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Forgiving One Another As Christ - Jesse Barrington

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    If you'll open your Bibles
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    to the book of Colossians again.
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    We just sang that redeeming
    love is our theme.
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    And if that's true,
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    it will be reflected in our lives.
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    We're going to look at Colossians 3:12-14.
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    It says, "Put on then,
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    as God's chosen ones,
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    holy and beloved,
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    compassionate hearts,
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    kindness,
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    humility,
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    meekness,
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    patience,
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    bearing with one another,
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    and if one has a complaint against another
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    forgiving each other,
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    as the Lord has forgiven you,
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    you also must forgive.
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    And above all these, put on love,
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    which binds everything together
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    in perfect harmony."
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    As I mentioned yesterday in Colossians 3,
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    Paul has transitioned as he does
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    in the book of Ephesians,
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    from out of the doctrines
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    and into the living out of these doctrines
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    in our lives.
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    Living the Christian life.
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    Again, he is speaking of living a life
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    that is consistent with the Gospel
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    of Jesus Christ.
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    And I want us to know that the only hope
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    anyone in here has
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    of living a life consistent
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    with the Gospel of Jesus Christ
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    is that verse 1 of chapter 3
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    is a reality for your life,
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    and look at it with me.
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    "If then you have been
    raised with Christ..."
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    If you've been raised with Christ.
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    So let's begin there first.
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    Have you been raised with Christ?
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    Are you a new creation in Jesus Christ?
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    That is so much more
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    than knowing who Jesus Christ is;
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    knowing about Christ
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    or even affirming doctrines about Christ.
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    It is a supernatural work of God
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    where He literally makes us new creations.
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    He takes out our heart.
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    He puts in a new heart;
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    puts His Spirit within us,
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    and then we walk in the
    newness of that life.
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    Having been raised with Him.
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    A new direction of life.
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    And it's not morality.
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    It's not morality.
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    Do you bear the evidence of a new life?
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    Brother Tim asked the question yesterday.
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    Is your chief desire Christ?
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    His glory?
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    Brothers and sisters,
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    without the work of the Holy Spirit
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    in your heart and a new Spirit within us,
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    there's no hope of
    living this Christian life.
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    There's no hope.
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    Now, there's a very important truth
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    taught through all of Scripture.
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    And the important truth is this:
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    That every person,
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    saved and unsaved,
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    lives out of their heart.
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    The Bible speaks so much about your heart
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    and the living out of your heart.
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    And if you remember in Matthew 15,
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    when the Pharisees are coming
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    to Jesus' disciples and they say,
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    Hey, you didn't wash your hands
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    before you eat.
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    And Jesus says, don't you
    know that it's not what goes
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    into the body that defiles a man,
    but what comes out of the body?
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    And He says, for out of the heart
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    proceed evil thoughts:
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    murder, adultery, sexual immorality,
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    theft, false witness, and slander.
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    And what's He teaching us there?
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    That we live out of the heart.
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    That we live out of our hearts.
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    And for us as Christians,
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    God has given us a new heart -
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    A new heart that responds;
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    that has the ability to respond
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    in obedience,
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    and with the new heart came
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    new desires -
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    a desire to live for God
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    and to bring glory to His name.
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    So if Paul knows that we
    live out of our hearts,
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    and he's calling us here to live
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    this Christian life,
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    then it's important where
    our hearts are at
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    if we're going to live
    this Christian life.
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    I think the beginning of v. 12
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    is the key to living out v. 12-14.
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    The beginning of v. 12,
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    Paul's going to work into our hearts
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    a remembrance of the Gospel and grace
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    of Jesus Christ.
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    And he wants us to live in light of
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    that Gospel and that grace.
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    Paul here is calling us to live
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    Gospel-centered lives.
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    Think about that.
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    Gospel-centered relationships
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    here in the church,
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    where I don't treat you
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    based on how you deserve,
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    but rather I treat you based on
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    how He treated me in the Gospel.
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    That's what Paul's calling us to.
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    A Gospel-centered relationship
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    here in the assembly of His people.
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    Paul's going to motivate and empower us,
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    so look at the beginning of v. 12 with me.
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    "Put on then, as God's chosen ones,
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    holy and beloved..."
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    Now, for time's sake,
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    I won't be able to hit all of v. 12-14.
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    So if you'll allow me some liberty
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    to focus on just a few of the words
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    in the text to get through it today.
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    The first thing Paul says is
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    you're chosen by God.
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    You're elect of God.
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    Now, how does that motivate
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    and empower us to be compassionate,
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    kind, forgiving, and loving?
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    And brothers and sisters,
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    this is where your understanding
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    of election becomes extremely practical.
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    Not just something to sit in rooms
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    and debate about.
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    But this is where how you understand
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    the doctrine of election -
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    the sovereignty of God in salvation
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    becomes extremely street-level,
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    practical in the living out
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    of the Christian life.
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    And Paul here is pointing to it
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    as a motivation and an empowerment
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    for you to live this life
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    He's called you to live.
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    You see, in the doctrine of election,
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    this so-called debate -
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    the argument is not whether God elects.
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    That's not the argument.
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    That's not the debate.
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    The question is the basis of His election.
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    The question is why does He elect?
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    Or on what basis does He choose?
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    I want you to think about
    something with me.
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    You have a group -
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    an Arminian view -
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    that says and believes,
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    God elects,
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    but the reason or the basis He chooses,
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    or the reason or the basis that He elects
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    is based on foreseeing choosing of God.
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    In other words, they believe that God
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    looks into the future
    and can see all things,
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    and He sees that they,
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    in and of themselves,
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    will choose Him.
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    And based on them choosing Him,
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    He now elects them.
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    So the Arminian argues
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    the basis of election is conditional.
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    It's conditional upon that man, that woman
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    choosing God.
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    Now, if that's true,
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    which I do not believe that it is,
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    but go with the thought for a second.
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    If that is true,
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    why in the world would Paul
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    point to that doctrine there
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    as a motivation to bring out
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    humility in you?
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    To bring out compassion in you?
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    To bring out love in you?
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    You see, if the reason I have been chosen
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    is because I chose God
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    on my own,
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    that does not breed humility in me.
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    It separates me from those
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    who did not choose
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    because I chose Him;
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    I figured it out;
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    I wanted Him;
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    I saw my sin;
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    I understood it more,
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    and therefore I'm elect.
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    That's not motivation to bring me
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    to a place of humility,
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    of lowliness, of compassion,
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    of patience with others,
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    of forgiving of others,
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    of loving of others.
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    It doesn't make sense in the context.
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    But, if the basis of God's election
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    is not found in me,
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    but rather in Him;
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    if the basis of God's election
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    is grace and mercy,
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    and the fact that He is love
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    and in His freedom, He sets that love -
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    all the people He sets that love on
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    are hell-deserving sinners.
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    It's not that He looked at us
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    and He saw something
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    that just attracted us to Him;
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    that He was wooed by us.
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    Rather, He looked at us in our sin,
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    in our filth,
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    and then He chose
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    to set sovereign grace upon us.
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    And if that's true,
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    I have no boast except for
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    the grace of God in Jesus Christ.
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    Now if that's true,
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    that is motivating in humility.
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    That is motivating in compassion
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    towards other people;
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    in patience toward other people.
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    Why? Oh, He was compassionate
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    to a wretch like me.
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    He was so patient with a wretch like me.
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    He forgave me in the cost of His own Son.
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    He set His love upon me
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    not because I'm lovable,
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    but because He is love.
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    You see why the doctrine of election
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    is very practical -
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    not just to have debates in rooms,
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    but to foster Gospel-
    centered relationships?
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    That's humbling.
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    I need to say this to us all.
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    And maybe I'm speaking to some of you
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    and maybe I'm speaking to
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    some people that you know.
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    I meet many people in Texas
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    and in different places that I've preached
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    who claim to have reformed theology,
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    but they're not kind.
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    They're not humble.
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    They're not compassionate or patient.
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    And they're not forgiving and loving.
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    And it makes me wonder how much
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    of that truth they really understood.
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    Brothers and sisters,
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    listen, we believe in sovereign grace.
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    But if we believe in sovereign grace,
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    it should be manifested
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    in how I act towards all of you
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    continually.
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    We who believe in sovereign grace
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    should be the most humble people
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    on the planet.
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    And I know we are not perfected.
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    And I know we struggle.
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    And I understand sanctification
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    is a progression.
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    But if we really grasp sovereign grace,
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    like so many like to run around
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    and talk about in their debates -
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    if we really grasp it,
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    we should be a lowly people.
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    Poor in spirit.
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    Compassionate with one another.
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    Not harsh.
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    Paul's pointing to the grace of God
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    as a motivator to empower and compel us
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    to Gospel-centered relationships.
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    The grace of God is God's unmerited favor.
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    And I will tell you this,
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    the grace of God is the only
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    lasting motivation to
    live the Christian life.
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    Did you hear that?
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    The grace of God
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    is the only lasting
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    motivation to live the Christian life.
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    You may have come to the conference
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    and met some brothers and sisters
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    like I have,
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    and I've heard your testimonies;
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    I've talked with you.
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    I've enjoyed you.
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    It's been great fellowship.
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    That's motivating.
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    But see, the context where Paul's asking
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    us to live this out
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    is in the context of a local church
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    where we share life together.
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    Where I have you in my home
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    and you have me in your home.
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    And I weep when you weep,
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    and I rejoice when you rejoice,
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    and I see your good days
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    and I see your bad days.
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    And he says in that context,
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    I want you to be loving,
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    compassionate,
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    kind,
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    and forgiving.
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    That's the context.
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    At a conference,
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    it's kind of easy
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    because I don't really know you.
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    And I only spend a little
    bit of time with you.
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    But if I live in your town
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    and I live in your church
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    and you begin to see my inconsistencies,
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    the days that I'm not so kind,
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    what's going to motivate you to love me?
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    Can I tell you this?
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    It isn't going to be me.
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    It's going to be the grace of God
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    and the Gospel of Jesus Christ.
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    It's not to say that what
    we are experiencing
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    this weekend is not true.
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    It is.
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    But it is to say that our chief motivation
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    in living the Christ-centered life
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    is the grace of God and the Gospel.
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    The Gospel does not just deliver us
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    from the wrath of God
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    which we do deserve -
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    brothers and sisters,
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    it is the center of every relationship
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    we have.
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    Maybe my favorite Bible verse
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    in the entire Bible is Romans 11:36.
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    "For from Him and through Him and to Him
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    are all things.
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    To Him be glory forever.
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    Amen."
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    Now think about that.
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    My relationship with you is from Him.
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    My relationship with you
    is lived through Him.
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    And my relationship with you
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    should point back to Him.
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    Meaning what?
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    It should manifest the Gospel.
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    How you and I relate
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    and how you relate with your people
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    in your local churches,
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    should be a manifestation of the Gospel.
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    My relationship with my wife
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    is to be a manifestation of the Gospel.
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    And I am to love you,
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    and be compassionate with you,
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    and be patient with you,
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    and be forbearing with you,
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    and be forgiving of you,
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    and be loving with you.
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    Why?
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    Because He has been so with me.
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    And when, by His grace,
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    in helping me see
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    and remember these things,
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    and empowering me in them,
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    people witness the love of God
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    in local churches,
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    Christ gets the glory.
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    I remember one day,
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    a 73 year old man came to our church
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    with his wife.
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    She was converted and he was not.
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    I remember the initial conversation I had.
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    She was standing there talking to me,
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    and he was about two
    steps back right here.
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    And he came faithfully with her
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    for about three or four weeks.
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    And then he came up
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    and said something to the effect of this:
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    I have never seen love like this
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    amongst a people.
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    I have never seen love like this
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    amongst a people.
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    And let me tell you have typically
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    in Dallas.
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    Listen, the people of God
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    are every tribe, tongue,
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    and language and people.
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    They're not just one people.
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    But if you come to Dallas
    and you step into some churches
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    you might think it's just one people.
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    Because there is great segregation
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    into each type of person
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    in many churches in Dallas.
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    And by God's grace,
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    He chooses who He saves.
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    He chooses who He draws.
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    But in God's grace, if you looked out
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    amongst the assembly in our church,
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    you would see almost every tribe,
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    tongue, and language out there.
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    You would see diversity of incomes.
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    You would see differences in ages.
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    You would see all of that together.
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    And when this man -
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    and I boast in Jesus Christ alone -
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    but when he looked at young,
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    African-American men
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    and old caucasian men,
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    and he looked at young Asian people
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    and he looked at poor different people,
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    and when he saw them centered together
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    with one unifying thing
    being Jesus Christ,
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    and all the diversity that was there,
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    was cast aside,
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    because there was a greater unity,
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    a supernatural unity in Jesus Christ,
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    and they loved each other.
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    And he saw that.
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    And he said, I've never seen
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    anything like that before.
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    I'll tell you this,
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    God converted that man.
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    He is saved.
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    He is a saved man today.
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    We baptized him two years ago.
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    Brothers and sisters,
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    our relationships in our local churches
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    should be a manifestation of the Gospel.
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    In case you haven't figured this out yet,
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    Christians are an imperfect people.
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    Will you look at v. 11 with me?
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    Look at 3:11.
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    "Here there's neither Greek or Jew,
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    circumcised or uncircumcised,
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    Barbarian or Scythian,
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    slave, free, but Christ is all and in all.
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    That's the reality of the body of Christ.
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    We are united in Christ.
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    We are one person in Jesus Christ.
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    There are two realities in this world.
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    You are either in Adam
    or you are in Christ.
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    There's neither slave nor Jew.
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    There is Adam and there's Christ.
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    And you're either in Him or in him.
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    But with those in Christ,
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    there's a great diversity, isn't there?
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    What do you mean diversity?
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    How about diversity in maturity of Christ?
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    I hope people are getting saved
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    in your churches.
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    What do you do when you have someone
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    who's been saved for 40 years
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    walking by God's grace faithfully in that,
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    and you have a brand new Christian
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    in the church now?
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    How are they going to be united?
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    How can they relate?
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    What do you do when
    there's a great diversity
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    in the body of Christ with giftings?
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    We've studied 1 Corinthians 12.
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    We know that God gives gifts
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    to each of the members of the body,
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    and with that diversity of giftings,
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    he seems to give passions
    towards those giftings, doesn't He?
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    Praise the Lord for that!
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    What are those giftings for?
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    The edification of the body.
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    The building up of the body.
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    What do they tempt us to do though?
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    To look through our gifting,
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    to look through our passion,
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    and look at Mack and go,
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    the Lord's called me
    to evangelism, brother,
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    and you don't evangelize like I do
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    so you must not love Jesus like I do.
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    Now, that's wrong,
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    because my stirring by God's grace
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    and gifting in evangelism
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    should be an edification for the body -
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    not something that separates us,
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    but something that stirs us.
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    And where God has gifted this
    brother and stirred this brother,
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    I should look at his life
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    and I should be compelled
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    to be more like that aspect of Christ
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    in my own life.
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    And the body comes together
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    and they form a body
    that is fit for the Head
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    Who is Jesus Christ.
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    And when each part is doing its work,
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    we grow in maturity in Jesus Christ.
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    But it's hard. You know why?
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    Because we're not like each other
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    in many aspects.
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    And it's in that context
    that he says this:
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    You love them.
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    You forgive them.
    You be patient with them.
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    You be compassionate with them. Why?
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    Because I was with you.
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    Because I was with you.
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    So I'm only going to look at
    two of the things here.
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    We've seen the motivation.
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    The motivation is God has loved us.
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    God has chosen us.
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    He has freely set Himself upon us.
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    He has purchased us with the blood
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    of His own Son.
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    Now live in light of that.
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    Now I want to look at two areas
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    where He called us to
    live in light of that.
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    First one I'm going to look at
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    is this call to forgiveness.
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    The call to forgiveness.
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    In v. 12, he motivated us:
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    "Put on as God's chosen ones,
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    holy and beloved,
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    these things..."
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    And then when he gets to v. 13,
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    he says, "Bearing with one another,
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    and if one has a complaint against another
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    forgiving each other,
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    as the Lord has forgiven you."
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    What's my motivation to forgive?
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    Because that other person
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    deserves it so much?
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    Because that other person
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    has repented just like they should
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    and come crawling on their knees
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    and beg for my forgiveness?
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    No.
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    I have a model before me
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    of what forgiveness should look like.
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    It's Jesus Christ.
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    And how did He forgive us?
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    What if He said I'm going to wait
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    until you turn your life around;
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    Until you start acting like you should;
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    Till you treat Me with
    the respect I deserve,
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    and then, I'll forgive you.
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    That's not what He did.
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    While we were yet sinners,
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    He sends His Son.
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    He pursues us.
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    I love that Jesus Christ
    is a pursuer of me.
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    I need Him to pursue me.
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    And I want you to know this,
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    if your forgiveness is going to look like
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    and be modeled after Jesus Christ,
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    you have to be a pursuer of people.
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    You say will what if they
    have sinned against me, Jesse?
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    Well, read Matthew 18.
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    What does it say?
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    If your brother sins against you, do what?
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    What do you do?
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    Go to him!
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    Go to her!
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    Pursue them.
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    You know what we do sometimes?
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    You sinned against me.
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    So I'm going to wait till you come to me.
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    No!
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    When your brother or
    sister sins against you,
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    you go to them.
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    You pursue them.
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    You pursue forgiveness.
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    Well, ok, I can get with that one,
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    but what if they think I did something
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    to them and I didn't do anything to them?
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    What does Jesus tell us in Matthew 5?
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    If you've come to offer your gift
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    at the altar,
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    and there you remember what?
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    That your brother thinks
    you have offended,
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    sinned against him.
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    What are you to do then?
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    Did you hear what He said there?
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    Leave your gift at the altar.
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    We're coming to worship You, God,
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    but I know this brother
    thinks I've offended them.
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    There's something between us.
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    Set the worship down, Jesse.
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    Go.
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    Be reconciled to your brother first.
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    And then come back
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    and offer that gift.
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    I'm not saying everyone has to do this.
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    Every Sunday in our service,
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    we begin our service
    with a time of confession.
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    Because I'm not going to stand up there
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    and sing songs when my heart's not right.
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    That's just going through the motions.
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    So we sit and we pray
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    and we ask,
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    "Oh God, search me and know me;
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    try me and see if there be any
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    evil way in me."
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    And we encourage,
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    if there is an issue in this assembly
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    between relationships,
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    you go be reconciled first.
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    Why? So you can worship
    in spirit and in truth.
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    The onus is always put on you
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    in forgiveness.
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    If your brother sins against you,
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    you go.
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    If your brother has something
  • 26:17 - 26:19
    you've done against him,
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    you go.
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    We are to be pursuers of peace.
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    Why? Because Jesus Christ pursued you.
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    We must pursue one another.
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    And you say, Jesse, don't you understand
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    that in reconciliation,
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    it requires both people?
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    Yep. I understand that.
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    But what does Jesus tell us in Matthew 18?
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    You can listen.
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    I'm sure you're familiar with the text.
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    "The Kingdom of Heaven
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    may be compared to a king
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    who wished to settle accounts
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    with his servants.
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    And when he began to settle,
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    one was brought to him
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    who owed him 10,000 talents.
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    And since he could not pay,
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    his master ordered him to be sold
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    with his wife and his children
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    and all that he had
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    and payment to be made.
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    So the servant fell on his knees
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    imploring him,
  • 27:23 - 27:24
    'have patience with me.
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    I'll repay you everything.'
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    And out of pity for him,
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    the master of that servant
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    released him and forgave him."
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    Out of what?
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    Pity.
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    Compassion.
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    Seeing the hopelessness of this person
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    and the mercy of God is extended out
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    to that person.
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    If you're in Christ,
    that just described you.
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    You had an unpayable debt.
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    You could not do anything about it.
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    You stood condemned justly.
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    And God in His mercy had pity on you.
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    Well, then how should
    that impact my life, Jesse?
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    How should that change how I live?
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    "But when the same servant went out,
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    he found one of his fellow servants
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    who owed him a hundred denarii,
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    and seizing him, he began to choke him,
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    saying 'pay what you owe.'"
  • 28:24 - 28:27
    Do you see a problem already?
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    Oh God, give me grace and mercy.
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    Give me justice.
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    Do you see an inconsistency there?
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    I receive Your grace and mercy freely.
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    Thank You.
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    You better pay me what you owe.
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    How big of a problem is that for the Lord?
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    "When the same servant went out
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    and found one of his fellow servants
    who owed him 100 denarii,
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    seizing him he began to choke him
    saying 'pay what you owe,'
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    so his fellow servant fell down
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    and pleaded with him,
  • 28:57 - 28:59
    'have patience with me.
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    I will repay you.'
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    He refused.
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    He went and put him in prison
  • 29:04 - 29:06
    until he should pay the debt.
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    And when the fellow servants
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    saw what had taken place,
  • 29:10 - 29:11
    they were greatly distressed
  • 29:11 - 29:14
    and they went and reported to the master
  • 29:14 - 29:15
    all that had taken place.
  • 29:15 - 29:17
    Then his master summoned him
  • 29:17 - 29:18
    and said to him,
  • 29:18 - 29:20
    'You wicked servant.
  • 29:20 - 29:22
    I forgave you all that debt
  • 29:22 - 29:23
    because you pleaded with me,
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    and should you not have had mercy
  • 29:26 - 29:27
    on your fellow servant,
  • 29:27 - 29:31
    as I have had mercy upon you?'"
  • 29:31 - 29:34
    Gospel-centered relationship.
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    "And in anger, his master
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    delivered him to the jailers
  • 29:37 - 29:41
    until he should pay all of his debt."
  • 29:41 - 29:43
    Application: So also,
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    My heavenly Father will do
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    to every one of you
  • 29:48 - 29:50
    if you do not forgive your brother
  • 29:50 - 29:54
    from your heart."
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    I understand that there may be situations
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    in your life
  • 29:58 - 30:00
    where either you have been sinned against
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    or your brother thinks you have sinned
  • 30:02 - 30:03
    against him or your sister,
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    and you have pursued them,
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    and you have sought to be a peacemaker;
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    to have reconciliation,
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    and they will not have it.
  • 30:13 - 30:19
    But have you forgiven them in your heart?
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    Listen, if you sit here this morning
  • 30:23 - 30:27
    with a broken relationship
  • 30:27 - 30:28
    and as long as it depends upon you,
  • 30:28 - 30:31
    you have not sought peace,
  • 30:31 - 30:35
    you need to hear this.
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    God does not take that lightly.
  • 30:37 - 30:38
    You know why?
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    Because it is a minimization
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    of His grace and the Gospel towards you.
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    When we do not forgive others,
  • 30:45 - 30:46
    we minimize the grace,
  • 30:46 - 30:48
    and when the king saw
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    that the servant minimized
  • 30:50 - 30:51
    what he had done for him,
  • 30:51 - 30:52
    he seized him and he said,
  • 30:52 - 30:53
    "you are wicked!"
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    And Jesus said My Father
    will do the same to you,
  • 30:56 - 30:58
    if you do not forgive.
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    Now, is He making a contingency
  • 30:59 - 31:01
    that God's forgiveness towards us
  • 31:01 - 31:04
    is contingent upon our
    forgiveness of others?
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    No, what He is saying is this.
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    If you have truly experienced
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    the forgiveness and grace of God,
  • 31:08 - 31:12
    you will forgive.
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    You will forgive. Why?
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    Because of all the grace and mercy.
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    That doesn't mean it's easy.
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    That doesn't mean it's
    not without challenge;
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    without difficulty,
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    but if you can sit here today
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    in bitterness in heart,
  • 31:25 - 31:27
    unwilling to forgive people,
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    and the Father has not in Hebrews 12
  • 31:30 - 31:32
    come and chastened you,
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    it's because you're not His child.
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    I witnessed a lady that was
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    close to our family growing up.
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    She went to church every single Sunday.
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    As long as I knew her -
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    40 years maybe?
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    She went to church every single Sunday.
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    She was in Bible studies.
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    She gave a lot of money away -
  • 31:52 - 31:54
    I'm talking millions of dollars away
  • 31:54 - 31:58
    to churches, to charities, to ministries.
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    But she was an unforgiving person.
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    And she died with bitterness
  • 32:04 - 32:06
    and unforgiveness towards so many people.
  • 32:06 - 32:08
    And listen, I don't stand here today
  • 32:08 - 32:10
    as her judge, but I
    look at that and I say,
  • 32:10 - 32:12
    that is completely inconsistent
  • 32:12 - 32:14
    with the Gospel of Jesus Christ.
  • 32:14 - 32:16
    Yes, we can struggle with forgiveness.
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    Yes, it is costly.
  • 32:17 - 32:19
    Yes, it is hard.
  • 32:19 - 32:22
    But God, in His grace, will enable us,
  • 32:22 - 32:23
    will empower us,
  • 32:23 - 32:24
    and He motivates us
  • 32:24 - 32:36
    by returning us to the Gospel.
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    Have you forgiven from the heart?
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    Have you sought reconciliation?
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    As long as it depends upon you,
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    are you living at peace with all?
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    Brothers and sisters, if not,
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    just stop playing games.
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    Go and be reconciled.
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    I think one of the fears we have
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    in being the pursuer
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    in the area of forgiveness,
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    especially, let's say it's a reality
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    where the other person truly is
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    at fault here,
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    and you are innocent.
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    That's often the perception we have,
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    but let's say it's a reality.
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    I think the fear is that if I pursue you
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    when you were the one at fault,
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    you're going to think that
    what you did was ok
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    and you're going to think I'm saying
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    I was the one at fault.
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    And I want to tell you what that is.
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    That's unbelief that God's ways work.
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    Listen, it's not your job
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    to convict that person.
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    It's not your job
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    to help them see their sin, per se.
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    That's the work of the Holy Spirit.
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    My job is to obey the Scripture.
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    To be consistent with the Gospel.
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    So whether you're going to get
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    the wrong impression if
    I'm pursuing you or not,
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    if you're going to go,
    yep, here he comes.
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    He was at fault. I knew it.
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    And this is the evidence.
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    I don't care if you have
    that perception of me.
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    I'm not here to have a right perception
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    from you towards me
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    or to have this situation appear
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    that it really was your fault.
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    We are here to glorify God
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    and to magnify the Gospel.
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    I'm going to be obedient to the Gospel
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    of Jesus Christ.
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    I'm going to pursue you
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    even if you think that's me saying
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    I'm at fault.
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    I don't care about that.
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    I'm going to give an
    account to God one day.
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    Did I manifest the Gospel
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    in my relationship with you?
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    I'm going to trust
    that to the Holy Spirit.
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    The other thing Paul says in Colossians
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    is "above all these, put on love,
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    which binds everything together
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    in perfect harmony."
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    Paul said you chosen ones,
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    you holy, you set apart by God,
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    you beloved,
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    you loved of God,
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    God has loved us.
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    Where does love come from?
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    In the book of 1 John 4,
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    the Bible teaches us in v. 8
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    that God is love.
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    Have you ever thought
    about what that means?
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    That means anyone
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    who does not know God
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    through His love in Jesus Christ
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    has never known true love,
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    because love comes from God.
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    Now, I know there's a
    lot of talk out there
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    about what love is.
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    And almost all the talk about
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    what love is from a worldly perspective
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    is emotion and feeling-driven and based.
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    But the love of God is not devoid
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    of emotion and feeling,
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    but it is not driven by
    emotion and feeling.
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    Can I tell you this?
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    God did not look at us
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    and He was not wooed by us.
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    There was nothing in us
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    compelling Him to love us.
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    In fact, the only thing in us
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    that compelled God was our sin
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    and it compelled Him to
    have just wrath upon us.
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    God is love (1 John 4:8).
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    Love is from God (1 John 4:7).
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    So why did God love you?
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    V. 10 of 1 John 4 tell us.
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    "In this is love,
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    not that we have loved God,
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    but that He loved us
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    and sent His Son to be
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    the propitiation for our sin."
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    God chose to love you,
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    not because you're attractive.
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    Not because He saw something in you.
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    But because He's love.
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    And what Paul is saying here
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    in Colossians is,
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    knowing that you have been loved
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    by God in that way,
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    love each other.
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    Not because the people in your church
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    are so lovable,
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    but God has set His love upon you.
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    Brothers and sisters,
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    the Scriptures teach us
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    that by love in our life is how people
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    will know we are disciples.
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    Listen, I know a lot of people that have
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    their doctrine and theology down pat,
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    and they're unloving.
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    They're just unloving.
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    They don't bear the fruit of love.
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    Which is really what all these things are,
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    aren't they?
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    Compassionate, kindness,
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    humility, meekness, patience, forgiving.
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    Fruits of the Spirit.
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    Manifestation of love.
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    So, I'll leave us with this question.
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    What is your spiritual
    barometer for your life?
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    Your faith?
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    Ministry?
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    Your sacrifice?
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    I'm going to read to you in closing here
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    what your spiritual barometer
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    should look like.
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    And if you match this,
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    you're going to be safe.
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    "If I speak in the tongues of men
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    and of angels..."
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    Do you measure your spiritual life
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    by the gifts God has given you?
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    "If I speak in the tongue
    of men and of angels..."
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    surely then I'm spiritually
    mature and doing well.
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    Well, hold on a second.
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    "...but if you have not love,
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    you're a noisy gong and
    a clanging cymbal."
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    So gifts aren't the test.
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    "If I have prophetic powers
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    and understand all mysteries
  • 39:09 - 39:10
    and all knowledge,
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    and if I have all faith,
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    so as to remove mountains..."
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    I've got my doctrine down!
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    I believe.
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    I understand these truths.
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    I can explain them.
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    I can tear people apart with them.
  • 39:24 - 39:30
    I know all the verses.
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    "...but if I have not love, I'm nothing."
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    "If I give away all I have,
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    and deliver up my body to be burned..."
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    I have the oldest car in my church.
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    I have the least amount of clothes
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    of anyone in my church.
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    I live in the poorest house in my church.
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    I can live off the least amount of money
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    in my church.
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    Do you have love?
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    I'm not in any way implying
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    that these other realities
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    that 1 Corinthians 13 is speaking of
  • 40:12 - 40:15
    are not important.
  • 40:15 - 40:17
    What this is teaching us is this:
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    If you have those, but
    you don't have love,
  • 40:19 - 40:22
    you have nothing.
  • 40:22 - 40:24
    Now, we need gifts in the church.
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    We need knowledge.
    We need faith in the church.
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    We need a sacrifice.
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    We need sacrificial living
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    in the church.
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    Amen to all that.
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    But if you all that, but
    you don't have love,
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    you have nothing.
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    As one brother said,
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    five minus one equals zero
  • 40:41 - 40:46
    here in 1 Corinthians 13.
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    You have all these five things,
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    but you don't have love,
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    you've not nothing.
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    So what should the barometer be
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    of our spiritual life?
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    Love.
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    You know why?
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    Because if you genuinely have love,
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    these other areas will manifest
  • 41:02 - 41:05
    in your life.
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    These other areas will
    show up in your life.
  • 41:09 - 41:11
    What's Paul calling us to do?
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    He is calling us
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    to understand who Jesus Christ is -
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    that's Colossians 1.
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    To believe Who He is.
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    To believe what He accomplished.
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    Colossians 2.
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    And to know who we are in Jesus Christ
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    through faith,
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    and to live in light of that reality.
  • 41:31 - 41:33
    To know this love.
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    To know this election.
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    To know this setting apart,
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    and then to live
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    in light of those realities.
  • 41:40 - 41:42
    You say, Jesse, I'm struggling with love.
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    I can tell you what you've done for sure.
  • 41:44 - 41:45
    You know what it is?
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    You've taken your eyes
    off of Jesus Christ.
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    You've taken your eyes off of
  • 41:50 - 41:52
    the grace of Jesus Christ and the Gospel.
  • 41:52 - 41:55
    And Paul wants you to be fixated
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    upon the grace of God in Jesus Christ
  • 41:56 - 41:57
    and the Gospel.
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    And if that is continually
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    being renewed in your mind
  • 42:01 - 42:06
    and unveiled by the
    power of the Holy Spirit,
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    then we will be motivated and compelled
  • 42:09 - 42:11
    to live that reality out,
  • 42:11 - 42:12
    and in living that out,
  • 42:12 - 42:18
    God gets glory in our
    life and in our churches.
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    So that's my prayer for you
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    is that you would grow in the depth
  • 42:24 - 42:27
    of the Gospel.
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    Brothers and sisters,
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    the Gospel's not just the entrance
  • 42:31 - 42:33
    into the Kingdom of God
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    and then we move on
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    to greater things.
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    You're never going to
    get out of that Gospel.
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    You're just going to go deeper
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    and deeper and deeper into it.
  • 42:44 - 42:45
    And as you understand it more,
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    here's where it will be reflected:
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    in your love, forgiveness, compassion,
  • 42:51 - 42:59
    patience, forbearing with the church.
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    That's where it shows up.
  • 43:01 - 43:02
    And the lost as we go out
  • 43:02 - 43:04
    and preach the Gospel,
  • 43:04 - 43:08
    and our love for God.
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    So, do you see the need to prioritize
  • 43:10 - 43:11
    the nurturing of your soul
  • 43:11 - 43:14
    in the Gospel of Jesus Christ?
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    If you take your eyes off that Gospel,
  • 43:16 - 43:20
    you forget that it's all grace.
  • 43:20 - 43:22
    All those things Paul called you to
  • 43:22 - 43:27
    are squashed by pride.
  • 43:27 - 43:31
    The Gospel as grace brings humility.
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    So, may the Lord work
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    the Gospel of Jesus Christ
  • 43:34 - 43:35
    and the grace of Jesus Christ
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    evermore into our hearts.
  • 43:39 - 43:40
    Amen?
  • 43:40 - 43:42
    Amen.
Title:
Forgiving One Another As Christ - Jesse Barrington
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