War and what comes after
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0:02 - 0:04Words matter.
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0:07 - 0:10They can heal
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0:10 - 0:11and they can kill ...
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0:12 - 0:15yet, they have a limit.
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0:17 - 0:19When I was in eighth grade,
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0:21 - 0:25my teacher gave me a vocabulary sheet
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0:25 - 0:27with the word "genocide."
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0:31 - 0:34I hated it.
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0:35 - 0:39The word genocide is clinical ...
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0:40 - 0:42overgeneral ...
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0:45 - 0:47bloodless ...
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0:47 - 0:49dehumanizing.
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0:51 - 0:53No word
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0:54 - 0:56can describe
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0:56 - 1:00what this does to a nation.
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1:02 - 1:04You need to know,
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1:04 - 1:06in this kind of war,
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1:07 - 1:10husbands kills wives,
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1:11 - 1:13wives kill husbands,
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1:15 - 1:18neighbors and friends kill each other.
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1:22 - 1:23Someone
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1:24 - 1:25in power
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1:25 - 1:27says,
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1:28 - 1:29"Those over there ...
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1:31 - 1:32they don't belong.
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1:33 - 1:34They're not human."
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1:35 - 1:37And people believe it.
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1:40 - 1:42I don't want words
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1:42 - 1:45to describe this kind of behavior.
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1:47 - 1:50I want words to stop it.
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1:53 - 1:55But where are the words to stop this?
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1:56 - 1:59And how do we find the words?
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2:02 - 2:08But I believe, truly,
we have to keep trying. -
2:10 - 2:13I was born in Kigali, Rwanda.
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2:14 - 2:18I felt loved by my entire family
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2:19 - 2:21and my neighbors.
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2:22 - 2:26I was constantly
being teased by everybody, -
2:26 - 2:29especially my two older siblings.
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2:30 - 2:32When I lost my front tooth,
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2:33 - 2:36my brother looked at me and said,
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2:36 - 2:38"Oh, it has happened to you, too?
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2:40 - 2:41It will never grow back."
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2:41 - 2:42(Laughter)
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2:42 - 2:45I enjoyed playing everywhere,
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2:45 - 2:49especially my mother's garden
and my neighbor's. -
2:49 - 2:52I loved my kindergarten.
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2:52 - 2:55We sang songs,
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2:55 - 2:56we played everywhere
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2:56 - 2:58and ate lunch.
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3:00 - 3:03I had a childhood
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3:03 - 3:07that I would wish for anyone.
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3:09 - 3:10But when I was six,
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3:11 - 3:17the adults in my family
began to speak in whispers -
3:17 - 3:21and shushed me any time
that I asked a question. -
3:23 - 3:24One night,
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3:24 - 3:26my mom and dad came.
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3:27 - 3:30They had this strange look
when they woke us. -
3:32 - 3:37They sent my older sister Claire and I
to our grandparent's, -
3:37 - 3:40hoping whatever was happening
would blow away. -
3:42 - 3:46Soon we had to escape from there, too.
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3:47 - 3:49We hid,
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3:49 - 3:50we crawled,
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3:50 - 3:51we sometimes ran.
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3:57 - 4:01Sometimes I heard laughter
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4:03 - 4:06and then screaming and crying
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4:08 - 4:10and then noise that I had never heard.
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4:12 - 4:13You see,
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4:13 - 4:15I did not know
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4:17 - 4:20what those noises were.
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4:21 - 4:23They were neither human --
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4:23 - 4:25and also at the same time,
they were human. -
4:27 - 4:30I saw people who were not breathing.
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4:32 - 4:34I thought they were asleep.
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4:36 - 4:41I still didn't understand what death was,
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4:41 - 4:44or killing in itself.
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4:46 - 4:49When we would stop
to rest for a little bit -
4:49 - 4:51or search for food,
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4:51 - 4:53I would close my eyes,
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4:53 - 4:56hoping when I opened them,
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4:56 - 4:57I would be awake.
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4:59 - 5:03I had no idea which direction was home.
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5:05 - 5:07Days were for hiding
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5:08 - 5:10and night for walking.
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5:16 - 5:21You go from a person who's away from home
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5:21 - 5:24to a person with no home.
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5:25 - 5:28The place that is supposed to want you
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5:28 - 5:30has pushed you out,
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5:32 - 5:36and no one takes you in.
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5:37 - 5:39You are unwanted
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5:40 - 5:43by anyone.
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5:45 - 5:47You are a refugee.
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5:50 - 5:52From age six to 12,
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5:52 - 5:55I lived in seven different countries,
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5:57 - 6:00moving from one refugee camp to another,
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6:01 - 6:03hoping we would be wanted.
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6:06 - 6:09My older sister Claire,
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6:09 - 6:10she became a young mother ...
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6:13 - 6:16and a master at getting things done.
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6:18 - 6:20When I was 12,
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6:20 - 6:25I came to America with Claire
and her family on refugee status. -
6:28 - 6:31And that's only the beginning,
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6:31 - 6:34because even though I was 12 years old,
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6:34 - 6:36sometimes I felt like three years old
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6:36 - 6:38and sometimes 50 years old.
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6:39 - 6:41My past receded,
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6:41 - 6:42grew jumbled,
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6:42 - 6:43distorted.
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6:44 - 6:47Everything was too much
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6:47 - 6:48and nothing.
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6:51 - 6:56Time seemed like pages torn out of a book
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6:56 - 6:58and scattered everywhere.
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7:00 - 7:04This still happens to me
standing right here. -
7:09 - 7:11After I got to America,
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7:14 - 7:17Claire and I did not talk about our past.
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7:19 - 7:22In 2006,
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7:22 - 7:23after 12 years
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7:25 - 7:27being separated away from my family,
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7:27 - 7:30and then seven years
knowing that they were dead -
7:30 - 7:32and them thinking that we were dead,
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7:33 - 7:35we reunited ...
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7:35 - 7:41in the most dramatic,
American way possible. -
7:42 - 7:44Live,
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7:44 - 7:45on television --
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7:45 - 7:47(Laughter)
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7:47 - 7:48on "The Oprah Show."
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7:48 - 7:50(Laughter)
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7:50 - 7:54(Applause)
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7:57 - 7:59I told you, I told you.
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7:59 - 8:00(Laughter)
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8:02 - 8:04But after the show,
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8:09 - 8:14as I spent time with my mom and dad
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8:14 - 8:16and my little sister
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8:17 - 8:19and my two new siblings that I never met,
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8:21 - 8:23I felt anger.
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8:25 - 8:29I felt every deep pain in me.
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8:32 - 8:36And I know that
there is absolutely nothing, -
8:36 - 8:38nothing,
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8:38 - 8:43that could restore the time
we lost with each other -
8:44 - 8:46and the relationship we could've had.
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8:48 - 8:53Soon, my parents
moved to the United States, -
8:53 - 8:54but like Claire,
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8:55 - 8:59they don't talk about our past.
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9:00 - 9:04They live in never-ending present.
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9:04 - 9:07Not asking too many questions,
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9:07 - 9:11not allowing themselves to feel --
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9:12 - 9:16moving in small steps.
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9:18 - 9:23None of us, of course,
can make sense of what happened to us. -
9:27 - 9:29Though my family is alive --
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9:31 - 9:33yes, we were broken,
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9:33 - 9:36and yes, we are numb
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9:36 - 9:41and we were silenced
by our own experience. -
9:44 - 9:48It's not just my family.
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9:50 - 9:55Rwanda is not the only country
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9:55 - 9:58where people have turned on each other
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9:58 - 10:00and murdered each other.
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10:01 - 10:04The entire human race,
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10:06 - 10:07in many ways,
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10:07 - 10:08is like my family.
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10:12 - 10:13Not dead;
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10:14 - 10:20yes, broken, numb and silenced
by the violence of the world -
10:20 - 10:21that has taken over.
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10:24 - 10:25You see,
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10:25 - 10:30the chaos of the violence continues inside
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10:30 - 10:33in the words we use
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10:33 - 10:37and the stories
we create every single day. -
10:39 - 10:45But also on the labels
that we impose on ourselves -
10:45 - 10:46and each other.
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10:49 - 10:54Once we call someone "other,"
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10:54 - 10:56"less than,"
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10:56 - 10:57"one of them"
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10:57 - 10:58or "better than,"
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11:00 - 11:01believe me ...
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11:04 - 11:06under the right condition,
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11:08 - 11:13it's a short path to more destruction.
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11:14 - 11:16More chaos
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11:16 - 11:17and more noise
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11:17 - 11:19that we will not understand.
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11:21 - 11:24Words will never be enough
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11:25 - 11:31to quantify and qualify
the many magnitudes -
11:31 - 11:34of human-caused destruction.
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11:38 - 11:40In order for us
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11:41 - 11:45to stop the violence
that goes on in the world, -
11:48 - 11:49I hope --
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11:49 - 11:52at least I beg you --
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11:52 - 11:53to pause.
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11:55 - 11:57Let's ask ourselves:
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11:59 - 12:02Who are we without words?
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12:04 - 12:08Who are we without labels?
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12:09 - 12:13Who are we in our breath?
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12:15 - 12:19Who are we in our heartbeat?
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12:21 - 12:26(Applause)
- Title:
- War and what comes after
- Speaker:
- Clemantine Wamariya
- Description:
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Clemantine Wamariya was six years old when the Rwandan Civil War forced her and her sister to flee their home in Kigali, leaving their parents and everything they knew behind. In this deeply personal talk, she tells the story of how she became a refugee, living in camps in seven countries over the next six years -- and how she's tried to make sense of what came after.
- Video Language:
- English
- Team:
- closed TED
- Project:
- TEDTalks
- Duration:
- 12:43
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