to be a family.
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You must have the same spirit.
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You must also have the same "A.D.N.": the same vision, the same truth.
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It's not enough to have the same mind, you have to have the same truth.
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Jesus makes it clear in John 4 when he explains how to worship him.
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He says, "God is spirit, and those who worship him, worship him in spirit and in truth" (John 4:24)
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He did not say, "Those who worship him, worship him in spirit only."
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or "in truth only". He said, "in spirit AND in truth".
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What I mean by that is: spirit = born again.
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Truth is having the right understanding, the foundation, the same vision.
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You can not build a unity with someone who has twenty different ideas of the church
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and their expectations in life.
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You can not be in unity with someone who would say:
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"No, you have to go there," "I like it", "I want to make church friendly"
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"No, I do not like it, I should go in that direction."
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This is not possible.
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I've been to places where people have tried.
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And it did not work.
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And very often, we end up spending a lot of time
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trying to build something that we can not build.
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It must come to "it is not my will, but yours, God."
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What Jesus says about the church is the church, it's not our own ideas.
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What is good for Jesus is the good thing.
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But if these things, the spirit, the understanding, and the truth are there,
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so it's possible to experiment ...
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the family.
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It is possible to experience the church as a family where what you live
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is very strong.
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You really like those people with whom you are.
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You want to die for these people.
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And you grow very, very fast, in a healthy way
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because you are in an environment of spiritual parents, of family.
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And in a good frame, people grow up very quickly spiritually.
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So to the question "how to become a family?",
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I would answer: first, make sure everyone is born again.
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Second, make sure you build on the same foundation.
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People sometimes ask, "How to get together?"
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"How to do church?"
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And I would say that, as you will see,
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it's not about the program.
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How do you become a family? As part of a family,
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how do you eat?
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Every time you say, "Welcome to this table.
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First dad will say something. Then my little sister will sing a song.
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When she has saluted and sung,
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my mother will say something, then it will be my turn. "
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In a family, when you're together at the table,
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do you do a program?
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Not often, is it? It's rather organic.
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It's done alone.
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It grows organically
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and every family is different.
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This is difficult for us to understand because of our very, very big religious glasses.
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And about teaching ...
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When I was born again, I met my wife Lene,
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we got married, and my father-in-law became my spiritual father.
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And I would say it was him who taught me.
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He trained me at the beginning.
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He was like a spiritual father giving me the foundation.
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He taught me a lot of things.
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But in all these years he taught me,
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we never organized a meeting with a program.
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Never.
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All the teachings are done naturally.
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I was sitting in their living room with my Bible,
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I had read something that I did not understand and asked my father-in-law:
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"I do not understand, what about this and that?" And he explained to me.
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"Aaaah ... That is to say? Aaaah OK.
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But what about that? "And he explained to me.
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So he was the one who laid the foundation in my life, who taught me.
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But there was no planned meeting,
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no "welcome" or "that's what we're going to study today."
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Everything was done in a natural way.
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It was part of a family.
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And I think there's something here that we've lost.
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I'll talk more about it later.
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When we talk about the program, it's a challenge because we want programs.
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We want to know exactly how to do it. We want a program point by point.
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"That's what to do when you get together."
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One of the verses that is very used
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in the movement of house groups,
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's 1 Corinthians 14:2634:13where Paul says,
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"What do you do, brothers?
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When you assemble, does everyone have a song,
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an instruction, a revelation, a language, an interpretation,
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let all things be done for edification. "
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This verse was ...
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I love it because it's a powerful verse
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but many house churches, organic, simple, are based on this verse.
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But this verse can also become a new institution, a new system.
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It can become a new law.
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And we say to ourselves, "OK, here's how. Paul says that every time we meet,
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everyone has something ... Who has a song? OK, you.
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Then you have a teaching, then she will give a speech in tongues
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and she will give the interpretation, etc. "
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And it becomes like a model to do the church.
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The way to go is to get together and do that, that, that and that.
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I do not think that's the way it is.
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I do not think that's what Paul meant.
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By saying that, he was not saying that it should be a rule.
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Why? Because it was not Paul's rule. He did not do it himself.
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Paul did not do that!
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He did not live in such a way that when he found people,
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he said, "Now you have to do this and that ..."
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Paul did not do that.
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No, when Paul taught, we read in Acts 20 that he preached all night.
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Paul did not say that night, "You're going to do that, you're going to do that, etc."
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He did not do that! Paul talked all night!
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He preached so much that there was a man who fell asleep, fell out the window and died!
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Paul ran, raised him up, and all went well.
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Then he went on preaching for a long time until dawn.
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You can read that in Acts 20: 9.
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So here we have Paul who, at one place,
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says the verse 1 Corinthians 14:26.
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In another place, he preached all night.
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We also read in Acts 19, at Ephesus, that he used the school of Tyrannus
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and that he preached there daily.
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So Paul did not apply what he recommended to others.
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I think what Paul said in 1 Corinthians 14:26,
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He said it to the church of Corinth.
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He said to this community, to this family, "This is what you must do now."
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To other families he would have said something else and he would have done otherwise.
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To other families still differently. Why?
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For there are not two families, two churches that are identical.
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And I'm going to use an image to show you
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that one can not use a church model for all communities.
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You can not use a model for all churches.
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Every church, every community is different.
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And if we want to succeed in making disciples,
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we have to get out of this mentality of looking for the right model.
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It's not a model, it's about people.
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It's about being above the models, looking beyond to see what is the need
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rather than focusing on this model. I'll show you an image I'll come back to
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still in the family theme.
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This is a very beautiful picture, I like it a lot.
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She can teach us a lot about New Testament churches and discipleship.
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A year and a half ago, my son Sonni got married to a great swedish girl, Hannah.
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So Sonni left home and got married to Hannah.
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And they became a family.
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Sonni and Hannah were a childless family.
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They had a lot of time,
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for them, for the friends, to do what they wanted.
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It was mostly Sonni and Hannah. They were talking about them.
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But one day, 8 months ago ...
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my grandson has arrived.
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A few months after their marriage, she became pregnant
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and nine months later they had little David,
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my wonderful grandson.
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When he arrived, their life changed.
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From one second to the next, everything has changed.
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They are always a family,
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but now it's a family with a baby (or babies).
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What they did as a childless family,
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they can not do it now with a baby.
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Everything changed from one day to the next.
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What they were doing yesterday, they can not do it today.
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If you look at Lene and me, we are still a family.
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We have two other kids at home: Stephanie, 16
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and Simone, 13 years old.
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So we always have kids at home.
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But we do not have babies, we do not need to get up at night,
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no more need to give milk.
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Now we are a family with children, but without a baby.
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At the same time, we are also grandparents.
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We are grandparents and have children who have left home.
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I think there is a very clear model here.
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Not a model, I do not like that term, but there is a clear picture of the church.
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For the church is a family.
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A family without children
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needs help to have children.
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It's often the next step: having children.
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So they have kids, and all of a sudden, it's just kids.
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It's about milk, diapers, and lots of other things.
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And what they were doing yesterday, they can not do it today.
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Everything has changed from one day to the next.
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And there's a time in their life when they have babies
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and teach these babies to eat alone.
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There's also a time when you do not have babies, but you have children
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who are preparing to grow up and leave the house.
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And you help the children, you train them to be mature enough to leave the house.
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Then there are the grandchildren.
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That should be the same with the church.
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The idea is that the church is like a family.
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You are born into a family,
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you are like a baby who needs milk.
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Then you grow up and become mature
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and finally you leave the house and start your own family.
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And if you make a connection with the church, every church is different.
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If there is a community or church without children,
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so you have to help them.
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A childless church needs help.
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Why? To have children.
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A church without children -we're talking about spiritual children-
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it's not good! There is something wrong!
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There is something wrong in a community where there are no spiritual newborns.
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Something's wrong!
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It's not healthy if you have a community with the same twenty people for ten years.
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Sorry, I have to provoke a little.
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I remember a long time ago, I visited a church.
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I was with a girl who had been converted for two weeks.
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I had to preach that day, and I love to provoke.
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So I brought this girl in front of the church
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and I said, "Look at this girl,
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she's been a believer for two weeks! "
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And everyone did: "Congratulations! Welcome to the family!"
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Everyone was exalted by the fact that this girl had just converted.
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Then I said to the church:
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"Yes ... When was the last time you saw this?
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When did you see a person born again for the last time?
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My question shocked the whole church because everyone was looking around ...
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and the last person they saw coming to Christ was five or six years ago.
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Some churches have never seen anyone come to Christ.
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So these are not good communities, something is wrong.
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The idea, in becoming a family, is to reproduce,
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is to cover the whole earth. That's what God has commanded us.
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In physics: having babies and children. In the spiritual: to have babies and children.
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So if you have a childless community,
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do not continue to do what you've always done:
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teachings, teachings, teachings, teachings ...
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and great theologies and foundations.
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If there are no children, you must help them to have children.
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This is where an evangelist or someone comes into the church and equips the saints to be effective
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to have children.
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You have to learn things about bees, flowers ...
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No, you must learn how to have babies!
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Learn to preach the gospel, lead people to Christ,
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to be guided by the Holy Spirit, to find a person of peace.
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So a childless family has to be helped to have children.
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And once you have the kids?
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What you did yesterday does not work if you have five children at once!
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You can not keep doing what you did
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and run around the streets every day as usual
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if suddenly you have five new converts!
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For now, these babies need milk!
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It's important to understand that because we do not see what's going on around us.
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We do as usual.
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And even evangelizing on the street is a good start when you do not have a baby,
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but otherwise, do not leave these children.
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This is the time for milk.
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And then this church, this family with children, needs help.
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She needs the five ministries, she needs the pastor to teach them.
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She needs the teacher to lay the foundation.
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She needs people who come to help
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to give milk.
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But you're not supposed to give them milk all their lives!
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Give milk, it's a mother who eats,
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then she gives the baby breast because the baby can not eat alone.
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We should very quickly feed the spiritual children
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to grow and feed alone.
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There is a problem if people need someone to teach them after 10, 20, 30 years.
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They should have grown up already!
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To be mature and able to feed themselves.
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Once you have laid the foundation,
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they need discipleship.
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They need to be dependent on the Holy Spirit.
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The reason I wrote this is because they should not be dependent on you!
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That's a problem. Many people in churches
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are afraid to let go.
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I remember when I left home, my mother was crying, "Oooh, Torben is leaving the house ..."
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It was not easy for my mother to let go.
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In churches, we must be better at making them understand
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that these children are not supposed to be here all their lives,
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but for a short time, to grow and mature,
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and to teach them
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not to be dependent on you,
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but to be dependent on God.
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To grow up to feed themselves, to learn to depend on God,
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so that they can leave the house and start their own family.
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That's what happens in the natural.
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If we observe a natural family, we have these four stages.
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We have families without children.
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They need help to have children.
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We have families with babies!
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They have to take care of babies.
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We have families with children.
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You have to teach them, help them grow and mature, to take on responsibilities.
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The baby has no responsibility, you do not ask him to tidy his room
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or wash the dishes.
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But you say that to children because they have to learn.
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And if they do not learn, they will never grow up
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and if they do not grow up, they will never leave home and will never be able to found their families.
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Then we have children who have left home, and grandparents.
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And for a grandparent, it's important not to control the kids.
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It's important to let go, to understand that they are independent.
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My son Sonni has grown up, he is independent.
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I'm here to support him, but not to control him
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or to decide how he should manage his family.
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It's his responsibility, I'm here to support him.
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And I think that's what the church should look like.
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That's what we'd like to talk about later.
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The church is like a family.
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We should have children.
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In every community, there should be children.
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When there is no child, you have to learn to have children.
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You have to learn how to do it, and these are things we teach here at the Pioneer School.
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We give you the steps, we see Luke 10 and also how to preach the gospel.
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How to find a person of peace, lead people to Christ, have children.
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With The Last Reformation, we worked a lot on ...
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Yes, our goal was mainly: how to have children,
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how to live this life, go and bear fruit.
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But we also recognize that it's not enough to have children,
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then you have to give milk to these children.
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It's important to understand that ...
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we do not just give milk to these people around us,
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but we teach them to feed themselves very, very quickly
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so that they can eat and not depend on us all the time.
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It's important to understand that these children we have,
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no matter what type of community,
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we only have them for a very, very short time
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so that they learn to be mature, to grow,
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to leave the house and have their own family,
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their own spiritual children.
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And these grow up, leave the house and have their own family.
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And then we are not only parents, but grandparents.
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Not only in the physical but also in the spiritual.
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Then we become great-grandparents, because our grandchildren have children.
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Then we become great-great-grandparents.
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Then we become great-great-great grandparents.
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Then we become great-great-great-great-grandparents.
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And we see a multiplication of the church.
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These are the same foundations: family, life,
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and not a model because as I said,
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the model that works for this family does not work for this one.
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The model that works for this family does not work for this one.
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The model for this family may be suitable today, but not tomorrow because they will have left home.
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Or this model suits today, but did not fit yesterday, etc.
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So I hope you got something out of it.
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In the next lesson, I'm going to continue
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to talk about these things, in a more practical way.
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I'll give even more examples to show what it looks like,
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how you can quickly see what is the need in a community,
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what is the need now?
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And how do we go from there to there, from there to there, from there to there,
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then it's repeated, then it's repeated again.
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This is something we can learn and do simply.
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I'll talk about it in the next lesson, where I'll be much more concrete, with more examples.
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So I hope you got something out of it.
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Next time, God bless you, goodbye.