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Today I would like to talk about the
"Connections" and "To Connect"
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and would like to share
my thought on it with you.
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First, let me talk about what is
happening among Japanese now.
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I feel that a loss of balance
is happening.
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In the past, I have consulted
a couple of thousand people.
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When I was doing that, I noticed
that people had become
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too needy unnecessarily from
their fundamental needs.
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As I mentioned, because of technologies
such as smartphones and the internet,
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we are forced to desire more than
we would actually want or need.
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What would be caused by this is
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a lifestyle that we become
needing things that we do not
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or we begin acting like someone who is
totally different from what we are.
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Because of that, diseases of
unknown causes
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and mental illnesses are in
an increase in Japan.
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Therefore, I believe in a balance
in life: "Balanced Way of Life"
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This will become more important
for our lives now and in the future
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and this is what I would like to
talk about today.
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In summary, by connecting us with
ourselves, our families and to the world,
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we could achieve "Balanced Way of Life"
and by living in such a balanced way.
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As a result, we all could become personal
and social contributors.
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This is the life that I would like
to propose today.
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What is connecting you with yourself ?
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I define it as generating your own idea
that can cause a change in the real world.
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In the Japanese educational system that
most of us, including me, attended,
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students under 18 are not expected to make
decisions for themselves and their actions
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Most of the people follow the headstone
of their parents, teachers, and bosses
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and use it as a guideline to decide
our moves and ideas based on it.
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That’s how we spend days.
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However, what we need to do
in order to connect us with ourselves is
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not having a right answer but motivating
ourselves by asking our own questions
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and the power to take action
with our own intentions.
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In another word, connecting yourself is
having confidence in yourself.
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What should we do to
connect you with yourself?
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I would say move your body not head.
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As I mentioned before,
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we refer smartphones and technologies
to acquire various information
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and based on that, we decide what to do
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or come up with an idea
that's what we are doing every day.
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However, what you are doing here is
only using your head.
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The important thing is moving your body
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to pull out your real intention
and make it come true.
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That is what I call
connecting you with yourself.
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Here, you are supposed to laugh!
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This is me, a year old.
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When you are young like this,
you are fresh and flexible.
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This is an age when you only follow
your interests and curiosity to live
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children don't really think the things
in head.
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If that was what they wanted to do
they chase after their interests
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and that's what kids always do.
They pursue their curiosity.
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Therefore, their moves are
so flexible and natural.
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I have one exercise that
I would like to ask you to do.
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Please look at this.
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Write down the ideas that surely
make an impact on your future.
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Let's take note and think a bit.
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We all actually have something
that we want to pursue
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and the ideas that make your life
most wonderful.
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However, receiving too much information
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or too much listening to others' opinions
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makes you miss your true voice
to follow it.
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So here is my proposal:
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If you do something for your life
right now
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What makes your life better and feel good?
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What makes your future brighter?
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Asking yourself these questions
periodically
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would be very important from now on.
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This is the project that I forged
when I was in college.
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It is about contacting and meeting
everyone who I wanted to meet.
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I made this by myself
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because I wondered what I could do
while I was still a student.
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I thought of this so hard when I was 18.
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What would be the thing I could only
do because of being a college kid?
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My answer was asking significant people
to meet up who I can't meet otherwise
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with my title only being a college kid.
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so I made appointments with various people
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and met them and talked to them, and
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I tried to soak up everything from them.
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Sometimes I annoyed them
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by saying something ridiculous.
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That's what I was doing back then.
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By doing this, I have achieved
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the standard of my behavior
and things to do that had been
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decided by my parents, bosses
and by the government
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becoming things that I can take a lead.
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I became the one to think, decide
and take action.
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My life has become more proactive.
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Because of it, I was able to achieve
“confident” that is so crucial for life.
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Here are three steps of
“connecting you to yourself”:
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First, you gain confident in yourself.
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Second, you would find out
your real talent.
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You create your ideas and
take actions.
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You take initiative of your life.
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This will give you a network with people
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and failures caused by yourself.
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That’s how you learn from your lessons
and consider what to do.
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That's how you find out your talent.
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Something that you had never thought
you could do
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could be carried out by you.
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That is how you create actual results.
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Those results will connect you
to another lesson
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that gives you a feedback to see
what you are really good at.
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That is how you find out your real talent
I believe.
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Thirdly, you would get good at
creating your life plan.
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You take a lead to come up with ideas
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and take your own actions.
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That would give an ability to
create your own life plan
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to you to be able to shift your life
for better.
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First, I talked about
“Connecting you with yourself.”
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Now I move on to the next step which is
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"connecting you to your precious people."
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This is about creating a charging station
filled with love and healing.
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I would like to talk about the next stage.
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After we gain our confidence,
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and this may be the most important theme
for Japan nowadays.
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What we always get distracted by is
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the green grass in the neighbor’s yard.
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I used to be like that too.
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Before I minded about myself.
I minded about other’s approvals.
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When I took my action, I was afraid of
being disliked,
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being looked down, or being discouraged
by people saying “no, you can’t do it.”
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I was always thinking like that.
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However, under these conditions
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you can't possibly enjoy the life
that you get only one chance.
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I began thinking of the concept of
"Connecting"
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and “To Connect” in January 2011.
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That was that time that my father fell
and had a stroke.
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It was so shocking to me.
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He looked different from
the loving dad I have known.
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I had to face that moment.
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One thing that I felt then was
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I start seeing my mom as one individual.
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I saw her as a real individual
for the first time.
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Until then, I had seen her through
the filter of “mother.”
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However, because of my dad falling sick,
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my mom has become a real person.
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She is seen as one human being.
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Until the moment, I somehow didn’t see
her troubled by her worries and concerns.
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However, the dad’s illness made me realize
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that my mom also had to face her
loneliness, insecurity and fear.
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I realized that for the first time.
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From this experience,
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I began thinking so hard for how
I could be most helpful to her.
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That was what I was thinking
day and night.
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I had many talks with her
face to face.
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We cried and laughed together.
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We shared our joy of life together
and communicated with each other.
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As a result, I stopped living a life that
I demand too much
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and pursuing something that
I did not even want.
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Instead, I was able to obtain the place
where I can discuss anything.
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Therefore, I was filled by the live energy
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and was able to create a home
where I could charge love and power
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with my family.
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Here is my message that I wrote to my dad:
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“Staying in the same house
doesn’t make a family,
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but wherever we were, how we care
for each other makes a real family bond.”
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This was the first moment that
I understood what is family.
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I would like to introduce
the second exercise.
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That said, you do not have many occasions
that you tell your true feelings
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to your families and
your significant others.
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The opportunities to express your real
intentions are becoming less and less.
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Here is the exercise that I made for us
to build a relationship
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and to develop it even stronger.
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First, “Thank you very much.”
Please write this 10 times.
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Next, please write “I’m sorry”
10 times.
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Then please write “I love you”
10 times.
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This is called the Hoʻoponopono technique
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that native Hawaiians developed
and practiced healing people.
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Please practice this
to your precious ones,
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families, and loved ones
to let them know your appreciation.
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I actually did try this on
my wife’s birthday last year.
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In our daily life,
we don’t say “thank you” much.
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We don’t say “I’m sorry” much.
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We don’t say “I love you” much.
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But let’s do it for the occasions
like birthday and anniversaries.
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If you do it, you can really feel
the deep connection.
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You can spend a genial time.
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You will be able to discuss thing together
that you usually don’t.
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This exercise creates a place within you
where you can truly trust
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from bottom of your heart.
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Just like a smartphone needs a place
to charge fully
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so that it can function anytime,
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our lives need such places where
we could charge ourselves.
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Men go out to work,
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now women too in the society we live.
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We could be yelled at for work
and at school,
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and lately, we even get scolded at home.
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However, a family for me is a place
where I can charge.
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I believe that it is very important
to recognize your family in this way.
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Because of having these places makes you
go forward to challenge and pursue
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myself through this communication.
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I used to have a face like an orange,
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and here again, we should laugh at!
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As a result, I became such a cool fellow.
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Here, I am mediating and
my son comes to me and interrupts.
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I was able to achive this life.
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Here is the next topic
“Connecting you with the world.”
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This is the final stage.
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You are now connected to yourself
and gain confidence,
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connected with your precious ones,
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and found a place where you can always
charge and feel love.
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Then after that, you can connect yourself
to the world finally
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to see how you can contribute to it
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and to society naturally.
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I was wondering all the time in college,
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"What is my mission?"
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"What do I want to achieve in my life?"
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I was always thinking those questions
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but they did not get answered.
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Then I forgot about these questions
and started practicing the steps.
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First, I create my own idea and
get connected with myself.
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Then get connected with my family
by the strong bond
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and make my family happy
and live happy lives.
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After I complete this step,
I move on to the next
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that makes me see
what I am supposed to do
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and how I can contribute
to society throughout my life.
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Myself become an important existence
for myself.
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Myself believes in my ideas
and taking actions.
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Then achiving a home where
I can fully charge myself
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and where I can feel love.
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By completing all of these,
I finally become able to enjoy
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the world we live in
fully, fairly and all the way down.
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I think there are many of us who have not
been able to enjoy our lives
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because we have always been worried about
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what someone else said or
something else in our lives.
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But I believe that by connecting
with myself and my family,
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I would be able to see the world
as it really is
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from an unadulterated perspective.
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This is what I have learned
from my experiences.
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Going out to the world is
equal to enjoying the differences.
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What are enjoying and
seeing the differences?
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Recently, many foreign people
have come to Japan
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and there are many Japanese people abroad
in an era, people can see a lot of things.
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What would happen when you see
a lot of things and differences is
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that you start seeing
what you can really do.
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If we always spend the same days
with the same things around us,
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It's not easy for us to realize what
we are and what we can do with ourselves.
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But I believe by seeing and
feeling various things,
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you will naturally understand
what you can really do
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and what you want to do more and more.
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There are only three things
that I would like to share with you.
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Connecting with yourself,
connecting with your family
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and connecting with the world.
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These are the most important things.
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By only connecting with the world,
you can see what you can do for yourself
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and what you want to do for this world
and through your life.
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Today, I talked about three steps.
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First, I emphasize again.
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You need to believe in your ideas
and carry them out.
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That changes your life to become more
proactive and you gain confidence.
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Being confident in yourself means
you would not worry about yourself.
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Once you reach the stage where
you don't worry anymore,
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you connect yourself strongly with your
precious ones, your family and friends.
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Being connected so deeply means
you really devote yourself to be in.
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So sometimes you may be hurt
or sad or even shed a tear.
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But by being brave to cross the line,
you can really get connected.
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When you are worried and fear,
you can always talk to them.
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When you are really happy,
you can share the joy with them.
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You can have a place like that.
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By achieving these true connections,
you can finally see the world
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and the earth as it is unfiltered.
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Looking at the world again
with your clear mind
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and having adventures
help us to see what you want to do
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and what you are supposed to do
for society through your life.
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You will start seeing them naturally.
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So, I hope we all continue to connect us
with ourselves, with our loved ones
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and with the world together.
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I wish to share this way of life with you.
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Thanks for listening to me today.